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Hi,
I'm a 13 yo girl. I'd like to know if other parents agree I should be a bit resentful of my mom. She's kinda nice, caring, show love, a wonderful mom. But she has a habit I don't like. When I or my litlle brother do something wrong, she almost always gives a punishment. She's understanding, it's never a harsh punishment, it's just something she calls a lesson to make us think. This makes me a bit resentful, because no one is perfect, everyone makes mistakes and I don't think people should be punished every time they do a mitake. Right? I must say in my case it's not that bad, cause my mom shows love even when she punishes. I know she's sure shes doing her best, but she could be more flexible. We are good kids, we are no monsters. Last Friday I did something I know I shouldn't. I ended up giving up to some friends and went with them to a mall in the car of a 19 yo guy that my parents don't know. Nothing bad happened, he's a nice guy, but I know I shouldnt do that and of course I'm not allowed. But, well, I didnt think. I guess my mom would never find out, but I told her and apologized. I told her the truth, agreed it was a mistake. Frankly, I dont think I deserved any punishment, I didnt do anything awful. My mom said she was proud of my honesty, said I was forgiven, gave me a big hug, several kisses...and a punishment. She said I was a wonderful girl but needed a lesson to remind me I must think before acting.I didnt make a fuss, just said, Oh mom, come on, I just made a mistake. But though she called me hun and showed love, she didnt back off. So, for a week, I'll have to spend one hour a day doing some extra chores in the kitchen or something like that (and wearing a frilly pinafore, something mom finds really sweet and I dont like). Just "to make me think", because she loves me so much. Ok, this is a light punishment, and though I was being punished I had a very good weekend, had a lot of fun. But I dont think this is fair. After all Im a good girl, dont get in troubles, get good grades. Everyone has the right to make a mistake sometimes, no one is God! Well, of course IŽll obey, of course I love my mom and wont make any fuss. I know it's much better to have a mom like her than one that never punishes but dont care, either. But frankly, Im a bit resentful and dont know if I should tell mom how I feel. I'd lke advice from smeone older and more experienced than me Thank you Jane |
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Cute girl wrote: Hi, I'm a 13 yo girl. I'd like to know if other parents agree I should be a bit resentful of my mom. She's kinda nice, caring, show love, a wonderful mom. But she has a habit I don't like. When I or my litlle brother do something wrong, she almost always gives a punishment. She's understanding, it's never a harsh punishment, it's just something she calls a lesson to make us think. This makes me a bit resentful, because no one is perfect, everyone makes mistakes and I don't think people should be punished every time they do a mitake. Right? I must say in my case it's not that bad, cause my mom shows love even when she punishes. I know she's sure shes doing her best, but she could be more flexible. We are good kids, we are no monsters. Last Friday I did something I know I shouldn't. If you did something you know you shouldn't do, you should be punished. The consquences could have been horrible. You could have been in a car crash, raped, kidnapped, killed. How many times do we have to hear these kind of stories in the news? Kids your age have bad judgment sometimes and your mom wants to make you think next time before you do something that could have deadly consquences. She treated you fair, IMO. I ended up giving up to some friends and went with them to a mall in the car of a 19 yo guy that my parents don't know. Nothing bad happened, he's a nice guy, but I know I shouldnt do that and of course I'm not allowed. But, well, I didnt think. I guess my mom would never find out, but I told her and apologized. I told her the truth, agreed it was a mistake. Frankly, I dont think I deserved any punishment, I didnt do anything awful. My mom said she was proud of my honesty, said I was forgiven, gave me a big hug, several kisses...and a punishment. She said I was a wonderful girl but needed a lesson to remind me I must think before acting.I didnt make a fuss, just said, Oh mom, come on, I just made a mistake. But though she called me hun and showed love, she didnt back off. So, for a week, I'll have to spend one hour a day doing some extra chores in the kitchen or something like that (and wearing a frilly pinafore, something mom finds really sweet and I dont like). Just "to make me think", because she loves me so much. Ok, this is a light punishment, and though I was being punished I had a very good weekend, had a lot of fun. But I dont think this is fair. After all Im a good girl, dont get in troubles, get good grades. Everyone has the right to make a mistake sometimes, no one is God! Well, of course IŽll obey, of course I love my mom and wont make any fuss. I know it's much better to have a mom like her than one that never punishes but dont care, either. But frankly, Im a bit resentful and dont know if I should tell mom how I feel. I'd lke advice from smeone older and more experienced than me Thank you Jane |
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Consider youself lucky.
If my son (who is your age) ever pulled a stunt like that, and went off with a 19yr old without like that, he'd be grounded for a long time. And punishment like that would be; no friends, no tv, no video games, no nothing for a period of time, plus the extra chores Then again, my neice recently lost a close friend who had gone to her boyfriends house and one thing lead to another, and they got in the car with another friend, were in an accident, and my niece's friend ended up being killed in the accident. She was 16yrs old. She wasn't supposed to have been in the car with a strange boy. She also had left her purse at her boyfriend's house. The police could not contact her mom, so her mom found out about it when she was home watching the news and they were talking about this horrible accident where a 16yr old girl had been killed. Another friend called her mom to say that she knew she'd gone into the car and the car on the news looks like the car they left in. It is very sad, and you have to think about the things that could happen to you by doing irresponsible things. You were lucky this time - nothing happened. But think about the mom, and friends of my neice's friend. They all lost a dear friend who did the same irresponsible thing you did. I can tell you, when I was 15, I also lost a dear friend to a car accident. In that case, the driver was a friend of the family, and that poor boy had to go thru life knowing he had killed 2 people (my friend and another person in the car). He did not come back to school. As for the punishment you get - those are lessons, and your mom is doing a very good parenting job if you are, in general, a good kid, but the only way you actually do learn is to learn from your mistakes and pay the consequences for your mistakes. As adults, we also have to pay our consequences for our mistakes. By learning to accept responsibility as kids, you are better equipt to deal with being an adult and learn to accept responsibility for your life. That is life! You will be a better, more responsible person for it. "Cute girl" wrote in message ps.com... Hi, I'm a 13 yo girl. I'd like to know if other parents agree I should be a bit resentful of my mom. She's kinda nice, caring, show love, a wonderful mom. But she has a habit I don't like. When I or my litlle brother do something wrong, she almost always gives a punishment. She's understanding, it's never a harsh punishment, it's just something she calls a lesson to make us think. This makes me a bit resentful, because no one is perfect, everyone makes mistakes and I don't think people should be punished every time they do a mitake. Right? I must say in my case it's not that bad, cause my mom shows love even when she punishes. I know she's sure shes doing her best, but she could be more flexible. We are good kids, we are no monsters. Last Friday I did something I know I shouldn't. I ended up giving up to some friends and went with them to a mall in the car of a 19 yo guy that my parents don't know. Nothing bad happened, he's a nice guy, but I know I shouldnt do that and of course I'm not allowed. But, well, I didnt think. I guess my mom would never find out, but I told her and apologized. I told her the truth, agreed it was a mistake. Frankly, I dont think I deserved any punishment, I didnt do anything awful. My mom said she was proud of my honesty, said I was forgiven, gave me a big hug, several kisses...and a punishment. She said I was a wonderful girl but needed a lesson to remind me I must think before acting.I didnt make a fuss, just said, Oh mom, come on, I just made a mistake. But though she called me hun and showed love, she didnt back off. So, for a week, I'll have to spend one hour a day doing some extra chores in the kitchen or something like that (and wearing a frilly pinafore, something mom finds really sweet and I dont like). Just "to make me think", because she loves me so much. Ok, this is a light punishment, and though I was being punished I had a very good weekend, had a lot of fun. But I dont think this is fair. After all Im a good girl, dont get in troubles, get good grades. Everyone has the right to make a mistake sometimes, no one is God! Well, of course IŽll obey, of course I love my mom and wont make any fuss. I know it's much better to have a mom like her than one that never punishes but dont care, either. But frankly, Im a bit resentful and dont know if I should tell mom how I feel. I'd lke advice from smeone older and more experienced than me Thank you Jane |
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She is teaching you a life long rule. Every action has a consequence.
She has trained you well to know WHAT you did was stupid.....yet you choose to do what was stupid therefore there is consequences......be thankful your mum is teaching you these instead of the 19 yr old who could hve raped you, bashed you or killed you. Or all of the aforementioned! If this post is lagit, then she sounds like a wonderful mum....be so very very thankful she is! And learn from your punishments, and take notes for when you are a parent. All the best Fiona "Cute girl" wrote in message ps.com... Hi, I'm a 13 yo girl. I'd like to know if other parents agree I should be a bit resentful of my mom. She's kinda nice, caring, show love, a wonderful mom. But she has a habit I don't like. When I or my litlle brother do something wrong, she almost always gives a punishment. She's understanding, it's never a harsh punishment, it's just something she calls a lesson to make us think. This makes me a bit resentful, because no one is perfect, everyone makes mistakes and I don't think people should be punished every time they do a mitake. Right? I must say in my case it's not that bad, cause my mom shows love even when she punishes. I know she's sure shes doing her best, but she could be more flexible. We are good kids, we are no monsters. Last Friday I did something I know I shouldn't. I ended up giving up to some friends and went with them to a mall in the car of a 19 yo guy that my parents don't know. Nothing bad happened, he's a nice guy, but I know I shouldnt do that and of course I'm not allowed. But, well, I didnt think. I guess my mom would never find out, but I told her and apologized. I told her the truth, agreed it was a mistake. Frankly, I dont think I deserved any punishment, I didnt do anything awful. My mom said she was proud of my honesty, said I was forgiven, gave me a big hug, several kisses...and a punishment. She said I was a wonderful girl but needed a lesson to remind me I must think before acting.I didnt make a fuss, just said, Oh mom, come on, I just made a mistake. But though she called me hun and showed love, she didnt back off. So, for a week, I'll have to spend one hour a day doing some extra chores in the kitchen or something like that (and wearing a frilly pinafore, something mom finds really sweet and I dont like). Just "to make me think", because she loves me so much. Ok, this is a light punishment, and though I was being punished I had a very good weekend, had a lot of fun. But I dont think this is fair. After all Im a good girl, dont get in troubles, get good grades. Everyone has the right to make a mistake sometimes, no one is God! Well, of course IŽll obey, of course I love my mom and wont make any fuss. I know it's much better to have a mom like her than one that never punishes but dont care, either. But frankly, Im a bit resentful and dont know if I should tell mom how I feel. I'd lke advice from smeone older and more experienced than me Thank you Jane |
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Cute girl wrote:
[snip] Ok, this is a light punishment, and though I was being punished I had a very good weekend, had a lot of fun. But I dont think this is fair. After all Im a good girl, dont get in troubles, get good grades. Everyone has the right to make a mistake sometimes, no one is God! Well, of course IŽll obey, of course I love my mom and wont make any fuss. I know it's much better to have a mom like her than one that never punishes but dont care, either. But frankly, Im a bit resentful and dont know if I should tell mom how I feel. I'd lke advice from smeone older and more experienced than me Hi Jane I'm pleased you're doing well at school and don't get into trouble. Everyone has the right to make mistakes, but what you did wasn't really a mistake. You deliberately did something you knew your mom would object to. OK, it might have been tough to say to your friends "I can't come". You might know the 19yo, and know he is nice. But even so, you *chose* to go. Being a teenager means sometimes you will resent your parents. This time, I wouldn't tell. If it had been a genuine error on your part, then maybe tell them. But not this time. Oh and the apron - could you find an apron that you think is OK and see if your mum would let you use that instead of the frilly one? HTH -- Penny Gaines UK mum to three |
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"LFM" wrote in
: Consider youself lucky. i really hate to say this, but i think you've been trolled. this almost exact same post was on m.k. in the spring. i think it may also have been posted here. lee |
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"enigma" wrote in message . .. "LFM" wrote in : Consider youself lucky. i really hate to say this, but i think you've been trolled. this almost exact same post was on m.k. in the spring. i think it may also have been posted here. lee I think the same thing... I actually wasted about 6-7 lines worth of my time then realized I didn't want to bother replying to a troll. The original post smells of troll from miles away. I kinda remember something similar a while back as well. |
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"enigma" wrote in message . .. "LFM" wrote in : Consider youself lucky. i really hate to say this, but i think you've been trolled. this almost exact same post was on m.k. in the spring. i think it may also have been posted here. lee Your right .. and I think the same story is also posted from the mothers POV. ah .well, we can learn from trolls too |
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In article ,
"Knit Chic" wrote: "enigma" wrote in message . .. "LFM" wrote in : Consider youself lucky. i really hate to say this, but i think you've been trolled. this almost exact same post was on m.k. in the spring. i think it may also have been posted here. lee Your right .. and I think the same story is also posted from the mothers POV. ah .well, we can learn from trolls too They've been known to start some of our BEST discussions. I must have smelled a troll as I was reading it, because I kept expecting the punishment to be something totally whacked, instead of so relatively normal. -- Children won't care how much you know until they know how much you care |
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dragonlady wrote: In article , "Knit Chic" wrote: "enigma" wrote in message . .. "LFM" wrote in : Consider youself lucky. i really hate to say this, but i think you've been trolled. this almost exact same post was on m.k. in the spring. i think it may also have been posted here. lee Your right .. and I think the same story is also posted from the mothers POV. ah .well, we can learn from trolls too They've been known to start some of our BEST discussions. I must have smelled a troll as I was reading it, because I kept expecting the punishment to be something totally whacked, instead of so relatively normal. Just a better quality troll than most you see these days. There's one poster in ASAD and ASA that I keep suspecting *may* be a troll... but then again, he may not. If he is, he's doing a *much* better troll than you usually see these days. A good troll is one where you can't tell that it's a troll. Most are flagrantly obvious. Kitten |
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