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Sleep Crisis with 21-month old daughter
My wife and I have a problem which shouldn't be a huge crisis, but has
turned into something terrible. When we adopted our daughter almost 2 years ago, we used the Dr. Sears book as our main guide and so our daughter has always slept in our bed and although there have been some issues, this has worked out somewhat until now. I should also explain that she does not know how to lay down on the bed and fall asleep--we have always walked her down and carried her to bed after she has fallen asleep. I now believe our whole approach was deeply flawed, but still we have gotten by so far. Then I caught a cold and a few days later (naturally) all three of us had it. Then my daughter started changing her normal way in bed. Usually, my wife carries her into the bedroom about midnight (way too late, I know) and lays down on the bed with my daughter laying on her shoulder for a few minutes, then shifts her off her shoulder onto the place next to her. The problem is that my daughter is now being very resistant to being shifted onto her own place on the bed. She may wake up during this shift and start crying and demand that my wife pick her up and carry her around. Or she will make the initial transition, but will wake up a couple hours later, start crying and demand that my wife pick her up and carry her around. When you pick her up and walk her around she seems to sleep on the shoulder. But then when my wife tries to get back into bed, either my daughter wakes up and again cries and demands to be picked up and carried by my wife, or, successfully makes the transition to her own spot, but wakes up 2 (for example) hours later and goes through the whole rigmarole. When my daughter cries for this it is not just a whiny demand--she seems genuinely distressed. I have spent several mornings carrying her around from 8am to 10 or 10:30 (about her normal get up time) so my wife can sleep uninterrupted those last 2 or 3 hours but this is taking a toll on me. When I try to lay her in the bed when she seems to be sound asleep in my arms, this is usually unsuccessful (strangely, I have pretty good success at doing this in the afternoon when putting her down for a nap). It seems to me the solution is going to have to involve letting her cry for some time when she wakes up and does this (by the way, she still has a little bit of a cough and stuffy nose still, but her cold is not particularly bad now). My wife is very hesistant to let her cry (as am I) but we need a real solution that 1) works, and 2) does not traumatize our daughter. I am appealing to anyone with a solution or suggestion on what we should do to get help. Thanks. Paul |
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