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How can I prosecute Child Stealing / Custodial Interference (CAL
dwalker1 wrote:
Interesting situation you have. You'll need to remember you may not have say in what "penalty" is handed to your ex. Theoretically, you could do more damage to your daughter than the good you're pursing -- only time will tell. Eventually, we will all answert to our children and God. Hi Darrian: Every action I take in life is taken only after careful consideration of how my daughter will be affected. I'm curious to know more about the theory you mentioned, the one in which pursuing enforcement of the custody order my ex and I agreed to could possibly do my daughter more harm than good. I honestly don't think that's likely at all. I understand that for those, like you, who are not familiar with details of my case, and of the hell my daughter's mom has put my daughter and me through for the last 8 years, my actions and my objectives might sound extreme. Well, I guess they are extreme. But extreme and prolonged abuses require an extreme response. Like I said in my original post, I've tried everything I can to peacefully resolve/end the custody interference and parental alientation my ex insists on perpetrating-- without taking legal action. I don't know if you have children Darrian, but try to imagine promising your little girl, after planning with her a fun-filled weekend of activities, that you will be there to pick her up at a specific time and place, only to have her taken away. How do you explain what happened when you see her next? Keep in mind that you must not say anything negative about the person who took them. What do you say? And what message do you think the poor child, who is old enough to know that her mom is breaking the rules, is getting when she gets taken away? Here's a few that I've thought of: 1) Dad is unimportant. 2) Rules and laws are unimportant. 3) Promises are unimportant. This is more than a lost weekend between father and daughter--it's emotional abuse of a child! When somebody abuses your child, you have to do something -- don't you? Maybe the god you mentioned would want you to forgive and forget, or something righteous like that. That's my initial instinct, too, until it occurs to me that doing so will almost certainly result, eventually, in my child growing up without a father. Doing nothing provides implicit approval of the crime. In fact, doing nothing can be interpreted by the court as having WAIVED YOUR CUSTODY RIGHTS. It happened to me. Darrian, I'm tired of being forced to break promises I make to my innocent daughter because her mom won't obey the law. I have promised my daughter that I will pick her up on Friday, only to have that promise broken because mom takes her away. For the last time! This scenario, repeated over and over, is typical of my life as a dedicated father trying to have a relationship with a child who is, in her "best interest" (hahahaha), in the primary care of a bitter, sociopathic (IMHO) mother. I pursue this action with complete confidence (based on years of watching the family court let mom violate orders with complete impunity) that neither the family court judge, nor the police, will penalize my daughter's mom to the degree that will cause my daughter to suffer any more than she is suffering now. It understand that it may be hard to believe if you don't know the details (which are far too extensive for posting to a newsgroup), but jail or a large fine for her mom may actually be the *best* thing, long-term, for my little girl. It might result in her relationship with her dad being unencumbered for what is left of her childhood. Thanks for adding to the discussion. I sense you are concerned that my daughter will be harmed if I'm successful in prosecuting. Don't worry, I've thought of all the possible outcomes and I don't see that happening. It appears the 278.5 criminal case is dead in the water, but I will post here the results of the contempt case when they are available. Arraignment is July 6th. Jay R. |
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How can I prosecute Child Stealing / Custodial Interference (CAL
dwalker1 wrote:
Interesting situation you have. You'll need to remember you may not have say in what "penalty" is handed to your ex. Theoretically, you could do more damage to your daughter than the good you're pursing -- only time will tell. Eventually, we will all answert to our children and God. Hi Darrian: Every action I take in life is taken only after careful consideration of how my daughter will be affected. I'm curious to know more about the theory you mentioned, the one in which pursuing enforcement of the custody order my ex and I agreed to could possibly do my daughter more harm than good. I honestly don't think that's likely at all. I understand that for those, like you, who are not familiar with details of my case, and of the hell my daughter's mom has put my daughter and me through for the last 8 years, my actions and my objectives might sound extreme. Well, I guess they are extreme. But extreme and prolonged abuses require an extreme response. Like I said in my original post, I've tried everything I can to peacefully resolve/end the custody interference and parental alientation my ex insists on perpetrating-- without taking legal action. I don't know if you have children Darrian, but try to imagine promising your little girl, after planning with her a fun-filled weekend of activities, that you will be there to pick her up at a specific time and place, only to have her taken away. How do you explain what happened when you see her next? Keep in mind that you must not say anything negative about the person who took them. What do you say? And what message do you think the poor child, who is old enough to know that her mom is breaking the rules, is getting when she gets taken away? Here's a few that I've thought of: 1) Dad is unimportant. 2) Rules and laws are unimportant. 3) Promises are unimportant. This is more than a lost weekend between father and daughter--it's emotional abuse of a child! When somebody abuses your child, you have to do something -- don't you? Maybe the god you mentioned would want you to forgive and forget, or something righteous like that. That's my initial instinct, too, until it occurs to me that doing so will almost certainly result, eventually, in my child growing up without a father. Doing nothing provides implicit approval of the crime. In fact, doing nothing can be interpreted by the court as having WAIVED YOUR CUSTODY RIGHTS. It happened to me. Darrian, I'm tired of being forced to break promises I make to my innocent daughter because her mom won't obey the law. I have promised my daughter that I will pick her up on Friday, only to have that promise broken because mom takes her away. For the last time! This scenario, repeated over and over, is typical of my life as a dedicated father trying to have a relationship with a child who is, in her "best interest" (hahahaha), in the primary care of a bitter, sociopathic (IMHO) mother. I pursue this action with complete confidence (based on years of watching the family court let mom violate orders with complete impunity) that neither the family court judge, nor the police, will penalize my daughter's mom to the degree that will cause my daughter to suffer any more than she is suffering now. It understand that it may be hard to believe if you don't know the details (which are far too extensive for posting to a newsgroup), but jail or a large fine for her mom may actually be the *best* thing, long-term, for my little girl. It might result in her relationship with her dad being unencumbered for what is left of her childhood. Thanks for adding to the discussion. I sense you are concerned that my daughter will be harmed if I'm successful in prosecuting. Don't worry, I've thought of all the possible outcomes and I don't see that happening. It appears the 278.5 criminal case is dead in the water, but I will post here the results of the contempt case when they are available. Arraignment is July 6th. Jay R. |
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How can I prosecute Child Stealing / Custodial Interference (CAL
dwalker1 wrote:
Interesting situation you have. You'll need to remember you may not have say in what "penalty" is handed to your ex. Theoretically, you could do more damage to your daughter than the good you're pursing -- only time will tell. Eventually, we will all answert to our children and God. Hi Darrian: Every action I take in life is taken only after careful consideration of how my daughter will be affected. I'm curious to know more about the theory you mentioned, the one in which pursuing enforcement of the custody order my ex and I agreed to could possibly do my daughter more harm than good. I honestly don't think that's likely at all. I understand that for those, like you, who are not familiar with details of my case, and of the hell my daughter's mom has put my daughter and me through for the last 8 years, my actions and my objectives might sound extreme. Well, I guess they are extreme. But extreme and prolonged abuses require an extreme response. Like I said in my original post, I've tried everything I can to peacefully resolve/end the custody interference and parental alientation my ex insists on perpetrating-- without taking legal action. I don't know if you have children Darrian, but try to imagine promising your little girl, after planning with her a fun-filled weekend of activities, that you will be there to pick her up at a specific time and place, only to have her taken away. How do you explain what happened when you see her next? Keep in mind that you must not say anything negative about the person who took them. What do you say? And what message do you think the poor child, who is old enough to know that her mom is breaking the rules, is getting when she gets taken away? Here's a few that I've thought of: 1) Dad is unimportant. 2) Rules and laws are unimportant. 3) Promises are unimportant. This is more than a lost weekend between father and daughter--it's emotional abuse of a child! When somebody abuses your child, you have to do something -- don't you? Maybe the god you mentioned would want you to forgive and forget, or something righteous like that. That's my initial instinct, too, until it occurs to me that doing so will almost certainly result, eventually, in my child growing up without a father. Doing nothing provides implicit approval of the crime. In fact, doing nothing can be interpreted by the court as having WAIVED YOUR CUSTODY RIGHTS. It happened to me. Darrian, I'm tired of being forced to break promises I make to my innocent daughter because her mom won't obey the law. I have promised my daughter that I will pick her up on Friday, only to have that promise broken because mom takes her away. For the last time! This scenario, repeated over and over, is typical of my life as a dedicated father trying to have a relationship with a child who is, in her "best interest" (hahahaha), in the primary care of a bitter, sociopathic (IMHO) mother. I pursue this action with complete confidence (based on years of watching the family court let mom violate orders with complete impunity) that neither the family court judge, nor the police, will penalize my daughter's mom to the degree that will cause my daughter to suffer any more than she is suffering now. It understand that it may be hard to believe if you don't know the details (which are far too extensive for posting to a newsgroup), but jail or a large fine for her mom may actually be the *best* thing, long-term, for my little girl. It might result in her relationship with her dad being unencumbered for what is left of her childhood. Thanks for adding to the discussion. I sense you are concerned that my daughter will be harmed if I'm successful in prosecuting. Don't worry, I've thought of all the possible outcomes and I don't see that happening. It appears the 278.5 criminal case is dead in the water, but I will post here the results of the contempt case when they are available. Arraignment is July 6th. Jay R. |
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