Please share your complaints & horror stories.

I'm slated to give a talk to healthcare providers on "helping mothers
to have an emotionally secure pregnancy and childbirth." I need your
help! Please share with me about the healthcare providers you
encountered who were NOT sensitive. What did they do that riled you;
hurt your feelings; made you needlessly scared or worried; or caused
you feel put down and diminished as a person? How might they have acted
differently that would have been better? (As in: "I wish they would
have..."

Thanks! Sandy Jones (Sandy Jones & Marcie Jones, "Great Expectations:
Your All-in-One Resource for Pregnancy & Childbirth," wwwbn.com, search
"pregnancy.")

You can probably get a load of this sort of thing if you do a
groups.google.com search within this group on the keywords rant and doctor

Marion

SandyofGreatExpectations wrote:
I'm slated to give a talk to healthcare providers on "helping mothers
to have an emotionally secure pregnancy and childbirth." I need your
help! Please share with me about the healthcare providers you
encountered who were NOT sensitive. What did they do that riled you;
hurt your feelings; made you needlessly scared or worried; or caused
you feel put down and diminished as a person? How might they have acted
differently that would have been better? (As in: "I wish they would
have..."

Thanks! Sandy Jones (Sandy Jones & Marcie Jones, "Great Expectations:
Your All-in-One Resource for Pregnancy & Childbirth," wwwbn.com, search
"pregnancy.")

When I went in for my 20 week ultrasound, I had to deal with a
technician who was not very patient. It was the end of the day, and
the office was about 30 minutes late getting me in anyways. When my
husband and I got into the room, we discovered quickly that we had a
technician who was in a big hurry. Also, she had another person in the
room with us that she was explaining things to. So, instead of talking
to my husband and I about what she was seeing on the ultrasound, she
was talking to this other person instead. We were really excited to
find out the sex of our baby at this appointment, too, but the baby
wasn't totally cooperating. The technician scanned over this area a
couple of times, but that was it. I was really upset when we left
because I had been so looking forward to this appointment, and I just
really felt like this lady ruined it. I wish that it had just been the
three of us, so that she would have been talking directly with us. I
also wish that she would have been more patient.

On Sun, 16 Jan 2005 23:25:11 -0800, SandyofGreatExpectations wrote:

I need your help! Please share with me about the healthcare providers
you encountered who were NOT sensitive.

Well, if it comes to being sensitive during pregnancy, there is a lot of
room for improvement in dealing with women who suffer a miscarriage. Nine
out of ten providers will tell you "it's just plain bad luck, keep trying"
and completely ignore your emotional state after that. Many women don't
see their pregnancy care provider again after they had a m/c, while it is
very common to have check-ups after a normal delivery. My midwife would
call me to check on the bloodloss a few days and one week after the m/c,
but that was it.

Many women think their emotional experience is not normal, since they
don't hear anyone talk about m/c's and even their doctors seem to ignore
it. As a consequence, they often don't dare to ask for help, even if they
need it, and they will suppress their emotions. An open mind from the care
provider, acknowledging the emotional loss, and follow-up visits up to two
months after the m/c would be helpful. As well as standard hCG bloodwork
until the hCG is unmeasurable, to ensure that the m/c was complete.

--
-- I
mommy to DS (July '02)
mommy to four tiny angels (28 Oct'03, 17 Feb'04, 20 May'04 & 28 Oct'04)
preggers with twins EDD August'05
guardian of DH (33)

I've got one for you. Midwifes who are taking over for a doctor on
vacation should make better descisions about induction and c-sections.
My alternative Midwife left me pushing for 6 hours before a c-section,
I didn't get to see my child til 3 hours after her birth or longer.
CAN You say Law Suit Waiting to happen.
Jennifer
Ariana 8/17/03
Pumpkin EDD 6/21/05

"SandyofGreatExpectations" wrote in message
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I'm slated to give a talk to healthcare providers on "helping mothers
to have an emotionally secure pregnancy and childbirth." I need your
help! Please share with me about the healthcare providers you
encountered who were NOT sensitive. What did they do that riled you;
hurt your feelings; made you needlessly scared or worried; or caused
you feel put down and diminished as a person? How might they have acted
differently that would have been better? (As in: "I wish they would
have..."

Thanks! Sandy Jones (Sandy Jones & Marcie Jones, "Great Expectations:
Your All-in-One Resource for Pregnancy & Childbirth," wwwbn.com, search
"pregnancy.")


Sandy,

What have healthcare providers done that has really riled me?

OBs have ignored my pleas that they simply offer the "extra" up to 30% at
the pelvic outlet.

Why do women have to ASK for the "extra" up to 30%?

The Four OB Lies really rile me.

Could you tell the healthcare providers about The Four OB Lies and post
whatever feedback you receive?

Thanks.

Sincerely,

Todd

PS THE FOUR OB LIES...

OB LIE #1. After MASSIVE change in the AP pelvic outlet diameter was
clinically demonstrated in 1911 and radiographically demonstrated in 1957,
the authors of Williams Obstetrics began erroneously claiming that pelvic
diamaters DON'T CHANGE at delivery.

OB LIE #2. After Ohlsen pointed out in 1973 that pelvic diameters DO
change - the authors of Williams Obstetrics began erroneously claiming that
their most frequent delivery position - dorsal - widens the outlet.

OB LIE #3. After I pointed out in 1992 that dorsal CLOSES - and so does
semisitting - the authors of Williams Obstetrics - put the correct
biomechanics in their 1993 edition - but kept in their text (in the same
paragraph!) - the dorsal widens bald lie that first called my attention to
their text...

OB LIE #4. OBs are actually KEEPING birth canals closed when babies get
stuck - and claiming they are doing everything to allow the birth canal open
maximally. (ACOG Shoulder Dystocia video - also forceps and vacuum births
are performed with the mother in lithotomy.)

See Make birth better: Dan Rather, before you leave CBS...
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group...t/message/2983

I noted some of the OB lies in an Open Letter to the FTC years ago...
http://home1.gte.net/gastaldo/part2ftc.html