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Bleak over a baby (semi-OT)
"Dagny" wrote in message link.net... -- ------------------------------------------------- A woman becomes preeminent, she is expected to have enthusiasms. "Kereru" wrote in message ... "Dagny" wrote in message link.net... "Nikki" wrote in message ... Dagny wrote: Bad backs are a reason to use strollers, and cold weather and not disturbing a nap are reasons to leave the child in the carseat and/or snap the child in a travel system. I'm not being defensive as I was one of those mothers that held mine. I didn't even own an infant seat for Hunter and didn't have one for Luke until he was 3 months old. My stroller never left my property. I just carried them around in my arms, didn't even have a sling. Still I really don't understand what the problem is with sitting a content and happy baby down in a seat of some kind while mom does her shopping. Why is *just because it is easier* not an acceptable reason if everyone is happy and content. I never said anything about wanting people to work for no reason. There's a fine line between "happy and content" and "brain dead, unstimulated, has learned that he can't look to mom for input about the world because mom is forever out of view behind a stroller, big flat spot on the back of her head." A fine line! You have a very bleak view of the world, I feel sorry for you. I'm bitter right now about some other things and it spills into all areas of my life, but yes I do have a very bleak view of many artificial methods of Western parenting. But you know, thanks for the extra condescension Well considering the ridiculous sweeping statement you made you are lucky condescension is all you got. It's a fine line because it gets to the point in my opinion where the CHILD doesn't know the difference between good and bad contentedness, between happy engaged and happy zoned out, how would the parent? How would the parent even know what their child was capable of? -- Dagny I just don't think it works that way. Sure you leave kids alone in a Romanian orphanage they don't develop normally. Having kids in a carseat or stroller, swing or bouncy chair isn't going to turn them into zombies, it's a totally different thing. What is important is talking, singing cuddling and playing with kids not how you get them from A to B. I hardly carry my boys at all they are large and both seem to prefer being slightly away from me where they can see me. I think you have a pretty naive view of what life is like in these "non-western" countries that you talk about. I imagine most people co-sleep and baby-wear out of necessity not because they think it promotes optimal child development. They do what works under the circumstances as we all do. I don't want to get into an AP debate here. I have no problem with it. If it works for you it works for you. But don't jump on those of us who do it differently. I have two happy, affectionate, intellegent totally non-AP raised kids and take offense to your comments. So I will finish with the old cliche "live and let live", you're not the only good parent in the "western" world. Judy |
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Bleak over a baby (semi-OT)
"Buzzy Bee" wrote in message
... and I snipped: I know from carrying friends' babies that my ability is limited - I cannot carry any distance. That said I never tried out my sling or carrier since they are in storage with the rest of the baby gear. So who knows. I may find out later this year. Wow, I just had to reply when I saw this. That would be so great! (finding out how you do when carrying your baby, that is) -Patty, mom to Corinne (almost 6y!) and Nathan (3.5y) and stepmom to Victoria (13.5y) |
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SPD at 6m pp+ (was Bleak over a baby (semi-OT))
hi there, I missed this thread, I just wanted to send you both some
((hugs)) and sympathy, I also had SPD during pregnancy, but thankfully for me it went away shortly after the birth. I think you are both amazing and are doing a great job. |
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Bleak over a baby (semi-OT)
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Anne Rogers wrote: Nope, this absolutely depresses me too. Strollers for little babies and baby buckets (car seats carried into stores) depress me. I don't know why the mom doesn't like her kid enough to put her in a sling/carrier. I hope they all have bad backs. I cannot understand that, I do it very very occassionally when ds has fallen asleep in the car seat and I haven't got the wheels with me, I only do it because picking him up and transferring him to a sling has about a 99% chance of waking him and then he'll be grumpy if he is still tired. 2nd that. Margaret gets hours of sling time daily, but if she falls asleep in the carseat, we just unlatch it and it becomes a bucket o' baby. -Liz |
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Bleak over a baby (semi-OT)
"Liz S. Reynolds" wrote in message ... In article , Anne Rogers wrote: Nope, this absolutely depresses me too. Strollers for little babies and baby buckets (car seats carried into stores) depress me. I don't know why the mom doesn't like her kid enough to put her in a sling/carrier. I hope they all have bad backs. I cannot understand that, I do it very very occassionally when ds has fallen asleep in the car seat and I haven't got the wheels with me, I only do it because picking him up and transferring him to a sling has about a 99% chance of waking him and then he'll be grumpy if he is still tired. 2nd that. Margaret gets hours of sling time daily, but if she falls asleep in the carseat, we just unlatch it and it becomes a bucket o' baby. When said kid doesn't like the sling/ carrier or it's 100 degrees outside, the sling/carrier would be considered torture. I have owned 5 different carriers that DS and DD do not care for. They cry the moment they are inside one of those things. I finally have the UBW that DD likes, but it will soon be 100 degrees outside and I will spare her the pain. I think any device has the potential for abuse, including slings/carriers. Babies can get too much time in those, too. signed, Mom who loves her kids enough not to torture them in the name of AP (which wouldn't be true AP, IMO) |
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