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Robyn Kozierok wrote:
Such as, 4yo refuses to get into the car or sit in his seat to get buckled. I have a problem because I have somewhere I need to get (say, to pick up his brothers after school). He doesn't have a problem, unless I get angry, which I'd rather not have to do. In my family, the logical consequence of not getting into your car seat is that a parent physically does it for you. Jan |
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Scott wrote:
This is a general question for all parents, I guess, 'cause I'm curious: how much time elapses between when your kid is out of bed, and out the door to school? From "out of bed" to "out the door" is about 20-30 minutes. However, our routine for a nightowl kid with ADD (parents of ADDers will know the sleep struggles that can entail!) takes quite a bit longer. The timeline goes something like this: 6:15 - first gentle warning that it's morning, time to get up 6:20 - juice delivered, wait until he drinks at least half 6:25 - 5 minute warning that he needs to eat breakfast 6:30 - breakfast ordered 6:35 - breakfast served in bed (I know, I know, but it really helps..) 6:45 - breakfast eaten, the light goes back out and he goes back to sleep 7:00 - warning that it's almost time to get up for real 7:05 - final "5 minute" warning ("I really mean it this time") 7:10 - out of bed to the shower 7:40 - out the door (unless we have lost items, which is often - ADD again) The juice was a suggestion years ago on this newsgroup and it has been a lifesaver. We've added the breakfast because otherwise he runs out of time and doesn't, which will in turn affect his attention issues plus his migraine headaches... sigh. Thankfully I leave for work at 6 so I miss virtually all of this on most morning. DH (Super-D H that is) finds this the simplest way to start the day. DH showers from 6:35 to 7 and eats his own breakfast from 7:10 to 7:40. I find it nerverwracking, not unlike a bomb diffusion scene in an action movie, especially because Henry, while very sweet and cooperative once he is out of bed, is grumpy about following all the steps EXACTLY. I realize this is flame bait for accusations of coddling, but until you walk a mile in my shoes, I suggest you don't go there. This is a challenging situation for all of us and if it ain't broke, we're not fixing it! (You should see our homework routine if you think this is complicated!) -Dawn |
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"Dawn" wrote in message oups.com... (You should see our homework routine if you think this is complicated!) Please give your husband a Best Dad in the Whole Wide World medal for doing this day after day. I would go insane in about 1 week. :-) Marjorie |
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"Scott" wrote in message ... beeswing wrote: This is a general question for all parents, I guess, 'cause I'm curious: how much time elapses between when your kid is out of bed, and out the door to school? DD (12.5) walks to her middle school this time of year when the weather is good. She awakens at 6:30 and is out the door by 7:20 to get to school by 7:45, just in time for her bagel and to start the day. School starts at 8:05. She does this completely by herself, and I rarely even hear her get up and ready unless she wakes me for some question or comment. This is one part of growing up that I love. Marjorie |
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On Thu, 19 May 2005 13:48:28 EDT, Scott
wrote: beeswing wrote: The first choice applies to situations where loitering and dawdling and dragging one's feet are involved. The latter choice is predicated on the fact that she'll say she is ready, then at the last moment, come up with all sorts of things that she's "forgotten" to do, like put her homework in her backpack. This is a general question for all parents, I guess, 'cause I'm curious: how much time elapses between when your kid is out of bed, and out the door to school? Shrimp is usually out of bed before I am in the morning since he gets up around 7am and I don't like to get up much before 7.30. Generally from the time Thud and Mischief get out of bed it's around 40-45 minutes until we get out the door, unless Chickie decides she's going to starve to death if she isn't fed immediately. -- Cheryl Mum to Shrimp (11 Mar 99), Thud (4 Oct 00) and Mischief (30 Jul 02) |
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This is a general question for all parents, I guess, 'cause
I'm curious: how much time elapses between when your kid is out of bed, and out the door to school? We're out of bed at 6:55 or 7 and the kids are on the bus at 7:15! Laura |
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Scott wrote:
[snip] This is a general question for all parents, I guess, 'cause I'm curious: how much time elapses between when your kid is out of bed, and out the door to school? Your schools all start so early! Our school starts at 8.55, and we live a five minute walk from it. The 8yo gets up on her own: she has a self-imposed time table, and gets very upset if she misses something on it. I think she usually gets up at 6.30ish, and leaves for school at 8.30. But she has lots of playtime as well. My alarm clock goes off at 7.30, and from then on, I act as a ten minute snooze alarm. At 7.50, I ask the 6yo if she wants to get dressed in my room, although sometimes she gets dressed on her own. Then I go down with her to help her with her breakfast. Then I go and get me showered etc. Meanwhile, I've still been giving the 10yo warnings: sometimes he gets up earlier, sometimes not. I don't tell him to get up: at least, if he is still in bed at 8.25, I tell him he has to get up now, and have breakfast. By 8.30, they have usually all had breakfast, and are allowed to play or watch TV. At 8.40, they have to wash their faces etc. I'll tell them it is 8.40, but they know what they have to do then, and usally do it. -- Penny Gaines UK mum to three |
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"Laura Brooks" wrote:
This is a general question for all parents, I guess, 'cause I'm curious: how much time elapses between when your kid is out of bed, and out the door to school? We're out of bed at 6:55 or 7 and the kids are on the bus at 7:15! My mom would call my sister and me to get up, but I don't remember what time. I would lie in bed hoping that she would get up and use the bathroom first because I thought it was unfair that I always had to go first because she played like she was still asleep. Plus it took her way longer to dress than it did me because she would try on two or three outfits (discarding them on the floor) and would sometimes have to be sent back upstairs to change because she was dressed inappropriately. But no - I always had to get up first. (This was in HS BTW.) We had a 5 minute walk to school and I was often almost late. DD#1 would get herself up and eat breakfast with her dad after which she would have plenty of time before she had to be in school - I think he would leave about 6:30 and she didn't have to be at school until 8 and it was only a 3 block walk. When DD#2 started kindergarten things got messier. She resisted going to school, and I would finally have to tell her sister to go without her and lock her out of the house. She'd spend several minutes beating on the door and crying before she'd run after her sister. This only lasted about a week. I didn't have any trouble that I remember with the kids getting up and getting themselves dressed and to the bus or to school (depending on where we were living at the time) until ds came along. The girls seemed to get themselves up and out without nagging from me. And I didn't really have any trouble with ds either until 2nd grade when he took to hiding on the porch roof and various other ways to play hooky. I had to leave the house myself by about 7:30 because I had to be at work by 7:45. But his school started at 9:15, and his bus didn't come until about 8:30. His sisters were all in ms or hs that started at 8. Eventually I got so that I took him to work with me (I was teaching at the ms) and he would sit in the lobby until the bus that he normally rode let off the ms kids and then he would ride the whole route with the driver until he got to school. He knew that if he wasn't there, the driver would come to me to find out why. grandma Rosalie |
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animzmirot wrote: Please give your husband a Best Dad in the Whole Wide World medal for doing this day after day. I would go insane in about 1 week. :-) It drives me insane each time I have to step in and do it! DH and I thankfully have different skill sets and tolerance levels. He's much more "if it works, don't sweat it" than I am. I will pass along your praise to my husband -- the fact that he was already insane (but in a good way) before we adopted Henry probably helps ;-) -Dawn |
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Penny Gaines wrote:
Your schools all start so early! Actually -- confession -- our *school* starts at 9:10 a.m. My husband needs to leave for work at 7 a.m. and I usually get out of the door between 8 and 8:30. The result of this is that my daughter gets dropped off at 7 at her before-and-after-school program by my husband. It gives her time to do any homework she hasn't finished and time to talk and play with her friends, which she enjoys. So, she likes getting there early, plus it's a lot easy on me, since I already tend to run late. It works out well for us. beeswing |
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