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Anxious mother, my first child will be going to college out of state
My kid is headed to California for school in the fall, and I am a wreck.
I'm trying my best to be supportive, but I can't get the images of all those crazy earthquakes out of my mind! At the same time, I'm so proud of him, all grown up and moving on to bigger and better things! I am going to miss him. I am wondering what other mothers have done in this situation. I don't want to let him go, and once I do I know I will want to keep in touch with him without him feeling like I'm constantly "checking up on him." UGH. Should I make him write or call me daily? Do I need therapy? MB |
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He's going to be busy at college. Maybe he'll have little time for
anything else. Therapy? No. A therapist can't treat "normal." MaryBeth wrote: My kid is headed to California for school in the fall, and I am a wreck. I'm trying my best to be supportive, but I can't get the images of all those crazy earthquakes out of my mind! At the same time, I'm so proud of him, all grown up and moving on to bigger and better things! I am going to miss him. I am wondering what other mothers have done in this situation. I don't want to let him go, and once I do I know I will want to keep in touch with him without him feeling like I'm constantly "checking up on him." UGH. Should I make him write or call me daily? Do I need therapy? MB |
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Not sure I agree with that Bill. You point me at someone "normal" and
I'll show you someone who has learned to look normal, while being a person having to deal with insecurity, hostility, anger, pain, and all the "normal" human emotions we all have. My kids aren't yet near college age, but I do remember going to college myself. My advice, DONT make him do anything. Mostly cause you can't anymore. He's becoming an adult now. If you force your way into his life, he might learn he can force you out. I didn't rely on my parents for college money, so when they bugged me, I turned them off and ignored them. My advice? Send him letters in the mail and emails. Send him a calling card - they were always useful. Be there for him as he learns how to be an adult. He might need you, but he'll probably try his hardest to not need you. That's part of what being an adult is. P.S. I grew up in the midwest and live in San Francisco now. It's funny to see californians fret about tornado's the way midwesterners fret about earthquakes. Don't worry about earthquakes, they're alot of hype. |
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