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We may be almost done...toddler weaning
I'm not sure if this is it, or not, but ds (28 months) seems to be
heading towards self-weaning. Now that I'm almost 5 months pg, there's hardly any milk left. About once or twice a day, he asks for mommy milk, tries for a moment, and then declares "all gone." Fortunately, I've been explaining over the last month or so that now that he doesn't drink as much mommy milk, mommy's body isn't making as much, so it's a lot harder for him to get the mommy milk. (I'm trying really, really hard not to connect it to me being pg, even though that's part of the reason, so he won't resent the baby.) I did also tell him a couple days ago that once the baby gets here, mommy's body will start making more milk for the baby, and that mommy bodies are smart that way. He seemed to accept that explanation. I think over the next week or two, we're going to see if he keeps on trying. While I'm open to tandemming, it also seems like a golden opportunity to wean without drama right now, so I'm kind of playing it by ear. I know that no matter what, we've had a wonderful nursing relationship, so it's very bittersweet to see the end coming. :-( But, if this is how it ends, I'm very happy that he seems to be accepting snuggles and fridge milk as substitutes (depending on whether it was comfort or food he wanted). :-) Irene mom to Thomas 7/10/01 #2 EDD 4/10/04 |
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We may be almost done...toddler weaning
Fortunately, I've been explaining over the last month or so that now
that he doesn't drink as much mommy milk, mommy's body isn't making as much, so it's a lot harder for him to get the mommy milk. (I'm trying really, really hard not to connect it to me being pg, even though that's part of the reason, so he won't resent the baby.) You know, I've been wondering about that! I'd like to tell my DS the truth about the pregnancy changing the milk but the resentment thing makes it sort of sticky, doesn't it? (Anyone else want to tell us how you handled it?) Fortunately, my DS doesn't seem to have noticed any dropoff yet, or at least hasn't commented on it, though he's tending to nurse for shorter periods of time, and is a lot easier to put off than he used to be. And of course, I'm not as far along as you; who knows what will happen in the next few months. I think over the next week or two, we're going to see if he keeps on trying. While I'm open to tandemming, it also seems like a golden opportunity to wean without drama right now, so I'm kind of playing it by ear. I know that no matter what, we've had a wonderful nursing relationship, so it's very bittersweet to see the end coming. :-( But, if this is how it ends, I'm very happy that he seems to be accepting snuggles and fridge milk as substitutes (depending on whether it was comfort or food he wanted). :-) Sounds like the right attitude to me. :-) It wouldn't break my heart if DS weaned mid-preg -- he'll turn 3 in less than two months -- but I'm not holding my breath, since he's pretty attached to it as part of his bedtime routine. And it also wouldn't bother me to wind up tandem nursing, just because, well, having come this far, why not go through the *full* range of breastfeeding experience? ;-) Living in the liberal Bay Area, I don't get too many opportunities to be an in-your-face lactivist! Plus, of course, "everyone" says that tandemning reduces baby-resentment and such sibling problems -- and we're going to have enough to deal with trying to change DS' sleeping habits somehow or other, since there isn't enough room in Mommy & Daddy's bed for four, and not enough floor space in our house for a bigger bed! Holly Mom to Camden, 2.5 yrs EDD #2 6/8/04 |
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We may be almost done...toddler weaning
HollyLewis wrote:
much, so it's a lot harder for him to get the mommy milk. (I'm trying really, really hard not to connect it to me being pg, even though that's part of the reason, so he won't resent the baby.) You know, I've been wondering about that! I'd like to tell my DS the truth about the pregnancy changing the milk but the resentment thing makes it sort of sticky, doesn't it? (Anyone else want to tell us how you handled it?) I've been wondering about that, too! In my head, I've been coming up with ways to explain a possible milk drop-off without blaming it on the new baby. Same goes for explaining why I might be too tired to play, or not feeling well, etc. says that tandemning reduces baby-resentment and such sibling problems -- and we're going to have enough to deal with trying to change DS' sleeping habits somehow or other, since there isn't enough room in Mommy & Daddy's bed for four, and not enough floor space in our house for a bigger bed! I'd like to tandem for the same reasons, but if I get pregnant and Sproutkin self-weans that would be okay, too. We're thinking of getting her a toddler bed in the very near future, and starting the transition. No BTDT experience, just that I'm thinking all the same things, Holly. Mary S. mom to the Sproutkin, 21 months |
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We may be almost done...toddler weaning
We're thinking of getting
her a toddler bed in the very near future, and starting the transition. No BTDT experience, just that I'm thinking all the same things, Holly. Mary S. mom to the Sproutkin, 21 months Oh, Camden has his own bed, and he likes it well enough. It's just that even when he starts the night in it, he doesn't stay in it. Sometime during the night he comes and joins me -- and as often as not, I don't wake up when he does. Which means that even if I wanted to institute a routine of taking him back to his own bed, I really wouldn't be *able* to! And I don't think I want to gate or lock him out of my room. So it's going to have to be powers of persuasion, or something. Wish me luck! ;-) Holly Mom to Camden, 2.5 yrs EDD #2 6/8/04 |
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We may be almost done...toddler weaning
HollyLewis wrote:
Oh, Camden has his own bed, and he likes it well enough. It's just that even when he starts the night in it, he doesn't stay in it. And I don't think I want to gate or lock him out of my room. So it's going to have to be powers of persuasion, or something. Wish me luck! ;-) Aw, nuts! So you don't just start putting them into the toddler bed and poof, they start sleeping through the night? Sproutkin still wakes up 2-3 times a night at this point. Mary S. mom to the Sproutkin, 21 months |
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We may be almost done...toddler weaning
Mary wrote:
HollyLewis wrote: Oh, Camden has his own bed, and he likes it well enough. It's just that even when he starts the night in it, he doesn't stay in it. And I don't think I want to gate or lock him out of my room. So it's going to have to be powers of persuasion, or something. Wish me luck! ;-) Aw, nuts! So you don't just start putting them into the toddler bed and poof, they start sleeping through the night? Sproutkin still wakes up 2-3 times a night at this point. P's been in his for about a month now. Every night, at some point, he's in our bed. He came in at 5:30 for a nurse, and he's still in there, asleep with Himself. The good part is that once they "get it", you don't have to go get them, they come to you. So you can stay kinda groggy. :-) P hasn't slept through since....June? -- 'Tis Herself |
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We may be almost done...toddler weaning
Aw, nuts! So you don't just start putting them into the toddler bed and
poof, they start sleeping through the night? Nope. But if you're lucky, *you* start sleeping through the night, because the kid no longer needs your help to get out of bed and climb into yours. :-) That's the way it worked for us anyhow, but then, DS wasn't typically waking more than once a night by that time. Holly Mom to Camden, 2.5 yrs EDD #2 6/8/04 |
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We may be almost done...toddler weaning
Mary wrote in message ...
HollyLewis wrote: Oh, Camden has his own bed, and he likes it well enough. It's just that even when he starts the night in it, he doesn't stay in it. And I don't think I want to gate or lock him out of my room. So it's going to have to be powers of persuasion, or something. Wish me luck! ;-) Aw, nuts! So you don't just start putting them into the toddler bed and poof, they start sleeping through the night? Sproutkin still wakes up 2-3 times a night at this point. We just started transitioning DD to a toddler bed next to our bed about a month ago. It has gone really well; I'm quite pleased. It totally varies how often she wakes up now. She might sleep in her bed for an hour or two before coming into ours, or she might stay in her bed the vast majority of the night without waking to nurse at all. Or she might wake once, about halfway through. -Sara |
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