What would you ask a back-up OB?

Probably I would just let them know how hard I was working to learn about
all these medical options and describe my general risk tolerance. If she
remembers you're an educated person maybe she will treat you better in terms
of presenting options for interventions and non-interventions during the
actual unpredictable event rather than just doing stuff or saying "you need
XXX, OK?"

Regarding circumcision, breast feeding, etc. that's the first thing my new
doctor put in my chart and is very prominent on his intake form. But that's
an important thing to have in the chart, IMO.

-- Dagny
EDD 10/6/03


"Cheryl S." wrote in message
...
My next pre-natal appointment is with my midwife's back-up OB, just in
case my care should end up having to be transferred during labor.
Hopefully this will be the only appointment I have with her, so it's my
only chance to ask anything I might want to talk to her about. I
haven't been able to think of much though. Reviewing my birth plan
doesn't seem very useful, since if I do see her again it'll be because
things aren't going to plan anyway. Every question I can think of,
cannot possibly be honestly answered with anything other than "It
depends", so I would rather just leave any decisions to the time when
they actually become necessary. So what would you want to talk to the
OB about if you were in my situation?
--
Cheryl S.
Mom to Julie, 2 yr., 3 mo.
And a boy, EDD 4.Sept

Cleaning the house while your children are small is like
shoveling the sidewalk while it's still snowing.

On Thu, 10 Jul 2003 12:54:44 -0400, "Cheryl S."
wrote:

So what would you want to talk to the
OB about if you were in my situation?

Umm... possible questions...

What is the OB's c-section rate?
What is the OB's feeling on pain relief?

That is all I can think of. This is hard.

--
==Daye==
E-mail: brendana AT labyrinth DOT net DOT au

On Thu, 10 Jul 2003 14:31:50 -0400, Astromum
wrote:

People tend to make decisions for you, rather than ask you.

Oh, wow... this isn't my experience at all. I was asked about
everything that happened to me. I was able to say No. I also
had my DH as backup to fight for me, if I was unable to. He was
only needed once. All my other decisions were respected.

--
==Daye==
E-mail: brendana AT labyrinth DOT net DOT au

==Daye== wrote:
On Thu, 10 Jul 2003 14:31:50 -0400, Astromum
wrote:


People tend to make decisions for you, rather than ask you.


Oh, wow... this isn't my experience at all. I was asked about
everything that happened to me. I was able to say No. I also
had my DH as backup to fight for me, if I was unable to. He was
only needed once. All my other decisions were respected.

This is how they painted the picture *before* I went into
labour. But when I eventually got there, the experience
was quite different... Not always in a negative sense, but
definitely not the way they told us it would be.

--
-- Ilse
mom to Olaf (07/15/2002)
TTC #2
"What's the use of brains if you are a girl?"
Aletta Jacobs, first Dutch woman to receive a PhD

==Daye== wrote:

I hate misrepresentation. I expected to have to fight to get my
wishes heard and respected, but I didn't. It was nice.

Good for you! I hope to experience that too, some time...

--
-- Ilse
mom to Olaf (07/15/2002)
TTC #2
"What's the use of brains if you are a girl?"
Aletta Jacobs, first Dutch woman to receive a PhD

Cheryl S. wrote:

My next pre-natal appointment is with my midwife's back-up OB, just in
case my care should end up having to be transferred during labor.
Hopefully this will be the only appointment I have with her, so it's my
only chance to ask anything I might want to talk to her about. I
haven't been able to think of much though. Reviewing my birth plan
doesn't seem very useful, since if I do see her again it'll be because
things aren't going to plan anyway. Every question I can think of,
cannot possibly be honestly answered with anything other than "It
depends", so I would rather just leave any decisions to the time when
they actually become necessary. So what would you want to talk to the
OB about if you were in my situation?


I hear ya! I didn't have much in the way of insightful
questions to ask our backup OB. I had checked him out with a lot
of other people (midwives, other clients, etc.) so I felt I had
a decent idea how he was likely to handle a transfer and I also
liked that he had midwives in his practice and that I would transfer
into their care if the transfer was due to something that risked
me out of a homebirth, but not into something requiring an OB.
In hindsight, I might have asked him about versions--whether
he did them, what his success rate was, etc. As it turned out,
when I needed an OB for the version, I ended up going to someone
entirely different in order to get someone who was supposed to be
very, very good at them. On the other hand, I probably wouldn't
have picked that OB as my backup anyway because he wasn't at a
hospital that I would have chosen to be at. But if you're
interviewing, it might be an interesting question to ask.

Good luck,
Ericka

"==Daye==" wrote in message
Astromum
wrote:

This is how they painted the picture *before* I went into
labour. But when I eventually got there, the experience
was quite different... Not always in a negative sense, but
definitely not the way they told us it would be.

I hate misrepresentation. I expected to have to fight to get my
wishes heard and respected, but I didn't. It was nice.

This is what I'm really worried about in the event of a hospital transport
(having to fight). Since it would likely be quite an emergency that results
in transport, I know that a lot of my wishes would be automatically thrown
out the window (like the one about not wanting to go to the hospital!), but
I still have things that are really important to me about the baby's care
that I get really worried about having to fight for :-(

--
Em
edd 9/23/03

Cheryl S. wrote in message ...
My next pre-natal appointment is with my midwife's back-up OB, just in
case my care should end up having to be transferred during labor.
Hopefully this will be the only appointment I have with her, so it's my
only chance to ask anything I might want to talk to her about. I
haven't been able to think of much though. Reviewing my birth plan
doesn't seem very useful, since if I do see her again it'll be because
things aren't going to plan anyway. Every question I can think of,
cannot possibly be honestly answered with anything other than "It
depends", so I would rather just leave any decisions to the time when
they actually become necessary. So what would you want to talk to the
OB about if you were in my situation?
--
Cheryl S.
Mom to Julie, 2 yr., 3 mo.
And a boy, EDD 4.Sept

I just wanted to say that I don't really know what I'd ask, since I found
myself at almost all of my appointments with no questions and my OB asking
"do you have anything you want to talk about today?" and me saying "no, not
really". LOL. My point being, maybe you're just all set in that
department.

Helpful, huh?

laurie
mommy to Jessica, 27 months
and Christopher, 12 weeks

*This email address is now valid*
Cleaning the house while your children are small is like
shoveling the sidewalk while it's still snowing.

Maybe you could ask about how she feels about episiotomies or forceps
deliveries (does she routinely do either of these things?), so you can let
her know what you would like her to try if she could?

--
Sandi
Abby (9/20/00)
Natalie (7/27/02...almost 1!!)

"Cheryl S." wrote in message
...
My next pre-natal appointment is with my midwife's back-up OB, just in
case my care should end up having to be transferred during labor.
Hopefully this will be the only appointment I have with her, so it's my
only chance to ask anything I might want to talk to her about. I
haven't been able to think of much though. Reviewing my birth plan
doesn't seem very useful, since if I do see her again it'll be because
things aren't going to plan anyway. Every question I can think of,
cannot possibly be honestly answered with anything other than "It
depends", so I would rather just leave any decisions to the time when
they actually become necessary. So what would you want to talk to the
OB about if you were in my situation?
--
Cheryl S.
Mom to Julie, 2 yr., 3 mo.
And a boy, EDD 4.Sept

Cleaning the house while your children are small is like
shoveling the sidewalk while it's still snowing.

On Fri, 11 Jul 2003 02:44:27 GMT, "Em"
wrote:

This is what I'm really worried about in the event of a hospital transport
(having to fight).

Make sure that your partner knows what you want and why *before*
anything happens. My DH knew exactly what I wanted and why. We
talked about it several times during the last part of my
pregnancy. He was there in case I couldn't stand up for myself.
He only had to come to my aid once, but when it did, it was
glorious.

--
==Daye==
Momma to Jayan
#2 EDD 11 Jan 2004
E-mail: brendana AT labyrinth DOT net DOT au