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OT - SAH or work full time... the issue gets pushed
P. Tierney wrote
I have to agree with this. I think the mother and child sitting alone at home is a rather unnatural paradigm. Maybe, but I hope you don't wish to characterize all stay-at-home situations as the parent and child just "sitting alone at home". I'm sure many or even most of them are not. Still, I personally found that for kids over a year old, preschools provided a child-friendly world that I could not, even though I had a large playroom dedicated to their use. It's just that a preschool is completely geared to kids. The furniture is the right size. The adults who are present are there for them, not attending to other things like laundry and cooking. There are new activities and objects quite frequently. And, most important, there are other small people. I think SAH moms can provide equivalent levels of fun and learning, and many do. Especially ones who are homeschooling, at least in the early years. But some don't, and get overtired with having to watch the children and also do all the household's work. I'm not suggesting the OP or any other specific mom fits this profile -- but I've seen it happen, several times. Of course, as much as some kids love preschool, there are some who don't. And if possible, it should be the kids who would hate it that should stay home, and those who have a blast at preschool should be given the opportunity. Rupa |
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OT - SAH or work full time... the issue gets pushed
"Banty" wrote in message ... In article , Stephanie Stowe says... SNIP Hell, I'd settle for the pool . . . Not in a million years would I ever get a pool. Well... unless it had a fence and a pool guy. Otherwise it is risk and work. I already took the pool guy. Come to think of it, I'll take the fence, too. Cheers, Banty Is that fence for the pool or the pool guy? |
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"dragonlady" wrote in message ... In article , "Stephanie Stowe" wrote: "Banty" wrote in message ... In article , Nan says... On Wed, 19 May 2004 19:36:26 GMT, P. Tierney wrote: On Wed, 19 May 2004 14:09:20 -0500, Nan It's always assumed that the mother should be the one to stay home, and if she chooses to go to work, she's a horrid mother. Pfft. And unfortunately, some of the "staying at home is awful" replies aren't using much better logic. The kid is just sitting around, watching TV, having no interaction, etc. Pfft to that too. What! You mean a SAHP doesn't lead a life of laaaaazzzy luxury? Nan, running and ducking EG Once you've had a bon-bon while watching "Days of our Lives", you'll never got back. I had a friend (a good and nice friend, but a bachelor and utterly clueless) ask me what I did on my days home with the kids. Did I sit and watch tv all day? He was over with DH one day when I was not here. He then apologized for the stupid question. It's like the Army, the hardest job you'll ever love. Since DH used to stay home one day a week with dd#1, he never had any illusions about what I did all day when I was home full time after #s2&3 (twins) were born! But my favorite story is about the dad who came home at the end of a day to see toys in the driveway, a littered livingroom, dishes in the sink, food on the carpet, the kids undressed and dirty and running around, and he looked around in horror and asked his wife what she'd been doing all day?!?! She said, "You know how you ask me every day what I did all day? Well, today, I didn't." That one totally cracked me up. |
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OT - SAH or work full time... the issue gets pushed
"Bruce Bridgman and Jeanne Yang" wrote in
message ... "Banty" wrote in message ... In article , Stephanie Stowe says... SNIP Hell, I'd settle for the pool . . . Not in a million years would I ever get a pool. Well... unless it had a fence and a pool guy. Otherwise it is risk and work. I already took the pool guy. Come to think of it, I'll take the fence, too. Cheers, Banty Is that fence for the pool or the pool guy? It is to keep law suits and injuries and death out of the pool. S |
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"Nevermind" wrote in message m... I would like to soon start using some part-time childcare for my 17 MO. I've sort of "been there done that" with full-time baby care and could use a break (she's my third child), but also, she is SO active and fun-loving that it's difficult to get ANYTHING done around here when she's awake, and she would love a setting with lots of equipment and other kids; and, finally, I am self-employed and really want to start working more than I have been since she was born. Daycare just seems so expensive and like such a big commitment, but no preschools around here will be ready for her for more than a year, and even then (she'll be 2.5), it's unlikely she'll be able to use the early dropoff and late pickup options because they're geared more toward older preschoolers, not older toddlers. Can anyone relate to my situation? Hi there! I have a daughter who is thriving in part-time daycare - she's nearly 18 months old, and goes three days a week. I totally understand why you would like to get your daughter involved in an active play class for some part time relief, and for her socialization. My daughter LOVES her class. She enjoys being at home with me the other four days a week, but honestly, I sometimes wonder if she's getting *enough* stimulation at home. I mean, how many times can we read, do puzzles, go to the zoo and the park before that becomes kind of old? smile Anyway, I had no trouble finding part-time daycare. Most of the daycares in my area (Tampa, FL) offer a very flexible package - drop in, hourly rates, half-days, half weeks.... you name it. I wonder if you might find what you are looking for if you drop in to the day cares near you and simply *ask* if they could accomodate you? I don't know where you live, but down here, what you are looking for is not just possible, but very common. Best of luck to you! Donna |
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