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help!!! overwhelmed, back home with 3 kids
I need support, help, I feel so overwhelmed, I've been crying 5-6 times
a day since I arrived here a week ago. I'm not crying over leaving my husband and miserable marriage of 11 yaers. I came back to Canada with what could fit into 2 hockey bags with 3 kids, one who is 14 mths. old. I have a little bit of money, very little, I enrolled my 2 children in school and they've started and seem very happy, and I've enrolled in the real estate agent course phase 1 of 3 to get a real estae sales license, to get a job and support my family. ...I'm scared. I have a supportive family who is helping me the best they can. I'm 38 yrs. old and living in my father's house where my 2 older sisters and their children (2 adult age) live. I feel like I'm imposing on them and sometimes I can feel the tension. I feel like my head is so full of thoughts, emotion and god knows what else, I can't even think straight, I can't seem to even get a plan straight. I've started school but finding time to study properly has been such a task this first week. I try hard not to think about my husband(x), and waste my neede focus and energy on my anger and disappointment for him. I try to stay focused on moving forward and not looking back other then to remember what not to do. I just feel so overwhelmed I can't think straight. So, what do I do , I mean a game plan. Are there any real estate agents out there who can give me some advice on what kind of career this is? Any advice about any of this would be so appreciated...thank you |
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help!!! overwhelmed, back home with 3 kids
Thank you Kate, that's just what I was looking for. Everything you said is how I feel and have been thinking- thank you for your time and your thoughts, I really needed that. It just seems like ALL single mothers are so ...WELL,POOR. Not only do I not want to be poor , but I want to be successful and make a great living, it just seems like that's not an option for a single parent. It really terrifies me. One of the reasons I picked the real estate industry , apart from liking the idea of changing projects and small goals, and dealing with people, etc... was the flexible hours, on the weekends I hope one of my sister's can help me watch the baby, during the week during the night too, when I start to work. I was thinking about trying to get a part time job at a real estate office to get experience etc... I'm sooo excited about the future and so scared, I just wish I could hear some successful, empowering stories about single mothers. I NEED EMPOWERMENT. 18, 5:00 pm, 'Kate wrote: On 18 Nov 2006 12:51:39 -0800, the following was posted in blue dry erase marker: I need support, help, I feel so overwhelmed, I've been crying 5-6 times a day since I arrived here a week ago. I'm not crying over leaving my husband and miserable marriage of 11 yaers. I came back to Canada with what could fit into 2 hockey bags with 3 kids, one who is 14 mths. old. I have a little bit of money, very little, I enrolled my 2 children in school and they've started and seem very happy, and I've enrolled in the real estate agent course phase 1 of 3 to get a real estae sales license, to get a job and support my family. ...I'm scared. I have a supportive family who is helping me the best they can. I'm 38 yrs. old and living in my father's house where my 2 older sisters and their children (2 adult age) live. I feel like I'm imposing on them and sometimes I can feel the tension. I feel like my head is so full of thoughts, emotion and god knows what else, I can't even think straight, I can't seem to even get a plan straight. I've started school but finding time to study properly has been such a task this first week. I try hard not to think about my husband(x), and waste my neede focus and energy on my anger and disappointment for him. I try to stay focused on moving forward and not looking back other then to remember what not to do. I just feel so overwhelmed I can't think straight. So, what do I do , I mean a game plan. Are there any real estate agents out there who can give me some advice on what kind of career this is? Any advice about any of this would be so appreciated...thank youIt sounds like you already have a game plan but you're doubting your ability to follow through because you are having a hard time finding time to study and you're living situation is not the best. Your game plan sounds good. You're right about checking out the market for real estate agents in your area. Try googling "occupational outlook canada" or "occupational outlook" with your provence name. You may find resources that will give you an idea of what to expect (salary, job requirements, traits of people who do well in the field, and etc.). If you're feeling as if you can't keep doing what you're doing, you don't have enough help. Learning to ask for help is something that is very difficult for women... not sure why, though. When you ask, make sure you tell the person exactly what you need and by when. When people help, they become invested in your success. Remember to say thank you. The only people that you do not necessarily have to repay in kind (like... you help me, then I owe you one) are family. It's nice if you can but if you can't, they will understand (hopefully!). You need time to study. The best time, I have found, is saturday morning when the kids are watching cartoons. Limit your study time to 20 minutes per sitting. You can steal study time by taking all your notes on index cards and/or voice recorder. Keep one or the other with you at all times. When you're waiting for the kids to get out of school... that's study time. Doctor's office... study time. You'd be surprised how often time is wasted doing everyday things. If you're in the car, you can be listening to the audio tape. Learn to get up a half hour earlier to study. You can do this. You really can do this. As for being overwhelmed... you've entered a totally new world. You have long term goals. You're now a single parent so you're needed more often. Be kind to yourself. You must have a little time to just be you.. not mommy, sister, daughter... just you. Give your dad a hug every day. You're very lucky to have his help. As for your siblings and their adult children... they're going to have to adjust. If you feel tense, ask them outright what's up. Listen. Tell them that you know this is a change for them and it's going to be difficult to get use to. Make sure that you have some kind of family get together for fun... game night or whatever. You guys need to get to know each other again. Don't assume that you know what the tension's about. You weren't there to know how things were before you arrived. It may be that they really need you to talk to. Be willing to listen. Invite it. "You look a little down today" or "hey... you look great! What's going on?" And invite them to do things with you too. Let them in to your life. Hope this helps.. I know it's not exactly what you were looking for but what the heck... I type fast. :-) Welcome. 'Kate- Hide quoted text -- Show quoted text - |
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help!!! overwhelmed, back home with 3 kids
Just so you know, I have been a single parent all my daughter's life and I
am NOT poor. T wrote in message oups.com... Thank you Kate, that's just what I was looking for. Everything you said is how I feel and have been thinking- thank you for your time and your thoughts, I really needed that. It just seems like ALL single mothers are so ...WELL,POOR. Not only do I not want to be poor , but I want to be successful and make a great living, it just seems like that's not an option for a single parent. It really terrifies me. |
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help!!! overwhelmed, back home with 3 kids
Dude you need to chill out and not worry so much i am a male but have been
in the same position i had to take my 2 and 3and half girls away from their mom until she stopped the drugs nad my emotions that made me worry what would any person be thinking putting that rubish before a 10 year marriage and 2 beautiful kids i just could not comprehend but i moved into my mothers house and she is elderly i also felt as i was imposing in her and my younger brothers space but they assured mye thsat they wanted to give me the space with my children. so you just remember your dad realy has always been there for you and still is remember you are still his baby and i dont think anything changes that unless you have a family that fits in to the hat full of assholes. I didnt think soi be happy get your life back on track all will be well. sincerelt GRANT wrote in message oups.com... I need support, help, I feel so overwhelmed, I've been crying 5-6 times a day since I arrived here a week ago. I'm not crying over leaving my husband and miserable marriage of 11 yaers. I came back to Canada with what could fit into 2 hockey bags with 3 kids, one who is 14 mths. old. I have a little bit of money, very little, I enrolled my 2 children in school and they've started and seem very happy, and I've enrolled in the real estate agent course phase 1 of 3 to get a real estae sales license, to get a job and support my family. ...I'm scared. I have a supportive family who is helping me the best they can. I'm 38 yrs. old and living in my father's house where my 2 older sisters and their children (2 adult age) live. I feel like I'm imposing on them and sometimes I can feel the tension. I feel like my head is so full of thoughts, emotion and god knows what else, I can't even think straight, I can't seem to even get a plan straight. I've started school but finding time to study properly has been such a task this first week. I try hard not to think about my husband(x), and waste my neede focus and energy on my anger and disappointment for him. I try to stay focused on moving forward and not looking back other then to remember what not to do. I just feel so overwhelmed I can't think straight. So, what do I do , I mean a game plan. Are there any real estate agents out there who can give me some advice on what kind of career this is? Any advice about any of this would be so appreciated...thank you |
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