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Missing gifts from party?
Okay, so the party was a huge success. We brought the gifts home to open,
becuase it was at a venue and the logistics were too much for us to open the gifts there. There were only 7 minutes left after the cake and pizza. DS started writing thank you notes today. One problem arose. At the venue, the guests dropped off the presents on a cart at the door. There are two parties going on at the same time in different rooms. There was some confusion for the guests, as we had a couple of guests from the other party come to our party. We did not get a present from one of our guests. I do not know if he did not bring one or if it landed on the wrong cart. I don't want the mom to feel put on the spot if I went out and just asked her if she brought one, but I don't want her to feel we were ungrateful for a gift, if her son brought one and we don't send a thank you. My brother also came and he always brings a gift, but we don't have one from him, either. What to do? |
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Missing gifts from party?
What to do? Can you call the place the party was at and ask if any gifts were handed in, perhaps, with the right words, you could have them check with the other party if they took any extra away. Cheers Anne |
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toypup wrote:
Okay, so the party was a huge success. We brought the gifts home to open, becuase it was at a venue and the logistics were too much for us to open the gifts there. There were only 7 minutes left after the cake and pizza. DS started writing thank you notes today. One problem arose. At the venue, the guests dropped off the presents on a cart at the door. There are two parties going on at the same time in different rooms. There was some confusion for the guests, as we had a couple of guests from the other party come to our party. We did not get a present from one of our guests. I do not know if he did not bring one or if it landed on the wrong cart. I don't want the mom to feel put on the spot if I went out and just asked her if she brought one, but I don't want her to feel we were ungrateful for a gift, if her son brought one and we don't send a thank you. My brother also came and he always brings a gift, but we don't have one from him, either. What to do? The first thing to do is ask your brother - since he is family, he shouldn't mind that. Although you might put it tactfully - suggest that you thought he might be tapering off on gifts to nephews now that they are bigger but that you didn't want your son to miss out on thanking him if he did bring one. If you brother did bring one, then you can go to the venue and ask them. Then if there isn't any resolution, I would have your son write the other child and thank them for coming to the party, without mentioning the gift. |
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On Sun, 17 Jun 2007 10:48:30 GMT, Rosalie B. wrote:
toypup wrote: Okay, so the party was a huge success. We brought the gifts home to open, becuase it was at a venue and the logistics were too much for us to open the gifts there. There were only 7 minutes left after the cake and pizza. DS started writing thank you notes today. One problem arose. At the venue, the guests dropped off the presents on a cart at the door. There are two parties going on at the same time in different rooms. There was some confusion for the guests, as we had a couple of guests from the other party come to our party. We did not get a present from one of our guests. I do not know if he did not bring one or if it landed on the wrong cart. I don't want the mom to feel put on the spot if I went out and just asked her if she brought one, but I don't want her to feel we were ungrateful for a gift, if her son brought one and we don't send a thank you. My brother also came and he always brings a gift, but we don't have one from him, either. What to do? The first thing to do is ask your brother - since he is family, he shouldn't mind that. Although you might put it tactfully - suggest that you thought he might be tapering off on gifts to nephews now that they are bigger but that you didn't want your son to miss out on thanking him if he did bring one. If you brother did bring one, then you can go to the venue and ask them. Then if there isn't any resolution, I would have your son write the other child and thank them for coming to the party, without mentioning the gift. Thanks. Those are good suggestions. |
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toypup wrote:
Okay, so the party was a huge success. We brought the gifts home to open, becuase it was at a venue and the logistics were too much for us to open the gifts there. There were only 7 minutes left after the cake and pizza. DS started writing thank you notes today. One problem arose. At the venue, the guests dropped off the presents on a cart at the door. There are two parties going on at the same time in different rooms. There was some confusion for the guests, as we had a couple of guests from the other party come to our party. We did not get a present from one of our guests. I do not know if he did not bring one or if it landed on the wrong cart. I don't want the mom to feel put on the spot if I went out and just asked her if she brought one, but I don't want her to feel we were ungrateful for a gift, if her son brought one and we don't send a thank you. My brother also came and he always brings a gift, but we don't have one from him, either. What to do? I'd call the party venue, and politely ask them to contact the other family and politely inquire if there were any extra gifts. jeff |
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On Jun 17, 5:17 am, toypup wrote:
Okay, so the party was a huge success. We brought the gifts home to open, becuase it was at a venue and the logistics were too much for us to open the gifts there. There were only 7 minutes left after the cake and pizza. DS started writing thank you notes today. One problem arose. At the venue, the guests dropped off the presents on a cart at the door. There are two parties going on at the same time in different rooms. There was some confusion for the guests, as we had a couple of guests from the other party come to our party. We did not get a present from one of our guests. I do not know if he did not bring one or if it landed on the wrong cart. I don't want the mom to feel put on the spot if I went out and just asked her if she brought one, but I don't want her to feel we were ungrateful for a gift, if her son brought one and we don't send a thank you. My brother also came and he always brings a gift, but we don't have one from him, either. What to do? I would just be honest, admit that you are embarassed to ask and that you are doing so only to ensure you send thank you cards. The parents will understand that things got a bit muddled at the venue. It is an uncomfortable situation, but once you've done it, it won't seem so bad. Mary Ann |
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On Jun 17, 12:13 pm, Jeff wrote:
toypup wrote: Okay, so the party was a huge success. We brought the gifts home to open, becuase it was at a venue and the logistics were too much for us to open the gifts there. There were only 7 minutes left after the cake and pizza. DS started writing thank you notes today. One problem arose. At the venue, the guests dropped off the presents on a cart at the door. There are two parties going on at the same time in different rooms. There was some confusion for the guests, as we had a couple of guests from the other party come to our party. We did not get a present from one of our guests. I do not know if he did not bring one or if it landed on the wrong cart. I don't want the mom to feel put on the spot if I went out and just asked her if she brought one, but I don't want her to feel we were ungrateful for a gift, if her son brought one and we don't send a thank you. My brother also came and he always brings a gift, but we don't have one from him, either. What to do? I'd call the party venue, and politely ask them to contact the other family and politely inquire if there were any extra gifts. Indeed. If not, you have two options, as I see it: (i) Have your son write an ambiguous thank you note, thanking the child for attending the party. (ii) Lie through your teeth. ;- Call the family and tell them that you ran out to the bathroom while your son was opening the presents,and in just those few moments, things managed to go awry, and you're having trouble sorting who gave what for thank you notes. Barbara |
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Barbara wrote:
On Jun 17, 12:13 pm, Jeff wrote: toypup wrote: Okay, so the party was a huge success. We brought the gifts home to open, becuase it was at a venue and the logistics were too much for us to open the gifts there. There were only 7 minutes left after the cake and pizza. DS started writing thank you notes today. One problem arose. At the venue, the guests dropped off the presents on a cart at the door. There are two parties going on at the same time in different rooms. There was some confusion for the guests, as we had a couple of guests from the other party come to our party. We did not get a present from one of our guests. I do not know if he did not bring one or if it landed on the wrong cart. I don't want the mom to feel put on the spot if I went out and just asked her if she brought one, but I don't want her to feel we were ungrateful for a gift, if her son brought one and we don't send a thank you. My brother also came and he always brings a gift, but we don't have one from him, either. What to do? I'd call the party venue, and politely ask them to contact the other family and politely inquire if there were any extra gifts. Indeed. If not, you have two options, as I see it: (i) Have your son write an ambiguous thank you note, thanking the child for attending the party. (ii) Lie through your teeth. ;- Call the family and tell them that you ran out to the bathroom while your son was opening the presents,and in just those few moments, things managed to go awry, and you're having trouble sorting who gave what for thank you notes. Why on earth would anyone need to lie about this particular circumstance? The original mix-up with the gifts wasn't her fault at all. I'd write a note saying something like: "Thank you so much for attending the party. It was lovely to see you. By the way, there seem to have been some mix-ups with the gifts - there was another party going on at the same time as ours, and we're a bit concerned that some of the gifts from our party may have ended up with the other people by mistake. We're still trying to track this down. If you brought us anything which we haven't mentioned, please do let us know so that we can track it down!" All the best, Sarah -- http://www.goodenoughmummy.typepad.com "That which can be destroyed by the truth, should be" - P. C. Hodgell |
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Sarah Vaughan wrote:
... I'd write a note saying something like: "Thank you so much for attending the party. It was lovely to see you. By the way, there seem to have been some mix-ups with the gifts - there was another party going on at the same time as ours, and we're a bit concerned that some of the gifts from our party may have ended up with the other people by mistake. We're still trying to track this down. If you brought us anything which we haven't mentioned, please do let us know so that we can track it down!" All the best, Sarah Excellent. In retrospect, it might have made sense for the birthday kid's mom to ask the other mom about the gift. That way, when she called the facility, she could say, "It appears that the item was a blue iPhone wrapped in a colorful happy birthday wrapping paper with blue ribbon to go with the iPhone" or whatever the item was. The other birthday person's dad might say, "Gee, we were wondering who gave that." I am sure that the other birthday person's family would be happy to straighten everything out. It could very well be that for one reason or another, the gift-givers did not bring gifts (planning on dropping them off later, left them in the car, etc.), too. Jeff |
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On Jun 19, 4:46 am, Sarah Vaughan wrote:
Barbara wrote: On Jun 17, 12:13 pm, Jeff wrote: toypup wrote: Okay, so the party was a huge success. We brought the gifts home to open, becuase it was at a venue and the logistics were too much for us to open the gifts there. There were only 7 minutes left after the cake and pizza. DS started writing thank you notes today. One problem arose. At the venue, the guests dropped off the presents on a cart at the door. There are two parties going on at the same time in different rooms. There was some confusion for the guests, as we had a couple of guests from the other party come to our party. We did not get a present from one of our guests. I do not know if he did not bring one or if it landed on the wrong cart. I don't want the mom to feel put on the spot if I went out and just asked her if she brought one, but I don't want her to feel we were ungrateful for a gift, if her son brought one and we don't send a thank you. My brother also came and he always brings a gift, but we don't have one from him, either. What to do? I'd call the party venue, and politely ask them to contact the other family and politely inquire if there were any extra gifts. Indeed. If not, you have two options, as I see it: (i) Have your son write an ambiguous thank you note, thanking the child for attending the party. (ii) Lie through your teeth. ;- Call the family and tell them that you ran out to the bathroom while your son was opening the presents,and in just those few moments, things managed to go awry, and you're having trouble sorting who gave what for thank you notes. Why on earth would anyone need to lie about this particular circumstance? The original mix-up with the gifts wasn't her fault at all. SNIP It was the fault of someone who was working on her behalf. Between her and the party-goer, the fault is entirely hers. The reason not to say outright that you didn't receive the gift is because its grubby. It sounds too much like *hey, you came to the party, now where's my kid's loot* You're also putting the gift giver in a position where s/he may feel that s/he should be giving another gift to replace the lost one. Barbara |
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