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Old February 25th 04, 04:08 AM
Mary S.
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Zucca4 wrote:

boob, he nurses for a bit a returns to sleep. We really love our little
arrnangement.

Of course we try not to listen to other people who tell us he'll be with us
until Kindergarten if we don't break him out of our "dirtly little habit"


People scared me with the "window of opportunity" thing -- there's a
theory that it's easy to transition before 6/7 months, and it's easy at
3+ years when they want to, and it's total hell in between. So if
you're sure that you don't want, say, an 18-month-old in bed with you,
you'd better get the transition at least partly started by 6 months.

Totally didn't happen for us. She coslept exclusively until we bought
her a toddler bed; never slept in anything but our bed at night before
then. We transitioned her very easily at 21 months. She'd crawl into
our bed to nurse at that point. We night-weaned her at almost 23
months, also not traumatic. Your baby may vary, but that was our
experience.

We also love cosleeping. Sproutkin sleeps in her toddler bed about 75%
of the time, and with us the other 25%.

Mary S.
mom to the Sproutkin
and a new wee babysprout, due October 1

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Old February 25th 04, 05:42 AM
nina
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"Zucca4" wrote in message
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Is there a so-called "good time"? Our son turns three months today and we

love
having him between us at night in our smallish Queen size bed. We could

care
less about spit-up and peeps and poops on our sheets. It's made

breastfeeding
so much easier for me and our baby goes to sleep when we do and wakes up

when
we do and there is minimal waking up at night. When he whimpers I give him

the
boob, he nurses for a bit a returns to sleep. We really love our little
arrnangement.

Of course we try not to listen to other people who tell us he'll be with

us
until Kindergarten if we don't break him out of our "dirtly little habit"

,
but we don't care. We love our baby with us. Only problem is I think WE

wake
HIM quite a bit with getting up for the bathroom, tossing and turning,

coughing
etc. I'm wondering if we chose to put him into a crib (in our room) if

there
would be a good time to do it and exactly how to phase our system out. At

three
months are babies typically "re-trainable"? We don't want to upset him too
much.

In short:
When and how did you stop co-sleeping? Also why?


when my kids were 3 and 5
because i got a boyfried (my current husband)
the 10 year old slept with me this summer,hes autistic and had sleep
issues, i booted him a few weeks before the baby came
new baby is 4 months and sleeps with me and in her bassinet
i will get a crib,but plan to keep it in my room
generally,by about 18 months they spend more time in their own rooms
i plan to cosleep exclusively about a year


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Old February 25th 04, 05:46 AM
nina
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"HollyLewis" wrote in message
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In short:
When and how did you stop co-sleeping? Also why?


Our son is 3 years old and we haven't stopped. (Though he's spent *part*

of
probably two-thirds of all the nights of his life in his own bed -- first

a
bassinet, then a crib, and now a twin-size bed -- he's almost always in

with us
by the time we get up in the morning.)

I think the time to stop co-sleeping is when (1) one or more of the people

in
the bed isn't sleeping well or enough, or (2) the child involved prefers

to
sleep elsewhere than his parents' bed.

For families in which all members sleep fine in a shared bed, as far as I

can
tell, the child usually departs more or less on his own sometime between

age 3
and age 6. So, yes, you could certainly be still co-sleeping when your

child
is in kindergarten, though it's relatively unlikely much beyond that. But

if
you don't consider co-sleeping a "bad habit", what's wrong with that?


i remember being about 8
i would get in the bed with my parents and sleep across their feet


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Old February 25th 04, 05:49 AM
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In short:
When and how did you stop co-sleeping? Also why?

Thanks,
Lisa


Both of my girls needed to be moved out of our bed when they started
walking. They were both little enough when they walked (about 12
pounds), that they could get away without waking either of us, and
they both got injured walking off the edge of the bed. (One got
wedged between the bed and the cedar chest at the foot of the bed, one
fell and cut her head on a vent) I don't know if they were
sleepwalking, or trying to get away with something being sneaky, but I
used to sleep with them on my arm, or under my arm, and they managed
to get away, however they did it.

The transition was easy with one, harder with the other (who then had
to be moved from the crib because she was climbing out, and got stuck
hanging by her ankles at about 18 months), but after a few bad nights,
they eased into it. They both moved out of our bed by about 10
months.

I wouldn't worry if you think he's getting enough sleep overall,
everyone wakes up periodically, and if you like it, stick with it for
awhile longer, I'd think. Once he starts moving around, you can
reevaluate ; )

Tina.
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Old February 25th 04, 06:49 AM
iphigenia
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Zucca4 wrote:
Is there a so-called "good time"?


When the child's ready. IMO, if it's a big struggle, the child isn't ready.
Gabe transitioned to his own bed at 2 years, though he still (at 2 1/2)
climbs in with me in the morning.

--
tristyn
www.tristyn.net
"i have heard the mermaids singing, each to each.
i do not think that they will sing to me."


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Old February 25th 04, 04:07 PM
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nina wrote:
"HollyLewis" wrote in message
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In short:
When and how did you stop co-sleeping? Also why?


Our son is 3 years old and we haven't stopped. (Though he's spent
*part* of probably two-thirds of all the nights of his life in his
own bed -- first a bassinet, then a crib, and now a twin-size bed --
he's almost always in with us by the time we get up in the morning.)

I think the time to stop co-sleeping is when (1) one or more of the
people in the bed isn't sleeping well or enough, or (2) the child
involved prefers to sleep elsewhere than his parents' bed.

For families in which all members sleep fine in a shared bed, as far
as I can tell, the child usually departs more or less on his own
sometime between age 3 and age 6. So, yes, you could certainly be
still co-sleeping when your child is in kindergarten, though it's
relatively unlikely much beyond that. But if you don't consider
co-sleeping a "bad habit", what's wrong with that?


i remember being about 8
i would get in the bed with my parents and sleep across their feet


I sometimes slept with my mom when I was a teenager, lol. I was in my bed
all night for the most part by the time I was 6 IIRC.

I've heard that my mom got a lot of grief from her family over sleeping with
us when we were babies. Hard to imagine because I know that her and
siblings all slept together with their mom as they only had one bed.

--
Nikki
Mama to Hunter (4) and Luke (2)


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Old February 25th 04, 04:11 PM
Nikki
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Mary S. wrote:

She coslept exclusively until we bought
her a toddler bed; never slept in anything but our bed at night before
then. We transitioned her very easily at 21 months. She'd crawl into
our bed to nurse at that point. We night-weaned her at almost 23
months, also not traumatic. Your baby may vary, but that was our
experience.


Hee, my experience varied, lol. Is it just me or does it appear that this
transition happens, in general, a little earlier/easier for girls then it
does boys? I don't mean 100%, I realize there are exceptions.

--
Nikki
Mama to Hunter (4) and Luke (2)


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Old February 25th 04, 06:42 PM
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"Nikki" wrote in message
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Mary S. wrote:

She coslept exclusively until we bought
her a toddler bed; never slept in anything but our bed at night before
then. We transitioned her very easily at 21 months. She'd crawl into
our bed to nurse at that point. We night-weaned her at almost 23
months, also not traumatic. Your baby may vary, but that was our
experience.


Hee, my experience varied, lol. Is it just me or does it appear that this
transition happens, in general, a little earlier/easier for girls then it
does boys? I don't mean 100%, I realize there are exceptions.

--
Nikki
Mama to Hunter (4) and Luke (2)


I would second that.


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Old February 25th 04, 10:53 PM
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Larry McMahan wrote:

This continued after Niel was born. When both were nursing at night (a
long, long time) Monika would switch from our bed to Clara's bed and back
maybe 6 or 8 times in a night. A good night would be only two or three!

(snip)

Does that answer your question.


Gosh, it certainly encouragees me to use contraception! :-O

ROSIE
knackered enough with one


 




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