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8-5 nanny at home
I'm planning the day care situation for my kids. I admit that's all I
think of. So much that it's driving me crazy. The pg hormones are not helping either! By the time I have to go back to work after mat. leave, the new baby will be about 3 months old and my DD will be about one and half. I was weighing the options of having someone come over to my house to look after them 8-5 while I work. The other choices are leaving them at an at-home day care or finding a commercial day care. I want to ask you about your experiences of a nanny coming home everyday to watch your kids (not those that live in your house. I don't want that arrangement.) Obviously there are some conveniences like you don't have to get the kids ready in the morning, drive to and from the day care etc.. But then you have the issue of having to leave the entire house and contents at her disposal every day. I have a friend who had horrible experience and another friend who can't stop praising this arrangement. DH is kinda against this idea but will listen if there are enough benefits. Could you speak for/against it? Thanks. |
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ted wrote:
I'm planning the day care situation for my kids. I admit that's all I think of. So much that it's driving me crazy. The pg hormones are not helping either! By the time I have to go back to work after mat. leave, the new baby will be about 3 months old and my DD will be about one and half. I was weighing the options of having someone come over to my house to look after them 8-5 while I work. The other choices are leaving them at an at-home day care or finding a commercial day care. At those ages I'd do a nanny if I could. Although, where is your older child now? I want to ask you about your experiences of a nanny coming home everyday to watch your kids (not those that live in your house. I don't want that arrangement.) Obviously there are some conveniences like you don't have to get the kids ready in the morning, drive to and from the day care etc.. But then you have the issue of having to leave the entire house and contents at her disposal every day. If I'm going to trust her with my children, I sure as heck will trust her with my house. It is a big leap of faith. My husband works out of our house so that he could be around to keep an eye on things when we had our nanny, which made things tremendously easier. I totally understand where you are coming from with leaving your kids with a stranger. I have a friend who had horrible experience and another friend who can't stop praising this arrangement. DH is kinda against this idea but will listen if there are enough benefits. Could you speak for/against it? We loved our nanny and are so glad that our daughter had that one on one care her first year (then nanny had to quit and we started DD at my works daycare which is very good). I feel kind of bad that our next baby wont get that (we can't afford a nanny plus daycare, and DD is really established at her daycare, so we don't want to pull her). No matter where you leave your kids, its really hard. Best of luck with your decision. Mary |
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ted wrote:
I want to ask you about your experiences of a nanny coming home everyday to watch your kids (not those that live in your house. I don't want that arrangement.) Obviously there are some conveniences like you don't have to get the kids ready in the morning, drive to and from the day care etc.. We are having a wonderful experience with our nanny. She's prompt, clean, and very good with Pillbug. He really likes her and laughs with her a lot. She takes him out for a walk every day, but only in the local neighbourhood, not crossing the big street. She keeps the house neat (no housekeeping, but just straightening up) and it's great coming home to a clean, happy baby. We only had one problem with her, which was when she gave Pillbug some wheat bread, which is a no-no since we have allergies in the family. So, after we straightened that out (no food for Pillbug unless sanctioned by me), everything is okay. But then you have the issue of having to leave the entire house and contents at her disposal every day. We thought of it this way... We are trusting this woman with OUR CHILD. If we cannot trust her to not steal, say, my engagement ring, how can we trust her to take care of my child, who is infinitely more valuable than my engagement ring? Or DVD player, or whatever... I have a friend who had horrible experience and another friend who can't stop praising this arrangement. DH is kinda against this idea but will listen if there are enough benefits. I've never had to deal with outside daycare, so I don't know the comparisons. I do know that it's a huge time saver that I don't have to pack a bag with milk and food and extra clothes every day, nor do the dropoff/pickup thing. Do make sure you have a lot of overlap time in the beginning, so you know how she really works and interacts with your child. We have 2 and a half weeks of her working in my home before I went back to work. Also, we had some surprise popup visits, just to make sure. We do not believe in the nannycam thing, as we believe she should be treated with respect. It's definitely a great plus for our quality of life. -- Anita -- Pillbug is 11 months old |
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"ted" wrote in message om... I'm planning the day care situation for my kids. I admit that's all I think of. So much that it's driving me crazy. The pg hormones are not helping either! By the time I have to go back to work after mat. leave, the new baby will be about 3 months old and my DD will be about one and half. I was weighing the options of having someone come over to my house to look after them 8-5 while I work. The other choices are leaving them at an at-home day care or finding a commercial day care. I want to ask you about your experiences of a nanny coming home everyday to watch your kids (not those that live in your house. I don't want that arrangement.) Obviously there are some conveniences like you don't have to get the kids ready in the morning, drive to and from the day care etc.. But then you have the issue of having to leave the entire house and contents at her disposal every day. I have a friend who had horrible experience and another friend who can't stop praising this arrangement. DH is kinda against this idea but will listen if there are enough benefits. Could you speak for/against it? Thanks. My son was watched by a woman in her home who also cared for a few other kids. Just before he turned 3, I moved him to a very nice daycare that I had been on the waiting list for. After moving him, I realized that the sitter had not been teaching him give & take with other kids. She was letting them 'duke it out' and said that the kids had to learn to deal with each other - without her guidance or interference obviously. My son had learned that if he wanted something, hitting and grabbing was the way to go. Whoever was stronger/faster got it. WRONG. I had no idea since he was an only child up until then and I never saw him interacting with other kids. Everything else seemed great, but her ideas on what needed discipline & what didn't were so wrong and I could never guess this until he was removed from her care. The *method* of discipline was fine, but... The daycare we chose is so wonderful. They truly care about each child. They are fed breakfast, snack, lunch, snack and it's all very healthy, well-prepared food. They are never 'out sick', closed for vacation or anything else that you run into with individual care givers. My daughter was just a baby when she started at that daycare. They rocked her & loved her like a single person might not have the time or patience to do. She gets to interact with other kids her age, gets to do projects and is exposed to all kinds of experiences that you don't get at home. She loves it so much that she doesn't look back when I drop her off in the morning - she's only 18 months and has her own 'life'. I like the daycare setting. I know each caregiver has other workers watching her actions all the time and the reliability can't be beat. You also (depending on where you live) have the rules set by state regulations & such. That's been my experience I'm sure you'll hear lots of others, too! Mary Logan Alexander 3/28/00 Aubrey Lee 11/27/02 |
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We thought of it this way... We are trusting this woman with OUR CHILD. If we cannot trust her to not steal, say, my engagement ring, how can we trust her to take care of my child, who is infinitely more valuable than my engagement ring? Or DVD player, or whatever... While I understand the sentiment and I would not want a thief watching my baby I'm not sure it is always clear. I think some people may seem very good with kids, and ethical, and still steal a ton of stuff. It is certainly something you want to be aware of. Not very many people want a baby and I would think taking a baby you nanny for would not be so wise. There are thousands of people that would take my purse out of the shopping cart and hardly any that would take my baby. Just to set the record straight I never leave my baby in the shopping cart :-) -- Nikki Mama to Hunter (5) and Luke (3) |
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Nikki wrote:
Irrational Number wrote: We thought of it this way... We are trusting this woman with OUR CHILD. If we cannot trust her to not steal, say, my engagement ring, how can we trust her to take care of my child, who is infinitely more valuable than my engagement ring? Or DVD player, or whatever... While I understand the sentiment and I would not want a thief watching my baby I'm not sure it is always clear. I think some people may seem very good with kids, and ethical, and still steal a ton of stuff. You're right; there are plenty of people who would be good to a baby but think that it's not a big deal to take stuff here and there from a household... I have a friend who had this problem with a live-in maid; they found her clothes and stuff in the maid's room! However, anytime you have anyone else take care of your child, you're taking a risk. So, one can only hope that one makes a good decision on a person. -- Anita -- |
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I've had nannies for 12 years now, the first one live in, the next 3
live out. Here in Toronto, nannies are usually nanny/housekeepers, so mine do a lot of the basic housework, laundry etc. as well as the childcare aspect. We're about to give one up, since our kids are now 13, 10 and 6. Everything hinges on the nanny you hire, and we've had superb ones. You need to put out the word to all your friends, family, at the local school etc. that you are looking. I've never advertised - I just put out the feelers throught the local nanny network, and within a few weeks, lots came out of the woodwork and I had more candidates than I could manage. Write out a job description outlining the hours of work, the general job duties, the circumstances (size of your house, general location, pets, how many kids and their ages), any health issues of the kids, vacation, pay, and any special requirements (no smoking, you want them to have a drivers license, first aid training, do you want them to cook, whatever). I found this very helpful, since you can give it to prospective candidates to consider if they would be interested, or they can pass it on if they know anyone who might be interested (and they often do). The most crucial tip I can pass on to you - and I'm really serious about this, since it works really, really well - ask for their references and CALL them BEFORE you interview. When you call references, ask a lot of questions, including performance, reliability, how they were with kids, job duties, hours of work, how much vacation they got, how sick days were handled, how much they were paid, any problems or issues, and why they left that job. This way, when the person shows up for the interview, you KNOW the backstory. I found that nanny candidates would tell me anything I wanted to hear, and would often fib about past jobs - but I'd be armed with all the info about what the past job entailed, and why they left (i.e. let go because they wanted too much money, or were constantly late, lazy, unreliable, boyfriend hanging around etc. Calling the references first can also save you some time, since no point interviewing the one who got let go because the silverwear was disappearing, or the police came to the door looking for them. You CAN be fooled entirely at an interview, since behaviour at an interview may not reflect what they will be like with the kids. The very best nanny we ever had would never have been hired by me on the basis of her interview. She was very shy (a recent immigrant from the Phillipines) and I could barely get a word out of her or get her to look at me - but her references RAVED about her, so I took the chance, and they were right. She was just wonderful. Nannies have been great for us. Kind of like having a "wife" (just kidding, but you know what I mean - I come home at 5:30, the laundry is done, the house is tidy, the kids dinner is ready - big stress reliever for me when you have the right person you feel you can trust (our current one has been with us 6 years and I trust her absolutely). Mary G. |
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