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"choosing" gifts for kids
Is it appropriate to mention that you prefer/do not prefer certain
kinds of gifts in a birthday party? For example, is it okay to say in the birthday invite something like "please bring only a small book as a present"? In fact I would love to say "please donot bring anything related to barbie" but I know that sounds off. Personally I detest barbie dolls and I would be very disappointed if my kid(s) like barbie stuff LOL. I'm not the pink and frilly kind and I don't want them to be either. This is somewhat related to the other thread about girls' clothes but I didn't want to cannibalize that thread. I don't know why people just assume that if it's a little girl's birthday, they must buy barbie-stuff as a present. Not to mention this friend who's insisting that she'll bake a big barbie cake for my DD's birthday! That's still several months away though! Thanks. |
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Is it appropriate to mention that you prefer/do not prefer certain
kinds of gifts in a birthday party? For example, is it okay to say in the birthday invite something like "please bring only a small book as a present"? In fact I would love to say "please donot bring anything related to barbie" but I know that sounds off. Personally I detest barbie dolls and I would be very disappointed if my kid(s) like barbie stuff LOL. I'm not the pink and frilly kind and I don't want them to be either. When people RSVP they usually ask what the child would like. I say then no play-doh or whatever I don't like. This is somewhat related to the other thread about girls' clothes but I didn't want to cannibalize that thread. I don't know why people just assume that if it's a little girl's birthday, they must buy barbie-stuff as a present. Not to mention this friend who's insisting that she'll bake a big barbie cake for my DD's birthday! That's still several months away though! Thanks. |
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om... Is it appropriate to mention that you prefer/do not prefer certain kinds of gifts in a birthday party? For example, is it okay to say in the birthday invite something like "please bring only a small book as a present"? In fact I would love to say "please donot bring anything related to barbie" but I know that sounds off. Personally I detest barbie dolls and I would be very disappointed if my kid(s) like barbie stuff LOL. I'm not the pink and frilly kind and I don't want them to be either. I have informed my mom that I wanted my kids to recieve more educational toys then not for gifts. While I dont have a problem with Barbie I HATE the Bratz dolls so I am hoping we can avoid those. I think one thing that will help in my quest to get more educational toys is that most of my family knows I want to homeschool. This is somewhat related to the other thread about girls' clothes but I didn't want to cannibalize that thread. I don't know why people just assume that if it's a little girl's birthday, they must buy barbie-stuff as a present. Not to mention this friend who's insisting that she'll bake a big barbie cake for my DD's birthday! That's still several months away though! Tell her Thank you verry much but my daughter is really into INSERT CHARECTER HERE right now and would really love a cake with that on it. Tori -- Bonnie 3/20/02 Xavier due 10/17/04 |
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ted wrote:
Is it appropriate to mention that you prefer/do not prefer certain kinds of gifts in a birthday party? For example, is it okay to say in the birthday invite something like "please bring only a small book as a present"? No, it is not appropriate. It is not appropriate to say anything about presents in the invitation. As Sophie suggested, you can make recommendations during RSVP calls, but only if asked. Presents are gifts, however, voluntarily given, and as such, it is not polite to limit or constrain the giver. In fact I would love to say "please donot bring anything related to barbie" but I know that sounds off. Personally I detest barbie dolls and I would be very disappointed if my kid(s) like barbie stuff LOL. I'm not the pink and frilly kind and I don't want them to be either. I advise getting over this. Your children are not you and, as such, they will have different likes and dislikes than you have. If your daughter likes Barbies and/or pink, frilly things, that's *her* choice, not yours. (And rest assured, most of these childhood likes/dislikes are typically phases, anyway. I loved playing with Barbies as a child, but I'm about the least girly, pink and frilly person on the planet.) The above was partly brought to you by a conversation I had with a friend yesterday. Her husband and her son (19yo) are at loggerheads because the son has chosen to attend a Christian church (parents are Unitarian-Universalists). It breaks my heart to see parents get into fights with their children because their children do what they are supposed to do and grow up to be free-thinking individuals who are capable of making their own choices. -- Be well, Barbara Mom to Sin (Vernon, 2), Misery (Aurora, 5), and the Rising Son (Julian, 7) This week's suggested Bush/Cheney campaign bumper sticker: "Leave no child a dime." All opinions expressed in this post are well-reasoned and insightful. Needless to say, they are not those of my Internet Service Provider, its other subscribers or lackeys. Anyone who says otherwise is itchin' for a fight. -- with apologies to Michael Feldman |
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Marie wrote:
I have no idea why people think Barbie is mandantory for girls. Maybe because the typical 4-6yo girl likes them and they're not exactly the spawn of the devil? -- Be well, Barbara Mom to Sin (Vernon, 2), Misery (Aurora, 5), and the Rising Son (Julian, 7) This week's suggested Bush/Cheney campaign bumper sticker: "Leave no child a dime." All opinions expressed in this post are well-reasoned and insightful. Needless to say, they are not those of my Internet Service Provider, its other subscribers or lackeys. Anyone who says otherwise is itchin' for a fight. -- with apologies to Michael Feldman |
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"ted" wrote in message om... Is it appropriate to mention that you prefer/do not prefer certain kinds of gifts in a birthday party? For example, is it okay to say in the birthday invite something like "please bring only a small book as a present"? In fact I would love to say "please donot bring anything related to barbie" but I know that sounds off. Personally I detest barbie dolls and I would be very disappointed if my kid(s) like barbie stuff LOL. I'm not the pink and frilly kind and I don't want them to be either. Its inappropriate, and I think Ericka would agree, because its not ok to expect people to bring presents, period, to a birthday party. Or at least that's how Miss Manners would look at it. That said, you're gonna have to suck up your dislike of Barbie probably. And about a million other things in at least the first 5 years of your daughter's life. I am very much not the girly girl. While I love make up and clothes, I'm not all about pink and frilly. Of our 5 girls, 2 of them are the pink and frilly. I've come to tolerate Barbie and baby dolls and pink frilly dress up clothes, because its useless to try and force them into enjoying things I like. My 6 year old will never love baseball, and I will never love Barbie. We'll compromise. Denise |
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ted wrote:
Is it appropriate to mention that you prefer/do not prefer certain kinds of gifts in a birthday party? For example, is it okay to say in the birthday invite something like "please bring only a small book as a present"? In fact I would love to say "please donot bring anything related to barbie" but I know that sounds off. Personally I detest barbie dolls and I would be very disappointed if my kid(s) like barbie stuff LOL. I'm not the pink and frilly kind and I don't want them to be either. I remember getting an invitation several years ago for the eldest child which asked "Please, no Barbies". Worked for me; usually when we would RSVP I'd ask for ideas anyway. Lesley |
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"ted" wrote in message
om... Is it appropriate to mention that you prefer/do not prefer certain kinds of gifts in a birthday party? For example, is it okay to say in the birthday invite something like "please bring only a small book as a present"? In fact I would love to say "please donot bring anything related to barbie" but I know that sounds off. Personally I detest barbie dolls and I would be very disappointed if my kid(s) like barbie stuff LOL. I'm not the pink and frilly kind and I don't want them to be either. This is somewhat related to the other thread about girls' clothes but I didn't want to cannibalize that thread. I don't know why people just assume that if it's a little girl's birthday, they must buy barbie-stuff as a present. Not to mention this friend who's insisting that she'll bake a big barbie cake for my DD's birthday! That's still several months away though! Thanks. Some might think this is tacky, but check into birthday gift registries (I think Wal*Mart has one) and put in the invitation something to the effect of "child is registered at Wal*Mart." Peggy |
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"ted" wrote in message om... Is it appropriate to mention that you prefer/do not prefer certain kinds of gifts in a birthday party? For example, is it okay to say in the birthday invite something like "please bring only a small book as a present"? In fact I would love to say "please donot bring anything related to barbie" but I know that sounds off. Personally I detest barbie dolls and I would be very disappointed if my kid(s) like barbie stuff LOL. I'm not the pink and frilly kind and I don't want them to be either. This is somewhat related to the other thread about girls' clothes but I didn't want to cannibalize that thread. I don't know why people just assume that if it's a little girl's birthday, they must buy barbie-stuff as a present. Not to mention this friend who's insisting that she'll bake a big barbie cake for my DD's birthday! That's still several months away though! What is it with well-meaning people and Barbie cakes? Is it simply because they *can* make a cake with a doll in it that they feel they *must*? Anyway, this would be a good time for a distinctly non-Barbie theme for that Birthday. I would probably not specify which gifts we prefer, unless asked. Then I'd say "she's really into [crafts, fish, books, gardening, American Girl, whatever]." I'd love to say "NO BARBIES OR BRATZ, NO GUNS OR GUN-LIKE THINGS, NO STUFFED ANIMALS, NO MAKE-UP, AND WE HAVE ENOUGH BUBBLE TOYS AND TEA SETS FOR AN ARMY," but I wouldn't. My daughter got a Barbie as a birthday gift from a friend when she turned 4. I put it away and let her have all her other gifts. She didn't miss the Barbie. I have a personal objection to the acquisitional nature of Barbie-play. If she asked for Barbie, I'd think about it, we'd talk about it, and do something about it. But she knows about Barbie, her friends play with Barbie and she'll grab one and join in, she's been down the Barbie aisle at the toy store, but she hasn't shown an interest in obtaining a Barbie of her own. So far, so good. -- Marnie -- |
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