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advice needed on pacifier weaning
Hi - can anyone advise re weaning my 17 month daughter off her
pacifier? She only has it in bed at night and during nap times but I would like to wean her off it soon, for the following reasons: she has started waking us up a few times in the night asking for it when she has lost it; I think she has it in her mouth most of the night rather than just using it to fall asleep; she has a lisp when she speaks; people say that it will only get harder to wean her off it when she's older so I want to do it sooner rather than later. My questions are - are my reasons good enough to wean her off it? Could she become very traumatised by not having it? Could she substitute the pacifier for something else (thumb sucking etc) but just as bad? Is she too young? Will it be harder to wean her off it when she's older (say 2 or 3 years old)? Also finally - what are some of the best ways to get her off it? I have heard cold turkey is a good idea. I think she is a bit young for the `dummy fairy' type ploy, but she understands the concept of `broken' or `lost' so maybe I could pretend it's broken? Any advice would be welcome! thanks in advance. |
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wrote in message ups.com... Hi - can anyone advise re weaning my 17 month daughter off her pacifier? She only has it in bed at night and during nap times but I would like to wean her off it soon, for the following reasons: she has started waking us up a few times in the night asking for it when she has lost it; I think she has it in her mouth most of the night rather than just using it to fall asleep; she has a lisp when she speaks; people say that it will only get harder to wean her off it when she's older so I want to do it sooner rather than later. My questions are - are my reasons good enough to wean her off it? Could she become very traumatised by not having it? Could she substitute the pacifier for something else (thumb sucking etc) but just as bad? Is she too young? Will it be harder to wean her off it when she's older (say 2 or 3 years old)? Also finally - what are some of the best ways to get her off it? I have heard cold turkey is a good idea. I think she is a bit young for the `dummy fairy' type ploy, but she understands the concept of `broken' or `lost' so maybe I could pretend it's broken? Any advice would be welcome! thanks in advance. No real advice for weaning her off but I'd say it's usual for a 17 month child to pronounce things incorrectly. I don't really think you an blame the dummy for that. I know that #2 (23 months) can't say ssssssss sound very well. Her favourite word is "disappeared" at the moment and she pronounces it "d'pp-ee-ra", for example. If it was me, and she only used one for sleeping, I'd leave it until she's older and can understand better. I imagine it depends on the child as to whether it's easier now or later. I know one child who aged 3.5 handed her dummy to pay for a watch and went from using it a lot (during day as well as night) to not asking at all. She may just be waking in the night and needing it to go back to sleep with rather than needing it all night. Debbie |
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One of my friends had the Easter Bunny take her daughter's dummy away.
There was a lot of excitement leading up to Easter and she used to tell everybody about the Easter Bunny taking it away. She was around 3 and it worked very well! I think 17 months is a difficult age for them to understand why things need to be the way they are. By 2 they understand things a bit better and that not everything can go their way. Personally I'm against the things, but I've never needed one. My daughter just wasn't a crier and seemed to rather a human pacifier. #2 may be different, I'm open to changing my opinions!! KR |
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DD was about 2 when we started weaning her from her binkys. I hadn't
wanted her to suck either binkys or her thumb but she had other plans. I figured it woudl be easier to lose a binky than a thumb. She had a big binky habit. I remember seeing her sitting in the middle of the floor with one in her mouth and one in each and a look of pure bliss on her face. At about two we decide to start limited the binky use. We told her that binkys were for night night and they had to stay in her room. We kept a baby gate on her door since her room was on the second floor. When we would get her up in the morning she would meet us at the door. We would say what did you forget and she would throw her binky down and reach up to us. If one happened to get out in the house and she found it we would ask her if she needed to go night night. She would usually throw it down or take it to her room. She gradually lost them or they wore out. When her last one broke she threw it out herself. We had a few rough nights but she hasn't looked back. She had spent several nights at her grandparents and hadn't used it so we knew that it wasn't a complete dependence. Oh also at 6 she talks a mile a minute. She has a large vocabulary and can be understood most of the time. She does lisp her s a little but then so did I. Also she was tongue tied as a baby and had to have her tongue clipped so that mey be part of it. |
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wrote in message ups.com... older so I want to do it sooner rather than later. My questions are - are my reasons good enough to wean her off it? Could she become very traumatised by not having it? Could she substitute the pacifier for something else (thumb sucking etc) but just as bad? Is she too young? Will it be harder to wean her off it when she's older (say 2 or 3 years old)? Also finally - what are some of the best ways to get her off it? I have heard cold turkey is a good idea. I think she is a bit young for the `dummy fairy' type ploy, but she understands the concept of `broken' or `lost' so maybe I could pretend it's broken? Any advice would be welcome! thanks in advance. I poked a hole in DS's pacifier when he was about 2yo and he figured they didn't work anymore and stopped using them pretty much right away with no fuss. The problem was, he had been a good sleeper up until he tossed the pacifier and then he couldn't sleep at all. DH made me go buy some new pacifiers. He kept them until he was 3 yo and then DH and he had a discussion and they agreed he was getting too old for them and he gave them up. |
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wrote in message
ups.com... Hi - can anyone advise re weaning my 17 month daughter off her pacifier? She only has it in bed at night and during nap times but I would like to wean her off it soon, for the following reasons: she has started waking us up a few times in the night asking for it when she has lost it; I think she has it in her mouth most of the night rather than just using it to fall asleep; she has a lisp when she speaks; people say that it will only get harder to wean her off it when she's older so I want to do it sooner rather than later. The more I hear people say this about seemingly everything, the more I question it as a reason to take action. Or maybe it's the idea that just because it might be "easy" means that it therefore, to some, also makes sense developmentally. I don't know, but something isn't right. Anyway, it might be hard at any time, or it might be quite easy. It depends on the kid. It *sounds* like it would be tough for your kid at this stage, based upon your brief description. My questions are - are my reasons good enough to wean her off it? I don't think so. Could she become very traumatised by not having it? I doubt it. But it could be a very difficult, depending on how attached she is. Could she substitute the pacifier for something else (thumb sucking etc) but just as bad? Maybe, but they don't go hand in hand. Both my kids used pacifiers, but didn't take to thumbsucking. Is she too young? Will it be harder to wean her off it when she's older (say 2 or 3 years old)? When my child was about your age, we negotiated a sleep-time only policy for it, to lessen usage. That worked out fine. At three years, she still uses it for nighttime sleep. She sleeps so well that I've not seen any reason to force it away. My 8.5 month old child, however, gave his up two months ago and has shown no interest in going back. So, I'm a proponent of going by the lead of the child. P. Tierney |
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P. Tierney wrote:
wrote in message ups.com... Hi - can anyone advise re weaning my 17 month daughter off her pacifier? She only has it in bed at night and during nap times but I would like to wean her off it soon, for the following reasons: she has started waking us up a few times in the night asking for it when she has lost it; I think she has it in her mouth most of the night rather than just using it to fall asleep; she has a lisp when she speaks; people say that it will only get harder to wean her off it when she's older so I want to do it sooner rather than later. The more I hear people say this about seemingly everything, the more I question it as a reason to take action. Or maybe it's the idea that just because it might be "easy" means that it therefore, to some, also makes sense developmentally. I don't know, but something isn't right. I think it's both. There *are* times when it is developmentally easier to get rid of pacifiers. Around 6 months, the innate *need* to suck lessens pretty dramatically for most kids. If you want to remove a pacifier at that stage, it's likely easier than at some other times. The child's reliance on the pacifier ebbs and flows over time as their developmental stage changes. If you hit a more or less difficult time developmentally, that can make a big difference in the reaction (as can hitting a more or less difficult time in terms of the child's environment). I do think that around 17 months tends to be a more difficult time to decide to go cold turkey. The ability of the child to understand and participate in the process is limited, as are the alternative comfort measures. So, I think most likely, if you want to go cold turkey, it'll get *easier* for a little bit, and then there'll be a little window of opportunity, and then it'll start getting harder again as the habit gets more entrenched without and offsetting developmental trend creating an increasing opportunity to wean to some other comfort measure. Best wishes, Ericka |
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