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Child support & daycare
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My ex-wife has sole custody of our 2 year old son, I pay for the regular support, but she wants me to pay for half of the daycare costs. Is this right? Do I have to pay for half? |
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JKup wrote:
Hello, My ex-wife has sole custody of our 2 year old son, I pay for the regular support, but she wants me to pay for half of the daycare costs. Is this right? Do I have to pay for half? by the way, I'm in Ontario. |
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It might be nice if you did, since daycare is expensive and your wife
probably had to go back to work, right? Or you could get joint custody and work out a work schedule between the both of you. -- Sue (mom to three girls) "JKup" u30691@uwe wrote in message news:6bc8e17309264@uwe... Hello, My ex-wife has sole custody of our 2 year old son, I pay for the regular support, but she wants me to pay for half of the daycare costs. Is this right? Do I have to pay for half? |
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"JKup" u30691@uwe wrote in message news:6bc8e17309264@uwe... Hello, My ex-wife has sole custody of our 2 year old son, I pay for the regular support, but she wants me to pay for half of the daycare costs. Is this right? Do I have to pay for half? From what I understand about this is you shouldnt pay anything you dont have a court order to pay or ask your lawyer about anyway. It would be nice if you did willingly but if you stopped because you couldnt afford it and she took you to court they could look back and see you paid it willingly before and make you continue. Tori |
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On Thu, 04 Jan 2007 15:20:40 GMT, "JKup" u30691@uwe wrote:
Hello, My ex-wife has sole custody of our 2 year old son, I pay for the regular support, but she wants me to pay for half of the daycare costs. Is this right? Do I have to pay for half? If it's not in the court order, then you don't have to. Did your lawyers include daycare as an expense when they figured the support order? Btw, it would be kind and friendly if you did help her out with whatever you could. After all, she's taking care of your child and needs to work in order to do so, just like you'd have to. Nan |
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JKup wrote:
Hello, My ex-wife has sole custody of our 2 year old son, I pay for the regular support, but she wants me to pay for half of the daycare costs. Is this right? Do I have to pay for half? As others have said, if the court order doesn't say so, you don't HAVE to. Do you actually have a court order or are you still in the process of working on the details? In some states they may routinely include a provision about day care costs in the child support order. I'm divorced and receive child support. My ex did not pay a portion of day care costs (back when our kids had those costs) nor did I ask him to. We don't know if it's a reasonable request from your ex-wife asking for the additional money - you can judge that. Since your son is young, presumably he's been in day care all along so this isn't a new cost and might have been taken into account during the divorce - was it? Or did she just start working in which case neither her salary nor day care costs was taken into account when setting child support so it would seem like additional payment from you shouldn't be necessary. But we don't know the details so we can't necessarily say if it's reasonable. -- Zip |
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"JKup" u30691@uwe wrote in message news:6bc8e17309264@uwe... Hello, My ex-wife has sole custody of our 2 year old son, I pay for the regular support, but she wants me to pay for half of the daycare costs. Is this right? Do I have to pay for half? I agree with the others. Consult your lawyer. But think of your son's best interest, which probably includes helping out with the daycare. Your son's interest and welfare is the bottom line. Jeff |
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JKup wrote: Hello, My ex-wife has sole custody of our 2 year old son, I pay for the regular support, but she wants me to pay for half of the daycare costs. Is this right? Do I have to pay for half? Note: I have never been divorced or been in a court room in my life. That said, I would think that if a court settled on a monthy child support payment for you to pay that all variables, including daycare costs, would have been a part of determining that number. I think that daycare costs should fall outside of the spectrum of required child support and I don't think you have to pay for half. Now, if you and your wife are on amicable terms then perhaps you guys can work something out if she needs help raising your son but on the surface it doesn't appear that way considering she has sole custody. Courts order sole custody and child support payments to help the mother so I believe the onus is on her to make it work. I'm guessing she initiated this divorce. If that's the case to me she's pretty much saying "I don't need you anymore." If she left you thinking things would be better without you then she needs to stop pretending like she's still married to you and stop depending on you for support. |
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Nan wrote: On Thu, 04 Jan 2007 15:20:40 GMT, "JKup" u30691@uwe wrote: Hello, My ex-wife has sole custody of our 2 year old son, I pay for the regular support, but she wants me to pay for half of the daycare costs. Is this right? Do I have to pay for half? If it's not in the court order, then you don't have to. Did your lawyers include daycare as an expense when they figured the support order? My understanding is that in many US states (the OP didn't say where he is from), child support is calculated as a percentage of the non-custodial parent's salary, rather than the actual expenses needed for the child. The custodial parent decides how the money is spent. OP, is the the case in your situation? |
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