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When have you stopped co-sleeping?
Is there a so-called "good time"? Our son turns three months today and we love
having him between us at night in our smallish Queen size bed. We could care less about spit-up and peeps and poops on our sheets. It's made breastfeeding so much easier for me and our baby goes to sleep when we do and wakes up when we do and there is minimal waking up at night. When he whimpers I give him the boob, he nurses for a bit a returns to sleep. We really love our little arrnangement. Of course we try not to listen to other people who tell us he'll be with us until Kindergarten if we don't break him out of our "dirtly little habit" , but we don't care. We love our baby with us. Only problem is I think WE wake HIM quite a bit with getting up for the bathroom, tossing and turning, coughing etc. I'm wondering if we chose to put him into a crib (in our room) if there would be a good time to do it and exactly how to phase our system out. At three months are babies typically "re-trainable"? We don't want to upset him too much. In short: When and how did you stop co-sleeping? Also why? Thanks, Lisa |
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When have you stopped co-sleeping?
Zucca4 wrote:
In short: When and how did you stop co-sleeping? Also why? Welllllllll, ;-) Here is my experience (and like everything else, other people's experiences are different!). I had no hope of getting Hunter out of my bed. From day one he'd sleep no where but on me. Starting at about 4 he reliably started the night out in his own bed. He'll be 5 in April and will generally stay in his own bed until at least 5am. Luke was a much better sleeper. He started the night out in his crib and I would bring him to bed with me at 4am or so. At 3.5 months I set the crib up side car and we slept that way. I had returned to work and was tired with all the night waking. He slowly moved to sleeping right next to me more and more. By 5 months we were gonners. He wouldn't sleep at night anywhere but in my bed. I spent a month trying to gently change that while everything else went to hell with no progress so at 6 months I did some sleep training to get him to fall asleep in his crib. He stayed there for 2-3 hours. At 9-10 months we had some back sliding and I had to start standing by his crib for him to fall asleep and he was never really on board wit that idea. By 12 months he was falling asleep quicker in my bed so we went back to that. He still only selpt for about 2 hours before he woke up looking for me. Starting at about 2.5 I was able to get him to fall asleep in his own bed with me sitting next to him (he wasn't to happy about this at first). He'll be three in April and he'll stay in his own bed until 2-3am about 50% of the time. Sometimes he'll wake up earlier. So, if you want him in his own bed, my experience leads me to suggest starting the transition sometime around 4mos old. If you don't care, that is fine but in my experience...you're in it for the long haul ;-) Basically I like co-sleeping. I struggle some with excessive night nursing but the worst part of co-sleeping for me was that my babies/toddlers were then only able to sleep if I was next to them. Not even dh, but me. My kids slept about 12 hours. I need about 6 hours. If they stayed asleep at the beginning of the night for 2 hours (and Hunter was about 18 months before he'd do that and Luke was 12 months) then that left 10 hours. That was 4 hours of time they wanted me in bed but that I didn't want to be there. I found this incredibly hard to handle. Now, if only I was a person that could sleep 10 hours a night, I'd be set!! -- Nikki Mama to Hunter (4) and Luke (2) |
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When have you stopped co-sleeping?
Zucca4 wrote: Is there a so-called "good time"? Our son turns three months today and we love having him between us at night in our smallish Queen size bed. We could care less about spit-up and peeps and poops on our sheets. It's made breastfeeding so much easier for me and our baby goes to sleep when we do and wakes up when we do and there is minimal waking up at night. When he whimpers I give him the boob, he nurses for a bit a returns to sleep. We really love our little arrnangement. Of course we try not to listen to other people who tell us he'll be with us until Kindergarten if we don't break him out of our "dirtly little habit" , but we don't care. We love our baby with us. Only problem is I think WE wake HIM quite a bit with getting up for the bathroom, tossing and turning, coughing etc. I'm wondering if we chose to put him into a crib (in our room) if there would be a good time to do it and exactly how to phase our system out. At three months are babies typically "re-trainable"? We don't want to upset him too much. In short: When and how did you stop co-sleeping? Also why? Thanks, Lisa We started out co-sleeping with our first, because she wouldn't sleep anywhere but with us. By the time she was 3 months old, we'd start her out in her crib, and she'd move into bed with us when she woke up at night. (She was bottle-fed, so breastfeeding didn't come into it.) When she was 4 months old, we moved her out of our room and put her to bed in the crib - she slept longer in her own room, but we still brought her back to bed with us whenever she woke up. By the time she was 9 or 10 months old, she'd sleep 10 hours at night, so we didn't co-sleep a lot after that. The thing is, if you like co-sleeping, why stop? There were things I liked about it, but it completely wrecked *my* sleep, so I was glad to stop. My 2nd hasn't slept with us very often - he was OK with the crib from the beginning. I'm about to have to re-train him, though. He's had 2 bouts of some stomach bug in 4 weeks - and since I sleep with him when he's sick, he's now adamant that he wants to sleep with me, not in his crib (he's 2.) Clisby |
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"Zucca4" skrev i en meddelelse ... Of course we try not to listen to other people who tell us he'll be with us until Kindergarten if we don't break him out of our "dirtly little habit" , Yes, and.....? He'll be out before college - I promise. And if he's not you have a completely different problem :-) Tine, Denmark |
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Nikki wrote:
Basically I like co-sleeping. I struggle some with excessive night nursing but the worst part of co-sleeping for me was that my babies/toddlers were then only able to sleep if I was next to them. Not even dh, but me. My kids slept about 12 hours. I need about 6 hours. If they stayed asleep at the beginning of the night for 2 hours (and Hunter was about 18 months before he'd do that and Luke was 12 months) then that left 10 hours. That was 4 hours of time they wanted me in bed but that I didn't want to be there. I found this incredibly hard to handle. Now, if only I was a person that could sleep 10 hours a night, I'd be set!! I was wondering - are they okay about sleeping in the same bed together? Meaning they co-sleep, but not with you. I'm hoping this type of situation works with my kids. DD (6.5 years old) hates sleeping in a room alone. DS (8.5 months old) sleeps best if physically touching someone, preferrably mom, but dad works too. When DS hits 18 months (maybe sooner), I want to have *them* co-sleep in the same bed. Basically, I'm a non-co-sleeping mom with co-sleeping kids. Jeanne |
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"Zucca4" wrote in message ... When and how did you stop co-sleeping? Also why? Ds was 7 months when we moved him to his crib because it just wasn't working anymore. In fact, I'd say I clung on to it since about 4-5 months and in retrospect, we should have moved him out then. He just wasn't sleeping and either were we. -- JennP. mom to Matthew 10/11/00 remove "no........spam" to reply |
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Bruce and Jeanne wrote:
I was wondering - are they okay about sleeping in the same bed together? Meaning they co-sleep, but not with you. They sleep fine that way but they still get up looking for me. Recently Hunter started sleeping a little better so I put each in their own room otherwise Luke would make Hunter bring him downstairs. Now Luke just cries and I hear him, or he comes down on his own. In the last month I'm already in bed a lot of the time so he just walks over to my room. I'm hoping this type of situation works with my kids. DD (6.5 years old) hates sleeping in a room alone. DS (8.5 months old) sleeps best if physically touching someone, preferrably mom, but dad works too. It might work a little better with a bigger age gap. Especially if your older child is basically spending all night in a room. Basically, I'm a non-co-sleeping mom with co-sleeping kids. I hate it when things like that don't match up ;-) I'm a nurse for a year mama and I have extended breastfeeding children, lol. -- Nikki Mama to Hunter (4) and Luke (2) |
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When have you stopped co-sleeping?
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When and how did you stop co-sleeping? Also why? Our son is 3 years old and we haven't stopped. (Though he's spent *part* of probably two-thirds of all the nights of his life in his own bed -- first a bassinet, then a crib, and now a twin-size bed -- he's almost always in with us by the time we get up in the morning.) I think the time to stop co-sleeping is when (1) one or more of the people in the bed isn't sleeping well or enough, or (2) the child involved prefers to sleep elsewhere than his parents' bed. For families in which all members sleep fine in a shared bed, as far as I can tell, the child usually departs more or less on his own sometime between age 3 and age 6. So, yes, you could certainly be still co-sleeping when your child is in kindergarten, though it's relatively unlikely much beyond that. But if you don't consider co-sleeping a "bad habit", what's wrong with that? I do know people who trained their babies to sleep in a crib quite early, because either the parents weren't comfortable or the baby truly slept better that way. But remember that it's quite normal for a baby to wake, or semi-wake, many times a night, and in fact this may be safer for them. Unless your baby seems overtired during the day, don't conclude that his being wakened by your movements means he's not getting enough sleep. I also know people who've moved (or attempted to move) baby to a crib at various ages from 2 months to 2 years. Age doesn't seem to be a very good predictor of the relative ease or difficulty, nor the ultimate outcome, of these efforts, as far as I can tell. Although some people claim that it's easiest at 4-6 months, and there may be some truth to that, there are also an awful lot of babies who sleep contentedly in cribs at 5 months but begin night waking and crying for Mommy at 8 months. In any event, if what you're doing is working for you, then keep doing it, unless and until it ceases working. :-) And there's no reason you can't go back and forth between co-sleeping and crib sleeping at various times for the next couple of years, depending on what makes the most sense for your family at any given time. Do what works for you NOW, instead of changing your habits based on what you think will work better in 5 years. And if and when what's working for you now stops working for you, THEN do something else! No sense in borrowing trouble. Holly Mom to Camden, 3yo EDD #2 6/8/04 |
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When have you stopped co-sleeping?
Oooooooh, this is complicated! :-) For both Clara and Niel, we set up a
single bed next to our queen and moved the baby onto the single. This really doesn't count as quitting, just making the bed a lot bigger. With Clara, we moved her to her own room at 16 months, but this was just because Monika was pregnant with Niel. Monika still nursed Clara at night. She just went to Clara's bed instead of Clara coming to ours. Still, Clara was allowed in our bed after daylight. This continued after Niel was born. When both were nursing at night (a long, long time) Monika would switch from our bed to Clara's bed and back maybe 6 or 8 times in a night. A good night would be only two or three! Since we didn't have another in the wings, we didn't move Niel out into his own room until he was about 3 1/2. Now Clara comes back into our bed when she wakes, but he refuses and demands that Monika go cuddle him in HIS bed. (until daylight, of course, when we insist we aren't moving and he can come in with us!) :-) Uh, they are 6 and 4 now. Does that answer your question. Larry Zucca4 writes: : Is there a so-called "good time"? Our son turns three months today and we love : having him between us at night in our smallish Queen size bed. We could care : less about spit-up and peeps and poops on our sheets. It's made breastfeeding : so much easier for me and our baby goes to sleep when we do and wakes up when : we do and there is minimal waking up at night. When he whimpers I give him the : boob, he nurses for a bit a returns to sleep. We really love our little : arrnangement. : Of course we try not to listen to other people who tell us he'll be with us : until Kindergarten if we don't break him out of our "dirtly little habit" , : but we don't care. We love our baby with us. Only problem is I think WE wake : HIM quite a bit with getting up for the bathroom, tossing and turning, coughing : etc. I'm wondering if we chose to put him into a crib (in our room) if there : would be a good time to do it and exactly how to phase our system out. At three : months are babies typically "re-trainable"? We don't want to upset him too : much. : In short: : When and how did you stop co-sleeping? Also why? : Thanks, : Lisa |
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