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Questions about baby shower
"Steve and/or Erin" wrote in message ...
Has anyone ever had their shower after the baby? My MIL is insistent that we do it after (Jewish superstitious tradition), but everone else is encouraging me otherwise. It doesn't really matter so much to me, and I am not eager to make war with MIL (and it would be ugly). Since I am due in November, I am worried that no one is going to want to have to gather up during the holidays for MORE gift giving. Well, I'm Jewish, and hadn't heard of the superstition until after I was pg. So, I decided that it was a little silly for me to add a superstition that I didn't feel strongly about. (I don't have any problem with other people observing it - I just didn't feel strongly about it myself.) However, I respected my mom's wishes, and we didn't include my female relatives who might have been bothered. It was hosted by my MIL & SIL (neither Jewish, though both are married to Jews, and also have quite a few Jewish friends, some of whom were there), and while that was also a faux pas, I didn't have the heart to dissuade them since they were just so excited to plan it. The Jewish side of the family did come to the baby naming ceremony after the baby was born, both times. (Baby #2 didn't have a shower, since we didn't need much of anything.) Note that for a girl, there is no actual tradition for baby naming ceremonies, so you can set the date for any time you find convenient and/or meaningful to you. While it wasn't a "gift required" event like a shower, most people brought something. I will point out that the degree of December scheduling madness in a Jewish family greatly varies depending on how Jewish of a community you are in. If most of your close family, friends and associates are Jewish, it is probably no big deal. But if you are in a more mixed community, you will likely have lots of events to schedule around in December. It sounds like you already have lots of December stuff going on, so I would take that into consideration. (Because of all the intermarriages in dh's side, we get Thanksgiving at our house with both sides, Chanukah once with each side, and Christmas with his side, plus we try to do an office event, and for a few years we had a Chamber of Commerce holiday party, too. Whew!) Other questions: I have never been a fan of all female showers- any good Jack and Jill stories out there? Were single guys invited? Did they feel wierd? I went to a "family shower" last year. It was fun, but I didn't get to spend much time watching presents get opened because I was chasing ds. The guys mostly hung out outside during the present opening bit. I heard about a shower where they didn't open any presents to avoid the long lull in the middle of the party. At first I thought this sounded cool (neither DH or I are looking forward to being the center of attention for that long). But maybe people like seeing their gift opened? Opening presents is the big entertainment of a shower, usually. I like to see all the cute and/or silly things! If you want to skip that part, just don't have a shower. One thing I haven't noticed in your post - do you know who would be hosting your shower, if you had one? You really can't host a shower for yourself, anyhow, and if no one offers to host one, that answers the dilemma right there. If someone offers to host one, then you can negotiate the date with that person/group. HTH, Irene |
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Questions about baby shower
Has anyone ever had their shower after the baby?
I had *four* showers for my first baby, and one of them was afterwards--I think whe was about two months old. IIRC, we did it that way because of scheduling difficulties. I didn't enjoy it very much because Emily was colicky and she screamed the entire time unless I was nursing her. It was a family shower and all my aunts, cousines, and grandmothers had to have a try at soothing her and nothing worked. Being a new mother, it was nerve-wracking for me. Other questions: I have never been a fan of all female showers- any good Jack and Jill stories out there? What don't you like about all female showers? I've been to only one shower where men were included. They were pretty much all older men. I personally think single men would find it strange. I heard about a shower where they didn't open any presents to avoid the long lull in the middle of the party. IMO, the whole point of/highlight of the shower is watching the gifts being opened. Leslie Emily (2/4/91) Jake (1/27/94) Teddy (2/15/95) William (3/5/01 -- VBA3C, 13 lbs. 5 oz.) and Lorelei, expected 11/2/04 "Children come trailing clouds of glory from God, which is their home." ~ William Wordsworth |
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Questions about baby shower
Have a baby shower after Christmas - mid January - January is a horrid month
so it will give everyone something to look forward to - and with the January sales after Christmas you will get even better gifts Bws Jane ps. I had my first 4 in the UK where they don't ahve baby showers!! so enjoy "Steve and/or Erin" wrote in message ... Has anyone ever had their shower after the baby? My MIL is insistent that we do it after (Jewish superstitious tradition), but everone else is encouraging me otherwise. It doesn't really matter so much to me, and I am not eager to make war with MIL (and it would be ugly). Since I am due in November, I am worried that no one is going to want to have to gather up during the holidays for MORE gift giving. Other questions: I have never been a fan of all female showers- any good Jack and Jill stories out there? Were single guys invited? Did they feel wierd? I heard about a shower where they didn't open any presents to avoid the long lull in the middle of the party. At first I thought this sounded cool (neither DH or I are looking forward to being the center of attention for that long). But maybe people like seeing their gift opened? Thank in advance for any advice! Erin |
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Questions about baby shower
"Steve and/or Erin" wrote in message ...
Other questions: I have never been a fan of all female showers- any good Jack and Jill stories out there? Were single guys invited? Did they feel wierd? I've been to a several co-ed baby showers (and wedding showers for that matter). They can be quite fun. Even for the single guys. As long as the guys have a good sense of humor, even the traditional shower games can be quite hilarious. I remember one where we were supposed to fill in the blanks in common nursery rhymes--many of the guys got quite, um, creative with their answers, and everyone was rolling on the floor laughing by the end of the game. At another shower, the host provided a package of diapers for the guests to write advice or other sayings on (diapers for the couple to use the first day or two back from the hospital)--again, some of the things the guys come up with are a blast, and everyone ends up having a good time. I guess if the guys in your family/circle of friends are the surly "I hate anything remotely girly" type, then they might sour the mood of the party, but you'll have to judge that for yourself. Oh yeah--whoever plans the food should take guy's appetites into consideration--If you assume everyone will be content with an itty-bitty cup of punch and a petit-four, then you may run out of food once a couple of guys pick up large platefuls of whatever's provided.... I kind of wish my shower were going to be co-ed, since I enjoy the guys's company as much as the gals in our social group. However, after adding up all the people there would have been too many to fit in the hostess's house without feeling like sardines. DH may end up getting together with the guys and doing something during that time--probably involving either bowling or the X-Box... Good luck and have fun --Elit #1 due 9/20/2004 |
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