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GOOD GRIEF

Bereaved Adjust Well Without Airing Emotion

"Mental-health workers have long theorized that it takes grueling
emotional exertion to recover from the death of a loved one. So-called
grief work, now the stock-in-trade of a growing number of grief
counselors, entails confronting the reality of a loved one's demise
and grappling with the harsh emotions triggered by that loss.

Two new studies, however, knock grief work off its theoretical
pedestal. Among bereaved spouses tracked for up to 2 years after their
partners' death, those who often talked with others and briefly wrote
in diaries about their emotions fared no better than their
tight-lipped, unexpressive counterparts, according to psychologist
Margaret Stroebe of Utrecht University in the Netherlands and her
colleagues.

In most cases, 'the bereaved have to cope with their loss in their own
time and their own way,' the researchers conclude in the February 2002
issue of the _Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology_ (Stroebe
M, Stroebe W, Schut H, Zech E, van den Bout J. Does disclosure of
emotions facilitate recovery from bereavement? Evidence from two
prospective studies. _J Consult Clin Psychol_. 2000;70:169-178).
'There was no evidence that talking about the loss with others and
disclosing one's emotions facilitated [psychological] adjustment.'

The new findings are consistent with evidence that psychotherapy
benefits only the small proportion of bereaved individuals who suffer
from severe, unrelenting yearning for a deceased person and seek out
professional help. (_Science News_, January 14, 1995, page 22)...
Other research suggests that grief work may do more harm than good if
it fosters the expression of negative emotions, remarks psychologist
George A. Bonanno of Columbia University."

_Science News_. March 2, 2002;151:131-132

Noted by JFL, MD, PEDIATRICS Vol. 111 No. 5 May 2003, p. 955

PF Riley quoted:

Two new studies, however, knock grief work off its theoretical
pedestal. Among bereaved spouses tracked for up to 2 years after their
partners' death, those who often talked with others and briefly wrote
in diaries about their emotions fared no better than their
tight-lipped, unexpressive counterparts, according to psychologist
Margaret Stroebe of Utrecht University in the Netherlands and her
colleagues.

Another study discovering something my grandmother told me.

She said that the only cure for grief was time.

Wendy

"Wendy Marsden" wrote
Another study discovering something my grandmother told me.

Some day the peds may learn as much as your grandmother knew.

On Sun, 24 Aug 2003 23:45:26 GMT, "Roger Schlafly"
wrote:

"Wendy Marsden" wrote
Another study discovering something my grandmother told me.

Some day the peds may learn as much as your grandmother knew.

Some day you will learn something useful instead of regurgitating,
without even understanding, the bull**** your mother makes up, moron.

PF

Roger Schlafly wrote:
"Wendy Marsden" wrote
Another study discovering something my grandmother told me.

Some day the peds may learn as much as your grandmother knew.

Other things she told me that I saw "discovered" in studies:

Chicken soup is good for a cold (she was Jewish).
Circumcision hurts (so use anesthesia) (what, I SAID she was Jewish)
Music lessons are good for your brain development (so we all started piano
at age 5)
Fish is "brain food". (So eat your lox and herring.)

My favorite is what she told me as she was turning 90: "I've got
congestive heart failure, but don't worry dear, it's not as bad as it
sounds." She died in her sleep at age 90 with her daughter holding her
hand. She had all her faculties until the end. She sure knew a lot.

-- Wendy

(PF Riley) wrote:

Bereaved Adjust Well Without Airing Emotion
Should be "many, or some, or most ..."

"Mental-health workers have long theorized that it takes grueling
emotional exertion to recover from the death of a loved one. So-called
grief work, now the stock-in-trade of a growing number of grief
counselors, entails confronting the reality of a loved one's demise
and grappling with the harsh emotions triggered by that loss.

Everyone HAS to do that, it just doesn't take formal intervention
and "grueling emotional exertion". Some people do need
intervention, others can work through it on their own over a
preiod of months to years.

Two new studies, however, knock grief work off its theoretical
pedestal. Among bereaved spouses tracked for up to 2 years after their
partners' death, those who often talked with others and briefly wrote
in diaries about their emotions fared no better than their
tight-lipped, unexpressive counterparts

Because the shrinks do not know what is going on behind those
tight-lipped, unexpressive countenances.

'There was no evidence that talking about the loss with others and
disclosing one's emotions facilitated [psychological] adjustment.'

I imagine that those that did it, continued to do it because they
found it was helping.

Tsu Dho Nimh

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