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Stay at home mom
I am a working mother. My baby is 3 months old now. Well, I can't stand
being away from her, to the point where I get depressed and go into the bathroom and cry. I do this almost everyday, not sure if it is hormonal or what. Well, there is no way I could stay at home without bring in some sort of income. I have thought and thought of ways to be able to stay at home with her and work from home. But, I can't come up with anything. Any ideas that worked for anyone? Did anyone else go through this seperation anxiety? I get so jealous of stay at home moms. On another note. I just started this new BC pill called Seasonale where you only get 4 periods a year. Well, after taking it for 4 weeks, I started bleeding, I thought it was breakthrough bleeding, but its not. I bled for two week then called my OB. She gave me some estradiol, a hormone pill. I have been on it for almost a week and it hasn't stopped yet. That mean almost 3 weeks straight of bleeding. Has this happened to anyone? If it helps I did have a C-section. Mom to DD- 03/03/04 |
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On Fri, 28 May 2004 11:22:57 -0400, "libbymom04"
wrote: I am a working mother. My baby is 3 months old now. Well, I can't stand being away from her, to the point where I get depressed and go into the bathroom and cry. I do this almost everyday, not sure if it is hormonal or what. Well, there is no way I could stay at home without bring in some sort of income. I have thought and thought of ways to be able to stay at home with her and work from home. But, I can't come up with anything. Any ideas that worked for anyone? Did anyone else go through this seperation anxiety? I get so jealous of stay at home moms. I was that way the whole year my firstborn was in daycare, I'd cry on the way to daycare, on the way to work, at work, on the way back to daycare untiL I had her in my arms. I felt horrible. I was single also so besides welfare there was no way I could stay at home...I had no kinds of skills back then to be able to work from home. When my mom started keeping her I was much better, and at least didn't cry, though I missed her so bad, and it sucked that by the time I'd get off work and go get her it was midnight and she was sleeping. I feel for mothers who have to work, it is so hard... All I can think of is things like medical transcription work, some kind of computer work, or housecleaning, or babysitting. There is welfare also (which I did use at one point, that's what it is there for imo) On another note. I just started this new BC pill called Seasonale where you only get 4 periods a year. Well, after taking it for 4 weeks, I started bleeding, I thought it was breakthrough bleeding, but its not. I bled for two week then called my OB. She gave me some estradiol, a hormone pill. I have been on it for almost a week and it hasn't stopped yet. That mean almost 3 weeks straight of bleeding. Has this happened to anyone? If it helps I did have a C-section. Mom to DD- 03/03/04 |
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Stay at home mom
"libbymom04" wrote in message lkaboutparenting.com... I am a working mother. My baby is 3 months old now. Well, I can't stand being away from her, to the point where I get depressed and go into the bathroom and cry. I do this almost everyday, not sure if it is hormonal or what. Hi Libby- This will get better, you know. If you have to work, please try to remember that you won't be sobbing in the parking lot for the rest of your life. You'll get accustomed to this, as will your kid(s). Even *I* got through this part, and I was the mom that the daycare staff was certain was going to pull her child out, because she couldn't take it. I think they had a pool going. eyeroll This *will* get better. Well, there is no way I could stay at home without bring in some sort of income. I have thought and thought of ways to be able to stay at home with her and work from home. But, I can't come up with anything. Any ideas that worked for anyone? What did you do before you had kids? The easiest way to work from home is to transition your existing job to a part time/consulting/telcommuting position, which is what I did. What do you do? Donna |
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"Marie" wrote I feel for mothers who have to work, it is so hard... All I can think of is things like medical transcription work, some kind of computer work, or housecleaning, or babysitting. There is welfare also (which I did use at one point, that's what it is there for imo) Also, I know someone who needed to bring in some money for supplemental income but didn't want to be apart from her baby- she got a job at a daycare, and the daycare allowed her kids to stay there for free, and she got paid to care for the kids including hers. It didn't pay much, though... |
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I was working for an attorney's office, but when I cam back from maternity
leave I started a new job in the county I live in's Juvenile Probabtion Office. I am not sure what I could do to be able to stay at home. My mother-in-law keeps her everyday along with her other two grandaughters, 2 and 5. My problem with leaving her is mainly I am gonna miss her milestones. I don't wan her to get me and Maw-Maw confused. It would really upset me if she wanted her Maw-Maw instead of me one day. |
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Stay at home mom
libbymom04 wrote:
My problem with leaving her is mainly I am gonna miss her milestones. That is sort of a fallacy. Milestones generally happen in increments. It isn't like she is going to go from laying down to sitting on her own in 30 seconds, it happens gradually. I don't wan her to get me and Maw-Maw confused. This will not happen. It would really upset me if she wanted her Maw-Maw instead of me one day. She might at some particular minute in time. Sometimes my kids will pick their grandma over me and she doesn't even baby sit or live in the same town. The important thing to remember is that she is *not* going to forget who her mommy is. She'll love you as a mother and her Maw-Maw as a grandma. Children can't have to many people to love them. :-) -- Nikki Mama to Hunter (5) and Luke (3) |
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libbymom04 wrote:
Did anyone else go through this separation anxiety? Oh definitely. It was worse with my first but I had a touch of it with my second too. I would have unreasonable spells of panic where I just was sure I'd left him somewhere because he wasn't in the back seat. I of course *knew* he was at daycare but I'd get that split second of panic frequently and then just be overwhelmingly sad. It gets better!!! I think I was past that by 6 months. You'll find a routine and it sounds like your baby is well cared for and loved with your MIL so that is good :-) -- Nikki Mama to Hunter (5) and Luke (3) |
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libbymom04 wrote:
I was working for an attorney's office, but when I cam back from maternity leave I started a new job in the county I live in's Juvenile Probabtion Office. I am not sure what I could do to be able to stay at home. My mother-in-law keeps her everyday along with her other two grandaughters, 2 and 5. My problem with leaving her is mainly I am gonna miss her milestones. I don't wan her to get me and Maw-Maw confused. It would really upset me if she wanted her Maw-Maw instead of me one day. If that's your main worry, relax. They know who Mom is, even if they're in daycare full time. That's totally not an issue. You will also see her milestones. You might not see her first steps, but that could happen even if you were a SAHM. However, you will shortly see the first step that *you* see, and that's as good a milestone as any. I think there are valid reasons to stay home (missing your kids among them), but I don't think that missing milestones or having the child not know his or her mother are very high on the list to worry about, though I know that's easier to say than to do. Best wishes, Ericka |
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"libbymom04" wrote in message lkaboutparenting.com... I was working for an attorney's office, but when I cam back from maternity leave I started a new job in the county I live in's Juvenile Probabtion Office. I am not sure what I could do to be able to stay at home. My mother-in-law keeps her everyday along with her other two grandaughters, 2 and 5. My problem with leaving her is mainly I am gonna miss her milestones. I don't wan her to get me and Maw-Maw confused. It would really upset me if she wanted her Maw-Maw instead of me one day. What is it that is keeping you at work? When you look at all your expenses of working -- clothes, car, buying lunch maybe, whatever compensation you give your MIL, income and payroll taxes (count your income as the "top" portion of your family income) -- how much better off are you *really*? There's some good web pages about that, about the cost of working. I also suggest you co-sleep if you don't already -- which gives your baby an extra 8 hours a day smelling Mommy's skin and hearing Mommy's breathing. I think that's important parenting time and I am a SAHM. -- Dagny Mom to Meg, 10/03 EDD 1/19/05 |
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Stay at home mom
"Ericka Kammerer" wrote in message
You might not see her first steps, but that could happen even if you were a SAHM. snip Yep. I'm a primarily SAHM though I have a small business of my own and work from home with that during naptimes and evenings. I went to a three day training this past week to become a Certified Breastfeeding Educator. My mom babysat for us and brought DS to me several times each day to nurse. Wouldn't you know it, he started crawling and getting from lying-on-his-belly-to-a-sitting-position-unaided during those three days and I missed it! It still seemed special though, because when I got home, I got to see the new tricks for the first time. -- Em mama to L-baby, 8 months old! |
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