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Thanks for all your input!! I'm going to look more seriously into preschools now... I hadn't really considered the factor of getting to spend one-on-one time with the baby, and since Micah *loves* daycare, I think that providing him with more social outputs is a good thing. I'd really been balking at the cost (if we ever want to be able to buy a house here, we have to save some serious cash), but I'll look into the community options some of you suggested. Em mama to Micah, 11/14/04 |
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Mother's Day Out Programs through churches are often very affordable and are only two or three days a week. Our boys attended and they enjoyed it very much. The programs usually have a specific curriculum. Our 4 year old learned alphabet, etc. They also develop valuable social skill and you get a few free hours to do errands, etc. Moya On Jan 2, 9:04 pm, wrote: I've been avoiding thinking about this, but Micah will be old enough for preschool in September. Any thoughts on their merits?? They are pretty expensive where we are (the heart of Silicon Valley... where we pay a high school girl $10/hour for babysitting!) and I seem to recall reading that preschool doesn't actually do much in terms of academic preparation -- and I'm not really that concerned with him *getting* academic prep at that age, anyway. It seems like a play-based curriculum would be fun for him and give me a break, esp. with #2 coming in April, but I'm not sure that's enough to justify the expense. On the other hand, our daycare provider is getting preschool certified (whatever that means) and we coud just put him in there -- but while I'm really happy with the daycare (1 day/week), it's a home-based one and I remember having a huge preschool with *much* more space/activity possibilities/etc. when I was a kid. Anyways, this is rambly -- but I'd like to get feedback on what people think of the merits of preschool. I don't want to be sucked into the Silicon Valley mentality of putting your kid in every possible activity and scouting out Educational Opportunities for toddlers in the hopes of getting them into Stanford. But if there's something more to it than that, I'd like to hear about it. Thanks!! Em mama to Micah, 11/14/04 |
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Em, I have been investigating the preschool issue too. I do not buy at all in to the idea that a "head start" is an advantage. If your child is slow and needs the extra time to learn something, *and if* your child is ready to learn that something earlier rather than later, then early enrollment in an "academic preschool" may make sense. That is the essence of the Head Start program, which as I understand it benefits otherwise normal children whose home environments are educationally deficient. For a normal child, from a functional home, getting a head start in preschool in my opinion merely sets the child up to be bored in elementary school. Which may create behavioral problems, among other issues. I would consider only a play-centered preschool for my 2yo, Monkey Boy. We visited preschools a year ago, when Monkey Boy was a few months shy of turning 2. (Some preschools have waiting lists.) Well, the schools we visited were uniformly prepared to enroll him that very same week, even though their policies say they enroll children from age 3. Huh? They thought he was ready, socially and verbally. I was shocked, because at that point he had been talking for only 2 months. And he is so small for his age. I decided to play it safe and keep him at home. Now he is a few months shy of turning 3 and...he knows all his colors, shapes, letters, numbers, can count (not just recite) to 10, almost has grasped the concept of double-digit numbers, has mastered the computer keyboard and mouse (he can click and drag, mouse over, the works!), and he is on the verge of independent reading and writing by typing. He can type his own userid and password to login on the computer. Writing by hand is a little farther off, as it requires finer motor control than he has yet. And he is still small for his age, and very gentle and sensitive and high-energy. Now what do I do? He is going to need a very flexible and attentive school environment. If I cannot find one (and our choices are few, due to where we live now), I may have to home school. Oh no. All that he has learned so far has been led by him. We merely answer his questions and show him how to do what he sees us doing and demands to do for himself. Mostly I do that, because I am at home with him. I need a break. BTW, I got into Stanford but I chose not to go there. The mentality you mention was not for me. |
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Pologirl wrote:
I would consider only a play-centered preschool for my 2yo, Monkey Boy. We visited preschools a year ago, when Monkey Boy was a few months shy of turning 2. (Some preschools have waiting lists.) Well, the schools we visited were uniformly prepared to enroll him that very same week, even though their policies say they enroll children from age 3. Huh? That's rather shocking to me. For one thing, it's very likely a regulatory issue (there are different rules for under 2.5yos, and it is unlikely that a school that claims not to enroll kids until 3yo would meet the regulatory requirements for enrolling an under 2yo). Bad, bad, bad. They thought he was ready, socially and verbally. I was shocked, because at that point he had been talking for only 2 months. And he is so small for his age. I decided to play it safe and keep him at home. Now he is a few months shy of turning 3 and...he knows all his colors, shapes, letters, numbers, can count (not just recite) to 10, almost has grasped the concept of double-digit numbers, has mastered the computer keyboard and mouse (he can click and drag, mouse over, the works!), and he is on the verge of independent reading and writing by typing. He can type his own userid and password to login on the computer. Writing by hand is a little farther off, as it requires finer motor control than he has yet. And he is still small for his age, and very gentle and sensitive and high-energy. Now what do I do? He is going to need a very flexible and attentive school environment. I'm not sure why anything you describe means that he needs an unusual school environment? It sounds to me like nearly any high quality early childhood environment should be great for him. (Note that I would not consider most obviously academic preschools to be high quality early childhood environments.) Best wishes, Ericka |
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Ericka Kammerer wrote: That's rather shocking to me. For one thing, it's very likely a regulatory issue (there are different rules for under 2.5yos, and it is unlikely that a school that claims not to enroll kids until 3yo would meet the regulatory requirements for enrolling an under 2yo). Bad, bad, bad. Yup. Maybe the people I spoke to were overstepping their authority? I don't know, since we did not enroll him. I'm not sure why anything you describe means that he needs an unusual school environment? I didn't say unusual. Unfortunately, where we live now, preschools that I would consider high quality are not usual. The offerings tend to be either all recess-quality run-and-shout play, or a lot of work. Worksheets, computer drills, homework. Some of the parents I know are thrilled by the worksheets. There is one school that looks good to me, but it is expensive. (Probably too expensive for me; I still am not comfortable about being a SAHM, yet I cannot bring myself to put the baby in daycare.) Locally, I gather there is a large contingent of homeschooling families, who are opting out of all the local preschools and primary schools too, but I'm not clued into the homeschool circles yet. I need to start researching our options here. |
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Pologirl wrote:
Ericka Kammerer wrote: That's rather shocking to me. For one thing, it's very likely a regulatory issue (there are different rules for under 2.5yos, and it is unlikely that a school that claims not to enroll kids until 3yo would meet the regulatory requirements for enrolling an under 2yo). Bad, bad, bad. Yup. Maybe the people I spoke to were overstepping their authority? I don't know, since we did not enroll him. I'm not sure why anything you describe means that he needs an unusual school environment? I didn't say unusual. Unfortunately, where we live now, preschools that I would consider high quality are not usual. The offerings tend to be either all recess-quality run-and-shout play, or a lot of work. Worksheets, computer drills, homework. Oh. I wouldn't consider either of those high quality. Some of the parents I know are thrilled by the worksheets. There is one school that looks good to me, but it is expensive. (Probably too expensive for me; I still am not comfortable about being a SAHM, yet I cannot bring myself to put the baby in daycare.) Locally, I gather there is a large contingent of homeschooling families, who are opting out of all the local preschools and primary schools too, but I'm not clued into the homeschool circles yet. I need to start researching our options here. It's a tough call. Personally, I think there's no substitute for going and seeing for yourself. I find that around here, word of mouth is often very unreliable, because a lot of people have different views about what constitutes a "good school" (even though I wouldn't say my views are unusual--they're mostly in line with what years of research have suggested). There's a lot of folks who believe in aggressive academics with a lot of homework, and think that if your kid is doing calculus in third grade, that's a good thing. Parents brag about the homework load all the time (I think it's counter-productive to have lots of homework, especially the type that is often assigned). There's also a lot of discrimination. I hear people touting diversity all the time; meanwhile, they're hastily moving their kids to schools with little or no diversity so their kids won't hang out with the "wrong kind of people" without every actually looking at the school itself. So, you just go and check things out and make whatever decision you think of as best for your family. The only caveat I'd give is that since we all want the very best for our kids, sometimes we take that to extremes and start thinking anything less than perfection is unacceptable for them. The end result is that we treat kids as fragile little beings whom the world must accommodate in every detail. I think kids are strong and resilient and learn to cope admirably with life, even when it's less than perfect. So for myself, I *do* want an education that gives them what they need to be successful, and will go to the mat to advocate for that, but I am willing to tolerate less than perfection (which is a good thing, because otherwise I'd be frustrated 99 percent of the time because the world ain't perfect! ;-) ). As an example, it would be unacceptable to me if there were no way for my gifted kids to receive differentiated instruction so that they were not bored to tears in class. On the other hand, I am not bothered that each day's work isn't perfectly tailored to their abilities and interests. We can all learn to cope with being bored or overwhelmed on occasion. I want them to have good teachers, but am not bothered if every teacher doesn't have the perfect combination of intelligence, charisma and showmanship. I live with more homework than I think is ideal or warranted, but I respect that it's not as bad as some other places and that they're working to make it better. We all have to learn to thrive in sub-optimal environments. The situations to avoid are not necessarily the ones that may not be perfectly tailored to your child, but the ones where your child *can't* achieve his potential or develops maladaptive habits to survive in the system. Personally, I'd look closely at the all-play schools to see if they're *really* just run-screaming- around-the-playground schools, or if maybe there *is* a developmentally appropriate plan in there somewhere. If there isn't, then I would argue it's a place where your child won't have the option to achieve his potential. I think the preschools that are all about worksheets and homework encourage the development of maladaptive habits. Are there any NAEYC accredited schools in your area? (You can search on the NAEYC website.) The standards have recently been revised, and as a result of that (and other things) they've been behind in their auditing process, so it's not a perfect indicator of a high quality preschool right at this moment. However, a school that truly meets the current NAEYC criteria is likely to be a good quality school that doesn't represent either extreme that you've seen. So, looking them up might be at least a starting point for you to uncover some new options. Also, for schools that look too expensive, do check on the availability of scholarships. Sometimes you'll be surprised by who is eligible. You might also find good luck with cooperative preschools. Some are very well run, and they're usually significantly cheaper (in terms of money, though not time!). Best wishes, Ericka |
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I would consider only a play-centered preschool for my 2yo, Monkey Boy.
We visited preschools a year ago, when Monkey Boy was a few months shy of turning 2. (Some preschools have waiting lists.) Well, the schools we visited were uniformly prepared to enroll him that very same week, even though their policies say they enroll children from age 3. Huh? That's rather shocking to me. For one thing, it's very likely a regulatory issue (there are different rules for under 2.5yos, and it is unlikely that a school that claims not to enroll kids until 3yo would meet the regulatory requirements for enrolling an under 2yo). Bad, bad, bad. depends on the exact rule that is being bent, but it would seem that a not yet 2yr old in a 3+ preschool would be more than bending rules. My DS is in a preschool class that is not the correct age for him, this state seems to run the school year from 1st Sept so the various 3-4 classes accept children born after 1st Sept 2002, but they have multiple cut off dates, with not all the classes having 31st Aug 2003, some classes are reserved for the older half of the year, including the one my DS is in I think he misses the cut off by 2mths, but that really is just a bending of a guideline as all the regulatory requirements just mean they have to have turned 3. I think that his class also has some of the younger ones from the year above. For the following year they have 4-5 class and pre-K class, I'm yet to understand the exact differences, but it seems there is some ability to choose the correct program for your child, they have some children who are K age in the pre-K class as well (they also have K class). With this age child, you can't vary what they "take" so much like you do later, so it seems to make sense to be able to get your kid in the right class for them, which doesn't always directly tally with age. Anne |
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Anne Rogers wrote:
I would consider only a play-centered preschool for my 2yo, Monkey Boy. We visited preschools a year ago, when Monkey Boy was a few months shy of turning 2. (Some preschools have waiting lists.) Well, the schools we visited were uniformly prepared to enroll him that very same week, even though their policies say they enroll children from age 3. Huh? That's rather shocking to me. For one thing, it's very likely a regulatory issue (there are different rules for under 2.5yos, and it is unlikely that a school that claims not to enroll kids until 3yo would meet the regulatory requirements for enrolling an under 2yo). Bad, bad, bad. depends on the exact rule that is being bent, but it would seem that a not yet 2yr old in a 3+ preschool would be more than bending rules. My DS is in a preschool class that is not the correct age for him, this state seems to run the school year from 1st Sept so the various 3-4 classes accept children born after 1st Sept 2002, but they have multiple cut off dates, with not all the classes having 31st Aug 2003, some classes are reserved for the older half of the year, including the one my DS is in I think he misses the cut off by 2mths, but that really is just a bending of a guideline as all the regulatory requirements just mean they have to have turned 3. For under 2.5yos, there are rules regarding things like needing doors to the outside from the classroom or limiting the number of under 2.5's in the building (so that they can be evacuated properly in case of fire) and so forth. These aren't the sort of things you can make judgment calls about ;-) That's *why* so many schools won't accept under 2.5s (or some make it an even three years old just to make it easy and give a little wiggle room). Best wishes, Ericka |
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For under 2.5yos, there are rules regarding things like
needing doors to the outside from the classroom or limiting the number of under 2.5's in the building (so that they can be evacuated properly in case of fire) and so forth. These aren't the sort of things you can make judgment calls about ;-) That's *why* so many schools won't accept under 2.5s (or some make it an even three years old just to make it easy and give a little wiggle room). exactly! I just wanted to draw attention to the fact that the same wouldn't be true at other age boundaries and some flexibility there could be seen as a mark of a good preschool. Cheers Anne |
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You might consider a work from home option to help with the cost of
preschool. Moya Wilson MOM Team Marketing Executive www.TheSolutionsForYou.com On Jan 4, 5:52 pm, wrote: Thanks for all your input!! I'm going to look more seriously into preschools now... I hadn't really considered the factor of getting to spend one-on-one time with the baby, and since Micah *loves* daycare, I think that providing him with more social outputs is a good thing. I'd really been balking at the cost (if we ever want to be able to buy a house here, we have to save some serious cash), but I'll look into the community options some of you suggested. Em mama to Micah, 11/14/04 |
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