From ascps .... Fw: Pop Psychology Pap

Gosh folks, ol' greegor, who comes so seldom to visit, just drug this
in and dirtied your floors with it.

Seems there is a survey, apparently rather a large one, Droaner (R R R
R), where belief in spanking is taking....well, a spanking....or
should it be "thrashing?" Or maybe a "whuppin?" Or possibly a
"hiding?"

And in fact, one of the claims made here many times about the results
of spanking and non-spanking shows up....quality of relationship. My
bet is the same folks that had childhoods with less or no spanking are
the ones seen as most desirable mates....vis a vis trusting and loving
relationships.

You silly ninnies just keep on living in your miserable hate and
suspicion filled world and continue to whallup your kiddies, and
eventually the law will come for you.

That's because, Droananator, YOU don't know where the line is between
abuse and discipline...pain and real teaching.

Kane



----- Original Message -----
From: "Greg Hanson"
Newsgroups: alt.support.child-protective-services
Sent: Wednesday, June 16, 2004 3:55 PM
Subject: Pop Psychology Pap


Pop Psychology Pap that SOUNDS good.

1 in 3 Men Think Women Should Do THIS
One-third of American men think a woman's place is in the office even
though a staggering 86 percent of women would rather be stay-at-home
moms. Those are just two of the surprising findings of a new survey
conducted by Euro RSCG Worldwide to determine trends among American
fathers. Fully 83 percent of the mothers surveyed think it's fine for
a woman to be a homemaker and not do paid work. In contrast, only 66
percent of dads and 60 percent of men who aren't fathers agree with
the wife-as-homemaker idea.

"What our study has revealed is that there isn't just a gender divide
in America, there's also a divide between men who are dads and men who
aren't," Marian Salzman, executive vice president and chief strategy
officer of Euro RSCG Worldwide, said in a news release announcing the
findings. "Today's dad is much more conservative on social issues, and
this may have to do with the fact that, even as men are being called
on to be more nurturing and involved, their traditional role as
'protector' has become much more difficult."

Some of the interesting results of this survey:
--81 percent of dads think they're entitled to regular sex, but only
65 percent of moms agree.
--41 percent of men enjoy grocery shopping, compared to 39 percent of
women.
--55 percent of fathers and 53 percent of mothers believe spanking is
appropriate punishment for bad behavior.
--86 percent of dads think divorce should be an absolute last resort,
compared with 75 percent of moms.
--60 percent of dads consider monogamy a natural state for human
beings, compared with 47 percent of non-dads and 61 percent of moms.
--Only 42 percent of dads will talk openly to their children about
sex, compared with 56 percent of moms.






A Mom or Dad's No. 1 Complaint
The No. 1 complaint of parents? They don't have enough time--good,
quality time--to spend with their children.

The demands of long work hours, housework, and other responsibilities
have encroached on the time they have to spend with their kids, The
Associated Press reports of a new study of 1,000 parents and
caregivers with children under 18 who are living at home. The study,
which was released by the Boys & Girls Clubs of America and the
Pennsylvania-based nonprofit group KidsPeace, was overseen by Harvard
University psychiatrist Dr. Alvin Poussaint.

What's more, fully 94 percent of those surveyed are aware that there
is a relationship between the amount of meaningful time parents spend
with their kids and the way those kids deal with major issues, such as
substance abuse and discipline. Knowing this doesn't make it any
easier to carve out a few extra hours in the day to spend on the
swings in the park or reading books together at bedtime.

Here are some of the findings, which may resonate with your household:

54 percent said they had little or no time to spend in physical
activities with their children, such as taking a walk or playing catch
in the backyard.
Parents in about 3.5 million U.S. households spend an hour or less a
week in some type of physical activity with their children.
50 percent of all parents either don't have enough time or wished they
had more time to read to their kids or help with their homework or
other educational activities.
Although some 56 percent of parents acknowledged that their kids are
worried about war and terrorism, fully 33 percent admitted they had
not yet talked to their little ones about these big issues.
50 percent of parents and caregivers confessed they haven't talked to
their children in the past year about sexual pressures or sexual
activity.
The primary obstacle to all this: busy work schedules.

What's a parent to do? First, be aware of the situation. Second,
recognize your child's need for your presence in his or her life.
Third, figure out a way to make it happen.

"They can listen to their children. They can talk, not to their
children, they can talk with their children," C.T. O'Donnell, the
president and CEO of KidsPeace told AP. "They can take walks in park.
They can spend meaningful, interactive reading time with their kids."




No. 1 Reason Men Become Good Husbands

If you have a wonderful husband or boyfriend, thank his mother.

A new study from Ferrum College in Virginia says men who become
wonderful partners are often the product of wonderful moms, reports
Reuters. The researchers interviewed 33 young couples--some of whom
were married and some of whom were dating--and found what they called
"significant" correlations between a man's tie to his mother and his
partner's satisfaction with the relationship.

"If he's very close to his mother he may feel very close to his
partner, probably very affectionate," lead researcher Sarah Roberts
explained to Reuters. She and her co-author, psychologist Sharon
Stein, say that while much research has been done about the
parent-child relationship in general, very little is known about the
impact the mother-son relationship has on the son's relationship with
his girlfriend or wife.

The "Mama's Boy or Lady's Man" study: Each male and female member of
the 33 couples completed different questionnaires. The men were asked
about their perceived closeness to their moms. The women were asked
about their own satisfaction with their romantic relationship.

The results: In general, the men who said they had moms who
"understood their needs" also had mates who described them as
"affectionate." Men who had a strong love for their mothers tended to
date women who described them as not only their lover, but also "their
best friend," Reuters reports. And the men who tried hard to "make
their mother proud" ranked high in terms of their ability to
communicate with their female partner.

Why does this happen? "In traditional homes, the mother is the very
first person that the children have (as their) introduction to
femininity," Roberts said in an interview with Reuters. "Their mother
is, for the male child, their first study of what a woman is. So of
course they watch her behaviors, they watch certain things coming from
her, and of course are influenced by everything she may teach them."
She speculates that in addition to influencing her son to be more open
and gentle with other people, she may influence his choice in a mate.
"If the mother is very loving, very caring, and displays this to her
son, he may be in a position where he's thinking, 'Well, I want a
woman like my mother,' or 'I don't want a woman like my mother,'"
Roberts explained.

There's just one problem: If the mother is too close--as in, the son
perceives her as his best friend--her son was usually labeled
"less-than-considerate" by his significant other. "I think it's clear
it can go either way," Roberts told Reuters. "There's the question of
'how much is too much?' If he's too close to his mother, might not
that be an obstacle for his spouse?"

The study findings were presented at the annual meeting of the
American Psychological Society.