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"Sue" wrote in message ...
Nikki wrote in message I'm not a huge fan of reward systems but it might wotk this time. There really is no huge negative here. She gets the object, she gets her sibling upset (which IIRC from when I was a kid is not a bad thing at all ;-) and she causes a ruckus, which isn't so bad either! If she can stay out of her sisters room for xxx amount of time she earns a special reward (activity or item depending on kid). If Kara does better at staying out is Allison old enough to bite the bullet and invite Kara in for a special play session in her room every once in a while. Really dote on her little sister. They could trade and then you could help Kara set up a special play session in her room that she would invite Allison to. That might help her get a grasp on ownership. I hope you get some more experienced answers! Hi Nikki, You know I have been putting some thought into a reward system for this and I did try it yesterday and as someone mentioned, Allison said that isn't fair. Why should she get something for staying out of my room. So then I replied, well then you get a reward if you don't hit her when she does come in your room. So I am not sure if that strategy is going to work. I may need to refine this somehow, lol. I did try yesterday and told Kara that if she stayed out of Allison's room until dinner time that she would get a bubble gum. She didn't make it. It was only about an hour later and we discovered that Kara went into Allison's room and took out her stuff. So one day doesn't make it I know. And I did have a talk with Allison yesterday about trying to let Kara come in every once in a while and playing with her. Allison's things are interesting to Kara so I can understand that they are new to her, but shouldn't Kara have some restraint as well? I think you are being a little backward on this one. This is being far more than an issue than it ought to be. If it is Allison's stuff that is being pawed and damaged, you owe it to Allison to either help her defend it or get the heck out of the way. By setting the time limit of how long to stay out of the stuff, you are basically allowing the behavior to continue. Kara - you do not go into Allison's room ever. You do not take an item. Not once. If you cannot manage this, I will get a lock for her door. Period. Wishy washy game playing ended. Allison's stuff protected. Stephanie |
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