Hard time raising the kids

My 11 year old daughter is always yelling at me or me yelling at her
and I can not stand it. I dont know what I should do. Her and my 7
year old boy are at it constantly. When they get around other family
members they listen. However, they have been through a lot and I am
sorry for that.

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My 11 year old daughter is always yelling at me or me yelling at her
and I can not stand it. I dont know what I should do. Her and my 7
year old boy are at it constantly. When they get around other family
members they listen. However, they have been through a lot and I am
sorry for that.

I've found that they quiet down real fast if you waive the gun around
for a few seconds. Maybe a warning shot or two. ;-)

On May 29, 2:17 am, "
wrote:
My 11 year old daughter is always yelling at me or me yelling at her
and I can not stand it. I dont know what I should do. Her and my 7
year old boy are at it constantly. When they get around other family
members they listen. However, they have been through a lot and I am
sorry for that.

"they have been through a lot and I am sorry for that"...what does
that mean?
Sadly enough, some parents when they divorce go through that "my poor
kid,
it's not his fault, blah, blah..." and they allow their children to
run the show
with the "excuse" they've been through alot...then they scream when
those kids
turn 11 or 12 and they still want to run the show...Kids of divorce
should not
be given "special" priviledges just because mom and dad are no longer
together.
This only creates a bunch of spoiled rotten kids who think the world
owes them...
and then, you end up with that 11 yr old daughter...who at some point,
you'll want
to send to dad to take care of...

I'm not saying this is your case, as you do not give enough info here,
but that's
just what I've seen way too many times...

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On May 29, 2:17 am, "
wrote:
My 11 year old daughter is always yelling at me or me yelling at her
and I can not stand it. I dont know what I should do. Her and my 7
year old boy are at it constantly. When they get around other family
members they listen. However, they have been through a lot and I am
sorry for that.

"they have been through a lot and I am sorry for that"...what does
that mean?
Sadly enough, some parents when they divorce go through that "my poor
kid,
it's not his fault, blah, blah..." and they allow their children to
run the show
with the "excuse" they've been through alot...then they scream when
those kids
turn 11 or 12 and they still want to run the show...Kids of divorce
should not
be given "special" priviledges just because mom and dad are no longer
together.

Not unlike courts allowing children to decide which parent they will live
with. What's up with THAT? As long as the parent is putting food in their
mouth and clothes on their body, it ought to be the parent and NOT the child
making such decision. This is no different than people on wlefare being
allowed to vote. As long as they are not responsible enough to take care of
themselves, then they are CERTAINLY not responsible enough to decide
social/economic matters. Talk about the tail wagging the dog...............

This only creates a bunch of spoiled rotten kids who think the world
owes them...
and then, you end up with that 11 yr old daughter...who at some point,
you'll want
to send to dad to take care of...

I'm not saying this is your case, as you do not give enough info here,
but that's
just what I've seen way too many times...

On May 29, 10:11 am, John Meyer wrote:
wrote:
My 11 year old daughter is always yelling at me or me yelling at her
and I can not stand it. I dont know what I should do. Her and my 7
year old boy are at it constantly. When they get around other family
members they listen. However, they have been through a lot and I am
sorry for that.

I've found that they quiet down real fast if you waive the gun around
for a few seconds. Maybe a warning shot or two. ;-)

Ill have to try that on!

On May 29, 12:12 pm, whatamess wrote:
On May 29, 2:17 am, "

wrote:
My 11 year old daughter is always yelling at me or me yelling at her
and I can not stand it. I dont know what I should do. Her and my 7
year old boy are at it constantly. When they get around other family
members they listen. However, they have been through a lot and I am
sorry for that.

"they have been through a lot and I am sorry for that"...what does
that mean?
Sadly enough, some parents when they divorce go through that "my poor
kid,
it's not his fault, blah, blah..." and they allow their children to
run the show
with the "excuse" they've been through alot...then they scream when
those kids
turn 11 or 12 and they still want to run the show...Kids of divorce
should not
be given "special" priviledges just because mom and dad are no longer
together.
This only creates a bunch of spoiled rotten kids who think the world
owes them...
and then, you end up with that 11 yr old daughter...who at some point,
you'll want
to send to dad to take care of...

I'm not saying this is your case, as you do not give enough info here,
but that's
just what I've seen way too many times...

When I stated what they have went through was my husbands mental abuse
and drinking. We are not perfect as all children are innocent until
they learn or become aware of negativity in the world. Some younger
then others and some more then others. And I will always be sorry for
having continued to live in that manner.

On May 31, 1:28 am, "Chris" wrote:
"whatamess" wrote in message

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On May 29, 2:17 am, "
wrote:
My 11 year old daughter is always yelling at me or me yelling at her
and I can not stand it. I dont know what I should do. Her and my 7
year old boy are at it constantly. When they get around other family
members they listen. However, they have been through a lot and I am
sorry for that.

"they have been through a lot and I am sorry for that"...what does
that mean?
Sadly enough, some parents when they divorce go through that "my poor
kid,
it's not his fault, blah, blah..." and they allow their children to
run the show
with the "excuse" they've been through alot...then they scream when
those kids
turn 11 or 12 and they still want to run the show...Kids of divorce
should not
be given "special" priviledges just because mom and dad are no longer
together.

Not unlike courts allowing children to decide which parent they will live
with. What's up with THAT? As long as the parent is putting food in their
mouth and clothes on their body, it ought to be the parent and NOT the child
making such decision. This is no different than people on wlefare being
allowed to vote. As long as they are not responsible enough to take care of
themselves, then they are CERTAINLY not responsible enough to decide
social/economic matters. Talk about the tail wagging the dog...............



This only creates a bunch of spoiled rotten kids who think the world
owes them...
and then, you end up with that 11 yr old daughter...who at some point,
you'll want
to send to dad to take care of...

I'm not saying this is your case, as you do not give enough info here,
but that's
just what I've seen way too many times...- Hide quoted text -

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I feel that certain ages are appropriate for those decisions and every
case is different. But I will of course share the children but always
want them with me,

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On May 29, 12:12 pm, whatamess wrote:
On May 29, 2:17 am, "

wrote:
My 11 year old daughter is always yelling at me or me yelling at her
and I can not stand it. I dont know what I should do. Her and my 7
year old boy are at it constantly. When they get around other family
members they listen. However, they have been through a lot and I am
sorry for that.

"they have been through a lot and I am sorry for that"...what does
that mean?
Sadly enough, some parents when they divorce go through that "my poor
kid,
it's not his fault, blah, blah..." and they allow their children to
run the show
with the "excuse" they've been through alot...then they scream when
those kids
turn 11 or 12 and they still want to run the show...Kids of divorce
should not
be given "special" priviledges just because mom and dad are no longer
together.
This only creates a bunch of spoiled rotten kids who think the world
owes them...
and then, you end up with that 11 yr old daughter...who at some point,
you'll want
to send to dad to take care of...

I'm not saying this is your case, as you do not give enough info here,
but that's
just what I've seen way too many times...

When I stated what they have went through was my husbands mental abuse
and drinking. We are not perfect as all children are innocent until
they learn or become aware of negativity in the world. Some younger
then others and some more then others. And I will always be sorry for
having continued to live in that manner.

English as a second language must have held you back a few school grades
before your teachers got tired of trying to teach you how to communicate
correctly and passed you on to the next level.

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On May 29, 12:12 pm, whatamess wrote:
On May 29, 2:17 am, "

wrote:
My 11 year old daughter is always yelling at me or me yelling at her
and I can not stand it. I dont know what I should do. Her and my 7
year old boy are at it constantly. When they get around other family
members they listen. However, they have been through a lot and I am
sorry for that.

"they have been through a lot and I am sorry for that"...what does
that mean?
Sadly enough, some parents when they divorce go through that "my poor
kid,
it's not his fault, blah, blah..." and they allow their children to
run the show
with the "excuse" they've been through alot...then they scream when
those kids
turn 11 or 12 and they still want to run the show...Kids of divorce
should not
be given "special" priviledges just because mom and dad are no longer
together.
This only creates a bunch of spoiled rotten kids who think the world
owes them...
and then, you end up with that 11 yr old daughter...who at some point,
you'll want
to send to dad to take care of...

I'm not saying this is your case, as you do not give enough info here,
but that's
just what I've seen way too many times...

When I stated what they have went through was my husbands mental abuse
and drinking. We are not perfect as all children are innocent until
they learn or become aware of negativity in the world. Some younger
then others and some more then others. And I will always be sorry for
having continued to live in that manner.

English as a second language must have held you back a few school grades
before your teachers got tired of trying to teach you how to communicate
correctly and passed you on to the next level.- Hide quoted text -

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Im sorry if my wording was not proof read for my graduate class. Ill
fix that next time. Thanks

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On May 31, 1:28 am, "Chris" wrote:
"whatamess" wrote in message

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On May 29, 2:17 am, "
wrote:
My 11 year old daughter is always yelling at me or me yelling at her
and I can not stand it. I dont know what I should do. Her and my 7
year old boy are at it constantly. When they get around other
family
members they listen. However, they have been through a lot and I am
sorry for that.

"they have been through a lot and I am sorry for that"...what does
that mean?
Sadly enough, some parents when they divorce go through that "my poor
kid,
it's not his fault, blah, blah..." and they allow their children to
run the show
with the "excuse" they've been through alot...then they scream when
those kids
turn 11 or 12 and they still want to run the show...Kids of divorce
should not
be given "special" priviledges just because mom and dad are no longer
together.

Not unlike courts allowing children to decide which parent they will
live
with. What's up with THAT? As long as the parent is putting food in
their
mouth and clothes on their body, it ought to be the parent and NOT the
child
making such decision. This is no different than people on wlefare being
allowed to vote. As long as they are not responsible enough to take care
of
themselves, then they are CERTAINLY not responsible enough to decide
social/economic matters. Talk about the tail wagging the
dog...............



This only creates a bunch of spoiled rotten kids who think the world
owes them...
and then, you end up with that 11 yr old daughter...who at some point,
you'll want
to send to dad to take care of...

I'm not saying this is your case, as you do not give enough info here,
but that's
just what I've seen way too many times...- Hide quoted text -

- Show quoted text -- Hide quoted text -

- Show quoted text -

I feel that certain ages are appropriate for those decisions

Yeah, the age where they are FULLY self-supporting. In other words,
emancipated.

and every
case is different. But I will of course share the children but always
want them with me,