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"Very Determined!" wrote "Gini" wrote: wrote ................................. Ma'am, from many NCPs perspectives, child support is ransom. You pay it, you might get to see your kid. Some NCP's don't like the idea of paying ransom, particularly if their child doesn' t live near them and they don't get to see them much even after paying the ransom. ...................................... Blame him all you want -- but I suspect your child's suffering is the result of child support policy and your buying into the lie that it's "for the children." Thousands (millions?) of children, including mine, are similarly suffering. Best of luck . To your son. == I can't help thinking that any parent who willingly turns control of their children over to the government (court) with or without the hope of profiting from same, deserves the consequences. Tragically, their kids don't deserve it and they are the ones most hurt by this "for the kids" ruse. Look at all the catch phrases she used: "I believe in his future," "fighting for your child's rights," "child's worth," (that one was a real stretch as if, if she doesn't get reimbursed, the child has less value), "fight..for what legally belongs to him" (when she is well aware that it legally belongs to her), "I do it for him," "suffer to support him." Then she plasters the man's name all over the internet as a deadbeat, puts a lien on his house and then asserts that she'd really rather he had a relationship with his son and pretends it's all for the boy. Well, the boy will soon be old enough to get online and do a little research into what his mom's been doing with her time. Perhaps, he'll even forgive her, someday. OMG, you caught on to my scam...thanks for your insightful opinion. Foiled again? My conscience had the best of me with this little scheme I had going on. I was pretending...( I am rubbing my hands together in an evil attempt to fool you, again) The boy is old enough to get on- line and I hope he gets paid for the web sites he soo proudly created to find the deadbeat...Now that I have been caught I just don't know what I will do with all this extra time on my hands...maybe now a scheme to full the world?How do I fool the all knowing?any suggestions? == Nah. You are clearly in over your head. |
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"Very Determined!" wrote in message oups.com... On Sep 21, 11:02 am, "Chris" wrote: "Very Determined!" wrote in message oups.com... On Sep 18, 3:37 pm, "DB" wrote: "Very Determined!" wrote in working...like I told him before McDonald's is always hiring...his child still has to eat and live whether he has a job or not! My father raised 3 kids on one blue collar salary with no handout from anyone, so what's your problem? Your dad should be commended! But my circumstances are not yours or your dads.FYI, I am not looking for a handout, for ten years I left him alone, figured he would do the right thing. When he could, (which he can), I figured he would help support his child, we created together. "His child,we created together" key phrase! Key phrase, but FALSE phrase. It was YOU, and you ALONE (by your SOLE choice) who created your child. Your phrase is like saying because I handed you a packet of yeast, "we" created a loaf of bread.......... He never did, and willfully unemployed himself as well as fled from state to state to avoid his obligations and responsibilities to his child. My current husband worked two jobs, killing himself, and I are ready for the violin...with removal of my thyroid other glands failed to their joworked full time too so that we could eat, live, and my child could be well educated today, not ten, fifteen, twenty years ago (the cost of living is much different now). And we did what we had to do, because life wasn't fair my child should not have to suffer, and we did whatever we had to do to make sure he has what TWO parents should give him. I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer, so with that I had to undergo a radical thyroidectomy, and radiation. Let me know when your b, and so on...so I am on meds the rest of my life, and hope to find out if I am cancer free soon. With my health issues my husband had to leave his second job, to help run the household and take care of me, therefore financially we hurt because HE takes care of all his children including two others from a previous marriage. So legally my husband is obligated to care for them first before we even eat! Health wise I shouldn't be working the hours I do, but I know my obligations and responsibilities, and even continue my education where I graduate in May with my bachelors in Criminal Justice,YEAH!!! and if my health allows hopefully to law school in September of 08. Anyway, #1. My husband is not my son's father and he is not legally obligated to care for him. #2. Why is the bilogical father any less responsible than I am? Because it was YOU, not him who made the sole choice to bear your child. It is ILLEGAL for him to make such choice. (see above) #3. Why am I looking for a handout when everyone is doing their job, but the absent bilogical father? #4. How is my son going to feel when I tell him, I knew where your father was I just didn't care enough to fight for you, because I don't want to bother with it? Because we dont' need? We might not need it today...but my child might, when he needs a new pair of size 15 shoes, and I cannot buy them because I have to buy my medicine or pay for my doctor's visit. My child might need the money when he needs new school supplies and I have to be in the hospital. My child might need it when he is hungry at school and I need gas in my car. I am sorry your dad had to do it by himself, or chose to, but why do I have a problem if I am willing to get up and fight for what is legally obligated to my son?!? He deserves that, at the very least...We all have choices about our lives, I choose to not be a martyr and make sure the biological father is held responsible for his actions or inactions. Responsible for "inactions". Don't you just LOVE it! What the heck is THAT supposed to mean? - Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text -- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - Key phrase, but FALSE phrase. It was YOU, and you ALONE (by your SOLE choice) who created your child. Your phrase is like saying because I handed you a packet of yeast, "we" created a loaf of bread.......... Sorry to disappoint you on this one...I did not supply the sperm, and inject it. So "we created this child." He and I chose to create this child, and I chose to nurture and bear him. Ok, and why does any of that matter now..the child is here,living and breathing? Because of your SOLE choice. No dissapointment at all. It is illegal for him to force you into parenthood. So, unless he or someone else committed such crime, the only option left is that you became a parent SOLELY by your own choice. Responsible for "inactions". Don't you just LOVE it! What the heck is THAT supposed to mean? It means that after searching high and low for the NCP for 10 years, and finding him in prison for domestic violence, ("my duty as the CP," right?) that he was told once again where his child lives,( in the same place for 14 years) and his child's phone number (the same for 14 years) that he needed to be a part of his child's life...because the child at least deserved that. He decided to do nothing, not call him, write him, wish him happy birthday...nothing! So inaction means absence of action, and that is how I have applied it here. "Responsibility" is tied to action by every facet of the definition. It is impossible to be responsible for that which does not exist (inaction). I think you are much more angry than I am. When it comes to people getting ripped off, I'm sure I am. I don't understand your defense of this scumbag That's because you lack a fundamental understanding of the concept of responsibilities being inherently bundled with RIGHTS. except that I have what I have needed to do, and will keep doing it. He needs to let his step-father adopt him and let him have the real father he deserves. |
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"Very Determined!" wrote in message ups.com... On Sep 24, 11:29 am, "Gini" wrote: "Very Determined!" wrote On Sep 21, 5:42 pm, "DB" wrote: ................................. Are your finances so low that $100 is going to break you? What planet are you from? Yes, why do I bother with this? $100.00 to you might be nothing but to us it is determining whether we will eat, pay for my meds, or make the rent??? == First: The CS is not for your meds, it's for the child's needs only. Second: You make a lousy choice in men to procreate with and now you want *my* tax dollars to fund your quest for that 100 bucks? Ok, and what planet are you from?? Child Support is for the well being of the child, as long as he has what he needs, food, shelter, education to the best that I can provide it...that child support is for whatever I deem necessary. Including booze, dope, and gifts for live-in boyfriends......... So for example, if I go to the grocery store and spend $100.00 in groceries for him and I, $50.00 for me, $50.00 for the child, my part of the child's goceries is $25.00 and the NCP's part is $25.00...I spent my medicine money on those groceries, so look at it as reimbursement for my extra half. No one asks for an accounting of child support money, why do you? |
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"Very Determined!" wrote in message ps.com... On Sep 25, 6:48 am, Relayer wrote: On Sep 25, 12:25?am, "teachrmama" wrote: "Very Determined!" wrote in message oups.com... On Sep 24, 4:47 pm, Relayer wrote: On Sep 24, 6:13?pm, Very Determined! wrote: On Sep 24, 10:13 am, Relayer wrote: On Sep 24, 11:29?am, Very Determined! wrote: On Sep 21, 11:02 am, "Chris" wrote: Sorry to disappoint you on this one...I did not supply the sperm, and inject it. So "we created this child." He and I chose to create this child, and I chose to nurture and bear him. Ok, and why does any of that matter now..the child is here,living and breathing? There are some men on this forum that advocate men getting out of CS because they dont have a say in the child even being born, which is a totally asinine arguement. Anyway, the father owes you..yes..you can hunt him down..yes.but putting a lean on his house and threatening to take that away was just as asinine. He's a deadbeat, granted, but doing what you didnt will just encourage him to further hide assets. And telling him to work McDonalds isnt all that smart either. It's pretty much a lost cause here. You will never see a dime from the idiot. Move on. The $100 a month is not worth the aggravation. Ok, putting a lien on a sprawling ranch was assanine, what was I thinking...to legally obtain what belonged to my son, I guess I wasn't thinking rationally. I wonder why creditors do that? Oh, probably because they want to make sure they get paid what they are owed, damn I'm dumb. The NCP does deserve to be left alone...poor guy, nice house, nice cars, vacations...and the son he is legally obligated to take care of?? He has every right, to live without consequences to his actions, there are more important things to take care, his contracting business, buying more properties and making more children. (I wonder what happened to the morality of having a child,and taking care of it?) Yes, very stupid on my part. I wonder if I can have my 5 minutes of fame with an immacualte conception...hmmm. And Iike I McDonald's...what's wrong with working there?- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - Did the lein get you anything but someone on the run? No. I wasnt being critical in your effort to get the CS owed you, but rather the method. Then again, $100 a month is pretty funny. He sounds like a real successful wheeler-dealer. Donald Trump II evidently, buying and selling, owning his own company. I am also not arguing the morality. I believe it's the responsibility of every parent to support children they helped create.- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - He moved back to Virginia from Florida with his now ex-wife before the lien...then they came back to Florida to quit-claim all properties to his now ex-wife wife and try to keep his driver's license. Luckily for me I knew the error of my ways and did not marry him. He does not owe me the $100.00 a month, he owes his current ex-wife $100.00 a month and she has to pay him $100.00 in alimony, so just a wash...as stipulated in their very amicable divorce..she initiated the divorce due to domestic violence, very fishy, all in all, I guess people do forgive and forget their @ss, and her daughter were busted up, more power to her. She is for sure a better person than I....he owes me $300.00 a month which is in arrears of $30,000.00 right now. So he lives and breathes behind his ex-wife's coat-tails...what did I really expect...if he is willing to go through all this trouble, it really makes it all the more worth it, I guess...I may not know much, but Child Support never goes away, it is a debt he will have for the rest of his life until he pays up or dies...so he can keep running and hiding CSE is using "Gini's" tax dollars to find him, even though if and when I receive anything, my "son's money is deducted to cover the national deficit..Thanks for all your responses I think the question many people here are trying to get you to think about is: Is it worth it? Is it worth your time and effort to go after money you might never receive? Is it worth the stress it seems to cause you? I'm sure the money would come in handy--when does money NOT come in handy when you are raising children? If your son's father wants to keep evading child support, it seems that he will be able to do so--and it seems that you are the one jumping through hoops and getting stressed out--not him. Is it worth it? As for your son deserving a father--of course he does. But that is not something you have any control over. If the man does not see it as his duty to parent his son, you can't force him to do so. Does that make it right? No. But all kinds of things happen in this world that are not right, and the people affected have to keep on living, and do the next thing that is set before them. You can't make somebody accept your version of morality, as frustrating as that may be. Look at the big picture, and where things will be 10 years from now--will it make a huge difference if you get the money, compared to if you don't? I'm neither encouraging nor discouraging you from any particular course of action. Good luck - Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text -- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - Exactly- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - Ok, maybe I am an idiot...but when is fighting for your child's rights not worth it?? He has a right to be taken care of to the best that I can provide for him. I could not live with myself knowing where his father is, and knowing what he has, and yet has never chosen to take any part of his child's life..and Yes, I have written, called, emailed, texted to let the NCP know his child is in the same spot for the last 14 years and would appreciate him being apart of his life..And how could I not fight for what legally belongs to him? Oh, what a revelation...it isn''t worth it and way to much trouble, my son is always worth it. Especially that I am not one to sit and leave it alone...If I fail, I fail..but I will know I gave it everything I had...just my opinion...I feel for all the mothers and fathers who do not have a voice, or choose not to use their voice and hurt because the NCP will not do there share, everyone has their reasons why they do what they do, but mine are simple...I say give it all you got...child support never goes away, eventually the consequences will come to fruition??No? The least he could do is allow my husband to adopt him or just be a part of his life. Your right I can't make him be a father if he doesn't want to be, and really why should I according to a few of the responses above, I created and chose to bear him on my own, He is my responsibility and mine alone. I can't spend money I don't have to hunt him down, I am not a complete dummy...and chasing him from the safety of my computer does not stress me as much as idiots who criticize me for living with an illness that so many others live with, and I have to survive on a daily regimen of meds and I have to figure out where I am gonna come up with the money...that stresses me out, because the money I put away for those meds went to my son's groceries, and my overtime barely covered the power for half of the month, but I know, "big deal," not your problem but everyone's reason to judge and criticize me on what the heck am I doing?Its not good enough, and its the wrong thing because it is not their way, or their paren'ts way or their friends way, etc...about how wonderful their families did it for them...this is how wonderful I do it for him and I understand your opinions on the situation, just like soo many others who feel it easier to leave well enough alone...Maybe I just haven't figured out the easy way....I have completely put this NCP everywhere, on the internet, local newspapers, posters, paper trail all the way to the attorney general, and on sooooo many post sites, right, wrong, or otherwise I am just a little thrown back by all the negative judgment and distaste for my actions and not the NCP's, it must be hard to be all knowing of my situation and and negatively critical...I appreciate all your input...I have seen the light, lets devalue the NCP's crime! which by the way, it is! ...and I should get another job to support what I and I alone created...I should suffer to support him, like so many others do, and reap the consequences of "my" actions, get another job, to coincide with the one I already have in addition to continuing on with my education because I and I alone believe in his future.... Not negative judgements--you're not reading it right. There is only so much energy each person has--and how to spend that energy is a very important decision. If spending your energy chasing down a man who has successfully eluded you for 14 years is worth your energy, then, by all means, go for it. But I, myself, would hate to look back and see missed opportunities with my children because I was so busy pursuing what is "rightfully theirs." Especially is what is "rightfully theirs" was never attained. No, child support never goes away--but if, 40 years from now, he dies penniless, all you will have is a worthless piece of paper saying that he owes you. I'm sorry about the position you are in right now. It must be overwhenling at times. And I do understand why you are attemptimg to get the money that the courts have ordered him to pay. He sounds like quite a scumball, from the way you have described him. Have you ever thought about filing to have his parental rights terminated, since he never sees his child and does not pay support? Then your husband could adopt him--and if the boy's bio dad objects, he will have to explaing why to the judge--and why he has not been paying CS. |
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To everything I have read above, I think it is quite Brazen and Rude
to be so judgmental in a negative way toward her wanting to get the child support that was COURT ORDERED to her. This man IS a DEADBEAT and she has Every Right to use Whatever Resource she can to try and seek the help of the public to find him. If more people would do this, it would make it tougher on deadbeats to hide their money. There would be less tax dollars being spent on Many Things if these DEADBEATS were located and forced to pay their Court Ordered JUDGEMENT. This man has an obligation to fulfill.... and it doesnt matter how long it takes for him to pay off his Court Ordered Obligation, he should be forced to do so... and if he ends up arrested and given a work release to do so... that would be the best case scenario. He should show his child RESPECT by doing so willingly. What he owes is not actually near what it takes to raise a child. Get off your soapbox about what she wants for herself. She is entitled to that money or their wouldnt be a court order. It is money to raise the child. I'm sure she will continue to provide things for that child after moving out of the home... with money still coming in from arrears. I fully support her efforts in what she is doing. And when her child sees what she has done (as that person tried to make it sound the child would be ashamed or angry and the mother would need forgiveness... give me a break !! Geez !!), the child will know how much effort she has put into taking up for BOTH their rights. I have my deadbeat plastered all over. I showed my teen children and asked their opinion before I did it. I had my ex ARRESTED with my poster in one day. After he was bonded out by his cash employer, I am taking pics of him working on jobsites to give to the judge when we go back to court. I will do anything I can to make the public aware that they can help many children and the custodial parents by getting active in taking pics and sending them in when they know someone is working for cash and hiding it. It benefits everyone (tax dollars) by Taking a Stand against this ignorant behavior that deadbeats have. My children SEE how their father hides his money... and there is several incomes in his home, which none of my children have ever lived in with his "new family". I dont have enough time to write about all that fraudulent crap. My children are hurt by their fathers excuses he gives every time he sees them... and even though he doesnt pay, I dont stand in the way whenever they want to see each other. I keep their channels open between them. I dont let his ignorance of not paying be a reason they cant see each other... he does a good enough job of that by being in the same town and seldom making contact... my kids usually have to go hunt him down. Deadbeats are Deadbeats in many ways. You cant change their habits, but you can make them see they are WRONG. You can help the system make it harder on them to hide by being active in supporting Custodial Parents and the children involved. You people that judge and put her down, Shame on You. She is doing what she has to do. YOU PEOPLE need to be active in turning in people when you know its going on... whoever and wherever it is. Turning a blind eye doesnt make the problem go away for the child and custodial parent. Making snide comments does no good. Until you walk in our shoes, dont throw stones. If you have money owed to you and you dont do anything, that is not in the best interest of you and your child. Child Support Enforcement and police can only do so much.... there isnt enough Tax Money for them to do all the Work WE Have To Do to help push this hard enough to Find The Offender. I dont have the time to debate with those of you making catty, snide comments about our Responsibility to see this through. I will check in here and there. We do what we have to do... and we do it with PRIDE in hopes of making a difference in our children's lives... and YES... our lives too. Those DeadBeats have a responsibility to US and some day laws will be stronger, and your tax dollars wont be as affected because we Took A Stand in making a difference. And Maybe... just maybe... Everyones Children wont have to go through as much as we do when they have children of their own because We Cared To Put Ourselves On The Line To Be Chastised By People Who Dont Understand Our Mission. |
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On Sep 25, 12:19?am, "Chris" wrote:
"Very Determined!" wrote in message oups.com... On Sep 24, 10:13 am, Relayer wrote: On Sep 24, 11:29?am, Very Determined! wrote: On Sep 21, 11:02 am, "Chris" wrote: Sorry to disappoint you on this one...I did not supply the sperm, and inject it. So "we created this child." He and I chose to create this child, and I chose to nurture and bear him. Ok, and why does any of that matter now..the child is here,living and breathing? There are some men on this forum that advocate men getting out of CS because they dont have a say in the child even being born, which is a totally asinine arguement. Anyway, the father owes you..yes..you can hunt him down..yes.but putting a lean on his house and threatening to take that away was just as asinine. He's a deadbeat, granted, but doing what you didnt will just encourage him to further hide assets. And telling him to work McDonalds isnt all that smart either. It's pretty much a lost cause here. You will never see a dime from the idiot. Move on. The $100 a month is not worth the aggravation. Ok, putting a lien on a sprawling ranch was assanine, what was I thinking...to legally obtain what belonged to my son, I guess I wasn't thinking rationally. I wonder why creditors do that? Oh, probably because they want to make sure they get paid what they are owed, damn I'm dumb. The NCP does deserve to be left alone...poor guy, nice house, nice cars, vacations...and the son he is legally obligated to take care of?? He has every right, to live without consequences to his actions, there are more important things to take care, his contracting business, buying more properties and making more children. Newsflash: Men don't make children. Yes they do. |
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wrote in This man IS a DEADBEAT and she has Every Right to use Whatever Resource she can to try and seek the help of the public to find him. Why is it the public's problem to solve a woman's own personal problem? |
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On Sep 24, 2:29 pm, "Gini" wrote:
"Very Determined!" wrote On Sep 21, 5:42 pm, "DB" wrote: ................................. Are your finances so low that $100 is going to break you? What planet are you from? Yes, why do I bother with this? $100.00 to you might be nothing but to us it is determining whether we will eat, pay for my meds, or make the rent??? == First: The CS is not for your meds, it's for the child's needs only. Second: You make a lousy choice in men to procreate with and now you want *my* tax dollars to fund your quest for that 100 bucks? This guy must be a non-custodial parent that owes child support, in the middle of a child support case, or just an idiot. Here is why you are an idiot, and also why you shouldn't be allowed to procreate: "Because in the USA you, and you alone, had the sole right to bear and keep, abort, adopt, or "safe haven" (legally abandon) your child. The biological father had none of those choices. With rights come responsibilities. If you want to even out the responsibilities, how about relocating and offering him 50/50 custody, and agree to terminate all financial child support? Or do you believe that a divorced/separated father is not being "responsible" if he's not paying the mother a monthly stipend? A lot of people think that way, sadly." The truth is that a woman doesn't create life on her own, and it is the "live sperm" that creates life in the womb, and I am sure not even someone as stupid as you can argue with that fact. The fact that it was that deadbeat Dave's choice to bust a nut all up in there, knowing full well that that's how babies are made. You're saying that he should NOT take responsibility because the woman didn't want to have an abortion or give the baby away. Why should she have an abortion and ruin her body internally, possibly causing scaring that could have prevented her from having anymore children, because this guy wants to F**k but not wrap it up? Why should she relocate to him? He shouldn't left in the first place. When he did have access to his child, but didn't bother to help support him then, and is still not supporting the child! Where do you get off telling her 50/50 custody, and drop child support? He owes his child that money, he owed the mother of his child that money, and if his b**ch-made, baby-making a** would have been taking care of his responsibilities we wouldn't have anything to comment about! Has he taken 50/50 responsibility in all of the child's life? Has he taken 50/50 responsibility financially? Was he sharing 50/50 when he had a pocket full of money and the child had nothing? How about when she was pregnant, did he share 50/50 of the morning sickness? He hasn't even taken 5% of the anything concerning the child, and you probably the same type of person! I do believe that a divorced/separated parent is not being responsible when he doesn't have a relationship with his child, and when he doesn't pay child support. When there is no relationship, financial obligations aren't just forgotten about. Maybe your father raised you to think that men have some right to COMPLETELY ABANDON the children THEY HELP CREATE, but not me. We are Americans, and in America MEN AND WOMEN are held accountable for their children. If he were not in the wrong, he wouldn't be hiding from his child. If you're so concerned with your tax dollars, write to your local legislator and request that the child support avoidance be criminal instead a civil matter? Do something usefull with your time, and stupidity! |
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On Sep 26, 1:09 am, "Chris" wrote:
"Very Determined!" wrote in message oups.com... On Sep 21, 11:02 am, "Chris" wrote: "Very Determined!" wrote in message roups.com... On Sep 18, 3:37 pm, "DB" wrote: "Very Determined!" wrote in working...like I told him before McDonald's is always hiring...his child still has to eat and live whether he has a job or not! My father raised 3 kids on one blue collar salary with no handout from anyone, so what's your problem? Your dad should be commended! But my circumstances are not yours or your dads.FYI, I am not looking for a handout, for ten years I left him alone, figured he would do the right thing. When he could, (which he can), I figured he would help support his child, we created together. "His child,we created together" key phrase! Key phrase, but FALSE phrase. It was YOU, and you ALONE (by your SOLE choice) who created your child. Your phrase is like saying because I handed you a packet of yeast, "we" created a loaf of bread.......... He never did, and willfully unemployed himself as well as fled from state to state to avoid his obligations and responsibilities to his child. My current husband worked two jobs, killing himself, and I are ready for the violin...with removal of my thyroid other glands failed to their joworked full time too so that we could eat, live, and my child could be well educated today, not ten, fifteen, twenty years ago (the cost of living is much different now). And we did what we had to do, because life wasn't fair my child should not have to suffer, and we did whatever we had to do to make sure he has what TWO parents should give him. I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer, so with that I had to undergo a radical thyroidectomy, and radiation. Let me know when your b, and so on...so I am on meds the rest of my life, and hope to find out if I am cancer free soon. With my health issues my husband had to leave his second job, to help run the household and take care of me, therefore financially we hurt because HE takes care of all his children including two others from a previous marriage. So legally my husband is obligated to care for them first before we even eat! Health wise I shouldn't be working the hours I do, but I know my obligations and responsibilities, and even continue my education where I graduate in May with my bachelors in Criminal Justice,YEAH!!! and if my health allows hopefully to law school in September of 08. Anyway, #1. My husband is not my son's father and he is not legally obligated to care for him. #2. Why is the bilogical father any less responsible than I am? Because it was YOU, not him who made the sole choice to bear your child. It is ILLEGAL for him to make such choice. (see above) #3. Why am I looking for a handout when everyone is doing their job, but the absent bilogical father? #4. How is my son going to feel when I tell him, I knew where your father was I just didn't care enough to fight for you, because I don't want to bother with it? Because we dont' need? We might not need it today...but my child might, when he needs a new pair of size 15 shoes, and I cannot buy them because I have to buy my medicine or pay for my doctor's visit. My child might need the money when he needs new school supplies and I have to be in the hospital. My child might need it when he is hungry at school and I need gas in my car. I am sorry your dad had to do it by himself, or chose to, but why do I have a problem if I am willing to get up and fight for what is legally obligated to my son?!? He deserves that, at the very least...We all have choices about our lives, I choose to not be a martyr and make sure the biological father is held responsible for his actions or inactions. Responsible for "inactions". Don't you just LOVE it! What the heck is THAT supposed to mean? - Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text -- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - Key phrase, but FALSE phrase. It was YOU, and you ALONE (by your SOLE choice) who created your child. Your phrase is like saying because I handed you a packet of yeast, "we" created a loaf of bread.......... Sorry to disappoint you on this one...I did not supply the sperm, and inject it. So "we created this child." He and I chose to create this child, and I chose to nurture and bear him. Ok, and why does any of that matter now..the child is here,living and breathing? Because of your SOLE choice. No dissapointment at all. It is illegal for him to force you into parenthood. So, unless he or someone else committed such crime, the only option left is that you became a parent SOLELY by your own choice. Responsible for "inactions". Don't you just LOVE it! What the heck is THAT supposed to mean? It means that after searching high and low for the NCP for 10 years, and finding him in prison for domestic violence, ("my duty as the CP," right?) that he was told once again where his child lives,( in the same place for 14 years) and his child's phone number (the same for 14 years) that he needed to be a part of his child's life...because the child at least deserved that. He decided to do nothing, not call him, write him, wish him happy birthday...nothing! So inaction means absence of action, and that is how I have applied it here. "Responsibility" is tied to action by every facet of the definition. It is impossible to be responsible for that which does not exist (inaction). I think you are much more angry than I am. When it comes to people getting ripped off, I'm sure I am. I don't understand your defense of this scumbag That's because you lack a fundamental understanding of the concept of responsibilities being inherently bundled with RIGHTS. except that I have what I have needed to do, and will keep doing it. He needs to let his step-father adopt him and let him have the real father he deserves.- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text -- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - Idiot-she said she left it alone for 10 years-not that she has been trying to collct for 10 years. Point is, nobody forced him to spill his seed to make a child, and there is a court order for support, he needs to pay it. She didn't ask simple minded people to come down on her, she asked for advice on how to collect her child support. You do seem to have a lot of things deadbeat, non-custodial parents like to hear, so go to one of thier blogs and sgree with them. I'm sure you'll make many friends there! |
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Runnin from Custodial Parent
On Sep 25, 1:19 am, "Chris" wrote:
"Very Determined!" wrote in message oups.com... On Sep 24, 10:13 am, Relayer wrote: On Sep 24, 11:29?am, Very Determined! wrote: On Sep 21, 11:02 am, "Chris" wrote: Sorry to disappoint you on this one...I did not supply the sperm, and inject it. So "we created this child." He and I chose to create this child, and I chose to nurture and bear him. Ok, and why does any of that matter now..the child is here,living and breathing? There are some men on this forum that advocate men getting out of CS because they dont have a say in the child even being born, which is a totally asinine arguement. Anyway, the father owes you..yes..you can hunt him down..yes.but putting a lean on his house and threatening to take that away was just as asinine. He's a deadbeat, granted, but doing what you didnt will just encourage him to further hide assets. And telling him to work McDonalds isnt all that smart either. It's pretty much a lost cause here. You will never see a dime from the idiot. Move on. The $100 a month is not worth the aggravation. Ok, putting a lien on a sprawling ranch was assanine, what was I thinking...to legally obtain what belonged to my son, I guess I wasn't thinking rationally. I wonder why creditors do that? Oh, probably because they want to make sure they get paid what they are owed, damn I'm dumb. The NCP does deserve to be left alone...poor guy, nice house, nice cars, vacations...and the son he is legally obligated to take care of?? He has every right, to live without consequences to his actions, there are more important things to take care, his contracting business, buying more properties and making more children. Newsflash: Men don't make children. (I wonder what happened to the morality of having a child,and taking care of it?) Yes, very stupid on my part. I wonder if I can have my 5 minutes of fame with an immacualte conception...hmmm. And Iike I McDonald's...what's wrong with working there?- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text -- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - Newsflash: Only men have the live organisim that creates the child. The woman carries the egg, which is not alive, and it will be purged from the body if not fertilized by sperm. So, in fact, men DO make children, because they produce the sperm that causes the splitting of the single cell to create the embryo that later becomes a fetus, then a human being. |
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