If this is your first visit, be sure to check out the FAQ by clicking the link above. You may have to register before you can post: click the register link above to proceed. To start viewing messages, select the forum that you want to visit from the selection below. |
|
|
|
Thread Tools | Display Modes |
#11
|
|||
|
|||
What's AP?
iphigenia was all, like:
Zucca4 wrote: I ran into it a few times today and contextually can't figure it out? Alternative parenting??? Attachment parenting: see http://www.attachmentparenting.org/ This site always upsets me, because it's so anti-working-parent. It's like, I don't have the luxury of being AP, because I'm separated from my child every day. It's a parenting style that promotes developing and maintaining a close bond with your child; AP parents tend to babywear, cosleep, breastfeed for more than a year, abhor "cry-it-out" methods, and avoid long separations. I do pretty much all that stuff (intend to BF until Sprogly wants to wean) except for the frequent separation thing. Bloke, OTOH, thinks I'm spoiling Sprogly because I'll pick him up when he fusses (as opposed to waiting until he's sobbing). -- z e l d a b e e @ p a n i x . c o m http://NewsReader.Com/ |
#12
|
|||
|
|||
What's AP?
zeldabee wrote:
This site always upsets me, because it's so anti-working-parent. It's like, I don't have the luxury of being AP, because I'm separated from my child every day. On the other hand, it's nice for those of us who *aren't* working parents to get some affirmation, because so often we get treated like we've put our brains on the shelf and left the world of "people who are contributing to society." There's always someone willing to try make you feel guilty over just about anything : ) -- tristyn, dirt poor and living off the goverment to be able to stay home with my boy www.tristyn.net "i have heard the mermaids singing, each to each. i do not think that they will sing to me." |
#13
|
|||
|
|||
What's AP?
"iphigenia" wrote in message ... zeldabee wrote: This site always upsets me, because it's so anti-working-parent. It's like, I don't have the luxury of being AP, because I'm separated from my child every day. On the other hand, it's nice for those of us who *aren't* working parents to get some affirmation, because so often we get treated like we've put our brains on the shelf and left the world of "people who are contributing to society." There's always someone willing to try make you feel guilty over just about anything : ) -- tristyn, dirt poor and living off the goverment to be able to stay home with my boy Here here. I love being at home with my kids, I have one boy with Aspergers syndrome, and another with Apraxia, and the family think it's disgraceful that we claim disability living allowance for them. We wouldn't get it for them if they didn't meet the criteria. We aint rich but we are damn happy. Andrea mom of 5 - poor but happy! |
#14
|
|||
|
|||
What's AP?
iphigenia was all, like:
zeldabee wrote: This site always upsets me, because it's so anti-working-parent. It's like, I don't have the luxury of being AP, because I'm separated from my child every day. On the other hand, it's nice for those of us who *aren't* working parents to get some affirmation, because so often we get treated like we've put our brains on the shelf and left the world of "people who are contributing to society." And I, OTOH, would happily "put my brain on the shelf" for at least the first year or so, if I only had the option. ) Anyway, I don't see that people raising kids aren't contributing to society...if kids aren't society, who is? I've just often come across the idea (in AP-type literature) that one cannot be "AP" if one of the parents doesn't stay home with the child(ren). There's always someone willing to try make you feel guilty over just about anything : ) I feel guilty enough every time I leave my kid at daycare, even though it's just about the best possible daycare situation for him. (Daycare Lady genuinely loves him, and I dread that something might happen so that I couldn't take him there anymore.) -- tristyn, dirt poor and living off the goverment to be able to stay home with my boy I'd do the same if it were at all possible. -- z e l d a b e e @ p a n i x . c o m http://NewsReader.Com/ |
#15
|
|||
|
|||
What's AP?
zeldabee wrote:
Anyway, I don't see that people raising kids aren't contributing to society...if kids aren't society, who is? : ) I agree entirely, but it seems a lot of people don't! (Daycare Lady genuinely loves him, and I dread that something might happen so that I couldn't take him there anymore.) That's great, and I really wish my daycare experiences growing up had been like that. I know a lady (well, not really, she's on a list I'm no longer on, but when I *was* on it, she was talking about this) who was agonizing over leaving her child in daycare with a grandmotherly woman who took care of a few kids, read them stories and sang songs, made them healthy foods from scratch, etc. Frankly, I think that sounds wonderful! My daycare experiences were all really awful, but if I'd had someone like that, I think it would have made a big difference for the positive in my life. I'd do the same if it were at all possible. They're a little freer with the money (without insisting that you be looking for a job) when your spouse dies. It's not a route I'd recommend though : ) -- tristyn www.tristyn.net "i have heard the mermaids singing, each to each. i do not think that they will sing to me." |
#16
|
|||
|
|||
What's AP?
"iphigenia" wrote:
zeldabee wrote: Anyway, I don't see that people raising kids aren't contributing to society...if kids aren't society, who is? : ) I agree entirely, but it seems a lot of people don't! These are most likely the same people who frown at you when your baby cries on the train. (Daycare Lady genuinely loves him, and I dread that something might happen so that I couldn't take him there anymore.) That's great, and I really wish my daycare experiences growing up had been like that. I know a lady (well, not really, she's on a list I'm no longer on, but when I *was* on it, she was talking about this) who was agonizing over leaving her child in daycare with a grandmotherly woman who took care of a few kids, read them stories and sang songs, made them healthy foods from scratch, etc. Frankly, I think that sounds wonderful! My daycare experiences were all really awful, but if I'd had someone like that, I think it would have made a big difference for the positive in my life. Siblings and I had a few nannies (after our parents were divorced) who were just plain scary. One took the leather strap off our rocking horse to beat us with. (Then again, our father spanked us with 2x4s, so there you go.) One of Daycare Lady's other kids was left at her house overnight. Daycare Lady had called the cops...Turns out the mother thought her sister had picked up the boy. She hadn't seemed very concerned. ( I'd do the same if it were at all possible. They're a little freer with the money (without insisting that you be looking for a job) when your spouse dies. It's not a route I'd recommend though : ) No indeed. Still, I'd imagine it would be hard to live in NYC without some other source of income as well, unless maybe you'd lucked out with a rent-controlled apartment or were living with family or something. -- z e l d a b e e @ p a n i x . c o m http://NewsReader.Com/ |
|
Thread Tools | |
Display Modes | |
|
|