How to stop him?

My exboyfriend and I had a little girl in 1999. He took no interest in
her until I filed for child support a year ago. Now that I filed for
support he wants to see her all the time. She is very uncomfortable
around him and I have my doubts about him as well. I just got a notice
of a hearing for him wanting to establish forced parenting time! She
hardly knows this man. She doesn't even like seeing him at my house.
Can he just come in and take her out of here that way? She is seeing a
therapist for emotional issues and I'm afraid that this will set her
back if she is forced to go visiting him. I told him he could see her
over here but he says that isn't good enough. Is there any way I can
stop him? Will the court make her see him? I can't bear the thought of
her being dragged out of the house kicking and screaming. It will
break my heart. Would they really allow that to happen?

Thanks for your help.

Jan

"Janet" wrote in message
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My exboyfriend and I had a little girl in 1999. He took no interest in
her until I filed for child support a year ago. Now that I filed for
support he wants to see her all the time. She is very uncomfortable
around him and I have my doubts about him as well. I just got a notice
of a hearing for him wanting to establish forced parenting time! She
hardly knows this man. She doesn't even like seeing him at my house.
Can he just come in and take her out of here that way? She is seeing a
therapist for emotional issues and I'm afraid that this will set her
back if she is forced to go visiting him. I told him he could see her
over here but he says that isn't good enough. Is there any way I can
stop him? Will the court make her see him? I can't bear the thought of
her being dragged out of the house kicking and screaming. It will
break my heart. Would they really allow that to happen?

Thanks for your help.

He's her father. He has as much right to see the child on HIS own turf as
you do.



Jan

"Moon Shyne" wrote in message
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"Janet" wrote in message
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My exboyfriend and I had a little girl in 1999. He took no interest in
her until I filed for child support a year ago. Now that I filed for
support he wants to see her all the time. She is very uncomfortable
around him and I have my doubts about him as well. I just got a notice
of a hearing for him wanting to establish forced parenting time! She
hardly knows this man. She doesn't even like seeing him at my house.
Can he just come in and take her out of here that way? She is seeing a
therapist for emotional issues and I'm afraid that this will set her
back if she is forced to go visiting him. I told him he could see her
over here but he says that isn't good enough. Is there any way I can
stop him? Will the court make her see him? I can't bear the thought of
her being dragged out of the house kicking and screaming. It will
break my heart. Would they really allow that to happen?

Thanks for your help.

He's her father. He has as much right to see the child on HIS own turf as
you do.

Since when have you become pro-father?




Jan

"Chris" wrote in message
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"Moon Shyne" wrote in message
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"Janet" wrote in message
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My exboyfriend and I had a little girl in 1999. He took no interest in
her until I filed for child support a year ago. Now that I filed for
support he wants to see her all the time. She is very uncomfortable
around him and I have my doubts about him as well. I just got a notice
of a hearing for him wanting to establish forced parenting time! She
hardly knows this man. She doesn't even like seeing him at my house.
Can he just come in and take her out of here that way? She is seeing a
therapist for emotional issues and I'm afraid that this will set her
back if she is forced to go visiting him. I told him he could see her
over here but he says that isn't good enough. Is there any way I can
stop him? Will the court make her see him? I can't bear the thought of
her being dragged out of the house kicking and screaming. It will
break my heart. Would they really allow that to happen?

Thanks for your help.

He's her father. He has as much right to see the child on HIS own turf
as
you do.

Since when have you become pro-father?

I was never against fathers. I'm against whiners who blame everyone else
for their problems, i'm against anyone who doesn't show a strong sense of
personal responsibility, I"m against liars and cheats.

And yes, I'm also against the various folks who continue to slam me for
things that I don't do (and never did), who prove over and over that they
bought into some former poster's bull****, and really have no clue what I'm
about at all.





Jan

"Moon Shyne" wrote in message
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"Chris" wrote in message
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"Moon Shyne" wrote in message
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"Janet" wrote in message
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My exboyfriend and I had a little girl in 1999. He took no
interest in
her until I filed for child support a year ago. Now that I filed
for
support he wants to see her all the time. She is very
uncomfortable
around him and I have my doubts about him as well. I just got a
notice
of a hearing for him wanting to establish forced parenting time!
She
hardly knows this man. She doesn't even like seeing him at my
house.
Can he just come in and take her out of here that way? She is
seeing a
therapist for emotional issues and I'm afraid that this will set
her
back if she is forced to go visiting him. I told him he could see
her
over here but he says that isn't good enough. Is there any way I
can
stop him? Will the court make her see him? I can't bear the
thought of
her being dragged out of the house kicking and screaming. It will
break my heart. Would they really allow that to happen?

Thanks for your help.

He's her father. He has as much right to see the child on HIS own
turf as
you do.

Since when have you become pro-father?

I was never against fathers.

Riiiight. By the way, I have a bridge in the Sahara that's for sale.

I'm against whiners who blame everyone else for their problems, i'm
against anyone who doesn't show a strong sense of personal
responsibility, I"m against liars and cheats.

So why do you defend those very people? And you do, frequently.
Perhaps by reading your own words, you manage to retain some self-esteem
but I doubt there are many here who believe you.
I don't.


And yes, I'm also against the various folks who continue to slam me
for things that I don't do (and never did), who prove over and over
that they bought into some former poster's bull****, and really have
no clue what I'm about at all.

And those of us who base our opinions of you on your postings and think
you're anti-father.
Phil#3






Jan

"Phil" wrote in message
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"Moon Shyne" wrote in message
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"Chris" wrote in message
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"Moon Shyne" wrote in message
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"Janet" wrote in message
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My exboyfriend and I had a little girl in 1999. He took no interest
in
her until I filed for child support a year ago. Now that I filed for
support he wants to see her all the time. She is very uncomfortable
around him and I have my doubts about him as well. I just got a
notice
of a hearing for him wanting to establish forced parenting time! She
hardly knows this man. She doesn't even like seeing him at my house.
Can he just come in and take her out of here that way? She is seeing
a
therapist for emotional issues and I'm afraid that this will set her
back if she is forced to go visiting him. I told him he could see her
over here but he says that isn't good enough. Is there any way I can
stop him? Will the court make her see him? I can't bear the thought
of
her being dragged out of the house kicking and screaming. It will
break my heart. Would they really allow that to happen?

Thanks for your help.

He's her father. He has as much right to see the child on HIS own turf
as
you do.

Since when have you become pro-father?

I was never against fathers.

Riiiight. By the way, I have a bridge in the Sahara that's for sale.

I'm against whiners who blame everyone else for their problems, i'm
against anyone who doesn't show a strong sense of personal responsibility,
I"m against liars and cheats.

So why do you defend those very people? And you do, frequently.
Perhaps by reading your own words, you manage to retain some self-esteem
but I doubt there are many here who believe you.
I don't.

None of which makes one iota in how I live my life. If you think you can
point me to where you claim that I "frequently" "defend those very people",
please feel free to do so.



And yes, I'm also against the various folks who continue to slam me for
things that I don't do (and never did), who prove over and over that they
bought into some former poster's bull****, and really have no clue what
I'm about at all.

And those of us who base our opinions of you on your postings and think
you're anti-father.

And again, that makes not a single iota of difference to how I live my life.

Phil#3






Jan

"Janet" wrote
My exboyfriend and I had a little girl in 1999. He took no interest in
her until I filed for child support a year ago. Now that I filed for
support he wants to see her all the time. She is very uncomfortable
around him and I have my doubts about him as well. I just got a notice
of a hearing for him wanting to establish forced parenting time! She
hardly knows this man. She doesn't even like seeing him at my house.
Can he just come in and take her out of here that way? She is seeing a
therapist for emotional issues and I'm afraid that this will set her
back if she is forced to go visiting him. I told him he could see her
over here but he says that isn't good enough. Is there any way I can
stop him? Will the court make her see him? I can't bear the thought of
her being dragged out of the house kicking and screaming. It will
break my heart. Would they really allow that to happen?
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How is it that she got so turned against her father? That doesn't normally
happen without
some Parental Alienation Syndrome, especially in a child that young. Why do
you not wish her to have a
relationship with her father? You are no more her parent than he is. You do
not own that child. If you want him
out of her life, why did you file for child support? Did you really expect
to take the money and run?
You aren't looking so good here. It wouldn't surprise me if the judge
agrees. Normally, when a custodial mom
comes here with this kind of story, she suddenly comes back with "he was
abusive" in an attempt to justify her
turning the child against the dad to keep him away from her. So, do you now
have an abuse story?

Janet wrote:
My exboyfriend and I had a little girl in 1999. He took no interest in
her until I filed for child support a year ago. Now that I filed for
support he wants to see her all the time. She is very uncomfortable
around him and I have my doubts about him as well. I just got a notice
of a hearing for him wanting to establish forced parenting time! She
hardly knows this man. She doesn't even like seeing him at my house.
Can he just come in and take her out of here that way? She is seeing a
therapist for emotional issues and I'm afraid that this will set her
back if she is forced to go visiting him. I told him he could see her
over here but he says that isn't good enough. Is there any way I can
stop him? Will the court make her see him? I can't bear the thought of
her being dragged out of the house kicking and screaming. It will
break my heart. Would they really allow that to happen?

Thanks for your help.

Jan

You don't have a clue. Do you? The little one is his too. You're the
one responsible to see to it they have a loving and healthy
relationship. Where did she get the idea dad was a bad guy anyway? It's
not genetic. I'll give you a hint... YOU! What sort of message are you
sending your "Little" girl about men and relationships? Your attitude
wreaks of feminisim. Kids need BOTH parents. Wake up and stop the
bull**** kitten. Who the hell are you to judge his motives? Perhaps
it would be a better idea to post this trash to a feminist audience.
Not to parents

"Janet" wrote in message
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My exboyfriend and I had a little girl in 1999. He took no interest in
her until I filed for child support a year ago. Now that I filed for
support he wants to see her all the time. She is very uncomfortable
around him and I have my doubts about him as well. I just got a notice
of a hearing for him wanting to establish forced parenting time! She
hardly knows this man. She doesn't even like seeing him at my house.
Can he just come in and take her out of here that way? She is seeing a
therapist for emotional issues and I'm afraid that this will set her
back if she is forced to go visiting him. I told him he could see her
over here but he says that isn't good enough. Is there any way I can
stop him? Will the court make her see him? I can't bear the thought of
her being dragged out of the house kicking and screaming. It will
break my heart. Would they really allow that to happen?

It's going to be up to you to make this easy for her. The judge almost
certaily will assign him time with his chld. So you need to start talking
about all the wonderful things little girls can do with their fathers. Talk
to him, and arrange for the 3 of you to start doing some things together--go
out for a hamburger, go see a movie, etc. Laugh with him, talk with him.
Let HER see what a nice man he is. (You obviously did more thatn laugh and
talk at one point in time, or she wouldn't be here) Let her see the man you
cared enough about to create her. YOU have the power to help this happen
without trauma. Be a loving mother to your daughter and help her get to
know and love her daddy.

"teachrmama" wrote in message
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"Janet" wrote in message
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My exboyfriend and I had a little girl in 1999. He took no interest in
her until I filed for child support a year ago. Now that I filed for
support he wants to see her all the time. She is very uncomfortable
around him and I have my doubts about him as well. I just got a notice
of a hearing for him wanting to establish forced parenting time! She
hardly knows this man. She doesn't even like seeing him at my house.
Can he just come in and take her out of here that way? She is seeing a
therapist for emotional issues and I'm afraid that this will set her
back if she is forced to go visiting him. I told him he could see her
over here but he says that isn't good enough. Is there any way I can
stop him? Will the court make her see him? I can't bear the thought of
her being dragged out of the house kicking and screaming. It will
break my heart. Would they really allow that to happen?

It's going to be up to you to make this easy for her. The judge almost
certaily will assign him time with his chld. So you need to start talking
about all the wonderful things little girls can do with their fathers. Talk
to him, and arrange for the 3 of you to start doing some things together--go
out for a hamburger, go see a movie, etc. Laugh with him, talk with him.
Let HER see what a nice man he is. (You obviously did more thatn laugh and
talk at one point in time, or she wouldn't be here) Let her see the man you
cared enough about to create her. YOU have the power to help this happen
without trauma. Be a loving mother to your daughter and help her get to
know and love her daddy.


Great post TM! I couldn't have said it any better.

Tiff