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  #21  
Old July 4th 03, 04:53 AM
Tiffany
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Rachel Richard wrote in message
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Try having to see it. I work in a hospital and about 1 month ago we had
a 2 year old come into the hospital doa because he had hung himself on a
car window. The mother thought he was asleep in the room but he walked
outside to the car, climbed in somehow, got in the back seat and was
playing apparently and slipped and caught his throat on the car window
that was half way down and he died. Talk about heart breaking. All I
could picture was that they would have had to bury me right along with
him. He is all I have in this life.

Rachel


Wow... I couldn't work around that. I am glad there are those who can!

T


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Old July 4th 03, 03:31 PM
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It's not always easy, there are days I could run out crying and never
come back, but those days that we save the lives is what keep you there
trying to help in anyway you can---
Rachel

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Old July 4th 03, 03:39 PM
Rachel Richard
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No Ms Betsy you can't stop hi growth but I would love to just keep mine
young. My mom use to tell me when I left home that one day I would have
a child and get to have all the joys and sadness that she had with us.
Now I do know how hard it is to watch your child grow up and know that
one day he will leave me like I left my mom and dad. I know it may sound
crazy but he is all I have to call mine. I love him more that I can say,
he is what I live for. Anyway, just wanted to say thanks for the advice
you and everyone else has given. Some may help, we'll have to see. lol
and be careful today. Happy 4th of July.

Rachel

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Old July 4th 03, 06:14 PM
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"Rachel Richard" wrote in message
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Try having to see it. I work in a hospital and about 1 month ago we had
a 2 year old come into the hospital doa because he had hung himself on a
car window. The mother thought he was asleep in the room but he walked
outside to the car, climbed in somehow, got in the back seat and was
playing apparently and slipped and caught his throat on the car window
that was half way down and he died. Talk about heart breaking. All I
could picture was that they would have had to bury me right along with
him. He is all I have in this life.

Rachel



Actually, within the last couple weeks or so, a toddler got strangled in the
ropes of the blinds and the mother called 911 for help, but the child ended
up dying. I do not remember all the details, but very similar to what you
said above, and much closer to home from me. I could not work in any line
of work that involves people dying or even hurt on an even close to regular
basis. I've never liked doctors, but I definitely have so much respect for
the nurses, doctors, EMTs, even the police and fire fighters.


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Old July 4th 03, 08:16 PM
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snipped......even though is a pain in the arse....I am kind and considerate
to those that have to pay/min..........and those that read slow......YAH
LISTEN' Mickey Mouse??HUH?


Ah ****e I'm just blatherin' now....

Dolores


Blather away. Sometimes it's good for me to see replies like yours. It
makes me remember I have to think and be clear in my posts as well. In
person, you can say things, and your inflection, or the circumstances
leading up to those statements make clarification unnecessary. Here in a
newsgroup, however, one must remember the written word can not always

carry
inflection or sarcasm.


LOL......I really wish that were true sometimes.....but then again it
wouldn't such fun. Some posters are really good at posts loaded with sarcasm
etc etc.....I just type as I speak.....lol....with an Irish
Accent......(capital letters to represent the superiority of Irishness to
aaaaany other nationality........)wink

Things I tend to forget when I get 'on a roll' in a
post. I am dealing with the pre-teen angst as well as you are Dolores.


LOL.....Scary!!....Isnt it? But I've just left city life for a really really
remote location in west of Ireland. The difference is amazing.....In
contrast to any day in UK, today I have absolutely no idea where excatly my
kids are....I know they're with a neighbouring farmer since 10am (it's now
8pm)......doing the turf or some such job......but it's great, I'm not
breaking out in a sweat cos they're not in my line of sight and they are
doing something constructive as well as healthy and
active.......hmmmm....well apart from them coming home every evening
literally covered in cows ****e......lol


Maybe we can get together and whine about it, and share what works for the
other...and get through it together.


Oh that would be great Betsy!.....cos I really am on my own when it comes to
dealing with teenagers as a beginner.....

Isn't that what support is about? I
vent, and whine, and complain, but in the end I am the only one that can
deal with my life.


Ditto.....but I try not to complain.....cos if I start I cant stop once the
momentum gets welly behind it!!.....And to be honest I consider myself very
very lucky when I look around and see what *real* problems some parents
have......e.g. watching your baby die of malnutrition or having to sell your
daughter to feed the family.......Non of us have any right to moan. My lads
are healthy, happy and know there's food in the fridge and can sleep in bed
with out fear......Too many of us in Western civilisation take this for
granted......In actual fact it's a luxury if you look at the statistic
(sorry no webpage to support it.....too lazy)

I like to hear what others say, and especially those
that are currently in (or close to) the same situation as myself. Single
parent of a pre-teen. Some days I want to shout to the world, "Look at

what
a wonderful person my son is." And others, I want to lock him in a

closet,
because he is a pain!! I never lock him up, of course. So please people
don't misread me there! LOL!


lolol.......you wait! someone will!!

The worst thing I did yesterday was tell my
son he couldn't keep going on his walk. He had left the house without
telling me he was going for a walk. He is capable of going, and knows his
boundaries. There are sidewalks all the way along the street, between the
two cross streets. After that, the sidewalks disappear, and he can't go
there, simply because of the traffic. People use these streets as
thoroughfares, to avoid the traffic congestion on the major highway (just
one block west of my house) and they don't care about the speed limit, or

if
anyone is walking along the side of the road. So, I made the boy come
inside and stay there. Just, I feel I might have altered his desire to

just
"go for a walk" because he got punished. I told him I thought it was

great
he wanted to walk, but that he had to tell me first, before he left. I

also
need to figure out if I can raise the seat on his bicycle, or if I need to
by this rapidly growing adolescent a new one. The kid is nearly as tall

as
I am, and he is only 12 1/2.


Ditto that with my Ronan.....he's 13 (will be 14 in October) wears size 9
shoes and is as tall as me.......I actually wore one of his tshirts out
pubbing last night (put it back reeking of Armani Elle, before he got up and
going to suggest he wears it to town with me.......I'm really not such a
nice mother....LOL). He's generally a really good boy.....but I miss my
little 2 year old Ronan.....He was sooooo *sweet*.....I have a cassette of
him saying *Mammy!...I'm really tired....can I go to bed
now?.....Aaaah......

Now its "RONAN!!!......It's midnight.....If yer not in bed in 5 I'm going to
get angry!.....

I have a feeling I will be dwarfed by him
before long. Can we put bricks on their heads or something to stop the
growth?? LOL.


I reckon mine are secretly drinking the tomato feed when my backs
turned.....I cant keep up with the amount of food they eat. Ronan is fairly
slim but even an elephant cant pack it away the way he can......Kailin, my
11 y/o just simply *grazes* his way through the day......nonstop!!

Now who's blatherin'??


Me!...Again!

Betsy
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Meddle not in the affairs of Dragons, for you are crunchy and good with
ketchup.


*Still* think this is the best sig I've seen yet!!.....Used it on the kids a
couple of times.........lolol.....they thought it was really funny!!

Dolores




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Old July 4th 03, 09:10 PM
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I know what you mean about having hit close to home. Children can get
hurt in so many ways. We had a 5 year old get killed out here last year,
she woke up and heard her dad leaving for work, they believe she decided
she wanted to go see him and went after him outside. He was out of the
driveway and she ran onto the road and she was struck be a car doing 65
on a very foggy morning. I couldn't even imagine the hurt they have had
since that day. Kids have a mind of their own, sometimes they believe
they are doing good but it can be deadly for them.

Rachel

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Old July 4th 03, 11:47 PM
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*Still* think this is the best sig I've seen yet!!.....Used it on the
kids a couple of times.........lolol.....they thought it was really
funny!!

Dolores


I have another one on my outgoing email that says..."May the forces of evil
become confused on the way to your doorstep." I like that too. I am going
to look for some others sometime, in my spare time, when I am not working,
well that would be now, but I have to go have a barbeque at my parents, and
set of fireworks cuz it's 'tradition.'

Betsy
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Meddle not in the affairs of Dragons, for you are crunchy and good with
ketchup.


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Old July 5th 03, 03:16 PM
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dolores wrote in message ...

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Kids at your son's
age, are active, inquisitive, and sometimes just plain wild. It's normal
behavior, but it should not be tolerated.


I just cant agree with you there. It SHOULD be tolerated......and
encouraged......Kids cant be good well balanced adults if they're not
allowed to be real children....And being a real child involves all the
above....without stricture, unless it would endanger them or cause offence
to any party. As long as they know the boundaries (which shouldn't be too
restrictive) they will be ok. Why are modern day parents so hell bent on
controlling every move their child makes......All we're doing is storing up
problems for their teenage/adults years.



I know Betsy has already explained herself better but I can assure everyone
that there are many parents out there who do not let "kids be kids". Two
years ago Freddie and I stayed with his godparents and their two girls (also
my god-daughters). ALL toys were confined to the bedroom at all times! Not
even a rubber duck in the bathroom! The kids bedroom had to be tidied every
night as well! Bicycles, when not being actually ridden, had to be parked
properly in the garage, no chance of popping in for a pee whilst leaving the
bike at the door.
One morning the three children, mother and I went for a walk following a
night of heavy rain. The pavement was covered in huge puddles which the two
girls dutifully walked around keeping their pristine wellingtons nice and
clean. I called all the children together and pointed out a very large
puddle just ahead of us and then said in a stern voice that they were not
allowed to jump in it. The girls demurely said OK but Freddie asked why not?
"Because I'm going to jump in it! I shouted with enthusiasm and promptly did
a big two footer and drenched them all!
For the next half hour the three kids and I jumped into every puddle we saw
and the two girls shrieked with laughter and abandonment for the first time
in the three days we were there and probably for the first time in months.
I agree wholeheartedly with Dolores, let kids be kids, in fact I'd go
further, encourage them and join in.

Dennis


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Old July 5th 03, 05:00 PM
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Dennis Here youreply
wrote in message ...

dolores wrote in message ...

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let kids be kids, in fact I'd go
further, encourage them and join in.

Dennis



I wish my dad was as fun as you seem to be.

T


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Old July 5th 03, 08:44 PM
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All I
could picture was that they would have had to bury me right along with
him. He is all I have in this life.


I understand that feeling but you might want to be careful about how much you
express that. That's a terrible burden to lay on your son.

Joelle
 




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