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Hi,
I'm a 21 year old ontario university student with divorced parents. In their divorce agreement, they agreed to pay for my university and to support me financially until my studies were over. Well, we are 3 years away from that and things are really not peachy with my mother, who I have been living with since the divorce (a good...15 years ago, I think). My psychologist has recommended to me that I move out, as have other people in my life. This didn't seem like a feasible option before, but I'm starting to consider it. I'm thinking of moving out, but I've been told by my mother that if I do, she will cease to pay for my university. I was talking to my dad about it today (he lives 3 hours away) and he said that she still has to. He also said that I would be able to potentially get the child support directly given to me instead of to my mother, thus enabling me to move out and to be able to pay for my studies/expenses. Does this work? Is it done? Do I have any ressources? I definetly can't afford a lawyer, and I'm trying to figure out my options right now. I'd appreciate any help you could give me. Thanks. |
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What, precisely, is involved with "paying for university"? Tuition and
fees? Books? Room, board, and all other expenses? That's an important question. How long have you been at university already? Why is it going to take you until you are 24 to complete your studies? Are you going for a BA degree? Or a more advanced degree? Does the agreement cover advanced degrees? If you decided to go for your PhD, would your parents be required to pay for that, also? If child support is paid directly to you, will that cover enough of your expenses to permit you to live away from your mother's house? Are you willing to put up with your difficulties with your mother in order to complete your studies? What, precisely, will you lose if you move out of her home, and she makes good on her threat to stop paying for university? Can you work part time and still complete your studies? wrote in message oups.com... Hi, I'm a 21 year old ontario university student with divorced parents. In their divorce agreement, they agreed to pay for my university and to support me financially until my studies were over. Well, we are 3 years away from that and things are really not peachy with my mother, who I have been living with since the divorce (a good...15 years ago, I think). My psychologist has recommended to me that I move out, as have other people in my life. This didn't seem like a feasible option before, but I'm starting to consider it. I'm thinking of moving out, but I've been told by my mother that if I do, she will cease to pay for my university. I was talking to my dad about it today (he lives 3 hours away) and he said that she still has to. He also said that I would be able to potentially get the child support directly given to me instead of to my mother, thus enabling me to move out and to be able to pay for my studies/expenses. Does this work? Is it done? Do I have any ressources? I definetly can't afford a lawyer, and I'm trying to figure out my options right now. I'd appreciate any help you could give me. Thanks. |
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wrote in message oups.com... Hi, I'm a 21 year old ontario university student with divorced parents. In their divorce agreement, they agreed to pay for my university and to support me financially until my studies were over. Well, we are 3 years away from that and things are really not peachy with my mother, who I have been living with since the divorce (a good...15 years ago, I think). My psychologist has recommended to me that I move out, as have other people in my life. This didn't seem like a feasible option before, but I'm starting to consider it. I'm thinking of moving out, but I've been told by my mother that if I do, she will cease to pay for my university. I was talking to my dad about it today (he lives 3 hours away) and he said that she still has to. He also said that I would be able to potentially get the child support directly given to me instead of to my mother, thus enabling me to move out and to be able to pay for my studies/expenses. Does this work? Is it done? Do I have any ressources? I definetly can't afford a lawyer, and I'm trying to figure out my options right now. I'd appreciate any help you could give me. You, or your dad, needs to pay for legal counsel to help you understand your legal options. Some states in the U.S. allow college students over the age of 17 to "join" the CS case and get a legal CS order from both parents. My state allows the CS to be paid directly to the child attending school. You need to understand what Ontario law says about your issues before you act. There may be a statutory upper age limit on CS obligations for college students. You are not the first child of divorce to come to the realization that when you become expensive in the eyes of your mother, the mother wants to get out from under previous agreements and no longer support you. My advice would be to have you ask your dad to be your financial advisor, ask your dad to seek the answers to the legal questions, and focus on your studies. |
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On Apr 29, 7:05?pm, wrote:
Hi, I'm a 21 year old ontario university student with divorced parents. In their divorce agreement, they agreed to pay for my university and to support me financially until my studies were over. Well, we are 3 years away from that and things are really not peachy with my mother, who I have been living with since the divorce (a good...15 years ago, I think). My psychologist has recommended to me that I move out, as have other people in my life. This didn't seem like a feasible option before, but I'm starting to consider it. I'm thinking of moving out, but I've been told by my mother that if I do, she will cease to pay for my university. I was talking to my dad about it today (he lives 3 hours away) and he said that she still has to. He also said that I would be able to potentially get the child support directly given to me instead of to my mother, thus enabling me to move out and to be able to pay for my studies/expenses. Does this work? Is it done? Do I have any ressources? I definetly can't afford a lawyer, and I'm trying to figure out my options right now. I'd appreciate any help you could give me. Thanks. I would say it's unlikely she will have to pay.anything. In fact, neither will your father. By not being under either's "care", you will become offially emancipated and therefore they will no longer be subject to the agreement. You could "say" you will be under your fathers "care", but that would require a new agreement, and your mother is unlikely to agree to anything. The agreement was made between your Mom and Dad, not between you, your Mom and Dad. |
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On Apr 29, 7:05?pm, wrote:
Hi, I'm a 21 year old ontario university student with divorced parents. In their divorce agreement, they agreed to pay for my university and to support me financially until my studies were over. Well, we are 3 years away from that and things are really not peachy with my mother, who I have been living with since the divorce (a good...15 years ago, I think). My psychologist has recommended to me that I move out, as have other people in my life. This didn't seem like a feasible option before, but I'm starting to consider it. I'm thinking of moving out, but I've been told by my mother that if I do, she will cease to pay for my university. I was talking to my dad about it today (he lives 3 hours away) and he said that she still has to. He also said that I would be able to potentially get the child support directly given to me instead of to my mother, thus enabling me to move out and to be able to pay for my studies/expenses. Does this work? Is it done? Do I have any ressources? I definetly can't afford a lawyer, and I'm trying to figure out my options right now. I'd appreciate any help you could give me. Thanks. Also, as techermama pointed out, being 24 before you graduate is also a problem. Are you an undergrad? At 21, you should be almost finished. If you are (will be) a grad student, that makes your case even worse. The agreement isn't intended to cover "career" students. If that was the case, you could simply stay enrolled in school, get 10 degree's and they would be forced to support you until you are in your 30's. It's doesnt work that way. You should still probably talk to a lawyer though as it's pretty certain your Mom will the minute you move out. Most custodial parents, once the kid becomes a financial burden, are pretty fast to dump them. |
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"Relayer" wrote in message oups.com... On Apr 29, 7:05?pm, wrote: Hi, I'm a 21 year old ontario university student with divorced parents. In their divorce agreement, they agreed to pay for my university and to support me financially until my studies were over. Well, we are 3 years away from that and things are really not peachy with my mother, who I have been living with since the divorce (a good...15 years ago, I think). My psychologist has recommended to me that I move out, as have other people in my life. This didn't seem like a feasible option before, but I'm starting to consider it. I'm thinking of moving out, but I've been told by my mother that if I do, she will cease to pay for my university. I was talking to my dad about it today (he lives 3 hours away) and he said that she still has to. He also said that I would be able to potentially get the child support directly given to me instead of to my mother, thus enabling me to move out and to be able to pay for my studies/expenses. Does this work? Is it done? Do I have any ressources? I definetly can't afford a lawyer, and I'm trying to figure out my options right now. I'd appreciate any help you could give me. Thanks. Also, as techermama pointed out, being 24 before you graduate is also a problem. Are you an undergrad? At 21, you should be almost finished. If you are (will be) a grad student, that makes your case even worse. The agreement isn't intended to cover "career" students. If that was the case, you could simply stay enrolled in school, get 10 degree's and they would be forced to support you until you are in your 30's. It's doesnt work that way. You should still probably talk to a lawyer though as it's pretty certain your Mom will the minute you move out. Most custodial parents, once the kid becomes a financial burden, are pretty fast to dump them. Better yet, how about her being responsible for her OWN welfare, as any adult ought to be, and stop trying to live on handouts. Hint: Taking care of YOU benefits only YOU. Thus, the responsibility to care for yourself rests with you alone. I learned this lesson in second grade, and took FULL responsibility for my personal welfare by the time I became an adult; and I would have it no other way! It escapes me how anyone can be lazy and expect others to carry their weight through the force of law. |
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You have no right to judge me or my situation, since it is unique to
me. Thank you all so much for being so judgemental and unhelpful. On 1 mai, 18:06, "Chris" wrote: "Relayer" wrote in message oups.com... On Apr 29, 7:05?pm, wrote: Hi, I'm a 21 year old ontario university student with divorced parents. In their divorce agreement, they agreed to pay for my university and to support me financially until my studies were over. Well, we are 3 years away from that and things are really not peachy with my mother, who I have been living with since the divorce (a good...15 years ago, I think). My psychologist has recommended to me that I move out, as have other people in my life. This didn't seem like a feasible option before, but I'm starting to consider it. I'm thinking of moving out, but I've been told by my mother that if I do, she will cease to pay for my university. I was talking to my dad about it today (he lives 3 hours away) and he said that she still has to. He also said that I would be able to potentially get the child support directly given to me instead of to my mother, thus enabling me to move out and to be able to pay for my studies/expenses. Does this work? Is it done? Do I have any ressources? I definetly can't afford a lawyer, and I'm trying to figure out my options right now. I'd appreciate any help you could give me. Thanks. Also, as techermama pointed out, being 24 before you graduate is also a problem. Are you an undergrad? At 21, you should be almost finished. If you are (will be) a grad student, that makes your case even worse. The agreement isn't intended to cover "career" students. If that was the case, you could simply stay enrolled in school, get 10 degree's and they would be forced to support you until you are in your 30's. It's doesnt work that way. You should still probably talk to a lawyer though as it's pretty certain your Mom will the minute you move out. Most custodial parents, once the kid becomes a financial burden, are pretty fast to dump them. Better yet, how about her being responsible for her OWN welfare, as any adult ought to be, and stop trying to live on handouts. Hint: Taking care of YOU benefits only YOU. Thus, the responsibility to care for yourself rests with you alone. I learned this lesson in second grade, and took FULL responsibility for my personal welfare by the time I became an adult; and I would have it no other way! It escapes me how anyone can be lazy and expect others to carry their weight through the force of law. |
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wrote You have no right to judge me or my situation, since it is unique to me. == Ummm...You asked. == Thank you all so much for being so judgemental and unhelpful. == Suggesting you grow up and accept responsibility for yourself is judgmental and unhelpful? That's an interesting perspective on adulthood. == |
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On May 2, 12:05 pm, "Gini" wrote:
wrote You have no right to judge me or my situation, since it is unique to me. == Ummm...You asked. == Thank you all so much for being so judgemental and unhelpful. == Suggesting you grow up and accept responsibility for yourself is judgmental and unhelpful? That's an interesting perspective on adulthood. == Let us NOT judge...fact is, this is the PRODUCT of our lovely Child Support System who teaches CPs and kids to feel the WORLD owes them and it's up to the WORLD to support them on whatever decisions they make...Watch out, if things continue as they are, we'll have many more ADULTS as spoiled thanks to the CSE offices around the country. |
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"whatamess" wrote in Let us NOT judge...fact is, this is the PRODUCT of our lovely Child Support System who teaches CPs and kids to feel the WORLD owes them and it's up to the WORLD to support them on whatever decisions they make...Watch out, if things continue as they are, we'll have many more ADULTS as spoiled thanks to the CSE offices around the country. THE CSE office is just more proof of a big government system that is vastly out of touch with the real world. Some how we gave it the power to exist in it's present forum, how do we take away it's power and total authority and serve the real needs of the children it was intended for? |
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