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Setting a routine advice needed
I'm trying to set a bedtime routine for Emily-Rose. I'm not too sure if she is too young to be set this but I need my bed back !!
At present her daily sleep / awake routine is like this - 8-9am - Awake 2pm ish - 30 min nap 7pm ish- Nap - usually 1-2hr then awake till 1am !! I then get tired and take her to bed with me..............yes in my bed as I am too tired to argue. ERH is now 9 1/2mth and some nights will sleep in her cot but only if she falls asleep on my knee after 8 or 9pm then I transfer her to the cot. She wakes 2-3 times during the night if left in the cot and tosses and turns if in my bed but does sleep, but I don't get much. I want to try to do a routine like this - 8-9am - Awake 2pm ish - 2hr nap 7pm - bath & quiet time (stories / calm time, no toys) 8pm ish- Bedtime whilst awake Any advice on whether she is too young to do this with or tips on how to get her to sleep in the cot WITHOUT her screaming for an hour..........which currently happens, appreciated. Tired-in-the-uk !! -- -- Karen DS 10th Aug 1986 - VB - 9lb 13oz DD 13th Aug 1988 - VB - 10lb 9oz DD 28th Apr 2005 - VB - 9lb 4oz --------- Emily-Rose updated 26/1 http://photobucket.com/albums/v356/k...slideshow=true |
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Setting a routine advice needed
kazh wrote:
I'm trying to set a bedtime routine for Emily-Rose. I'm not too sure if she is too young to be set this but I need my bed back !! At present her daily sleep / awake routine is like this - 8-9am - Awake 2pm ish - 30 min nap 7pm ish- Nap - usually 1-2hr then awake till 1am !! I then get tired and take her to bed with me..............yes in my bed as I am too tired to argue. ERH is now 9 1/2mth and some nights will sleep in her cot but only if she falls asleep on my knee after 8 or 9pm then I transfer her to the cot. She wakes 2-3 times during the night if left in the cot and tosses and turns if in my bed but does sleep, but I don't get much. I want to try to do a routine like this - 8-9am - Awake 2pm ish - 2hr nap 7pm - bath & quiet time (stories / calm time, no toys) 8pm ish- Bedtime whilst awake Any advice on whether she is too young to do this with or tips on how to get her to sleep in the cot WITHOUT her screaming for an hour..........which currently happens, appreciated. Hmmm...she might be ready for that schedule, but at that age my kids weren't. At that age, they were still doing both morning and afternoon naps, and the schedule was something like: 7am - wake 9-9:30am - morning nap (about 1.5 hours) 1-1:30pm - afternoon nap (about 2 hours) 7:30pm - bedtime Is it possible that she is overtired and that is what is causing the trouble? Might it help to add in the morning nap? If she is ready to move to only one nap a day (which mine did around 12-13 months), their schedule was more like: 7am - wake noon - nap (2-3 hours) 7:30pm - bedtime And usually the transition took a while, with them sometimes needing to have the afternoon nap earlier and then being cranky in the evening before bedtime. Actually, come to think of it, your schedule isn't far off from my babies' two nap schedule, just skewed a few hours later on waking and then drifting later and later with the two naps. She may really *need* the two naps, but to accomplish that in a reasonable time frame, you might need to start earlier and leave less time before you put her down for naps. Best wishes, Ericka |
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Hi there
Don't know how much help this will be to you but all of my kids have been fantastic sleepers and have all followed pretty much the same routine. They were sleeping through the night fully by the time they were 4 months old. DD slept through from 6 weeks. Wake 7 am Nap 11am (1 hour) Nap 2pm (1 hour) Betime 7pm I tried to keep my babies/toddlers really active throughout the day and we always went for walks in the fresh air. Bedtime was kept very calm and quiet, we had a bath, story and then bottle and then off to bed. My DS2 would only sleep if there was music on so I kept a radio in his room that was only on just loud enough to hear. DS1 liked to have a clock ticking near to his cot so thats what he had and DD had one of those light show thingys. She was always asleep before it finished playing though! Every child is different and you just have to be consistent. Obviously it is not possible to put your child to bed at exactly the same time everyday but just try and keep to a similar routine each day. I know everyone has very different opinions on co-sleeping but I have never done it. My kids were in Cots until they were about 2 when they moved to a bed. I can't really offer any advice on the transition as I have never had to do it but a friend of mine used to put an item of her worn clothing in the childs cot when they went to bed and they went straight to sleep. HTH Clair |
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I think, first of all, that you are going to have to start getting her up at
7-7:30am, which should make her tired by 9-10-11am. Let her sleep for an hour, then get her back up. Then try to schedule active things in the afternoon. If she's not walking yet, at least make her crawl a lot to get her favorite toy, or you, etc. Then put her down for another nap around 3pm, and again, only let her sleep for an hour. Then, she should be okay to put to bed around 8ish (just past her regular late night nap). The first few days/week will be the worst, but if you stick through it, you can make it happen. If she wakes up in the night (thinking that the 8pm sleep is a nap), you can try to breastfeed/bottle feed her and then put her straight back down. Just keep talking to her and telling her that it's night night time. When she currently wakes during the night in her cot, does she fall back asleep without you assistance/input, or do you need to feed her or rock her or something? In the beginning, I'd just worry about getting her days on a more normal schedule, and after she seems acclimated to that, then I'd work on the nights. Addie was a really good napper, but consistently woke 2-3 times a night until well past a year. Well, she'd have a period where she would sleep through the night for a few weeks in a row, but then something would cause her to wake again. Finally, when she was 14 months old, I made her cry it out one night. And, one night was all it took. I checked on her every 15-20 minutes. 2 hours of my life, and she's been sleeping through the night ever since. I wish I'd done it earlier! -- Jamie Earth Angels: Taylor Marlys, 1/3/03 Addison Grace, 9/30/04 Check out the family! -- www.MyFamily.com, User ID: Clarkguest1, Password: Guest Become a member for free - go to Add Member to set up your own User ID and Password "kazh" wrote in message ... I'm trying to set a bedtime routine for Emily-Rose. I'm not too sure if she is too young to be set this but I need my bed back !! At present her daily sleep / awake routine is like this - 8-9am - Awake 2pm ish - 30 min nap 7pm ish- Nap - usually 1-2hr then awake till 1am !! I then get tired and take her to bed with me..............yes in my bed as I am too tired to argue. ERH is now 9 1/2mth and some nights will sleep in her cot but only if she falls asleep on my knee after 8 or 9pm then I transfer her to the cot. She wakes 2-3 times during the night if left in the cot and tosses and turns if in my bed but does sleep, but I don't get much. I want to try to do a routine like this - 8-9am - Awake 2pm ish - 2hr nap 7pm - bath & quiet time (stories / calm time, no toys) 8pm ish- Bedtime whilst awake Any advice on whether she is too young to do this with or tips on how to get her to sleep in the cot WITHOUT her screaming for an hour..........which currently happens, appreciated. Tired-in-the-uk !! -- -- Karen DS 10th Aug 1986 - VB - 9lb 13oz DD 13th Aug 1988 - VB - 10lb 9oz DD 28th Apr 2005 - VB - 9lb 4oz --------- Emily-Rose updated 26/1 http://photobucket.com/albums/v356/k...slideshow=true |
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"Ericka Kammerer" wrote in message ...
Hmmm...she might be ready for that schedule, but at that age my kids weren't. At that age, they were still doing both morning and afternoon naps, and the schedule was something like: 7am - wake 9-9:30am - morning nap (about 1.5 hours) 1-1:30pm - afternoon nap (about 2 hours) 7:30pm - bedtime Is it possible that she is overtired and that is what is causing the trouble? Might it help to add in the morning nap? She won't sleep in the morning. She sets her own naps at present and will only sleep if in my arms If she is ready to move to only one nap a day (which mine did around 12-13 months), their schedule was more like: 7am - wake noon - nap (2-3 hours) 7:30pm - bedtime And usually the transition took a while, with them sometimes needing to have the afternoon nap earlier and then being cranky in the evening before bedtime. Sounds like ERH, very cranky when she's tired. A bottle will get her to sleep when this happens but again she'll go to sleep in my arms not in the cot. Actually, come to think of it, your schedule isn't far off from my babies' two nap schedule, just skewed a few hours later on waking and then drifting later and later with the two naps. She may really *need* the two naps, but to accomplish that in a reasonable time frame, you might need to start earlier and leave less time before you put her down for naps. Thanks. Best wishes, Ericka |
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"Clair Pepper" wrote in message ...
Hi there Don't know how much help this will be to you but all of my kids have been fantastic sleepers and have all followed pretty much the same routine. They were sleeping through the night fully by the time they were 4 months old. DD slept through from 6 weeks. Wake 7 am Nap 11am (1 hour) Nap 2pm (1 hour) Betime 7pm I tried to keep my babies/toddlers really active throughout the day and we always went for walks in the fresh air. She's VERY active and in to everything. If I take her for a walk she'll fall asleep then it upsets the rest of her day. Bedtime was kept very calm and quiet, we had a bath, story and then bottle and then off to bed. My DS2 would only sleep if there was music on so I kept a radio in his room that was only on just loud enough to hear. DS1 liked to have a clock ticking near to his cot so thats what he had and DD had one of those light show thingys. She was always asleep before it finished playing though! Every child is different and you just have to be consistent. We've tried the nighttime musical light but she just loves it. She wants to play with it. She'll only sleep in the cot if I hold my hand on her. If I move my hand she wakes up. Obviously it is not possible to put your child to bed at exactly the same time everyday but just try and keep to a similar routine each day.I know everyone has very different opinions on co-sleeping but I have never done it. My kids were in Cots until they were about 2 when they moved to a bed. DS & DD1 were both like that but DD2 is a little tike !! I can't really offer any advice on the transition as I have never had to do it but a friend of mine used to put an item of her worn clothing in the childs cot when they went to bed and they went straight to sleep. Thanks Clair, we tried the clothing in the cot thing too.......no joy. HTH Clair |
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"Jamie Clark" wrote in message ...
I think, first of all, that you are going to have to start getting her up at 7-7:30am, which should make her tired by 9-10-11am. Let her sleep for an hour, then get her back up. Once awake she is awake for at least 4 hours. Then try to schedule active things in the afternoon. If she's not walking yet, at least make her crawl a lot to get her favorite toy, or you, etc. We do 3 mornings a week at mother and toddler groups and even they aren't wearing her out !! Then put her down for another nap around 3pm, and again, only let her sleep for an hour. Will try only letting her sleep for an hour (just looking at her now, hyper at 11.25pm.......long night ahead me thinks!!) Then, she should be okay to put to bed around 8ish (just past her regular late night nap). The first few days/week will be the worst, but if you stick through it, you can make it happen. If she wakes up in the night (thinking that the 8pm sleep is a nap), you can try to breastfeed/bottle feed her and then put her straight back down. Just keep talking to her and telling her that it's night night time. Will try this again, she usually just screams till you pick her up. When she currently wakes during the night in her cot, does she fall back asleep without you assistance/input, or do you need to feed her or rock her or something? In the beginning, I'd just worry about getting her days on a more normal schedule, and after she seems acclimated to that, then I'd work on the nights. She has to be held in my arms or I put my hand on her and hold her quite firmly in the cot till she nods off again.Usually 5 minutes or so. Addie was a really good napper, but consistently woke 2-3 times a night until well past a year. Well, she'd have a period where she would sleep through the night for a few weeks in a row, but then something would cause her to wake again. Ditto. ERH slept through the night from 11 weeks till about 6 months, then the pattern we have now started. Occassionally she will sleep through without waking but it's so infrequent now Finally, when she was 14 months old, I made her cry it out one night. And, one night was all it took. I checked on her every 15-20 minutes. 2 hours of my life, and she's been sleeping through the night ever since. I wish I'd done it earlier! I know this is going to be the way to go in the end but the thought of leaving her to scream just kills me. I hate to hear her cry and leaving her there makes it worse. But I guess it all else fails I'll have to try it again. Thanks Jamie -- Jamie Earth Angels: Taylor Marlys, 1/3/03 Addison Grace, 9/30/04 |
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"kazh" wrote in message
... "Jamie Clark" wrote in message ... Finally, when she was 14 months old, I made her cry it out one night. And, one night was all it took. I checked on her every 15-20 minutes. 2 hours of my life, and she's been sleeping through the night ever since. I wish I'd done it earlier! I know this is going to be the way to go in the end but the thought of leaving her to scream just kills me. I hate to hear her cry and leaving her there makes it worse. But I guess it all else fails I'll have to try it again. Thanks Jamie -------------------------------------- You know, my guess is that she depends on you to fall asleep because she can. She'll be ****ed, and really really mad, but if you can get through the hard part of crying it out, you will succeed in teaching her to fall asleep without your physical presense. It should make nights and naps much easier. If you really can't stand to hear her cry, see if dh can do it for you, and you go spend the weekend at your parents or a friend's house. Or, if dh isn't any stronger than you, see if your parents/in-laws, or friends want to take this on for you. Hugs. There is also the slow wean method, where instead of touching her to put her back to sleep, you stand where she can see you and just talk to her in a soothing voice until she goes to sleep. Then, start slowly moving farther and farther away, each night. After a week, you may be able to be out of the room, or at least at the door. Personally speaking, I'd rather do one really hard night, then drag it out for a week or longer. But that's just me. Good luck, with whatever you end up doing. -- Jamie Earth Angels: Taylor Marlys, 1/3/03 Addison Grace, 9/30/04 Check out the family! -- www.MyFamily.com, User ID: Clarkguest1, Password: Guest Become a member for free - go to Add Member to set up your own User ID and Password |
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"Jamie Clark" wrote in message ...
You know, my guess is that she depends on you to fall asleep because she can. She'll be ****ed, and really really mad, but if you can get through the hard part of crying it out, you will succeed in teaching her to fall asleep without your physical presense. It should make nights and naps much easier. If you really can't stand to hear her cry, see if dh can do it for you, and you go spend the weekend at your parents or a friend's house. Or, if dh isn't any stronger than you, see if your parents/in-laws, or friends want to take this on for you. Hugs. There is also the slow wean method, where instead of touching her to put her back to sleep, you stand where she can see you and just talk to her in a soothing voice until she goes to sleep. Then, start slowly moving farther and farther away, each night. After a week, you may be able to be out of the room, or at least at the door. Personally speaking, I'd rather do one really hard night, then drag it out for a week or longer. But that's just me. Good luck, with whatever you end up doing. -- Jamie Earth Angels: Taylor Marlys, 1/3/03 Addison Grace, 9/30/04 ------------------------------------- I was tired at 12 last night and she was yawning but fighting sleep as usual. I took her to bed, put her in the cot, turned on her musical nightlight said goodnight it's bedtime and got into my bed. She moaned a bit and kept getting up in the cot. After 20 minutes she was screaming but tired. I lay her down, put my hand firmly on her and she went to sleep after 5 minutes. I was still up 3 times in the the night , with my hand on her to calm her, but she slept in the cot all night. She woke at 8am today and we are going to try the new routine today. Will let you know how we get on. Thanks for the advice. DH is no stronger than me for hearing her cry but if we are going to get any routine set we are going to have to be stronger. |
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"kazh" wrote in message ... I'm trying to set a bedtime routine for Emily-Rose. I'm not too sure if she is too young to be set this but I need my bed back !! At present her daily sleep / awake routine is like this - 8-9am - Awake 2pm ish - 30 min nap 7pm ish- Nap - usually 1-2hr then awake till 1am !! I then get tired and take her to bed with me..............yes in my bed as I am too tired to argue. ERH is now 9 1/2mth and some nights will sleep in her cot but only if she falls asleep on my knee after 8 or 9pm then I transfer her to the cot. She wakes 2-3 times during the night if left in the cot and tosses and turns if in my bed but does sleep, but I don't get much. I want to try to do a routine like this - 8-9am - Awake 2pm ish - 2hr nap 7pm - bath & quiet time (stories / calm time, no toys) 8pm ish- Bedtime whilst awake Any advice on whether she is too young to do this with or tips on how to get her to sleep in the cot WITHOUT her screaming for an hour..........which currently happens, appreciated. I don't think her screaming for an hour is terrible, if that is the way you decide to go. I can think of a few children who screamed for 4+ hours for the first few times. Have you tried putting her down for several days? If you haven't you may find that the first time it's an hour, but gradually gets less until it's not more than 5 minutes. The only time we did it with #1 it was 55 minutes the first night, 5 minutes the second, and the third she whimpered a couple of times and went back to sleep. The route I think I'd go would be starting by trying to keep her awake (even if miserable) until 8-9pm. Might be naughty and give her calpol (unless it makes her hyper) to help her sleep for the first couple of nights. Then do the night routine. If she does wake, then I'd give 10 minutes of feed on either side (or whatever you do) in the dark, then put her back and close the door. Not sure how you turn a 30 min nap into 2 hour, but #1 did this spontaneously at 10 months, so it may be easy! |
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