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On Wed, 27 Jun 2007 17:28:59 GMT, Stephanie wrote:
Well I have a *personal* problem with re-gifting is that I personally worry that I might accidentally re-gift somethng back to the person who gave it to me. Rather than take that chance, being a flake and all, I don't do it. Otherwise I think it is neat. Tape a Post-it on it with the name of the giver so you don't forget. |
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toypup wrote:
On Wed, 27 Jun 2007 14:48:25 -0500, Tori M wrote: Say I got a 4 year old a set of Dragon Tales toys, I don't know if they have them but lets say I did. Then I was talking with a mutual friend that may have known a family longer and we are talking about TV rules and I find out that the family does not allow Dragon Tales in the home I would feel very bad. If I had known that I could have offered to return it for something more acceptable. If you are willing to have it returned, give a gift receipt with it or let the recipient know it can be returned. Yes, I should say I am not totally heartless. I just give gifts because i want THAT person to have something. Having a new toy land in the trash or the re gift pile feels wrong to me. I never think of those gift tags. Tori |
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On Wed, 27 Jun 2007 12:46:04 GMT, Stephanie wrote:
"Ericka Kammerer" wrote in message It's not rude because it's outside the norm. It's rude because it takes something that *should* be the giver's choice (both whether to give and what to give) and limits it. No matter how you pretty it up, it's a prospective recipient issuing demands about what is or isn't acceptable in their eyes. That's just rude on the face of it. A gift is the choice of the giver. Recipients accept it graciously, in the spirit in which it was given, and then do with it as they please (which could well be getting rid of it). They don't presuppose some right to receive only that which they desire and approve. Best wishes, Ericka I like the way you say things. Even in cases when I disagree with you, and this is not one of them, I like the way you say things. Agreed. I have Ericka especially marked, because I like to read whet she says. Very eloquent and knowledgeable. Ericka, you ought to write a column. |
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On 27 Jun 2007 13:35:38 -0700, Banty wrote:
Me too! And usually late to boot! Heck, one July, I got a box from my brother. I was sitting on the front stoop with a friend. I said "betcha this is my Christmas present", the friend said "pshaww.". So I opened the outer wrapper, and there the box was in all its red-and-green reindeer Xmas wrapping glory. Hee. Amazingly enough, my dad has been getting better at gift-giving with age. He used to be just awful, but now he hits the mark every year. I don't know what happened. |
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Ericka Kammerer wrote:
Clisby wrote: Sarah Vaughan wrote: Banty wrote: On the other hand, learning that re-gifting is just fine allowed me to feel that much better about a (actually very useful!) wallet a friend gave me, unbeknownst to her there was still something in a corner of the wallet which revealed it was briefly used. She wasn't breaking a rule or 'cheating' me - it was a wonderful and useful gift, good quality; right color; my favorite wallet style. Before, I would have felt all cheated about it, due to my upbringing. I'm curious about this - never heard the term 'regifting'. From what you say, it sounds as though it means passing a gift on to someone else under the pretence that it's new? It's giving someone else an item you received as a gift. There's not necessarily any pretence that it's new - it might be new. Or it might be something that obviously isn't new. I've gotten plenty of gifts like that, and unless the giver told me, I wouldn't have any way of knowing whether it was regifted. Right. And at some level, we all know regifting as an acceptable thing. After all, how many of us would have refused, say, the gift of a family heirloom piece of jewelry just because it wasn't brand new and chosen specifically for us? ;-) Regifting is fine as long as it's not made obvious to the recipient and as long as the giver genuinely believes that the recipient will enjoy the gift. Hmmm... I have to say that I find this whole idea that someone *might* be pretending the gift was new and that they should avoid making it obvious that it's not pretty bizarre. I'm fine if someone has something that they can't use and think they might want, but not fine with the idea that someone might deliberately leave me thinking they've been out and bought me something if they hadn't. I'd much rather they just said something like "Hey, I've got this wallet that I've no use for myself but that struck me as something you might like. Want to check it out and see whether it's something you can use?" All the best, Sarah -- http://www.goodenoughmummy.typepad.com "That which can be destroyed by the truth, should be" - P. C. Hodgell |
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"enigma" wrote in message
I like independent toy stores too, but their stocks compared to Toys R Us are not mutually exclusive. maybe you have a better TRU. both the local ones are mostly cheap plastic Disney or cartoon related toys. the Lego they carry is all designed sets. if they carry Playmobil it's very recent. It's a redesigned "Geoffery's" Toys R Us, with plenty of clothes and baby essentials, along with the usual Target-like toys. It's easy to find something there if needed, though it still isn't my first choice. P. Tierney |
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Sarah Vaughan wrote:
Ericka Kammerer wrote: Clisby wrote: Sarah Vaughan wrote: Banty wrote: On the other hand, learning that re-gifting is just fine allowed me to feel that much better about a (actually very useful!) wallet a friend gave me, unbeknownst to her there was still something in a corner of the wallet which revealed it was briefly used. She wasn't breaking a rule or 'cheating' me - it was a wonderful and useful gift, good quality; right color; my favorite wallet style. Before, I would have felt all cheated about it, due to my upbringing. I'm curious about this - never heard the term 'regifting'. From what you say, it sounds as though it means passing a gift on to someone else under the pretence that it's new? It's giving someone else an item you received as a gift. There's not necessarily any pretence that it's new - it might be new. Or it might be something that obviously isn't new. I've gotten plenty of gifts like that, and unless the giver told me, I wouldn't have any way of knowing whether it was regifted. Right. And at some level, we all know regifting as an acceptable thing. After all, how many of us would have refused, say, the gift of a family heirloom piece of jewelry just because it wasn't brand new and chosen specifically for us? ;-) Regifting is fine as long as it's not made obvious to the recipient and as long as the giver genuinely believes that the recipient will enjoy the gift. Hmmm... I have to say that I find this whole idea that someone *might* be pretending the gift was new and that they should avoid making it obvious that it's not pretty bizarre. I'm fine if someone has something that they can't use and think they might want, but not fine with the idea that someone might deliberately leave me thinking they've been out and bought me something if they hadn't. I'd much rather they just said something like "Hey, I've got this wallet that I've no use for myself but that struck me as something you might like. Want to check it out and see whether it's something you can use?" All the best, Sarah That was my thought as well. I didn't know if it was unreasonable. The other part is that a Heirloom is usually something that is cherished. It isn't being given because it is clutter, it is being given usually out of tradition or love. In my mind that is a bit different then taking the toys you don't want your kids to have and giving them out at the next birthday party that rolls up. Like I said in another post I have never seen re gifting in a truly good light. The only people that I know that do it, do it to get rid of the stuff they didn't like to begin with, and usually I agree with them. Tori |
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Tori M wrote in
et: Most re-gifting I have experienced has been the unloading crap off on someone else... Hence my bread maker... I have relatives that would go to one Christmas at one house then take the gifts they didn't want and give them away at the next Christmas party a week later. If they didn't get anything they would supplement with dollar store items. Not that that is horrible but the year I lived in a place without a kitchen I got lots of baking supplies. what kind of breadmaker is it? i have a Zojirushi & Boo loves that thing. i got it when he was 2 & he's been the breadmaker ever since. i'm not too happy with how it bakes, but it's easy enough to just set it to mix & do a first rise, then bake in the oven (unless it's like yesterday, 98 & humid, in which case it can bake in the machine without getting the kitchen hot). you can use it to make hamburg & hot dog buns too if you bake in the oven. i enjoy making bread though & the bread machine is safer for a little kid than using the big mixer & lots easier than mixing dough by hand. Tom's family specificly does a Dollar Store Christmas for all the adults. he's youngest of 7 kids, plus spouses, plus adult nieces & nephews. it's actually kind of fun trying to find the "perfect gift" for each one at a dollar store (or yard sale, if we cheat a bitg) however, if one is gifting with no particular thought of the recipient, it really doesn't matter where the gift was bought. if there's no thought behind it other than "well, we had to buy *something*", then don't bother getting anything. my ex-MIL was a passive-aggressive gift giver. shudder lee |
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toypup wrote in
: On the contrary, I think seafood is perfectly fine meat. If your sister doesn't want to eat it, she can eat later. She should not be upset with the host for not having certain foods available. yes & it's also known to be a likely allergen. i do not dispute the bride's choice to serve whatever she likes at the reception, but having something available (bread, fruit, veggies, anything) for those guests who might be allergic wouldn't have taken much thought or expense. however, in my experience, those who enjoy seafood don't even consider that it can be potentially fatal to many people, something highly unlikely with other meats. i *always* eat first before attending events like weddings. it's safer that way. lee |
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In article , toypup says...
On Wed, 27 Jun 2007 12:46:04 GMT, Stephanie wrote: "Ericka Kammerer" wrote in message It's not rude because it's outside the norm. It's rude because it takes something that *should* be the giver's choice (both whether to give and what to give) and limits it. No matter how you pretty it up, it's a prospective recipient issuing demands about what is or isn't acceptable in their eyes. That's just rude on the face of it. A gift is the choice of the giver. Recipients accept it graciously, in the spirit in which it was given, and then do with it as they please (which could well be getting rid of it). They don't presuppose some right to receive only that which they desire and approve. Best wishes, Ericka I like the way you say things. Even in cases when I disagree with you, and this is not one of them, I like the way you say things. Agreed. I have Ericka especially marked, because I like to read whet she says. Very eloquent and knowledgeable. Ericka, you ought to write a column. And one not in a question-answer format (hee hee..) Zed |
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