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Child-Support from the NCPs Perspective
"Illiana via FamilyKB.com" u38194@uwe wrote in message news:79acf2416d0cb@uwe... Gini wrote: "Paula" wrote "Gini" wrote: On Oct 12, 9:47 am, "Gini" wrote: This group is for NCPs who have [quoted text clipped - 6 lines] That's what Google provides as the description of the group. == Heh, I know. I was just entertaining you. Google did not create alt.child-support (which has been around since at least 1990--long before Actually, that description has been around for years as well and its been incorrect for years (which is very common for unchartered newsgroups such as acs). Maybe someday someone will figure out how to get it corrected. I am not a "founding member." I've only been here since 1997, but I am one of the longest surviving members. FYI, here's a link to the first postings to alt.child-support, "certifying" that it *is* and always has been pertaining to child support issues from the perspective of noncustodial parents: http://tinyurl.com/2xp4lt Well, if that is the case, then you could have pointed that out in a mature manner, instead of going all psycho about it. Since you like to be bossy (about something you do not own), and feel you can express your views as you see fit, be a grown-up and extend that courtesy to others. Perhaps if everyone extended that courtesy to others, includiong the people from that that group that is snatching our posts, there would be fewer problems. But being told to "stick to my topic, and only give answers *I* consider to be positive" is way up there on the bossy scale. |
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Does anybody have any useful advice on how to collect a child support debt?
"Illiana via FamilyKB.com" u38194@uwe wrote in message news:79acfee1822e9@uwe... teachrmama wrote: "Illiana" u38194@uwe wrote in [quoted text clipped - 10 lines] you have any advice on how to collect my child support? Do you know where the father is? Do you communicate with him? Does he see his child? Do you send pictures, ;etters, homemade cards from child to father? Very often a healthy relationship with his child is the best way to get a father to contribute to his child's support needs. I know where the father is, in fact, we are separated, but reside in the same home. He doesn't want to work, or pay his share of the rent. I felt child support was the only way to get him motivated(which it hasn't) to find a job. I am not a complete bitch, but I am tired of supporting him, and I don't have the heart to throw him out. As for him being able to see his child, as I said he lives in our home, but he doesn't show much of an interest in being a father. He has access to my son just as much as I do, so I don't think I need to announce when our child does something creative. All he needs to do is come up out of the basement and involve himself. Oh, I see. You're an enabler--not meant as an insult. He really does not need to get off his tush and get a job because you are enabling him to keep being shiftless. And if Child Support Enforcement finally does get tired of the arrearages and throw his butt in jail, then the taxpayers will pick up the ball and support him. The best thing you could do for him (based on the few facts you have presented here) is to throw him out and let him fend for himself. Again, this is not an insult, but perhaps some counseling would not be amiss for you, to help you define some boundaries for yourself, rather than saddling yourself with his care and feeding as well as the care and feeding of your child (which is not a burden, but does take effort). |
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Does anybody have any useful advice on how to collect a child support debt?
Gini wrote:
"Illiana" u38194@uwe wrote ................. Why do you want to argue with me when I made this clear from the get go? == You don't own the ball, or the topic, hon. You're on our playground, remember? Just curious--have you synpathy for moronic girls who have unprotected sex with moronic men and then bring children into the world they can take care of or don't want to support and then go whining all over the net about what poor victims they are? You own as much of the "ball" or topic as I do, so watch how you try to regulate who can post a topic, because it sounds like you don't WANT others to post anything unless it is along you line of thought.Unfortunately for you, what you WANT and what IS are two different things. You WANT me to not post here, but I am and I WILL post if I please. The adult thing to do would be to deal with it, then get over it. If you can’t, seek help then try again. Who is childish enough to want to argue on a "playground" with somebody that has the mind set of a 12 year old, other than yourself? People make mistakes it's one of the things that make us all human, the difference between you and I is that I think people shouId be held accountable for them. Sometimes that accountability is financial, other times it is loss. I have sympathy for any child that doesn’t have the benefit of a two parent income, and as a human being, you shouls as well. It is obvious that you have no regard for the children in these situations. It makes me wonder why? How much do you or a partner have to pay an ex for child support, and why are you SO bitter about it? Just comply with the law and there isn’t a problem, because there are a lot worse things out there than child support. You are never going to change your opinion, just as I will not change mine. Why argue, and be nasty? I will take the high road, and ignore your comments. Good day, Governess. -- Message posted via FamilyKB.com http://www.familykb.com/Uwe/Forums.a...nting/200710/1 |
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Does anybody have any useful advice on how to collect a child support debt?
"Illiana via FamilyKB.com" u38194@uwe wrote in message news:79ad1141d5d0f@uwe... teachrmama wrote: It looks like there are a lot of deadbeat supporters, enablers, and deadbeats on this usenet group. This particular thread is not for [quoted text clipped - 16 lines] to bash custodial parents, child support orders, or the government. I didn't bash anybody. I am simply stating the truth. Anyone who is to difficult to track down and/or to poor to provide support is basically ignored by the system. That is absolute fact. Years ago, NCPs were ordered to send their payments directly to the CP. Wage garnishment was saved for those recalcitrant few who refused to pay. Now every court order (at least in my state) is done by wage garnishment. And the system claims to have collected from all the deadbeats to the tune of however much they collect through garnishment--even if the person would have paid anyway. I kid you not. My sister has a stepson who has fathered at leat 5 children--he has never had a CS judgement against him, becuase he does not work--the women he sleeps with support him. The system doesn't bother with him because it would be a waste of time and money--a d*mn shame, because all the mothers live on public moneys. I am not trying to be negative, but the system is unfair to many NCPs, but it is also unfair to many CPs. That's just the way it is. I never stated that the system is fair. In the case of the stepson, would he not be the type of non custodial parent that the system was designed to enforce? Yes, it is. But you can't get blood from a turnip, and there is simply no money to be had from these people--and it looks terrible on the books to see that $$XXX was spent on enforcement and $xx was collected. It looks really great on the books that $X was spent on enforcement, and $$XXXXX was collected--even if it didn't need to be collected because it sould have been pwid anyway. If he is happy living on P.A and not taking care of his kids, is that any better? He's not living on PA--the babies' moms are--and he lives with them and/or with other women who will take care of him. I see a few responders that think child support is welfare, but it is not. I haven't seen anyone here say that CS is welfare. Who said that--I must have missed that post. The step son you refer to, his kids, and mothers are on state aid, which is taking from all of us that work. If there was a child support order, true the mothers would still get state aid, but the CSE would try to collect the money from HIM instead of the taxpayers. But that's my point--they don't even try, because there is nothing to get from him. Are men that father multiple children and not support them just as bad as women who refuse to work and collect welfare? It seems that the cause is the inability for both parents to take responsibility, and the result is welfare. Anyone who brings multiple children into the world with no intention of supporting them is outrageous--man or woman. |
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Does anybody have any useful advice on how to collect a child support debt?
"Illiana via FamilyKB.com" u38194@uwe wrote in message news:79ad220054a79@uwe... DB wrote: "Paula" wrote in Show me one father that doesn't want involvement with their child? [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] And the difference in your definitions are? A Father wantsto be with his children, he doesn't need laws to enforce this!!!!!! If that is the case, then why would it even be an issue to pay child-support. If the Non custodial parent (because there are some women that don't support their children) is willing to support their children that is fine, but I think a lot of custodial parents want a court order for reassurance that that circumstance doesn't change. When people get angry at each other, it is possible that a non custodial would withhold support for spite, just as a custodial parent may withhold access to the child. I personally think that when two people split up they should get an order of support and a court order for visitation right away, because you never know how another person may act in an attempt to get at another. Here is where your innocence is showing--child support orders are enforced--visitation orders are not. NCPs go to jail for not paying support. CPs who interfere with visitation are rarely dealt with. My personal opinion is that 50/50 joint custody should be the default order, and should only be deviated from for a major reason--not "I don't like him any more." |
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Offsite Crossposting to alt.child-support from FamilyKB
Bob Whiteside wrote:
.................................. [quoted text clipped - 18 lines] alt.child-support and post directly via usenet/Google, they are legally free to do so. I sent the following message to the FamilyKB.com webmaster - I am writing to register a complaint about your web site violating its published privacy policy. Your privacy policy states in part: "We do not rent, sell or share your personally identifying information to other companies or individuals, unless we have your consent, are required by law, or have a good faith belief that access, preservation or disclosure of such information is reasonably necessary to protect the rights, property or safety of FamilyKB.com or its users." I have never signed up for your web site. Yet you are sharing personally identifying information about me on your web site without my consent. I demand you remove all messages identifying me personally that you have captured from other sources and republish on your web site and respect my privacy by not sharing my postings and personal information. Your personal information is not shared, just your screen name, and it is not MY web site. As I stated before, you saw the topic, you did not have to read it, and you were not forced to post a response, let alone after knowing from replies from posters, prior to your post, that it was a cross post. I am sure a judge would agree that once you opened the post, it can be concluded that you did read the posts, and replies, and that it was made clear before you posted by direct comment from one person to another that this was a cross post to the group you frequent. Since you were not under any direst to post a comment, the responsibility lies with you and your actions. There is also the sites disclaimer which cover them. -- Message posted via http://www.familykb.com |
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Does anybody have any useful advice on how to collect a child support debt?
teachrmama wrote:
It looks like there are a lot of deadbeat supporters, enablers, and deadbeats on this usenet group. This particular thread is not for [quoted text clipped - 22 lines] I am not trying to be negative, but the system is unfair to many NCPs, but it is also unfair to many CPs. That's just the way it is. I never stated that the system is fair. In the case of the stepson, would he not be the type of non custodial parent that the system was designed to enforce? Yes, it is. But you can't get blood from a turnip, and there is simply no money to be had from these people--and it looks terrible on the books to see that $$XXX was spent on enforcement and $xx was collected. It looks really great on the books that $X was spent on enforcement, and $$XXXXX was collected--even if it didn't need to be collected because it sould have been pwid anyway. If he is happy living on P.A and not taking care of his kids, is that any better? He's not living on PA--the babies' moms are--and he lives with them and/or with other women who will take care of him. I see a few responders that think child support is welfare, but it is not. I haven't seen anyone here say that CS is welfare. Who said that--I must have missed that post. The step son you refer to, his kids, and mothers are on state aid, which is [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] money from HIM instead of the taxpayers. But that's my point--they don't even try, because there is nothing to get from him. Are men that father multiple children and not support them just as bad as women who refuse to work and collect welfare? It seems that the cause is the inability for both parents to take responsibility, and the result is welfare. Anyone who brings multiple children into the world with no intention of supporting them is outrageous--man or woman. Some crazy guy refered to child support as relying on the government, to me that means welfare. If the stepson is living with the mothers that get P.A, and they are supporting him, then he too is living on P.A -- Message posted via FamilyKB.com http://www.familykb.com/Uwe/Forums.a...nting/200710/1 |
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"Illiana via FamilyKB.com" u38194@uwe wrote in message news:79ad4e3ac0a0e@uwe... Gini wrote: "Illiana" u38194@uwe wrote ................. Why do you want to argue with me when I made this clear from the get go? == You don't own the ball, or the topic, hon. You're on our playground, remember? Just curious--have you synpathy for moronic girls who have unprotected sex with moronic men and then bring children into the world they can take care of or don't want to support and then go whining all over the net about what poor victims they are? You own as much of the "ball" or topic as I do, so watch how you try to regulate who can post a topic, because it sounds like you don't WANT others to post anything unless it is along you line of thought.Unfortunately for you, what you WANT and what IS are two different things. You WANT me to not post here, but I am and I WILL post if I please. The adult thing to do would be to deal with it, then get over it. If you can't, seek help then try again. Who is childish enough to want to argue on a "playground" with somebody that has the mind set of a 12 year old, other than yourself? People make mistakes it's one of the things that make us all human, the difference between you and I is that I think people shouId be held accountable for them. Sometimes that accountability is financial, other times it is loss. I have sympathy for any child that doesn't have the benefit of a two parent income, and as a human being, you should as well. Unfortunately, the children are not really the issue--they are just held up to be the issue. If children and their right to be supported by two parent incomes were really the issue, then you would see stay-at-home moms arrested all over the country for not providing an income for their child. You would also see custodial parents who do not work being arrested for not providing support. But the only ones who are dealt with harshly are NCPs. And the majority of the time the ones who are penalized are the ones who really *can't* pay the full amount due to exigent circumstances. But NCP and "deadbeat dad" have become almost synonymous in the public eye. (I could tell you horror stories on this one) It is obvious that you have no regard for the children in these situations. It makes me wonder why? How much do you or a partner have to pay an ex for child support, and why are you SO bitter about it? You are responding to a person who has never had a CS order, and who shared responsibility for her children with her ex without ever needing any sort of government intervention. Why would people not want to hear advice from someone who accomplished that? Just comply with the law and there isn't a problem, because there are a lot worse things out there than child support. You are never going to change your opinion, just as I will not change mine. Why argue, and be nasty? I will take the high road, and ignore your comments. Good day, Governess. Are you implying that she has broken the law? There are a number of people posting here now that seem to interpret the advice to "get a job and/or an education and become independent of the need for someone else to help support you" as being the same as "you don't deserve child support." Those are 2 very different things. |
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"Illiana via FamilyKB.com" u38194@uwe wrote in message news:79ad72d188877@uwe... teachrmama wrote: It looks like there are a lot of deadbeat supporters, enablers, and deadbeats on this usenet group. This particular thread is not for [quoted text clipped - 22 lines] I am not trying to be negative, but the system is unfair to many NCPs, but it is also unfair to many CPs. That's just the way it is. I never stated that the system is fair. In the case of the stepson, would he not be the type of non custodial parent that the system was designed to enforce? Yes, it is. But you can't get blood from a turnip, and there is simply no money to be had from these people--and it looks terrible on the books to see that $$XXX was spent on enforcement and $xx was collected. It looks really great on the books that $X was spent on enforcement, and $$XXXXX was collected--even if it didn't need to be collected because it sould have been pwid anyway. If he is happy living on P.A and not taking care of his kids, is that any better? He's not living on PA--the babies' moms are--and he lives with them and/or with other women who will take care of him. I see a few responders that think child support is welfare, but it is not. I haven't seen anyone here say that CS is welfare. Who said that--I must have missed that post. The step son you refer to, his kids, and mothers are on state aid, which is [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] money from HIM instead of the taxpayers. But that's my point--they don't even try, because there is nothing to get from him. Are men that father multiple children and not support them just as bad as women who refuse to work and collect welfare? It seems that the cause is the inability for both parents to take responsibility, and the result is welfare. Anyone who brings multiple children into the world with no intention of supporting them is outrageous--man or woman. Some crazy guy refered to child support as relying on the government, to me that means welfare. Child Support Enforcement is a government agency. So those who rely on child support via court order rely on the government to provide for them by collecting the money and sending it to them. If the stepson is living with the mothers that get P.A, and they are supporting him, then he too is living on P.A He's perfectly content doing that, and has a number of women who are happy to share with him. |
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"Illiana via FamilyKB.com" u38194@uwe wrote in message news:79acd913e32fe@uwe... Shadow36 wrote: It looks like there are a lot of deadbeat supporters, enablers, and deadbeats on this usenet group. This particular thread is not for [quoted text clipped - 43 lines] false. Move along now; go on to where your rude comments will be appreciated. Here's a useful comment for you.. Find someone who knows about usenet and newsgroups, and have them go to alt.child-support. There you will find all the useless drivel thats been posted by you and your *ahem* co-horts. Then you can ask your little family web sire why they are cross posting to here. So you are implying that all custodial parents are in cahoots? It may just be me, but you sound paranoid. I never said anything of the sort. Do you have a comprehension problem? Your little web site that you post on Is cross posting to the usenet group alt.child-support, and It should not be. Is that simple enough for you? Do you understand now? |
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