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The Melodrama of Adolescence
My daughter is driving me crazy.
She has a figure skating competition coming up. She's skating better than ever, but the way she deals with pre-comp nerves is going to drive me to drink (well except that I already do) or a stroke. There was a pre-comp exhibition tonight. In the warm up she cried, she was a terrible skater, she couldn't do this spin, everything I said was wrong, I didn't know what I was talking about..she didn't want to skate, she didn't want to do the spin. So I sez "Okay, you don't have to skate, let's go home" NOOOOOOOO! "Okay well take the spin out tonight" "I want to do the spin but I can't do the spin." "You do the spin fine for someone at your level" Now I don't bull**** my daughter but she's just not believing me. So in the exhibition, she falls on the spin and then CRIES throughout her entire program. Mind you, she lands every jump CRYING! She's skating fine but she keeps looking at her coach like "Let me go home!" and then at the end she does part of the combination spin she thought she was so bad at. Gets off the ice crying...will take no comfort from me. Well it helped that it was a bad night for everyone. Everyone fell. This is why the coach does this, get the nerves out here, in front of friends and family. As we leave, coach sternly lectures her "Do not cry on the ice! Cry before, cry after, cry on the way home, cry yourself to sleep- DO NOT CRY ON THE ICE!" Sarah laughs and jokes and is totally relaxed on the way home. Mother is a wreck. Joelle |
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Joelle wrote in message ... My daughter is driving me crazy. She has a figure skating competition coming up. She's skating better than ever, but the way she deals with pre-comp nerves is going to drive me to drink (well except that I already do) or a stroke. There was a pre-comp exhibition tonight. In the warm up she cried, she was a terrible skater, she couldn't do this spin, everything I said was wrong, I didn't know what I was talking about..she didn't want to skate, she didn't want to do the spin. So I sez "Okay, you don't have to skate, let's go home" NOOOOOOOO! "Okay well take the spin out tonight" "I want to do the spin but I can't do the spin." "You do the spin fine for someone at your level" Now I don't bull**** my daughter but she's just not believing me. So in the exhibition, she falls on the spin and then CRIES throughout her entire program. Mind you, she lands every jump CRYING! She's skating fine but she keeps looking at her coach like "Let me go home!" and then at the end she does part of the combination spin she thought she was so bad at. Gets off the ice crying...will take no comfort from me. Well it helped that it was a bad night for everyone. Everyone fell. This is why the coach does this, get the nerves out here, in front of friends and family. As we leave, coach sternly lectures her "Do not cry on the ice! Cry before, cry after, cry on the way home, cry yourself to sleep- DO NOT CRY ON THE ICE!" Sarah laughs and jokes and is totally relaxed on the way home. Mother is a wreck. Joelle All I can say is goodluck and you have along road ahead of you. |
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On Wed, 23 Jul 2003 00:22:34 +0100, "dolores"
wrote: "Joelle" wrote in message ... Update: Back from the competition, she did great - finished 6th out of 12, and everyone she competed against has an axel (the next level of jump) which she does not have - so to finish that high was really good. And one judge put her 3rd. Congrats Joelle, bet yer proud. And we had a fun vacation in St. Paul, Minnisota after the competition. And the kids didn't fight until we were about an hour away from home on the trip back, so maybe things are getting better.. LOL.... at least we have *one* thing in common Joelle. I was beginning to think that my kids were the only kids that fought...The biggy at the moment is who gets to sit in the front seat... I'm so fed up with it I get in the car and say that if they;re in strapped in by the time I close my door I'm going without them.....not that it works either!! Any tips? Mine are past it, but in their heyday, I made 'em alternate. When they fought even a tiny bit they both had to sit in the back until it was resolved and I didn't want to hear the discussion to resolve it. Wouldn't stop for anyone to get in the front, either, they had to resolve it for the next trip. Seemed to work. Cele |
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