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Number 1 Parenting Mistake.
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Not correcting your child when you know that they've done something wrong. #2 Is not correcting them because, you believe and know that they don't know what they've done wrong. ************************************************** **************************** It is really simple, you cannot expect a child to learn unless you teach them, and they cannot understand right from wrong, unless you teach them. If you want what is best for them, and you want them to be able to enjoy life, never allow thier inocence be the reason. Thier lack of knowledge of right and wrong has got to be removed and the rules, morals, issues of common law, and edicate taught to them. It is impossible for a child to set the right priorities, when a parent keeps providing loopholes in the law based upon them not knowing the difference between right and wrong, or what they've done wrong. Any habit, mental, if just a train of thought and a habit of thinking, or a habit of saying a catch phrase, or a habit of picking your nose, can be compared to smoking cigarettes. The kid will learn that so long as you believe them nieve, and they give you that dumb look, as if they don't know, they can get away with whatever they've done wrong, or at least have a better chance at it. You as a parent, if you want them to enjoy life, would have to correct them every time they'd done something, and when you catch them, teach them what they've done wrong. But, if you aren't teaching them, if you aren't explaining to them, and you keep letting them do whatever it is that they will do, then they won't be able to enjoy life. You might not think so because, you only see yourself limiting their freedom. But, what they really have to learn is to not to want to do anything wrong. Once they get that much straight, then they discover their true freedom, and the only form of freedom they will ever have in this world. The right to do anything they know isn't wrong, which includes, toys, models, friends, hobbies, careers, and anything they want, so long as they know it isn't wrong. After that, it's just as simple as understanding that there is a time for everything. You could have a half gallon ice cream as a teaching tool. If they want it, good, but watch the expiration date. When you get to the last day that they would sell it, let em' eat all of it. But, don't let em' have any until they have to eat it all. If you know that kid will pig out on it, given that golden oprotunity, do it, and let em' pig out. But, teach them that it really is possible for them to save it for later, if pigging out is so important. You need to teach them, that their choice of friends is important, as well as keep track of the crimes committed against your child by their friends. That journal will always help you. It gives you the means of bringing the whole situation down to their level and their experiances as to when they lied too, or when they were stolen from. The whole point, is making a point of how they felt and reminding them that being that way doesn't make a good friend, and anyone that is that way, isn't one. But, you cannot set the priority of right and wrong or stress it well enough except to correct them every time you catch them. If they don't know they did something wrong, and you know what they did was wrong, then it's time to start teaching them. |
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Number 1 Parenting Mistake.
I imagine an articule like this gets parents backs up rather than
helping them, especially as you're not a parent yourself and else don't state a professional interest. The Flavored Coffeee Guy wrote: IS: Not correcting your child when you know that they've done something wrong. #2 Is not correcting them because, you believe and know that they don't know what they've done wrong. ************************************************** **************************** It is really simple, you cannot expect a child to learn unless you teach them, and they cannot understand right from wrong, unless you teach them. If you want what is best for them, and you want them to be able to enjoy life, never allow thier inocence be the reason. Thier lack of knowledge of right and wrong has got to be removed and the rules, morals, issues of common law, and edicate taught to them. It is impossible for a child to set the right priorities, when a parent keeps providing loopholes in the law based upon them not knowing the difference between right and wrong, or what they've done wrong. Any habit, mental, if just a train of thought and a habit of thinking, or a habit of saying a catch phrase, or a habit of picking your nose, can be compared to smoking cigarettes. The kid will learn that so long as you believe them nieve, and they give you that dumb look, as if they don't know, they can get away with whatever they've done wrong, or at least have a better chance at it. You as a parent, if you want them to enjoy life, would have to correct them every time they'd done something, and when you catch them, teach them what they've done wrong. But, if you aren't teaching them, if you aren't explaining to them, and you keep letting them do whatever it is that they will do, then they won't be able to enjoy life. You might not think so because, you only see yourself limiting their freedom. But, what they really have to learn is to not to want to do anything wrong. Once they get that much straight, then they discover their true freedom, and the only form of freedom they will ever have in this world. The right to do anything they know isn't wrong, which includes, toys, models, friends, hobbies, careers, and anything they want, so long as they know it isn't wrong. After that, it's just as simple as understanding that there is a time for everything. You could have a half gallon ice cream as a teaching tool. If they want it, good, but watch the expiration date. When you get to the last day that they would sell it, let em' eat all of it. But, don't let em' have any until they have to eat it all. If you know that kid will pig out on it, given that golden oprotunity, do it, and let em' pig out. But, teach them that it really is possible for them to save it for later, if pigging out is so important. You need to teach them, that their choice of friends is important, as well as keep track of the crimes committed against your child by their friends. That journal will always help you. It gives you the means of bringing the whole situation down to their level and their experiances as to when they lied too, or when they were stolen from. The whole point, is making a point of how they felt and reminding them that being that way doesn't make a good friend, and anyone that is that way, isn't one. But, you cannot set the priority of right and wrong or stress it well enough except to correct them every time you catch them. If they don't know they did something wrong, and you know what they did was wrong, then it's time to start teaching them. |
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Number 1 Parenting Mistake.
Let's say you babysat for a long time, and you had friends who had
kids. Then when you look back at when you were a kid, the real friends you had, always got in trouble every time they got caught. But, then you think about the enemies you had, and they didn't ever seem to get into trouble. So, I look at it like this, I've had compliments from a guy who didn't know what to do with a dozen kids, when he asked for my advice, and he was glad that it worked. So, I see myself as right, but that's all in the proof that comes from freinds that have taken my advice, and people that had written me asking for it. But, the people who actually thank me, aren't the people that really do anything to really honestly raise thier kids right. They deal with them, they put up with them, and their kids wear on the patience, but no matter how stubborn or concieted the parent, it will only result in more problems for the kid. But, that kid will be a problem for you as long as he/she is a minor. RichardM wrote: I imagine an articule like this gets parents backs up rather than helping them, especially as you're not a parent yourself and else don't state a professional interest. |
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Number 1 Parenting Mistake.
The Flavored Coffeee Guy wrote: Let's say you babysat for a long time, and you had friends who had kids. Then when you look back at when you were a kid, the real friends you had, always got in trouble every time they got caught. But, then you think about the enemies you had, and they didn't ever seem to get into trouble. So, I look at it like this, I've had compliments from a guy who didn't know what to do with a dozen kids, when he asked for my advice, and he was glad that it worked. So, I see myself as right, but that's all in the proof that comes from freinds that have taken my advice, and people that had written me asking for it. But, the people who actually thank me, aren't the people that really do anything to really honestly raise thier kids right. They deal with them, they put up with them, and their kids wear on the patience, but no matter how stubborn or concieted the parent, it will only result in more problems for the kid. But, that kid will be a problem for you as long as he/she is a minor. RichardM wrote: I imagine an articule like this gets parents backs up rather than helping them, especially as you're not a parent yourself and else don't state a professional interest. |
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Number 1 Parenting Mistake.
Hey ,
I am a parent myself and what's written here makes absolute sense. You set the ground rules and a child understands. There should be rules in raising a child. My kids have grown and I have seen the results. They are free to live their lives but know exactly what is right or wrong for them. So I agree totally. The Flavored Coffeee Guy wrote: Let's say you babysat for a long time, and you had friends who had kids. Then when you look back at when you were a kid, the real friends you had, always got in trouble every time they got caught. But, then you think about the enemies you had, and they didn't ever seem to get into trouble. So, I look at it like this, I've had compliments from a guy who didn't know what to do with a dozen kids, when he asked for my advice, and he was glad that it worked. So, I see myself as right, but that's all in the proof that comes from freinds that have taken my advice, and people that had written me asking for it. But, the people who actually thank me, aren't the people that really do anything to really honestly raise thier kids right. They deal with them, they put up with them, and their kids wear on the patience, but no matter how stubborn or concieted the parent, it will only result in more problems for the kid. But, that kid will be a problem for you as long as he/she is a minor. RichardM wrote: I imagine an articule like this gets parents backs up rather than helping them, especially as you're not a parent yourself and else don't state a professional interest. |
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Number 1 Parenting Mistake.
Anu,
Thank-you, it's wonderful to hear that from a real parent. Anu wrote: Hey , I am a parent myself and what's written here makes absolute sense. You set the ground rules and a child understands. There should be rules in raising a child. My kids have grown and I have seen the results. They are free to live their lives but know exactly what is right or wrong for them. So I agree totally. The Flavored Coffeee Guy wrote: Let's say you babysat for a long time, and you had friends who had kids. Then when you look back at when you were a kid, the real friends you had, always got in trouble every time they got caught. But, then you think about the enemies you had, and they didn't ever seem to get into trouble. So, I look at it like this, I've had compliments from a guy who didn't know what to do with a dozen kids, when he asked for my advice, and he was glad that it worked. So, I see myself as right, but that's all in the proof that comes from freinds that have taken my advice, and people that had written me asking for it. But, the people who actually thank me, aren't the people that really do anything to really honestly raise thier kids right. They deal with them, they put up with them, and their kids wear on the patience, but no matter how stubborn or concieted the parent, it will only result in more problems for the kid. But, that kid will be a problem for you as long as he/she is a minor. RichardM wrote: I imagine an articule like this gets parents backs up rather than helping them, especially as you're not a parent yourself and else don't state a professional interest. |
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Number 1 Parenting Mistake.
Anu wrote:
Hey , I am a parent myself and what's written here makes absolute sense. You ---------------------- Shut the **** up, FCG-sock-puppet. Steve |
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Number 1 Parenting Mistake.
R. Steve Walz wrote: Anu wrote: Hey , I am a parent myself and what's written here makes absolute sense. You ---------------------- Shut the **** up, FCG-sock-puppet. Steve Steve, you wish Anu, wrote: but, your settings automatically place your signature at the bottom of the message, and the newsgroup server automatically placed your user name in the header. You see, R. Steve Walz wrote: Anu, wrote nothing. |
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Number 1 Parenting Mistake.
The Flavored Coffeee Guy wrote:
R. Steve Walz wrote: Anu wrote: Hey , I am a parent myself and what's written here makes absolute sense. You ---------------------- Shut the **** up, FCG-sock-puppet. Steve Steve, you wish Anu, wrote: but, your settings automatically place your signature at the bottom of the message, and the newsgroup server automatically placed your user name in the header. You see, R. Steve Walz wrote: Anu, wrote nothing. ------------------------- That's because I'm not "Anu", wheoever THAT is. You're a delusional moron! Steve |
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Number 1 Parenting Mistake.
I feel like I'm being followed around by a group of pedophiles, who can actually see light of what I'm saying, and they don't like it because, they can't get their dicks wet if the parents know what to do! Anu wrote: Hey , I am a parent myself and what's written here makes absolute sense. You ---------------------- Shut the **** up, FCG-sock-puppet. Steve |
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