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Clothing for tweens
My daughter is 9 and is getting to a point where she wants to pick
clothes for herself. We were in a hurry yesterday and she needed a few new tops and pants, so my husband and I took her down to Sears with express purpose of looking at the Lands' End stuff. Well, it's between seasons, and there really wasn't much. So instead of just conceding the whole thing as a loss, my daughter and husband started piling up some of the cheapler made Sears stuff to try on. I had told my husband if he wanted to look at clothes for our daughter in general, I wouldn't take her Sears, we'd go somewhere else. I got frustrated because the clothes they happened to be picking out weren't very good quality (thin material and so on). Finally, I did pull the now-disgruntled family out of there empty handed. Later in the day, we picked up some pants for my daughter from Old Navy and some shirts from the Nordstrom Rack. Now mind you, these items were priced within a few dollars of the Sears stuff...I tried to explain to my daughter that it wasn't the price on your outfit or the label on your clothing, but whether or not something is reasonably well made and would hold up after several washings. We're just starting this learning curve, she and I both. I'm not stuck on Old Navy or the Rack, and I'm not interested in paying big bucks for kids clothes. And I do want The Kid to feel like she has a say in her clothes. Where are good places to take The Kid where she can look around at reasonable-quality, mid-priced clothing and pick (pretty much) at will? I know a lot of people are fans of Target, but though there's some things I do find there, they aren't my place of choice. Any other places a tween can roam around and shop, and still come away with clothes Mom will approve of? Thanks. beeswing |
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In article , H Schinske wrote:
wrote: Where are good places to take The Kid where she can look around at reasonable-quality, mid-priced clothing and pick (pretty much) at will? Frankly, you can't beat secondhand clothes for this kind of thing. I agree with this, especially if the child is growing fast still or changing taste in clothing. Also, the training in how to find the good stuff among the junk in the second-hand stores will be invaluable in college. Seeing how some clothes continue to look good despite changing trends in fashion, while others look incredibly stupid, can also help in developing taste that resists the churning of the fashion industry, so that as an adult one can assemble a long-lasting wardrobe. -- Kevin Karplus http://www.soe.ucsc.edu/~karplus life member (LAB, Adventure Cycling, American Youth Hostels) Effective Cycling Instructor #218-ck (lapsed) Professor of Biomolecular Engineering, University of California, Santa Cruz Undergraduate and Graduate Director, Bioinformatics Affiliations for identification only. |
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I think everybody runs into this. It might be a good time to teach her
some of the rudimentary sewing skills and talk about how things wear and wash. Then go shopping. I personally think JCPenney is a pretty good place to go with kids that age. *Most* of the stuff is tasteful. What isn't is another good spring board for discussion. The sales are pretty good too. Karen |
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Beeswing wrote:
We're just starting this learning curve, she and I both. I'm not stuck on Old Navy or the Rack, and I'm not interested in paying big bucks for kids clothes. And I do want The Kid to feel like she has a say in her clothes. Where are good places to take The Kid where she can look around at reasonable-quality, mid-priced clothing and pick (pretty much) at will? I know a lot of people are fans of Target, but though there's some things I do find there, they aren't my place of choice. Any other places a tween can roam around and shop, and still come away with clothes Mom will approve of? I have issues with my 10 year old on sizing (she's tiny), so we tend to shop for pants, anyway, at a few stores where we can get slim sizes plus the adjusting hidden elastic waistband thingy. Old Navy, Gap (costly, but will actually fit the child) and Target are some of our staples. Interestingly, I've found more inappropriate clothes (read: sleazy) at department stores than these chains. JC Penney has great stuff in the catalogs, but some of the stuff on the floor is, shall we say, a bit mature for my child. She likes to shop in the Lands' End and LL Bean kid catalog. Mom to a future clothes horse- Lesley |
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On Mon, 23 Feb 2004 14:27:22 EST, "Beeswing" wrote:
My daughter is 9 and is getting to a point where she wants to pick clothes for herself. We were in a hurry yesterday and she needed a few new tops and pants, so my husband and I took her down to Sears with express purpose of looking at the Lands' End stuff. Well, it's between seasons, and there really wasn't much. So instead of just conceding the whole thing as a loss, my daughter and husband started piling up some of the cheapler made Sears stuff to try on. I had told my husband if he wanted to look at clothes for our daughter in general, I wouldn't take her Sears, we'd go somewhere else. I got frustrated because the clothes they happened to be picking out weren't very good quality (thin material and so on). [...].I tried to explain to my daughter that it wasn't the price on your outfit or the label on your clothing, but whether or not something is reasonably well made and would hold up after several washings. I don't live in the US and can't suggest specific stores, but I thought I'd comment on some of the family-dynamics stuff. First of all, it sounds as if you and your husband don't quite have the same ideas about clothes-shopping priorities. One way of resolving this would be for your husband to leave the clothes-shopping to you, but I don't think that's ideal. And you've already learned the problems of going shopping in a hurry without an agreement ahead of time of what to expect. As you say, it's hard to teach about clothing quality without giving the message of "buying labels". You could try letting her make some of the choices herself now, and talk later about how well different things lasted. If the Land's End turtleneck still looks nice next year, and the Walmart licensed-character one has been in the mending pile since it was a month old, point that out. Have you been keeping track of how much a season it takes to clothe your daughter? If you move towards a clothing-allowance model, it's useful to know how much money is appropriate. (For us, I think it started at $35CDN a month for a 12yo 5 years ago, with shoes, boots, coats, and dressy outfits bought separately.) Other posters have suggested encouraging thrift-shop shopping. This is more likely to work well if (a) parents wear some second-hand things themselves, (b) other peers boast about their thrift-shop finds, and/or (c) the kid has some incentive to save money on clothes, such as making an allowance go farther. Our older teens buy many of their clothes at an army/navy surplus store and at Mark's Work Warehouse. I noticed elsewhere in the thread that different posters use the word "sleazy" in either the sense of shoddy goods made of poor-quality fabric, or the sense of clothing in poor taste. They strike me as quite different objections, and it occurs to me that kids and teenagers probably wouldn't be aware of the first meaning. Louise |
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I wrote, earlier:
my daughter and husband started piling up some of the cheapler made Sears stuff to try on. Um, "cheapler"? Obviously, I had trouble deciding between "cheaper" and "cheaply"...but I hadn't meant to split the difference. OOPS! beeswing |
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"Kevin Karplus" wrote in message ... In article , H Schinske wrote: wrote: Where are good places to take The Kid where she can look around at reasonable-quality, mid-priced clothing and pick (pretty much) at will? Frankly, you can't beat secondhand clothes for this kind of thing. I agree with this, especially if the child is growing fast still or changing taste in clothing. Also, the training in how to find the good stuff among the junk in the second-hand stores will be invaluable in college. Ditto -- I did a ton of shopping for my 11 year old at the Bellevue Goodwill Store, and we got lots of nice, fashionable stuff that fit (she'd outgrown a bunch of her old clothes) for a very reasonable price. -- Warm Regards, Claire Petersky Please replace earthlink for mouse-potato and .net for .com Home of the meditative cyclist: http://home.earthlink.net/~cpetersky/Welcome.htm New Tiferet (http://www.tiferet.net) CD out -- contact me for copies. |
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In article , Louise wrote:
I noticed elsewhere in the thread that different posters use the word "sleazy" in either the sense of shoddy goods made of poor-quality fabric, or the sense of clothing in poor taste. They strike me as quite different objections, and it occurs to me that kids and teenagers probably wouldn't be aware of the first meaning. I believe that "sleazy" started as a technical term for fabric that is woven with fewer threads per inch than the yarn and weave structure call for. It results in a fabric in which the yarns tend to slide against each other producing holes. It also tends to tear easily, though that is a function of the yarn type and quality as well. Because sleazy fabric is cheaper to make, the word came to refer to anything cheaply made, and later to products for the "common" taste. It's meaning has drifted further until it often means "trashy" or "slutty". Personally, I prefer to reserve "sleazy" for describing cheaply made fabric with a loose weave, and to use other words for the other meanings it has acquired. -- Kevin Karplus http://www.soe.ucsc.edu/~karplus life member (LAB, Adventure Cycling, American Youth Hostels) Effective Cycling Instructor #218-ck (lapsed) Professor of Biomolecular Engineering, University of California, Santa Cruz Undergraduate and Graduate Director, Bioinformatics Affiliations for identification only. |
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Louise wrote: On Mon, 23 Feb 2004 14:27:22 EST, "Beeswing" wrote: . [...].I tried to explain to my daughter that it wasn't the price on your outfit or the label on your clothing, but whether or not something is reasonably well made and would hold up after several washings. I don't live in the US and can't suggest specific stores, but I thought I'd comment on some of the family-dynamics stuff. .. Have you been keeping track of how much a season it takes to clothe your daughter? If you move towards a clothing-allowance model, it's useful to know how much money is appropriate. (For us, I think it started at $35CDN a month for a 12yo 5 years ago, with shoes, boots, coats, and dressy outfits bought separately.) This was my thought too although I would not have expressed it so elegantly. If the child buys the clothing herself with her own money and finds out what the difference is between shoddily made clothes and well made clothes, it's much more of a lesson than if her mom just tells her. I never shopped at a thrift shop on any regular basis, although I was out with dd#1 and dd#2 and some accident happened to a wool coat dd#1 was wearing. I took it to the cleaners which was right there, and then I didn't have anything for dd#1 to wear, so a went into an adjacent consignment/thrift shop and bought her a sweater that someone had hand knitted out of that variable color yarn. Would never have picked it out on purpose, but it became one of our favorite garments. In any case, buying stuff from a thrift shop someone would still have to have instruction on how to tell the lesser quality clothing from the better quality clothing. Other posters have suggested encouraging thrift-shop shopping. This is more likely to work well if (a) parents wear some second-hand things themselves, (b) other peers boast about their thrift-shop finds, and/or (c) the kid has some incentive to save money on clothes, such as making an allowance go farther. Our older teens buy many of their clothes at an army/navy surplus store and at Mark's Work Warehouse. .. Louise I got a clothes allowance when I was 12, and I started to make some of my own clothes as my mom sewed many of my clothes for me (before and since). I had been used to picking out patterns and material for her to make things from. So I had been used to assessing the qualities of material for clothing. In my case, the allowance didn't work too well because I'd rather have the money than the clothes - I was an extremely unfashion-conscious child, and my criteria for clothes was a) was it comfortable and b) were the colors nice. Trying on clothes was (and still is) anathema to me. So I buy all my clothes by catalog now. If she likes a particular type of clothing like Lands End, one possibility is to shop in their Overstocks catalog, or just do the shopping from the JC Penny catalog or from the internet to start with. grandma Rosalie |
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