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On Tue, 25 Oct 2005 22:55:41 -0700, "Jamie Clark"
wrote: Why not get hubby snipped instead? Out patient procedure, faster healing time, less time off work and out of commission. Just a thought. I have to agree. If not for having a c-section this last time so I went ahead with a tubal, I was insistent that hubby get snipped. It made no sense to have me go through surgery that would require general anesthesia and possibly an overnight hospital stay when a vasectomy would be far easier on him. Nan |
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The decision that 2 people as a couple don't want more children is
quite different to would I as an individual in a different world want more children. Well the OP is looking into a tubal ligation, that should tell you that she is looking for a more permanent measure for birth control. obviously, but as it is the women who is posting, she/they have presumable come to the decision that they as a couple do not want more children and that she personally doesn't, but says nothing about her husband, for whose sake I've thrown in the opposing argument, I'd hate for her to say to him, hey someone said why don't you get snipped, him go ahead and them some disaster happen. Anne |
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"Anne Rogers" wrote in message
obviously, but as it is the women who is posting, she/they have presumable come to the decision that they as a couple do not want more children and that she personally doesn't, but says nothing about her husband, for whose sake I've thrown in the opposing argument, I'd hate for her to say to him, hey someone said why don't you get snipped, him go ahead and them some disaster happen. They are adults and capable of making a decision on their own. They know how they are feeling more than we do. I did not get from her post that she wasn't done having children. How did you arrive at that? Here is what she wrote: "So now for the reason I am posting.....DH and I have decided that our family is now complete and I am considering a tubal ligation for some time in the new year." Anyway Anne, you obviously are not done having children and that is fine. This does not mean that everyone is where you are at. The OP and her husband have decided to do something permanent. A tubal ligation is more invasive for the woman than it is for the man. And I also pointed out that her insurance, like mine, would not cover a tubal. She may have to look at other options. The OP is concerned about recovery time and for a tubal, recovery may take longer than she wants. That is why some of us suggested that her husband get a vasectomy. Recovery time for the husband is hours and not days like a tubal would be. If the husband is not comfortable with it, I am sure there will be some discussion on their part. Only they know how they feel about this. And for the record, I never asked my husband to be snipped. He arrived at that decision himself. I looked into a tubal, but it required general anesthesia, recovery time that would be not compatible with caring for a newborn and two toddlers (my family) and then the clincher was our insurance didn't cover a tubal. I am done having children and my husband is done no matter what. I would not want to replace the children I have if something happens and both of us are very comfortable with the fact that there will be no more babies. We are older and there is no way I would want to go down the baby road again. If for some reason, I get so baby hooked, I think adoption would be the route I took, rather than have another baby at my age. However, I am ready to move on to my next phase in life. Perhaps the OP is in the same boat, but for you to keep pushing other methods then that is not helpful if the OP is not looking to go down that road. -- Sue (mom to three girls) |
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They are adults and capable of making a decision on their own. They know
how they are feeling more than we do. I did not get from her post that she wasn't done having children. How did you arrive at that? Here is what she wrote: "So now for the reason I am posting.....DH and I have decided that our family is now complete and I am considering a tubal ligation for some time in the new year." I got _she_ was done having children, it was _her_ who was considering tubal litigation, you and Jamie both suggested vasectomy, but _he_ hadn't posted, I couldn't sit there and let someone think this was a wonderful solution, so I threw in the opposing side of the argument. Anyway Anne, you obviously are not done having children and that is fine. This does not mean that everyone is where you are at. The OP and her husband have decided to do something permanent. A tubal ligation is more invasive for the woman than it is for the man. And I also pointed out that her insurance, like mine, would not cover a tubal. She may have to look at other options. The OP is concerned about recovery time and for a tubal, recovery may take longer than she wants. That is why some of us suggested that her husband get a vasectomy. Recovery time for the husband is hours and not days like a tubal would be. If the husband is not comfortable with it, I am sure there will be some discussion on their part. Only they know how they feel about this. And for the record, I never asked my husband to be snipped. He arrived at that decision himself. I looked into a tubal, but it required general anesthesia, recovery time that would be not compatible with caring for a newborn and two toddlers (my family) and then the clincher was our insurance didn't cover a tubal. I am done having children and my husband is done no matter what. I would not want to replace the children I have if something happens and both of us are very comfortable with the fact that there will be no more babies. We are older and there is no way I would want to go down the baby road again. If for some reason, I get so baby hooked, I think adoption would be the route I took, rather than have another baby at my age. However, I am ready to move on to my next phase in life. Perhaps the OP is in the same boat, but for you to keep pushing other methods then that is not helpful if the OP is not looking to go down that road. re read what you have said, you are the one that is suggesting an alternative to what the other poster had asked for information about, I've not pushed other methods at all, other than a brief suggestion that a coil may be an option if she feels that the time is not right for a tubal just now. I see no way in which I've been unhelpful, I offered an alternative view just as you did, you followed up my view as you seem not to have understood it and still seem not to have understood it. A coil for 5 years, followed by a tubal, would have the same effect the OP is asking about, without the recovery and op she seems concerned about at this time, it delays it until it might be a better time for her family. A vasectomy whilst having the same results for the couple does not have the same results for each individual. For you and your family, you are obviously both happy that neither of you want more children, regardless of what happens in future, you offered vasectomy as the perfect solution, which it may not be, I offered a different solution to the problem as I understood it, which is also not perfect. Anne |
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On 27 Oct 2005 17:18:05 GMT, "Anne Rogers"
wrote: They are adults and capable of making a decision on their own. They know how they are feeling more than we do. I did not get from her post that she wasn't done having children. How did you arrive at that? Here is what she wrote: "So now for the reason I am posting.....DH and I have decided that our family is now complete and I am considering a tubal ligation for some time in the new year." I got _she_ was done having children, it was _her_ who was considering tubal litigation, you and Jamie both suggested vasectomy, but _he_ hadn't posted, I couldn't sit there and let someone think this was a wonderful solution, so I threw in the opposing side of the argument. The OP stated, "DH and I have decided that our family is now complete..." Suggesting the possibility of a vasectomy is a perfectly reasonable response. Nan |
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"Anne Rogers" wrote in message ... obviously, but as it is the women who is posting, she/they have presumable come to the decision that they as a couple do not want more children and that she personally doesn't, but says nothing about her husband, for whose sake I've thrown in the opposing argument, I'd hate for her to say to him, hey someone said why don't you get snipped, him go ahead and them some disaster happen. I should think that in the majority of couples permenant sterilization is a mutual decision where you *both* have decided that you are done having children, irregardless of the future. If dh is done having children with me, why shouldn't I think that he wouldn't be done if I passed on and he found someone else. JMO, but I have to live for the "now", not for the very remote "what could be". JennP. |
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I have never had this done but I know a few women who did have it done. The
last person I know who did it also said she was out of commission for almost a week. She had to have help to care for her kids. Raquel "Fer" wrote in message news:9gC7f.40750$y_1.16336@edtnps89... Wow, it's been ages since I have posted here (still lurk religiously tho but it I knew it was the place to come for the answers I need! Quick update: My YS is quite the rambunctious toddler. Still nursing strong @ just about 17 months. My longest nursling by far OS is growing like a weed. I never realized that having a child going through puberty is like watching a human science experiment! DD is being home schooled this year and loving it. As for myself and DH it been a busy year and a half , new business, new baby, new schooling. I truly thought I had child rearing down pat until YS came along. He honestly made me feel like a brand new mom, much more demanding than my other two. I've had less sleep in the past 17 months than the past 13 years I'm sure but I am very very happy So now for the reason I am posting.....DH and I have decided that our family is now complete and I am considering a tubal ligation for some time in the new year. I am curious about your experiences to do with recovery time, pain, effectiveness and so forth. YS is SUCH a momma's boy and I don't see him slowing down any time soon so my concerns really stem for being able to heal properly while dealing with him 24/7. Thanks a ton!!! Jenn DS1 (Feb 92) DD (Feb 97) DS2 ( June 04) |
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"Raquel Kalbfus" wrote in message . .. I have never had this done but I know a few women who did have it done. The last person I know who did it also said she was out of commission for almost a week. She had to have help to care for her kids. I am personally a fan of men being tied, as women did all the birthing work it seems only fair. |
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I think I'm also leaning towards this way of thinking. Women go through
alot. There are alot of people in our area whose husbands took this route themselves and they all seem pretty happy with their choice. We are now thinking what we will do when the time comes. "Child" wrote in message ... "Raquel Kalbfus" wrote in message . .. I have never had this done but I know a few women who did have it done. The last person I know who did it also said she was out of commission for almost a week. She had to have help to care for her kids. I am personally a fan of men being tied, as women did all the birthing work it seems only fair. |
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The OP stated, "DH and I have decided that our family is now
complete..." Suggesting the possibility of a vasectomy is a perfectly reasonable response. I don't deny that, what I'm confused about is why my response is not reasonable. But you don't seem to have picked up what I was saying either, deciding that _our_ family is now complete is quite different to saying that in a hypothetical situation that each indivdual may not have more children. Say you and your children were to die in a car smash tomorrow, I've no idea how old your DH is, but the chances are is he is plenty young enough to want to have a new family if he meets the right woman. I know Larry has two families, I don't know the history, but without being able to see into the future you don't know what is going to happen, I don't consider sterilisation the answer to "My DH and I have decided our family is complete", instead it is the answer to the question "My DH and I have decided our family is complete and having thought about it, both of us are completely convinced that whatever the situation and whatever might happen in future that neither of us wishes to have a child with a different partner." Anne |
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