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| That Mythical Line
On Sat, 14 Feb 2004 15:58:10 -0500, Ivan Gowch
wrote: The debate over whether there is a distinct line between "spanking" and abuse is a textbook example of absurdity. Imagine a police interrogator claiming that he never "crosses the line" that separates good investigative technique from abuse because, although he does hit suspects on the head with rubber truncheons, he never attaches electrodes to their genitals and switches on the current. Few people would have difficulty recognizing that the "line" cited by the torturer is wholly mythical, and that the argument is self-serving and fraudulent. And so it is with parents and children. Deliberately hurting someone for your own ends is to abuse that person, whether the damage caused is mild or serious, and whether its effects are long-lasting or transitory. To hurt is to abuse, and anyone claiming otherwise is a liar. You notice that Droany has used the old," Well if You can't tell the difference" routine yet again, in just another form...though earlier he actually DID say this old saw from the annals of the spanking compulsives. It amounts to, and he just went to the low end, a tiny light smack on the butt, or the extreme of a bloody trashing, to "define" this "line" in its 14 mile wide defuse splendor. And you have, of course, just defined the absurdity of even trying to find something so filled with horror and dread for the victim. Precisely why he cannot give the definitive answer to The Question. And of course symptomatic of all his dodgings. It is ALL sick from the childs view until he is thoroughly brain washed, as the compulsives are, and bingo, there's another one for their self rationalizing ranks. Congratulating each other on the "rightness" of their feverish clutching at a brutal act. The pain factor is either ignored or minimized as, "how we learn." We also learn by jumping from 300 foot high cliffs with no net and no chute, and no bungee.....WHAT we pay for learning about gravity though is not so hot...and to make it happen to someone else, as in spanking the child...without a clear limit....sick. And that is the problem. What the child actually learns...that life is pain and they deserve it. Pretty sick. Ever imagine an entire world of humans who had NOT been raised with punishment, but responsible instruction? Well, I've been with large groups, totals of as high as 300 parents and children where that is the rule. From kids from young adult to toddler and infants...and no hitting, not even a punishment of any kind. Just relaxed interventions when their trouble....the pattern of parent as helper well establish, the influence quotient very high. It's the Utopia the compulsives think is impossible. I go there once a year for a week...and it refreshes me and equips me to come back here to the sad world of the compulsives, and their gloating over their victims. "Hail Dobson, Hail Dobson, let all Dachshund vicious attack beasts beware, and kiddies too." Kane |
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