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Does "no presents" really mean that?
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"Kevin Karplus" wrote in message ... My son has 12 cousins, so we gave up on keeping track of birthdays of our nieces and nephews quite some time ago. We do give holiday gifts (mostly Christmas) until the kids turn 18 (which reduced the number to 8 last year). I remember when I was a teen and the presents stopped. I'm thinking I would do it the other way around - start giving the gifts to the teenagers. they are (I was) old enough to appreciate them at that age, and probably "need" stuff more. I know I would have loved little thoughtful things at that age, and especially when I was in college. by then, I also knew how to write a nice thank you note. the younger ones don't really "need *that* much stuff, get tons of hand-me-downs, and don't bother to write TY's, or aren't old enough to know how... Ahh, but buying presents for young kids is fun, while trying to find presents for adults or teens that you barely know is TOUGH. We see the various cousins less often than once a year, and the parents are not always very helpful in telling us what the kids are interested in. The thank-you notes aren't what I give presents for anyway. -- Kevin Karplus http://www.soe.ucsc.edu/~karplus life member (LAB, Adventure Cycling, American Youth Hostels) Effective Cycling Instructor #218-ck (lapsed) Professor of Computer Engineering, University of California, Santa Cruz Undergraduate and Graduate Director, Bioinformatics Affiliations for identification only. |
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Does "no presents" really mean that?
"dragonlady" wrote in message ... In article , "E" wrote: SNIP I remember when I was a teen and the presents stopped. I'm thinking I would do it the other way around - start giving the gifts to the teenagers. they are (I was) old enough to appreciate them at that age, and probably "need" stuff more. I know I would have loved little thoughtful things at that age, and especially when I was in college. by then, I also knew how to write a nice thank you note. the younger ones don't really "need *that* much stuff, get tons of hand-me-downs, and don't bother to write TY's, or aren't old enough to know how... JMHO Edith nak When grandma died, grandpa stopped giving birthday and Christmas presents -- said he just couldn't spend that much time shopping, couldn't remember all his grandkids' birthdays (there were 24 of us), so instead, every Christmas, he picked up 48 brand new one dollar bills, and put them in envelopes for each of us -- one bill each for our birthday and for Christmas. Even then, $2 wasn't all that much money, but I can remember as a college student (early 70's) looking forward to getting that $2, because I always spent it on something that I didn't actually need, and that was just for ME. It might only be a pair of fancy panties, but I enjoyed the shopping. So I think you may have a point -- a gift, even a small one, to an older teen might be more appreciated than a gift to a two year old. However, I think you'd probably annoy the parents of the two year old a lot more . . . meh -- Children won't care how much you know until they know how much you care I don't know, I've got a 15.5yo DS and a 18yo DD, as well as a 7+wo. we have plenty for the newborn - even without having any showers (though I would have loved a get-together [sorry to ramble - sore point for me]) or receiving many gifts. I mean, really, how much do they REALLY need? not to mention, where can you put it all, and how much do they really use? whereas my other 2 are still growing/wearing out of clothes, have more expensive tastes, like to receive things. I remember being hurt when it all stopped. I think you're better off starting something later in life that they're not expecting than to stop something they've gotten used to... JMHO Edith nak |
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