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Age and conception
Hi
Having read Leslie's thread it got me thinking about age and conception problems. I am 34, dp is 40, and we have one ds, 18mths. Dp is, I think, slowly coming round to the idea of a #2 but I think it might be a good year at least before he would be willing to ttc. I conceived my first pregnancy in the first month and ds the third after my mc, so in general there are no fertility problems. However, I do know that a woman's fertility starts to suffer after the age of 30. I just wonderd what the difference would be between say 34 and 36 for concieving? I'm not quite ready to ttc but I want to weigh up the pros and cons of waiting for say 6 months or 1 year or more? Cheers Jeni |
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Having read Leslie's thread it got me thinking about age and conception
problems. I am 34, dp is 40, and we have one ds, 18mths. Dp is, I think, slowly coming round to the idea of a #2 but I think it might be a good year at least before he would be willing to ttc. I conceived my first pregnancy in the first month and ds the third after my mc, so in general there are no fertility problems. However, I do know that a woman's fertility starts to suffer after the age of 30. I just wonderd what the difference would be between say 34 and 36 for concieving? I'm not quite ready to ttc but I want to weigh up the pros and cons of waiting for say 6 months or 1 year or more? fertility is supposed to be slowly decreasing almost from teenage years, it then gets a bit faster around 35. I'm pretty sure that as you've had one, that the optimum gap between babies is more important, you're unlikely to have a significant decrease in fertility and as you've had two that put's you in a subtly different to someone who has one, however it ends and then cannot conceive, or cannot get beyond the early stages. The bottom boundary for optimum distance is 18mths, so you're there, I can't remember whether the top is 3yrs or 5yrs or something else, but it's not a very narrow time window, so by waiting now, you're going to hit that window unless something strange happens. You must have noticed, that where you are, the average age of giving birth is relatively high, as a relatively young first time mother, particularly with my educational background, when in the hospital after the birth, it seemed like the other people had more in common with my mum than me (she was 46 at the time, everyone else on my little bit of the ward at one point was over 35). So a thousand or more women each year are having babies at 36 or more with few issues, I had a friend recently have a vbac at almost 41 (first was breech). If you're not ready, that's plenty of reason to wait and you've probably got at least 2yrs, if not more before you should worry about waiting any longer. Anne |
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I honestly don't know. I know I'm 30 and am having some element of not
knowing what to expect with TTC-ing. It seems like the people around me either had their complete family of 2-3 babies and considered themselves finished trying very young, or are a good bit older and having their first. It's just been very common for my peers/friends also age 30 to have 2 or 3 kids already and not planning to TTC anymore, and even people I went to school with who are 2-3 years younger have finished their families by now. A surprising number of people my age who also have college degrees and careers also have kids who are already almost teenagers!! So, on the other hand, while I am 30 and have one kid and would like 2 more and am starting to feel more pressed about it, I know SO very many women and see so very many out there who are having kids into their 40s. I guess it's just a personal thing. I know someone who had grownup (adult) sons and daughters and had a VERY big surprise unplanned pregnancy at 43, and I know people who have been trying unsuccesfully to conceive since age 25 or earlier. I guess you can't know what to expect. I have seen tons of women who are much older than myself having babies, but I tend to be more cautious and not want to take it for granted that it will be easy for me since I also know so many of all ages who have had to start fertility treatments in their 20s to get pregnant- some were succesful rather soon, and some were well into their 30s when they finally had their baby, after trying for more than 5 years. so.........I dunno. |
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"Leslie" wrote in message
ups.com... IANAD but just anecdotally it seems to me that people with good fertility keep right on having good fertility! I mean, maybe it's diminished but it doesn't seem to be diminished enough to keep them from getting pregnant. I'm thinking of the many women I know with 8 - 14 kids, all of whom kept right on having them into their 40s. The most recent example I know is a woman who had #9 about 7 years after #8, and she was 46 and not even trying. As for me, I've gotten pregnant almost every time there was a chance that it was possible (not on purpose, usually). I was 36 when Lorelei was conceived. If I were you, I'd wait till I (and my husband) felt ready. I feel the same way. I got pregnant on first try with #1 at 31, 3rd try with #2 at 33, and, conceived #3 at 40 despite having taken all precautions! All after having such irregular periods (80 day cycles at times) that my doc suggested that I would have to use Chlomid from the get go. Did them all naturally. Susan M |
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Jen, I don't think you can use statistics to help you in an individual
case. Certainly, if you had had a history of fertility issues, sooner would be better than later. However, if you are healthy, and had no problems getting pregnant last time, I wouldn't assume a delay of a year would make much difference. You should be aware though, that getting pregnant first month you tried is a lucky shot, even for two totally healthy people with perfect fertility trying at the right time. Any particular cycle, your odds of pregnancy are something like 14%, so it can take several months to get pregnant with everything working just fine. I had my first at 34, my second at 37, my 3rd at 41. Got pregnant first try with the first two, and third one took a while - and I'm not sure that had much to do with my age - I think the first two were just faster than average just due to luck (believe me, both times we were kinda amazed it happened so fast). M |
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wrote in message However, I do know that a woman's fertility starts to suffer after the age of 30. I just wonderd what the difference would be between say 34 and 36 for concieving? I'm not quite ready to ttc but I want to weigh up the pros and cons of waiting for say 6 months or 1 year or more? While fertility does decline I wouldn't worry about the 6-12mo wait personally. You aren't *that* old Anecdotally I got pg first try all three times. I was 29, 32, 36yo. -- Nikki, mama to Hunter 4/99 Luke 4/01 Brock 4/06 Ben 4/06 |
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"Nikki" wrote in message
news:ktSdnYSKkIOGry3YnZ2dnUVZ_sSmnZ2d@prairiewave. com... wrote in message However, I do know that a woman's fertility starts to suffer after the age of 30. I just wonderd what the difference would be between say 34 and 36 for concieving? I'm not quite ready to ttc but I want to weigh up the pros and cons of waiting for say 6 months or 1 year or more? While fertility does decline I wouldn't worry about the 6-12mo wait personally. You aren't *that* old Anecdotally I got pg first try all three times. I was 29, 32, 36yo. -- Nikki, mama to Hunter 4/99 Luke 4/01 Brock 4/06 Ben 4/06 Anecdotally, I got pg first try at 42. Unfortunately that one miscarried (possibly due to xray before I knew I was pg), and it took another 9 months to get pg again. But then we weren't really TRYING, as in worrying about timing and things, I just wasn't taking the pill. Liz |
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