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Need help with behavior
"enigma" wrote in message . .. "Nikki" wrote in news:mZWdnTHpld_I4rXYnZ2dnUVZ_radnZ2d@prairiewave. com: First a short vent. Luke is afraid to be upstairs by himself. This is making my life very difficult With that off my chest I'll move on ;-) Boo is too. will NOT go upstairs (or in the basement) alone. Gads that is a pain. Our bathroom is upstairs or downstairs. Luke goes to bed at 8pm and Hunter at 8:30. If Luke isn't asleep by the time Hunter gets up there they won't go to sleep. Buuut...Luke won't stay up there now. Grr. ok, Boo does all this too... i think it's a really annoying developmental stage. Annoying is an understatement. I don't remember it so much with Hunter. Part of it might be that if I ignore Hunter he drops it. Luke is very verbal and very persistent and he will just keep on keep on keep on trying to engage me. currently, i'm trying the not harping method. one *soft* reminder to calm it down. i refuse to play with him/get involved if he's too loud or wild. My problem is that they are wild with each other. They don't care about me, lol. i also toss him outdoors if he's too whacked out. They used to be outside all the time. I'm not sure why I'm having a hard time running them out now. Probably because they know I want them out, lol. let's hope some other parents have ideas Yep!! It helps to at least know I'm not alone. -- Nikki, mama to Hunter 4/99 Luke 4/01 Brock 4/06 Ben 4/06 |
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"Rosalie B." wrote in message ... "Nikki" wrote: First a short vent. Luke is afraid to be upstairs by himself. This is making my life very difficult With that off my chest I'll move on ;-) Is this really true? Yes. I thought he was trying to play me but I don't think so. I think he really is afraid. I've heard conversations between him and Hunter and I've talked to him too. I think they need more activity. Particularly physical activity. I agree. I would like to sign them up for takwondo (sp?) but dh and I disagree. I think it would be really good for them. a) Ignore this completely and don't react to it at all as I think this is somewhat similar to a tantrum by a 2yo, and reacting to it is giving them reinforcement to continue. I've tried that and I can't ignore long enough. It isn't in me. b) Schedule them for some activity every free moment. I like the more activity idea but I get no support from dh. I'll keep on it though - thanks -- Nikki, mama to Hunter 4/99 Luke 4/01 Brock 4/06 Ben 4/06 |
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"Sue" wrote in message The two websites I listed have been helping me and giving me some good insights on things to do with particular trouble areas. When you have time (ha, I know), browse through them and see if it helps you. http://www.raisingkids.co.uk/4_9/ex06_pri03.asp http://www.elainegibson.net/parenting/index.html Awesome. I have them bookmarked - thanks! -- Nikki, mama to Hunter 4/99 Luke 4/01 Brock 4/06 Ben 4/06 |
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"Jeff" wrote in message It sounds to me that they are getting what they want: Your attention. I actually haven't thought of it that way because they seem so obliviuos to me when I try to interact with them when they are in such a state. Now that I frame it like that I can see it though. One thing you can do is when they are bored, they have to go stand in the corner. They will find they are not as bored as they thought. :-) I can't even make them stay in their room. I'd have to duct tape them in My other big problem is that I have a hard time letting things go like laundry, cleaning etc. My weekends are very busy with buying groceries, doing laundry, and some minimal cleaning but all that takes an enormous chunk of time when doing a weeks worth and wrangling the kids.. I took everyone's suggestion today. I had all four of them so it really wasn't onene time but I did let all of the above go and took them swimming to burn off some energy and then the babies slept for 1/2 hour while we drove around and visited while eating our snack. They are playing nicely now. Of course my house is filthy and I'll be up till 2am doing laundry but it is so worth it if every evening would be like this, lol. -- Nikki, mama to Hunter 4/99 Luke 4/01 Brock 4/06 Ben 4/06 |
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Need help with behavior
It is really hard to find that balance, I have a hard time finding a
balance with only 2 kids, 1 husband, 1 dog... I try to devote the mornings to activities, I take the kids to playgroups, swimming, library, gymnastics, gym (I put them in gym daycare) whatever! Then we go home for lunch and after lunch we just hang out, my 5 month old sleeps and in between spurts of cleaning and laundry I get to spend time alone with my 3 year old! I always try to get housework done during the day, I hate doing anything after the kids are in bed at night. Katherine Nikki wrote: "Jeff" wrote in message It sounds to me that they are getting what they want: Your attention. I actually haven't thought of it that way because they seem so obliviuos to me when I try to interact with them when they are in such a state. Now that I frame it like that I can see it though. One thing you can do is when they are bored, they have to go stand in the corner. They will find they are not as bored as they thought. :-) I can't even make them stay in their room. I'd have to duct tape them in My other big problem is that I have a hard time letting things go like laundry, cleaning etc. My weekends are very busy with buying groceries, doing laundry, and some minimal cleaning but all that takes an enormous chunk of time when doing a weeks worth and wrangling the kids.. I took everyone's suggestion today. I had all four of them so it really wasn't onene time but I did let all of the above go and took them swimming to burn off some energy and then the babies slept for 1/2 hour while we drove around and visited while eating our snack. They are playing nicely now. Of course my house is filthy and I'll be up till 2am doing laundry but it is so worth it if every evening would be like this, lol. -- Nikki, mama to Hunter 4/99 Luke 4/01 Brock 4/06 Ben 4/06 |
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I'm 15 weeks pregnant, so my experience with kids stops at babysitting.
But I have to say I'm impressed, you sound very organized. You've given me hope. KR wrote: It is really hard to find that balance, I have a hard time finding a balance with only 2 kids, 1 husband, 1 dog... I try to devote the mornings to activities, I take the kids to playgroups, swimming, library, gymnastics, gym (I put them in gym daycare) whatever! Then we go home for lunch and after lunch we just hang out, my 5 month old sleeps and in between spurts of cleaning and laundry I get to spend time alone with my 3 year old! I always try to get housework done during the day, I hate doing anything after the kids are in bed at night. Katherine |
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On Sun, 8 Oct 2006 18:07:53 -0500, "Nikki" wrote:
My other big problem is that I have a hard time letting things go like laundry, cleaning etc. My weekends are very busy with buying groceries, doing laundry, and some minimal cleaning but all that takes an enormous chunk of time when doing a weeks worth and wrangling the kids.. I took everyone's suggestion today. I had all four of them so it really wasn't onene time but I did let all of the above go and took them swimming to burn off some energy and then the babies slept for 1/2 hour while we drove around and visited while eating our snack. They are playing nicely now. Of course my house is filthy and I'll be up till 2am doing laundry but it is so worth it if every evening would be like this, lol. If I'm missing something, just ignore me :-) But... how much time can your dh dedicate to helping you with some of the housework? If he can pitch in a bit more, it will ease up the stress on you. I also hate to let housework go, but ya gotta do what ya gotta do! I'd rather the kids be happy than the house be clean. Nan |
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"Nikki" wrote in message news:ab-
Of course my house is filthy and I'll be up till 2am doing laundry but it is so worth it if every evening would be like this, lol. You might need to break up your household tasks. Don't leave the laundry for one day, do a load or two a day and enlist the boys help to pick up the house. Tell that once the house is picked up, then you will be able to go and do something fun. -- Sue (mom to three girls) |
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Nikki wrote:
"Rosalie B." wrote in message ... "Nikki" wrote: I think they need more activity. Particularly physical activity. I agree. I would like to sign them up for takwondo (sp?) but dh and I disagree. I think it would be really good for them. What's his problem? The expense or the activity itself? If the expense is a problem, you can look for activities that are less expensive. Most of the league sports around here aren't very expensive, and they're a good way to meet other families and make some connections. It would likely be a big challenge at first, but then you might start being able to carpool and work out other arrangements that might make your life easier. Ask around at school about which leagues are best to deal with. Also, many ballet studios have full or partial scholarships for boys that can come in handy. Our dance studio has free childcare for sibs too. I don't know how common that is, but it's very handy--you can get some grocery shopping in or go to the gym next door or whatever. Best wishes, Ericka |
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Nikki wrote:
I took everyone's suggestion today. I had all four of them so it really wasn't onene time but I did let all of the above go and took them swimming to burn off some energy and then the babies slept for 1/2 hour while we drove around and visited while eating our snack. They are playing nicely now. Of course my house is filthy and I'll be up till 2am doing laundry but it is so worth it if every evening would be like this, lol. How do you do laundry? Do you do it all in one day, or do you do at least a load a day? I grew up doing laundry once a week (well, twice a week--one day for clothes and one day for household laundry), so it was very difficult for me to switch to doing laundry constantly, but it helps a lot. You can throw a load in the washer every morning, and then into the dryer when you get home, and then fold in the evening. At least that way you keep up and aren't completely devastated if you can't keep laundry cycling for an entire weekend day. Also, get your kids involved in helping you. The older two are old enough to be a help. They won't be a huge help, but helping out with chores *is* an activity, and it's something to do with Mommy (attention). If need be, have them take turns with one entertaining the twins for a moment while the other helps you with something (short, obviously). Best wishes, Ericka |
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