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BOYS... starts with B just like BAD
No! Naughty! Don't do that! Bad, bad boys... I have 4 of them,
ages 6 to 14. One suspended for giving the middle-school art-teacher too much attitude, one taking Latin, one bringing a Halloween fake- foot to school and chasing the first-grade girls with it and one not taking his ADD medication. One son had a Mountain Dew, another asked for a sip. The first one made a show of pouring a capful of soda. They both laughed, but the first said, 'Come on, give me some!' Boy with soda: (pretends to give it but takes it back) Brother: (waits) Boy with soda: (sits still) Brother: (Whacks his brother on the forehead) Come on! Boy with soda: (Offfers the bottle, but pulls it back last second, saying) "Promise?"..(meaning promise you won't chug it) Brother: Yes! (reaches for the bottle) Boy with soda: (holds up his pinky) Pinky swear? [he is just being a dog] Brother: (links pinkies with his brother and bends his pinky backwards) Boy with soda: Ahhhh! (dissolves into laughter and gives up the soda) Brother: (takes a sip and hands it back) BOTH: (smiling) I don't know why I shared this stupid little thing. Maybe because it isn't PC to enjoy such exchanges. Boys using power plays and aggression. It is not allowed on school grounds, no matter how much they enjoy it. Thoughts about boys? |
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"mom0f4boys" wrote in message ... Thoughts about boys? Boys aren't bad. |
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BOYS... starts with B just like BAD
mom0f4boys wrote:
No! Naughty! Don't do that! Bad, bad boys... I have 4 of them, ages 6 to 14. One suspended for giving the middle-school art-teacher too much attitude, one taking Latin, one bringing a Halloween fake- foot to school and chasing the first-grade girls with it and one not taking his ADD medication. http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_gw...ildren&x=0&y=0 One son had a Mountain Dew, another asked for a sip. The first one made a show of pouring a capful of soda. They both laughed, but the first said, 'Come on, give me some!' Boy with soda: (pretends to give it but takes it back) Brother: (waits) Boy with soda: (sits still) Brother: (Whacks his brother on the forehead) Come on! Boy with soda: (Offfers the bottle, but pulls it back last second, saying) "Promise?"..(meaning promise you won't chug it) Brother: Yes! (reaches for the bottle) Boy with soda: (holds up his pinky) Pinky swear? [he is just being a dog] Brother: (links pinkies with his brother and bends his pinky backwards) Boy with soda: Ahhhh! (dissolves into laughter and gives up the soda) Brother: (takes a sip and hands it back) BOTH: (smiling) I don't know why I shared this stupid little thing. Maybe because it isn't PC to enjoy such exchanges. Boys using power plays and aggression. It is not allowed on school grounds, no matter how much they enjoy it. Thoughts about boys? Boys like to be productive members of their group as much as anyone else as long as their models value it, teach it, demonstrate it. Nasty antagonism is not a boy position. It is a break down in the teaching of empathy, respect and self respect. |
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On Jan 8, 11:11*am, "Stephanie" wrote:
mom0f4boys wrote: Boys like to be productive members of their group as much as anyone else as long as their models value it, teach it, demonstrate it. Nasty antagonism is not a boy position. It is a break down in the teaching of empathy, respect and self respect. Good parenting may reduce the chance that someone will grow up to be a bad person, but holding the environment constant, a much higher percentage of males than females will go bad. Men commit far more violent crimes than women in all societies I know of. |
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BOYS... starts with B just like BAD
On Jan 8, 11:32 am, Beliavsky wrote:
On Jan 8, 11:11 am, "Stephanie" wrote: mom0f4boys wrote: Boys like to be productive members of their group as much as anyone else as long as their models value it, teach it, demonstrate it. Nasty antagonism is not a boy position. It is a break down in the teaching of empathy, respect and self respect. Good parenting may reduce the chance that someone will grow up to be a bad person, but holding the environment constant, a much higher percentage of males than females will go bad. Men commit far more violent crimes than women in all societies I know of. Two of my three kids are boys, and for someone growing up with only sisters, it's been challenging and eye-opening in some ways I hadn't expected. They do test each other physically in ways that my sisters and I really didn't (I suspect part of that was the constant "ladies don't..." corrections so common at the time -- and remember, girls can have their own particular brand of meanness. Just look to any middle school). However, even when my boys are particularly mischievous, I certainly don't think of them -- because of or despite their gender-- as "bad". They've both proven to be pretty empathetic and giving to others -- a lot of community service -- and when the chips were down, I've seen them come through for one another in ways I might not have expected. Think of a kid as bad for long enough, and he probably won't disappoint you. Lori G. Lori G. |
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BOYS... starts with B just like BAD
Beliavsky wrote:
On Jan 8, 11:11 am, "Stephanie" wrote: mom0f4boys wrote: Boys like to be productive members of their group as much as anyone else as long as their models value it, teach it, demonstrate it. Nasty antagonism is not a boy position. It is a break down in the teaching of empathy, respect and self respect. Good parenting may reduce the chance that someone will grow up to be a bad person, but holding the environment constant, a much higher percentage of males than females will go bad. Men commit far more violent crimes than women in all societies I know of. I certainly agree that boys and girls can have very different temperments. We actually did not beleive it when we had our first. He convinced us rather quickly that at least *he* was quintisential boy, whatever one might say about gender difference. But the behavior the OP described did not seem like being bad or rotten, lost children. They sounded like children who were *expected* to be that way and as such are. I think channelling comptetiveness, even aggression is a challenging thing to do but a worthwhile thing to attempt. I don't believe that a given trait born into a person is necessarily a bad or damaging thing, unless the tools to manage or use the trait are never attained. |
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BOYS... starts with B just like BAD
"mom0f4boys" wrote in message ... No! Naughty! Don't do that! Bad, bad boys... I have 4 of them, ages 6 to 14. One suspended for giving the middle-school art-teacher too much attitude, one taking Latin, one bringing a Halloween fake- foot to school and chasing the first-grade girls with it and one not taking his ADD medication. One son had a Mountain Dew, another asked for a sip. The first one made a show of pouring a capful of soda. They both laughed, but the first said, 'Come on, give me some!' Boy with soda: (pretends to give it but takes it back) Brother: (waits) Boy with soda: (sits still) Brother: (Whacks his brother on the forehead) Come on! Boy with soda: (Offfers the bottle, but pulls it back last second, saying) "Promise?"..(meaning promise you won't chug it) Brother: Yes! (reaches for the bottle) Boy with soda: (holds up his pinky) Pinky swear? [he is just being a dog] Brother: (links pinkies with his brother and bends his pinky backwards) Boy with soda: Ahhhh! (dissolves into laughter and gives up the soda) Brother: (takes a sip and hands it back) BOTH: (smiling) I don't know why I shared this stupid little thing. Maybe because it isn't PC to enjoy such exchanges. Boys using power plays and aggression. It is not allowed on school grounds, no matter how much they enjoy it. Do your boys go to Catholic school? |
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