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I have a third-grade daughter. A classmate's mother is pushing me to
buy training bras for my daughter, which apparently her daughter already wears. While it's true my daughter is starting to "bloom," she's still young and hasn't shown an interest herself. (I offered a while back.) My daughter seems like such a kid to me, and I don't want her teased...either for having one or *not* having one. How does a parent know when a young girl needs her first bra? Thanks. beeswing |
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dragonlady wrote in :
If your daughter isn't interested, and her body doesn't need them, I see no particular point to getting one. And why on EARTH would her classmate's mother think it's any of her damned business whether or not your daughter wears a training bra? I think that is the part of your post that most got my attention! It may be nothing to do with Beeswing's daughter, more that the other mum does not want her own daughter to be the only one wearing a training bra. -- Penny Gaines UK mum to three |
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"Penny Gaines" wrote in message
... It may be nothing to do with Beeswing's daughter, more that the other mum does not want her own daughter to be the only one wearing a training bra. I half-wondered that myself. beeswing |
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I've never quite understood the "training bra" concept. Exactly who or
what is in training? Oh well. Training wasn't really was was being called for here. It's just the only term I know. I saw "real" training bras for little kids while I was out today. Little triangles with lace on them, a hook-and-eye back, totally flat things -- in my opinion, the only purpose to them was to push little kids to grow up way too fast. I found something downright distasteful about them. I didn't get bras for my daughters until they asked, or until they were into at least an A cup and clearly would benefit from one. On the other hand, both tended to prefer baggy clothes when they were at an age where they were first likely to need them (not uncommon, by the way). In third grade I don't think teasing about bras is becoming common yet; by 5th grade, it may be different, and certainly in middle school comments about underwear and bust sizes are common. Teasing about bras? Having them? Or not having them and "needing" them (loosely speaking)? When I was in elementary school, I remember being bullied because my mom made my clothes and had put *darts* in the top. If your daughter isn't interested, and her body doesn't need them, I see no particular point to getting one. And why on EARTH would her classmate's mother think it's any of her damned business whether or not your daughter wears a training bra? I think that is the part of your post that most got my attention! Oh, it was worse than that. I outlined the story in a later post. Thanks for your input! beeswing |
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beeswing wrote in :
[snip] they were first likely to need them (not uncommon, by the way). In third grade I don't think teasing about bras is becoming common yet; by 5th grade, it may be different, and certainly in middle school comments about underwear and bust sizes are common. Teasing about bras? Having them? Or not having them and "needing" them (loosely speaking)? Also there is teasing about not needing them yet, whether or not one wears them. -- Penny Gaines UK mum to three |
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Penny Gaines wrote:
Also there is teasing about not needing them yet, whether or not one wears them. I realized that would be the case. beeswing |
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DD, age 11.5, started complaining that certain shirts bothered her
when she was in 4th grade. Because we live in a warm climate, undershirts in summer really weren't the best idea, so I got her a couple of the cotton 'sports' bras. Not 'training bras', more like exercise bras with t-backs. She wore those for a year or two, and then she did need a bit more support, and moved to an actual bra. She's small still, hasn't moved to a real cup size, but I can think of some adults she's bigger than, so she probably could use a real bra about now. I waited until she showed interest, but she wasn't, by any means, the first kid in her class. There was at least one girl I knew of in 3rd grade, and several in 4th grade that were before her. These were all girls who could be considered overweight. DD is *very* thin, so her need was actual breast tissue, and not just chubbiness. My feeling is, ask every once in a while, and if your daughter doesn't show any interest, then don't push it. And tell your friend to MYOB and stop pushing YOUR child to grow up. Marjorie |
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Marjorie wrote:
My feeling is, ask every once in a while, and if your daughter doesn't show any interest, then don't push it. Thanks, that's what I thought. And tell your friend to MYOB and stop pushing YOUR child to grow up. This lady isn't a friend, she's a stranger to me -- that's the worst part of it. But *YES,* definitely. beeswing |
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beeswing wrote:
I have a third-grade daughter. A classmate's mother is pushing me to buy training bras for my daughter, which apparently her daughter already wears. Sheesh. To the classmate's mother, say this: "Thank you, but I will buy it when either daughter or I think it's necessary" Repeat as necessary. Scott DD 10.5 and DS 8, rolling my eyes. |
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