Some questions from a friend

Hi all... I stumbled across this community while attempting to do some
research for a friend of mine who's absolutely petrified.

He just received a phone call from an ex-girlfriend informing him that
she's now 13 weeks pregnant. She is planning to have the child and
most likely to keep it.

My friend is now terrified. The two of them were not in a relationship
at the time- they had been broken up for a year, and had a quick tryst
and then went back to not speaking. As far as he knew, she was still
on birth control.

He wants nothing to do with the child when it's born, and is more than
willing to sign away all rights, but he isn't sure if the mother will
go for this, or what he is legally obligated to do.

Does anyone have any advice? He doesn't want to be a living wallet, as
he has no relationship with this girl, and doesn't want a relationship
with the child he didn't want to create in the first place.

On Jul 31, 1:42?pm, wrote:
Hi all... I stumbled across this community while attempting to do some
research for a friend of mine who's absolutely petrified.

He just received a phone call from an ex-girlfriend informing him that
she's now 13 weeks pregnant. She is planning to have the child and
most likely to keep it.

My friend is now terrified. The two of them were not in a relationship
at the time- they had been broken up for a year, and had a quick tryst
and then went back to not speaking. As far as he knew, she was still
on birth control.

He wants nothing to do with the child when it's born, and is more than
willing to sign away all rights, but he isn't sure if the mother will
go for this, or what he is legally obligated to do.

Does anyone have any advice? He doesn't want to be a living wallet, as
he has no relationship with this girl, and doesn't want a relationship
with the child he didn't want to create in the first place.

He needs to determine paternity through a DNA test and if the father,
accept he will be a living wallet for the next 18 years.

And learn how to use a rubber.

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He wants nothing to do with the child when it's born, and is more than
willing to sign away all rights, but he isn't sure if the mother will
go for this, or what he is legally obligated to do.

Does anyone have any advice?

The laws of the land can and will hold him hostage for the next 18 years!
Best thing he can do is convince and make clear to the mother that he wants
total separation from her and her child.
She might see the light and free him from this burden, but unfortunately
it's her call.

"DB" wrote

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He wants nothing to do with the child when it's born, and is more than
willing to sign away all rights, but he isn't sure if the mother will
go for this, or what he is legally obligated to do.

Does anyone have any advice?

The laws of the land can and will hold him hostage for the next 18 years!
Best thing he can do is convince and make clear to the mother that he
wants total separation from her and her child.
She might see the light and free him from this burden, but unfortunately
it's her call.
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Not always. Courts have historically taken the position that a parent cannot
bargain away the child's right
to support.
==

"Gini" wrote in

Not always. Courts have historically taken the position that a parent
cannot bargain away the child's right
to support.


She has to file a claim for the CS, the state cannot do this!

"DB" wrote

"Gini" wrote in

Not always. Courts have historically taken the position that a parent
cannot bargain away the child's right
to support.


She has to file a claim for the CS, the state cannot do this!
==
It can if she ever goes on welfare. Anyway, I was responding to your
statement that any
agreement is up to the CP. And, yes she can make a deal but if the courts
ever get involved
(if she goes on welfare or simply changes her mind) the court will likely
"overrule" any prior agreements
she made. Out of court agreements can be very dangerous traps for NCPs.

"Gini" wrote in

Out of court agreements can be very dangerous traps for NCPs.


Yea, basically he's at her mercy!!!!!!!

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Hi all... I stumbled across this community while attempting to do some
research for a friend of mine who's absolutely petrified.

He just received a phone call from an ex-girlfriend informing him that
she's now 13 weeks pregnant. She is planning to have the child and
most likely to keep it.

My friend is now terrified. The two of them were not in a relationship
at the time- they had been broken up for a year, and had a quick tryst
and then went back to not speaking. As far as he knew, she was still
on birth control.

He wants nothing to do with the child when it's born, and is more than
willing to sign away all rights, but he isn't sure if the mother will
go for this, or what he is legally obligated to do.

Does anyone have any advice? He doesn't want to be a living wallet, as
he has no relationship with this girl, and doesn't want a relationship
with the child he didn't want to create in the first place.

He has no choice. In this country he's a second class citizen with basically
no rights.

"Gini" wrote in message
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"DB" wrote

"Gini" wrote in

Not always. Courts have historically taken the position that a parent
cannot bargain away the child's right
to support.


She has to file a claim for the CS, the state cannot do this!
==
It can if she ever goes on welfare.

I fail to see the difference.

Anyway, I was responding to your
statement that any
agreement is up to the CP. And, yes she can make a deal but if the courts
ever get involved
(if she goes on welfare or simply changes her mind) the court will likely
"overrule" any prior agreements
she made. Out of court agreements can be very dangerous traps for NCPs.