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15mth Adjusting to Daycare
On Thu, 20 Sep 2007 21:41:42 +0100, Penny Gaines wrote:
toypup wrote: On Thu, 20 Sep 2007 08:29:52 +0100, Penny Gaines wrote: toypup wrote: On Wed, 19 Sep 2007 09:30:58 +0100, Penny Gaines wrote: [snip] The thing is a lot of people who are pro the SAHM model are in favour of it because it is what traditional societies do. But in traditional societies, dad is not at the office doing the accounts. Dad is hunting or farming or building mud huts. Right, but they are the providers. Men are the providers in the overwhelming majority of societies. How they provide may differ. I do not know of any where the men are not normally providers. I can't see exactly what an accountant is providing. They are getting paid money (an artificial construct), not actually producing anything (unlike a hunter or a hut builder). An accountant makes money for the family, providing money (and therefore food and clothing) to the family. But the money itself does not provide any benefits for the family: it is not a thing they can directly use. Money provides obvious benefits for most people. It is only valuable because other people outside the family think it is, and exchange it for objects of immediate use. If an accountant couldn't provide by accounting, then s/he'd be doing something else. Accounting is valuable to the accountant because s/he can make moeny doing it and provide for the family. |
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In article , Banty
wrote: *Obviously* that's because right thinking, right minded, superior countries do it that way. Right wing... -- Chookie -- Sydney, Australia (Replace "foulspambegone" with "optushome" to reply) "Parenthood is like the modern stone washing process for denim jeans. You may start out crisp, neat and tough, but you end up pale, limp and wrinkled." Kerry Cue |
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Beliavsky wrote: On Sep 18, 9:43 pm, Chookie wrote: snip In which societies, and you are necessarily proposing that it's a majority of societies, do fathers/men *not* take care of their children? Black American society (maybe sub-culture is a better word), in which the majority of children are born out of wedlock . In the U.S., lower class whites may be heading in the same direction, as described in the book Marriage and Caste in America: Separate and Unequal Families in a Post- Marital Age (Hardcover) by Kay S. Hymowitz Ivan Dee (2006) Some unmarried fathers do take care of their children, but a much smaller proportion of them than married fathers will stick around for two decades. From what I understand, it is the underclass of your society and mine where men avoid care of their children as much as possible. The absence of these relationships is not considered good or right by the rest of the society. Remember,for your argument to work you will have to convince me that a majority of societies have this structure. And it simply isn't true. -- Chookie -- Sydney, Australia (Replace "foulspambegone" with "optushome" to reply) "Parenthood is like the modern stone washing process for denim jeans. You may start out crisp, neat and tough, but you end up pale, limp and wrinkled." Kerry Cue |
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On Sep 20, 8:54 am, Banty wrote:
So what does that have to do with current society? Life is longer, only a little for women is taken up by pregnancy and nursing, relatively few roles of provision require brawn. And whatever median propensity there may be as far as wanting to child-mind, both genders have the big brain, both show ambition, so that's what will be expressed when we don't *have to* take on the old roles. If all the old role-expectations should magically dissappear, and lo and behold still 60% of women are the ones more involved with the kids in any given marriage, that wouldn't really bother me or go against my thinking on this. It's that the other 40% are told that, based on all of this they should be like the other 60%, with large consequences including hobbling their ability to provide themselves in the future, that gets me objecting so strongly. (And that 60% would include a majority who mix roles most probably anyway.) http://www.careerjournal.com/myc/wor...02-dunham.html Wall Street Journal "According to the U.S. Census Bureau's March 2002 Current Population Survey, among two-parent households, there were 189,000 children with stay-at-home dads. Though the figure is small next to the 11 million children with stay-at-home moms, the number of children living with stay-at-home dads has risen 18% since 1994. (The number of children living with stay-at-home moms rose 13% between 1994 to 2000.) Career and family experts say there probably has been a further bump during the economic downturn because some men who have been laid off have stayed home while their wives work." The ratio of SAHM to SAHD in the U.S. is about 60 to 1, and I doubt that in the absence of irrational expectations it would be anywhere close to 60 to 40. American society is not so beknighted IMO. |
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In article . com, Beliavsky
says... On Sep 20, 8:54 am, Banty wrote: So what does that have to do with current society? Life is longer, only a little for women is taken up by pregnancy and nursing, relatively few roles of provision require brawn. And whatever median propensity there may be as far as wanting to child-mind, both genders have the big brain, both show ambition, so that's what will be expressed when we don't *have to* take on the old roles. If all the old role-expectations should magically dissappear, and lo and behold still 60% of women are the ones more involved with the kids in any given marriage, that wouldn't really bother me or go against my thinking on this. It's that the other 40% are told that, based on all of this they should be like the other 60%, with large consequences including hobbling their ability to provide themselves in the future, that gets me objecting so strongly. (And that 60% would include a majority who mix roles most probably anyway.) http://www.careerjournal.com/myc/wor...02-dunham.html Wall Street Journal "According to the U.S. Census Bureau's March 2002 Current Population Survey, among two-parent households, there were 189,000 children with stay-at-home dads. Though the figure is small next to the 11 million children with stay-at-home moms, the number of children living with stay-at-home dads has risen 18% since 1994. (The number of children living with stay-at-home moms rose 13% between 1994 to 2000.) Career and family experts say there probably has been a further bump during the economic downturn because some men who have been laid off have stayed home while their wives work." The ratio of SAHM to SAHD in the U.S. is about 60 to 1, and I doubt that in the absence of irrational expectations it would be anywhere close to 60 to 40. American society is not so beknighted IMO. Well, I'm glad to see that you consider that it would be to be "beknighted" (sic) not to have more flexibility of the roles, but I think you're still missing the point. This SAHD thing is a fairly recent phenomenon, and the changes you're speaking of haven't ended. Have you paid no attention at all to the many ways the traditional expectations are reinforced and reinforced (including by yourself) today as well in the past, and how this affects what roles people take today? Let alone that you advised an *individual*, not some amorphous average, to stay home more because she's a mommy. Banty |
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toypup wrote:
On Thu, 20 Sep 2007 21:41:42 +0100, Penny Gaines wrote: toypup wrote: [snip] An accountant makes money for the family, providing money (and therefore food and clothing) to the family. But the money itself does not provide any benefits for the family: it is not a thing they can directly use. Money provides obvious benefits for most people. [snip] Well, if is paper money, you can burn it to keep warm. Beyond that, money is only valuable because enough people think it is valuble. -- Penny Gaines UK mum to three |
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On Fri, 21 Sep 2007 23:09:17 +0100, Penny Gaines wrote:
toypup wrote: On Thu, 20 Sep 2007 21:41:42 +0100, Penny Gaines wrote: toypup wrote: [snip] An accountant makes money for the family, providing money (and therefore food and clothing) to the family. But the money itself does not provide any benefits for the family: it is not a thing they can directly use. Money provides obvious benefits for most people. [snip] Well, if is paper money, you can burn it to keep warm. Beyond that, money is only valuable because enough people think it is valuble. Right, but that is value in itself, because it can be used. If it had no value at all, we wouldn't work for it. |
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