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Is it possible to bf and NOT cosleep?
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I did not co-sleep with my first. Spent lots of time getting up in the night and then I had trouble falling back to sleep. It wasn't a huge issue then because I could just sleep during the day with the baby. Now with #2 I am co sleeping out of necessity (sort of.) It's just the easiest way for me to get a decent amount of sleep so that I can be alert during the day to play with, etc. my 2 year old and the baby. Susan ted wrote: Did any of your bfed babies sleep in a crib/away from you at nights? How did you manage that? Thanks. |
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Is it possible to bf and NOT cosleep?
toypup wrote:
"HollyLewis" wrote in message ... This is purely anecdotal but IRL the mom/baby pairs that slept seperate were all sleeping through the night by 18mos. Night feeds were down to one by a year and generally much sooner. I know one other person IRL that breastfed and co-slept and both her kids are like mine. Nurse all night long well past a year ;-) -- Nikki Mama to Hunter (4) and Luke (2) I suspect there generally is a correlation, but that doesn't in any way mean that co-sleeping *causes* night waking. I suspect it's far more often the other way around. :-) I do think you've got it right. I don't think it *causes* night nursing. Certainly there are babies that can co-sleep and don't night nurse. I do think it *encourages* it :-) There might be a baby that can easily move back and forth between co-sleeping and crib sleeping but I've never really heard of one. Has anyone else known a baby or toddler that will co-sleep on some nights and just as happily spend all night in their crib or bed the next? The waking just to find mom only creates a problem if the child needs to be in bed significantly longer then the adult. I need to be in bed about 6 hours. That left me 6 hours of running to a kid every 40 minutes and spending 30 minutes to get them back to sleep....and I nursed them back to sleep so I shot my own foot so to speak ;-) Perhaps if I could have laid in bed for 12 hours they'd have never woken up enough to need to get back to (nurse to) sleep??? Each situation is so unique!! I had one of both. Hunter would have nursed all night regardless of where he was, he reverse cycled. He also just would not sleep away from me so we co-slept starting on week 2. I'm pretty sure the co-sleeping resulted in increased frequency and duration of night nursing for Luke. Both continue to wake at night looking for me but it is no longer a problem because they sleep long enough that I'm ready for bed myself by the time they wake up. -- Nikki Mama to Hunter (4) and Luke (2) |
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Nikki wrote:
I don't think it *causes* night nursing. Certainly there are babies that can co-sleep and don't night nurse. I do think it *encourages* it :-) I agree. Caterpillar will sleep for a couple hours at a time if I'm lying facing her, but the moment I roll onto my other side, little hands are pat-pat-patting me, and if I ignore them, it turns into wiggling, then fussing, then crying. Not all of her night-nursing is needed. But she reverse cycles, because I'm gone so much during the day. So I don't think all of her night-nursing is habit. I think she would have been fine as a crib baby, but we couldn't bear to not hold her all the time when she was tiny, and when she was older, we were used to having her right there. Baby#2 might be a crib baby, but probably not. Phoebe |
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Phoebe & Allyson wrote:
I think she would have been fine as a crib baby, but we couldn't bear to not hold her all the time when she was tiny, and when she was older, we were used to having her right there. Baby#2 might be a crib baby, but probably not. I was pretty sure I wanted #2 to be a crib baby. I co-slept right off the bat with the intent of switching at 3mos. Then at about 2-3 weeks I discovered *he* slept much better in the crib. Mostly because if he was right next to me he wanted to nurse at every move (or I nursed him) and then he'd get crampy. In the crib he'd just move around and go back to sleep (I did nurse some). So, he'd spend the night in his crib until about 4am. That was the plan. Then at 12 weeks I went back to work. It felt *wrong* to have him out there by himself when I was gone all day. It was hard to keep getting up out of bed at night when I had to work all day. I missed him. So I brought him to bed. It feels so right when they are little. :-) -- Nikki Mama to Hunter (4) and Luke (2) |
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I don't think it *causes* night nursing. Certainly there are babies that
can co-sleep and don't night nurse. I do think it *encourages* it :-) Well, like I said, my experience was the opposite. When we put DS down in his crib at bedtime, he invariably woke up during the night and usually would not go back to sleep in what I considered a reasonable period of time without nursing, which meant I brought him into my bed, because I was not interested in sitting up with him in the middle of the night. But when we put him down in our bed at bedtime, whether I went to bed at the same time or rejoined him later, THOSE were the nights he slept through until morning. Or if he woke, he didn't wake so completely that he needed to nurse back to sleep and thus he didn't wake *me* up so I never knew about it. In other words, co-sleeping encouraged him to sleep through; putting him in the crib encouraged night nursing. Holly Mom to Camden, 3yo EDD #2 6/8/04 |
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ted wrote:
Did any of your bfed babies sleep in a crib/away from you at nights? How did you manage that? Pillbug was in a bassinet for the first 10 weeks, right next to our bed. Then, we moved him into his crib in his room, which directly faces ours. The first 10 weeks, I'd pick him up from the bassinet and sit up against my pillows while nursing, then put him back when we were done. When we moved him to his room, we bought the ugliest, orange plaid, extremely comfortable chair from Goodwill for $20 and I nurse him on that. I have a little table right next to it for cloths and stuff. I used to use a baby monitor, but I hear him fine without it, so I do not use it anymore. I'm so used to do this that sometimes I find myself in his room without realizing how I got there and I occasionally fall asleep in the orange chair while nursing. (It's set up so that Pillbug cannot fall off.) Each nursing takes 6-8 minutes, plus the 10 seconds going between the rooms. I fall right back asleep afterwards with no problems. Pillbug gets up at least 2x a night, if not more. -- Anita -- |
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HollyLewis wrote:
In other words, co-sleeping encouraged him to sleep through; putting him in the crib encouraged night nursing. Go ahead, rub it in ;-) You and your sleeping baby can go camp out with those self weaners, lol. -- Nikki (who wouldn't trade her all night party animals for all the world. I spent a couple years in college drinking all night long myself, maybe it runs in the family :-) Mama to Hunter (4) and Luke (2) |
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In misc.kids.breastfeeding Ellie wrote:
: Although if I could have figured out how to co-sleep comfortably with twins : I probably would have done. You prop yourself up with the babies under you and go to sleep on your knees and elbows. Seriously, I don't kwow how. Larry |
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HollyLewis wrote: In other words, co-sleeping encouraged him to sleep through; putting him in the crib encouraged night nursing. Go ahead, rub it in ;-) You and your sleeping baby can go camp out with those self weaners, lol. -- Nikki I guess you didn't want to hear that DS is currently self-weaning, then? ;-) (He nurses so infrequently now that I think he may be done, but every time I think that, he asks for mama milk again. Not that I have anything but colostrum right now, so it's possible he'll pick up again after the baby's born.) I had my share of sleepless nights, but fortunately it wasn't the norm. Most of our sleep problems center around DS not wanting to go to bed in the first place. It can take him an awfully long time to fall asleep. He's a little night owl like me. And when he did nurse back to sleep in the middle of the night, it also took forever, which, I suppose, is why I can't imagine sitting up to nurse and putting him back to bed afterwards. There's no way I'd've been able to stay awake that long! Holly Mom to Camden, 3yo EDD #2 6/8/04 |
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Nikki wrote:
This is purely anecdotal but IRL the mom/baby pairs that slept seperate were all sleeping through the night by 18mos. Night feeds were down to one by a year and generally much sooner. I know one other person IRL that breastfed and co-slept and both her kids are like mine. Nurse all night long well past a year ;-) Well, my kids obviously never heard that not-co-sleeping would cause them to sleep through the night and night-wean easily g. Julian was night-weaned and sleeping through at 18 months, but only because I was pregnant and so my husband took over nighttime parenting duties. Aurora was waking about once every 45 minutes to an hour at 18 months, so we did the Daddy treatment with her at that time, and she night-weaned/slept through reliably by 20 months. Vernon has just turned two and is still up once or twice most nights for a nosh, more if he's sick. We haven't done the Daddy treatment on him yet because it doesn't bother me nearly as much to get up with him once or twice a night as it would bother my husband right now to take over nighttime parenting. -- Be well, Barbara (Julian [6], Aurora [4], and Vernon's [2] mom) All opinions expressed in this post are well-reasoned and insightful. Needless to say, they are not those of my Internet Service Provider, its other subscribers or lackeys. Anyone who says otherwise is itchin' for a fight. -- with apologies to Michael Feldman |
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