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do people not like holding their babies?
I took ds for jabs today, our surgery has a baby clinic for an hour on a
Monday so the waiting room was full of babies. It didn't occur to me til I came home that I was the only one actually holding my baby, everyone else came in with them in a buggy, or a car seat, I'd driven, so when I'd parked I took him out of the seat, so much easier than unbuckling it and it's much easier to carry a baby than a huge plastic bucket. In the waiting room no one picked up their babies til they cried, mine never cried, he sat on my lap, played with me smiled at the nurses, took interest in his surroundings and generally got admired by everyone for being sociable. I didn't think I was an attachment parent, but now I'm probably thinking compared to average I am, he's sociable cos people socialise with him! ----------- Anne Rogers |
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do people not like holding their babies?
"Anne Rogers" wrote in message ... I took ds for jabs today, our surgery has a baby clinic for an hour on a Monday so the waiting room was full of babies. It didn't occur to me til I came home that I was the only one actually holding my baby, everyone else came in with them in a buggy, or a car seat, I'd driven, so when I'd parked I took him out of the seat, so much easier than unbuckling it and it's much easier to carry a baby than a huge plastic bucket. In the waiting room no one picked up their babies til they cried, mine never cried, he sat on my lap, played with me smiled at the nurses, took interest in his surroundings and generally got admired by everyone for being sociable. I didn't think I was an attachment parent, but now I'm probably thinking compared to average I am, he's sociable cos people socialise with him! ----------- Anne Rogers Before munchkinhead was mobile I loved to hold him no matter where we were UNLESS I was standing, then it was DH's job or Nicolas was in a stroller or bucket (I have bad back problems) But as long as I was able to sit I wanted to hold him. Now that he is 16 months, walking all over the place and weighs a ton I prefer to let him be down Jen |
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do people not like holding their babies?
"Anne Rogers" wrote in message
... I took ds for jabs today, our surgery has a baby clinic for an hour on a Monday so the waiting room was full of babies. It didn't occur to me til I came home that I was the only one actually holding my baby, everyone else came in with them in a buggy, or a car seat I've tried both ways. I've carried DD to the doctor's and I've put her in a stroller. For some reason, I seem to lack the dexterity of other people and have a really hard time holding a baby and fumbling around in my bag for my credit card, filling out paperwork, etc. The stroller just gives me two hands free to do stuff. At our ped's office, they never have you wait in the waiting room for more than about two minutes, so it's not worth taking her out of the stroller. I hold her while we wait in the exam room though. |
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do people not like holding their babies?
Well, I do the same, bring my baby in his stroller. As long as he is
content I leave him be. Sometimes a mom needs a break and when he is a new place he gets stimulation and enjoyment from watching others. I do speak with him and talk to him while we go places, but it's nice to have baby confined...Plus the sroller I put him in is big and I put all our stuff under the buggy. At home I don't get a break at all.......He is on my hip or at my feet, so it is nice to have him near me in ublic without being on top of me......and then there is big brother. Plus it's a way of keeping people from touching him. People seem to be more friendly with babies when mommy is holding them. A doctors office is just hidden with germs. Jay I took ds for jabs today, our surgery has a baby clinic for an hour on a Monday so the waiting room was full of babies. It didn't occur to me til I came home that I was the only one actually holding my baby, everyone else came in with them in a buggy, or a car seat, I'd driven, so when I'd parked I took him out of the seat, so much easier than unbuckling it and it's much easier to carry a baby than a huge plastic bucket. In the waiting room no one picked up their babies til they cried, mine never cried, he sat on my lap, played with me smiled at the nurses, took interest in his surroundings and generally got admired by everyone for being sociable. I didn't think I was an attachment parent, but now I'm probably thinking compared to average I am, he's sociable cos people socialise with him! ----------- Anne Rogers |
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I always said that DD was a velcro baby. When she was born, she was not
happy unless I held her (ALL THE TIME), and at first I was a little exasperated by it (never expected to sleep with my baby, BF until 14 months (still going strong though) etc...) but instead of fighting with her, I just gave her what she needed. Once I did that, parenthood got a lot more fun, and a lot smoother..... -- Michelle P Ava Marie July 14, 2002 "Anne Rogers" wrote in message ... I took ds for jabs today, our surgery has a baby clinic for an hour on a Monday so the waiting room was full of babies. It didn't occur to me til I came home that I was the only one actually holding my baby, everyone else came in with them in a buggy, or a car seat, I'd driven, so when I'd parked I took him out of the seat, so much easier than unbuckling it and it's much easier to carry a baby than a huge plastic bucket. In the waiting room no one picked up their babies til they cried, mine never cried, he sat on my lap, played with me smiled at the nurses, took interest in his surroundings and generally got admired by everyone for being sociable. I didn't think I was an attachment parent, but now I'm probably thinking compared to average I am, he's sociable cos people socialise with him! ----------- Anne Rogers |
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On Mon, 8 Sep 2003 22:00:59 +0100, Anne Rogers
wrote: I took ds for jabs today, our surgery has a baby clinic for an hour on a Monday so the waiting room was full of babies. It didn't occur to me til I came home that I was the only one actually holding my baby, everyone else came in with them in a buggy, or a car seat, I'd driven, so when I'd parked I took him out of the seat, so much easier than unbuckling it and it's much easier to carry a baby than a huge plastic bucket. In the waiting room no one picked up their babies til they cried, mine never cried, he sat on my lap, played with me smiled at the nurses, took interest in his surroundings and generally got admired by everyone for being sociable. I didn't think I was an attachment parent, but now I'm probably thinking compared to average I am, he's sociable cos people socialise with him! That is how it is everywhere we go, it's rare to see someone holding a baby instead of having it in a carrier or stroller. Usually the baby stays in the carrier/stroller even if it is crying, the parent just rocks the carrier or pushes the stroller back and forth, crams a pacifier in baby's mouth or sticks a bottle in there. Many times we have been shopping and see a baby crying in the carrier inside the cart, the parents just ignore it and get on with their lives. Yes yes I know about the babies who cry and holding them won't help. I still wouldn't let it go on for so long without picking them up. Marie |
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do people not like holding their babies?
Anne Rogers wrote:
I took ds for jabs today, our surgery has a baby clinic for an hour on a Monday so the waiting room was full of babies. It didn't occur to me til I came home that I was the only one actually holding my baby, everyone else came in with them in a buggy, or a car seat, Most likely the 'don't fuss with a content baby' factor, which has some merit :-) I didn't use a bucket with Hunter and only did with Luke when he was about 2.5mos I found it made life *a lot* easier but it hurt my back to carry the bucket. Anyway.....I see a lot of strollers and buckets in my area as well but my experience differs in that I hardly ever see a baby left to cry in them. Once the baby cries then they are taken out and comforted or fed or what have you. -- Nikki Mama to Hunter (4) and Luke (2) |
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do people not like holding their babies?
You see these people for, what, 15 mins of their day, during which
time they are not holding their babies, and you assume they don't *like* to hold their babies? This is one of those problems that you need to remind yourself there's "not enough information" to figure out. I have a feeling that this is your first baby, and that he is not very mobile -- true? The child's age and personality type have a lot to do with how parents decide to transport them around. My 2nd child wanted to be held at all times and only rarely crawled further than a few feet away from me even after she could do so; it was for her that I bought a sling, and I sure used it! Had to get used to peeing with the thing on, for God's sake. Can't say I mind having a baby who is quite happy to sit in a cart or stroller or her carseat sometimes now -- a baby who is so fast and so adventurous that the world really is a dangerous place for her, and mom's arms a prison (unless she's tired, of course). I love holding babies, my own in particular. I hold my baby quite a bit, sometimes by my choice ("just for fun"), sometimes by her choice (I'd really like to do something else with my arms, like finish the dishes or cut an onion or brush out my older DD's hair with 2 hands rather than 1, but she needs to be held), and sometimes for convenience (I'm running into a small store for one thing and have cash). However, there are many times when you will not find me holding my baby. For example, I never carry her to the kids' busstop because the bus is often late and she probably weighs about 20 lbs now, so she gets heavy!! If the bus is very late, I take her out of the stroller and hold her for periods, but she comes and goes and spends a portion of the waiting time in her stroller. She doesn't seem to mind at all, or to be suffering socially, as she is down at the level of the kids when she's in her stroller, so she gets all kinds of attention. I always put her in something to take her into the doc's too, because she is a curious, fast crawler, and the doc's office floor would be a hazard, IMO. I *could* sign forms and fumble for money while holding her (during which time she would be invariably grabbing at the pen and at the money and at the papers and also craning around to see what's going on behind me, and reaching out suddenly and dangerously for the hair of the little kid standing next to me), but why should I? To advertise my love for her to complete strangers? I agree that the carseats are unweildy, but at least they provide you with a safe place to put a baby down in the event you need to, say, use a public toilet. You might consider this sad, but as a third child, my current baby is often just "along for the ride." I am simply not always in a position to hold her when we're out and about; in fact, I rarely am. However, what matters is that *she* is perfectly happy -- often ecstatic! -- to be out and about with us even though she is not held most of the time. When I have a free moment, I tend to take her out for a cuddle or a sit-down on my lap to play pat-a-cake or whatever, so she doesn't mind being in the stroller the rest of the time. She has a great life, if I may say so. . . Anne Rogers wrote in message ... I took ds for jabs today, our surgery has a baby clinic for an hour on a Monday so the waiting room was full of babies. It didn't occur to me til I came home that I was the only one actually holding my baby, everyone else came in with them in a buggy, or a car seat, I'd driven, so when I'd parked I took him out of the seat, so much easier than unbuckling it and it's much easier to carry a baby than a huge plastic bucket. In the waiting room no one picked up their babies til they cried, mine never cried, he sat on my lap, played with me smiled at the nurses, took interest in his surroundings and generally got admired by everyone for being sociable. I didn't think I was an attachment parent, but now I'm probably thinking compared to average I am, he's sociable cos people socialise with him! ----------- Anne Rogers |
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do people not like holding their babies?
Nevermind wrote: You see these people for, what, 15 mins of their day, during which time they are not holding their babies, and you assume they don't *like* to hold their babies? This is one of those problems that you need to remind yourself there's "not enough information" to figure out. I worked in a place where there were LOTS of babies and it was noticable and shocking how MANY people would not take their babies out of the carseat or stroller no matter what. To the point that we were known to comment to those rare moms who DID take their babes out that it was nice to see them respond to their infants. 20lbs isnt' that heavy, imo. I carry DS (19lb 11oz) in backpack or sling for long long periods of time on walks, visits to events, etc. I detest strollers from the point of view of the user AND the poor unfortunate person trying to navigate AROUND one of those monstrous blockages. Given the number of items available to make picking up one's child less "necessary" and the frequency with whch I see MANY of them in one house, I have to assume the average parent spends very little time holding their infant. Many places (homes)I've been, the parent has shuttled the baby from carseat to bouncer to swing to playmat to crib and back, only holding them long enough to transfer them. Although the question may be "loaded" it certainly seems a valid question if you look about and notice how very very few people really DO hold their infants/children for any appreciable length of time. and really, those that reply that they use a stroller or seat say they do so because they do NOT like holding their baby during a meal or to go for walks, or whatever. (Not to say they don't like their baby) Dawn |
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do people not like holding their babies?
Dawn Lawson wibbled
Although the question may be "loaded" it certainly seems a valid question if you look about and notice how very very few people really DO hold their infants/children for any appreciable length of time. and really, those that reply that they use a stroller or seat say they do so because they do NOT like holding their baby during a meal or to go for walks, or whatever. (Not to say they don't like their baby) I don't like holding the baby during some meals. I am clumsy and the prospect of dropping hot melted cheese on him, for instance, is unpleasantly likely. Babies burn more easily than adults. I'll happily hold him during a cold meal, or something I'm not likely to spill, and for great chunks of the day otherwise (he's on my lap right now) but I will not have him on my lap in a restaurant (ever had a waiter drop a hot meal in your lap? I have) or during certain meals at home. If he needs to be picked up, my meal can always be reheated, but I'm not risking burning him just because putting him in the bouncy chair might be seen as 'unattached'. Jac |
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