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Privacy Rights of a Parent with a "noisy" toddler
Hello,
My wife and I live in a townhouse community (CA) and have a 20-month toddler. He can be a screamer at times. We've had a couple of incidents with the neighbors and now my wife is scared that if the neighbors hear him crying again they might call the police and take him away. This is a real fear of my wife. Specifically, the incidents: 1) In changing his bedtime, we let him "cry it out" under close supervision for about 30 minutes in his bedroom. During this time we had a neighbor who was outside knock on our door to "check" on us. This majorly annoyed my wife. 2) We spend a lot of time outside. In another incident, we were outside on the patio and he was especially cranky. He cried on and off for 30 minutes. We try not to attend to him if he is throwing a temper tantrum. In this case, we had one neighbor who peeked over our wall to "check" on us. Then, we had another neighbor knock on our door and scold my wife about disciplining our child. Now I can understand the noise issue. And in the future, we will not let our child cry out for long if we are outside. However, my wife is convinced that if they hear him crying again we will be accused of child abuse and the next time the police will be standing at our door. Specific questions: 1) Do we have a privacy right to not be bothered by intrusive neighbors (i.e., ignoring the doorbell or knocking on the door). 2) Do we not have a right to discipline our child as we see fit (i.e., ignoring his temper tantrum) if we are on our own property, assuming of course there is no physical abuse? 3) Does someone have the right to call the police on us if they hear our child crying? And if that were to occur, what rights do we have? Your response is appreciated. |
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If someone calls CPS on you, you have an absolute right not to admit worker to
your home. Even if they threaten you. See NG alt support child protective services. You might, show your child at a window to assure worker child is hale and healthy except when he is in a *screaming meltdown.* http://www.familyrightsassociation.com |
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"Nomen Nescio" wrote in message ... How typical. It's all about you and your screaming kid. What about your neighbors' rights to not be disturbed by noise, especially the noise of a child who won't quit screaming and crying? How the hell are they supposed to know your kid is OK? What about their right to privacy and peace? The problem isn't the neighbors. The problem is you and your wife. If you want to do things your way with no consequences, move out to the country somewhere. If you won't do that, understand that your neighbors have rights too, and you're just going to have to deal with that and try to keep your child quieter. If you want your neighbors to respect your privacy, show them some respect for their privacy and peace in return. Spoken by a person who apparently not only doesn't have kids, but actively hates those who do. Nice. |
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"animzmirot" wrote in
: "Nomen Nescio" wrote in message ... How typical. It's all about you and your screaming kid. What about your neighbors' rights to not be disturbed by noise, especially the noise of a child who won't quit screaming and crying? How the hell are they supposed to know your kid is OK? What about their right to privacy and peace? The problem isn't the neighbors. The problem is you and your wife. If you want to do things your way with no consequences, move out to the country somewhere. If you won't do that, understand that your neighbors have rights too, and you're just going to have to deal with that and try to keep your child quieter. If you want your neighbors to respect your privacy, show them some respect for their privacy and peace in return. Spoken by a person who apparently not only doesn't have kids, but actively hates those who do. Nice. just a CF troll. give him a pat on the head & send him home. lee |
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In article , enigma says...
"animzmirot" wrote in : "Nomen Nescio" wrote in message ... How typical. It's all about you and your screaming kid. What about your neighbors' rights to not be disturbed by noise, especially the noise of a child who won't quit screaming and crying? How the hell are they supposed to know your kid is OK? What about their right to privacy and peace? The problem isn't the neighbors. The problem is you and your wife. If you want to do things your way with no consequences, move out to the country somewhere. If you won't do that, understand that your neighbors have rights too, and you're just going to have to deal with that and try to keep your child quieter. If you want your neighbors to respect your privacy, show them some respect for their privacy and peace in return. Spoken by a person who apparently not only doesn't have kids, but actively hates those who do. Nice. just a CF troll. give him a pat on the head & send him home. lee A quick googling shows "Nomen Nescio" to be a sock-puppet troll spewing all over about all assundry. We parents know what to do with tantrums, anyhow, even if they do make noise ;-) Banty |
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Sean,
You have a toddler who sometimes cries and throws tantrums. You live in a townhouse where your child's noise can be heard by your neighbors. You ask: 1) Do we have a privacy right to not be bothered by intrusive neighbors (i.e., ignoring the doorbell or knocking on the door). There is no specific right to privacy as you describe and your neighbors are not being intrusive. You can ignore the doorbell et c.. Your neighbors have the right to peace and quiet but a child crying at 7:30 or 8:00 pm probably does not violate this right unless the crying is not long lasting. You indicate that the crying is long lasting. Perhaps you could discuss with your adjacent neighbors the meaning of the expression "the terrible twos". 2) Do we not have a right to discipline our child as we see fit (i.e., ignoring his temper tantrum) if we are on our own property, assuming of course there is no physical abuse? This is a tough question as the definition of abuse seems to change. Be aware that abuse need not be physical. 3) Does someone have the right to call the police on us if they hear our child crying? And if that were to occur, what rights do we have? Anyone has the right to call the police when your child is crying to complain of noise or possible abuse. If the police do come to your door explain the situation. If they call in a "child services" person you may want to discuss your situation with a lawyer. Good luck, Dave M. |
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SeanK wrote: *Specific questions: * *1) Do we have a privacy right to not be bothered by intrusive *neighbors (i.e., ignoring the doorbell or knocking on the door). Do you mean do you have the right to not answer the door? Sure! But, if your kid is screaming and you do not answer the door, you might be more likely to have unwanted law enforcement people showing up - I mean, if I heard what I thought was a child screaming, and there was apparently no adult able to come to the door, I imagine I'd call the cops. Of course I do sometimes hear kids screaming from one of the neighbor's homes and I have never called the cops on my neighbors. I know what it is like to have kids! * *2) Do we not have a right to discipline our child as we see fit (i.e., *ignoring his temper tantrum) if we are on our own property, assuming *of course there is no physical abuse? Of course you do. *3) Does someone have the right to call the police on us if they hear *our child crying? And if that were to occur, what rights do we have? Yes, someone does. Anyone can call the police any time they truly believe an illegal act is occuring (heck, they can call any time they want for any reason as long as they aren't lying to the police, is my understanding - I can call the cops and ask if the moon is made of green cheese. They might hang up on me or not answer, but whatever). But. If they called the police and said your kid was crying, the police would say "so what." If they called the police and said your kid was crying, and was apparently alone or unattended, or that apparently you were home and choosing to ignore the child for "unreasonable" lengths of time, the police would have the obligation to investigate (themselves or via CPS or something like that depending on the area, I imagine). You then would have the right to fail to be proven guilty of whatever they claimed you were doing that was illegal. You would have the right to an attorney. You would have the right to present your side of the story to the initial investigator. You would have a lot of rights. You also have the right to call the neighbor an asshole who should mind his own business, but that might be unhelpful. -h. -- Hillary Israeli, VMD Lafayette Hill/PA/USA/Earth "Outside of a dog, a book is a man's best friend. Inside of a dog, it is too dark to read." --Groucho Marx |
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"SeanK" wrote in message ... (snip of account of crying toddler attracting attention of neighbors) Specific questions: 1) Do we have a privacy right to not be bothered by intrusive neighbors (i.e., ignoring the doorbell or knocking on the door). How are the neighbors supposed to know there isn't a legitimate crisis going on? Maybe the baby is crying unabated because Mommy has been hurt and can't respond (there've been cases where a murder victim was discovered because a child left behind alive was bawling). I don't see how neighbors knocking on your door either to see if something might be wrong or to let you know that your child's crying is intruding upon their property amounts to an invasion of your privacy. 2) Do we not have a right to discipline our child as we see fit (i.e., ignoring his temper tantrum) if we are on our own property, assuming of course there is no physical abuse? Well... physical or emotional abuse. But how are the neighbors supposed to know that? If it's jus a neighbor scolding you for not giving the child attention every time it has a temper tantrum, I'd say just tell them to buzz off. But a child crying loudly enough to be heard next door might be a child having his tantrum ignored -- or it might be a child who is being abused. 3) Does someone have the right to call the police on us if they hear our child crying? And if that were to occur, what rights do we have? Presumably a person has the right to call the police if they believe a child is being abused -- I would HOPE a person would call the police if they thought a child was being abused. You would have the right to be presumed innocent of any crime -- maybe Childrens Protective Services (or whatever they're called in your locale) would be called in to investigate, but beyond a child that cries a lot, are they going to find any sign of abuse on which to base charges? It would be interesting to know whether a persistently crying child violates any municipal noise ordinances anywhere, the way a constantly barking dog might. I mean, if push comes to shove, you can find a new home for a yapping mutt, but packing a bawling babe off to a family in the country where he won't disturb the neighbors is frowned upon. I hope -- for your sake and the neighbors' -- that the child outgrows it before long. Good luck. |
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