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do people not like holding their babies?
On 8 Sep 2003 21:11:36 -0700, (Anonymommmy)
wrote: What DH and I think is strange is "very old" children, like maybe 5 years old or older, in strollers. I don't get that either. DD is over 2 and she can walk. She is usually well behaved, but she has her moments. We generally don't use a stroller anymore. I feel sorry for those older children in strollers. -- Daye Momma to Jayan "Boy" EDD 11 Jan 2004 See Jayan: http://jayan.topcities.com/ |
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On Tue, 09 Sep 2003 10:09:19 -0400, Bruce and Jeanne
wrote: Anonymommmy wrote: What DH and I think is strange is "very old" children, like maybe 5 years old or older, in strollers. Sure it may seem weird but I'd rather seem weird to a stranger than carry my 45 lb (or more) child for an half hour or so and kill my back. But your 5 year old can walk. Why not just make your child walk? -- Daye Momma to Jayan "Boy" EDD 11 Jan 2004 See Jayan: http://jayan.topcities.com/ |
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"Daye" wrote in message ... We went, and I got the remover. DD was on my hip the whole time, and she loved being out. She was also well behaved. When I went to the checkout counter, the check out chick said to my DD (NOT to me), "Well, shouldn't you be in bed?" Then she looked at me like I was the worst mother in the world. I said very curtly, "She just woke up, and she will be going back to bed once we get home." This is a good example of how we all need to remember that we don't know the whole story. I'm sorry you had that allergic reaction, but thank you for sharing. I think we could all use the reminder. -- JennP. mom to Matthew 10/11/00 remove "no........spam" to reply |
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Daye wrote:
It still ****ed me off because the check out chick made an assumption because my DD was awake and out at 2am. That story reminded me of my 4am trip to the Walmart for Benadryl when I woke up covered in hives. If Caterpillar had woken up as I was going out, I'd have likely taken her, too. Phoebe |
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Dawn Lawson wrote
Let's not pretend that babies in slings are never cranky or that if you're out doing stuff with your baby in a sling and she starts crying, you are always able to make her happy immediately. Actually, he rarely cries if we're out and he's in the sling, and is easily soothed. My DD also very rarely cries when we're out, regardless of whether she's in a sling or the stroller. She loves being out and about, as is true of most older babies. Some are happier in slings; others are just as happy in strollers. I take ALL my baby's cries seriously, but not all crying can be avoided. I'm not saying that. Mind you, I do have a very happy little soul here. To what that can be attributed, I'm not saying. Well, a number of posters on this thread have clearly attempted to make a connection between their babies not being put into strollers and their babies being happy. However, my baby is quite happy too, and she is quite often in a stroller. Remember that a baby crying is not like an adult crying. I only cry when really really upet, whereas babies cry for the equivalent of "I think I'll have a glass of water now." Which they cannot do anything about themselves. ....needless to say. What I'm getting at with the above statement, though, is that these "I saw a baby CRYING today -- yes CRYING. And she was in a STROLLER" type statements are sort of silly if we keep in mind that a baby crying is really not such a strange thing, since about the only way they can express most desires is to cry. That a baby cries does not mean she is being neglected. it means she wants something and her caregiver hasn't gotten it for her -- yet. AND the poor unfortunate person trying to navigate AROUND one of those monstrous blockages. Whatever. You sound like a CFer with that. Stop one day and notice how obstructive and massive they are. As are cars, to a bike messenger. As are groups of people on city street corners, to a jogger. Lots of stuff gets in our way. We only complain about those we consider illegitimate. I don't consider strollers illegitmate. I consider them an acceptable way for people to transport their children around, and as children have as much right to be in the world as the rest of the people, then strollers and the occasional reasonable, unavoidable, and brief blockages they cause simply are part of the landscape that people in general need to deal with. I tend to assume militant APers are "persons of leisure" who can stand or sit around holding babies all day long. I am most definitely not. Silly. I have two gardens, am a single mum, keep a tidy house, cook meals, do the shopping, maintain my yard, have begun school, and rarely spend a day in the house. We go to heavy horse pulls, the zoo, botanical gardens, the lake, you name it. All the stuff in the last sentence are fun things to do that you can do while holding a baby. Those are, in fact, leisure activities. How do you cook meals while holding a baby? How do you garden while holding a baby? How do you go to school and do research while holding a baby? Although the question may be "loaded" it certainly seems a valid question if you look about and notice how very very few people really DO hold their infants/children for any appreciable length of time. Oh, please -- how could you possibly know that this is true? obsevation?! But you aren't around a sizable enough number of them for long enough to know and to able to then make pronouncements about society as a whole. Like the OP -- she based her complaint on, what, 15 minutes in a doc's office and extrapolated from there. People's reaction to ME wanting to hold DS. etc What, they complain about you holding him? Why would they care? Busybodies of the world, unite! and really, those that reply that they use a stroller or seat say they do so because they do NOT like holding their baby during a meal or to go for walks, or whatever. (Not to say they don't like their baby) Who on earth would hold a baby during a meal if she didn't have to (that is, if the baby was happy in a chair)? Why do we live in a society that needs to ASK what to do with a baby that ISN'T in a chair when out?? Huh? If I understand this question correctly (which it isn't easy to do), then you have *willfully* misread my statement, which gives good clues as to why you get so upset about seeing babies in strollers and such. I wasn't asking, in general, who on earth would hold a baby if the baby didn't appear to need to be held. I was asking who would do so *while trying to eat her meal*! That is not an easy thing to do with an active, curious, healthy baby of a certain age, so insisting on doing it is forced. |
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Anne Rogers wrote
I think not carrying a child is a psycological thing in some ways, our son was very small, initially his car seat drowned him so we only could use it for short essential trips in the car, it was also the only way for our buggy at that age, he was too small for our carrier (we didn't have a sling then), we wanted to take him out to introduce him to some friends who lived just round the corner, we really weren't sure whether we should just carry him in our arms, in the end we did, but we did get some funny looks. Are you sure you're not being a bit paranoid with this? Who would look funny at a person holding a very small baby? My middle child needed to be held all the time, and I'm sure I never got any "looks" while doing so. Maybe I live in some kind of alternate universe, or maybe this is proof that people see what they expect to see, but I don't agree that babies are never held out in public. And I *rarely* see babies crying without their parents either (1) quickly picking them up or otherwise making them happy or (2) making every reasonable attempt to finish what they must do so they can pick them up. In general, I guess I just find that in my little corner of the world, most parents appear to adore and dote upon their babies. This is NOT to say, though, that these babies never cry or never have to go without direct parental attention for certain periods of time. |
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"Michelle Podnar" wrote in message ...
That actually weighs heavily on when we have a second. I always wanted more that 2 children, but I am not sure I have enough attention to give to DD and to a new baby, not to mention more.... Don't get me wrong, DD is a wonderful child, and I love the person she is becoming, but she is a handful (attention wise, and she is a daredevil!!). Well, my own "velcro baby" came out of her shell at about 3, and by 4, people were acting surprised when I mentioned that she was shy. I do suspect that giving her all the closeness she needed early on, as hard as it sometimes was for me, helped her feel safe enough to separate as she got older. If you can give it a couple of years, you may find that you have a pretty "average" kid (need-for-closeness-wise) and so you'll be ready to start over again. And, of course, what are the chances of having 2 such babies in a row? |
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Daye wrote in message
I don't get that either. DD is over 2 and she can walk. She is usually well behaved, but she has her moments. We generally don't use a stroller anymore. I feel sorry for those older children in strollers. Why would you feel sorry for an older child that got tired and needed a break? Do you think that since they can walk, they will never get tired? I feel sorry for your children then if you expect them to walk on an all day outing without some place for them to have a break. -- Sue mom to three girls |
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do people not like holding their babies?
On Wed, 10 Sep 2003 08:11:39 +1000, Daye wrote:
I don't get that either. DD is over 2 and she can walk. She is usually well behaved, but she has her moments. We generally don't use a stroller anymore. I feel sorry for those older children in strollers. Consider the possibility that the child can't walk. Kyle can't, at three, and may not be able to do so by the time he's five. Since it's smaller than his wheelchair, we use his stroller for excursions, so it's not obvious to observers that he's got a disability. In addition, on a lengthier walking excursion, keeping some means for resting with you is good planning. Basically, beware the knee jerking assumptions. |
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