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Fears of Smothering During Co Sleeping
"toypup" skrev i en meddelelse
news:Hy2fc.135727$K91.349880@attbi_s02... "Dagny" wrote in message . .. "Carol Ann" wrote in message news:QKYec.30382$xn4.57099@attbi_s51... Last nite I had the bed to myself (with the Chihuahua of course) and was able to place Morgan further away from my body thus reducing the risk of my rolling on top of her. You just plain aren't going to roll onto her. That story about the woman kicking her comforter onto the baby who died, I just don't buy it. Look, that was an "I know someone who knew someone who said..." story. It's not that far removed. I know the lady who did the prints of the dead baby who died from being smothered by the comforter. You think she made it up? She probably heard it. I have never ever heard of one single baby dead from co-sleeping in my own country, and everyone sleeps with down comforters. OK, I know we only have a population of 5 mill, but anyhow. Tine, Denmark |
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Fears of Smothering During Co Sleeping
"toypup" wrote in message news:Hy2fc.135727$K91.349880@attbi_s02... "Dagny" wrote in message . .. "Carol Ann" wrote in message news:QKYec.30382$xn4.57099@attbi_s51... Last nite I had the bed to myself (with the Chihuahua of course) and was able to place Morgan further away from my body thus reducing the risk of my rolling on top of her. You just plain aren't going to roll onto her. That story about the woman kicking her comforter onto the baby who died, I just don't buy it. Look, that was an "I know someone who knew someone who said..." story. It's not that far removed. I know the lady who did the prints of the dead baby who died from being smothered by the comforter. You think she made it up? Probably not made it up in the sense you mean. She got some information about a dead baby and she believed she understood what happened. Who did she get the information from? The parents themselves? That's not very reliable.unless she is aware of their moral character, and even a good person who say, goes to bed drunk one night would be tempted to write off that detail as immaterial so she can live with herself. Somebody else at the hospital? Then we have to wonder how many sets of ears it went through to get to hers and how the information was changed at each telling -- as we all do, subtley, to meet the goals of the teller. Here's an interesting comparison, or at least interesting to me at 6am, in the US we have been led to believe that air bags kill children. But when I looked at the actual US gov agency collected facts, the number of in front seat, but properly restrained children killed by air bags seemed to me pretty insignificant. The children being killed "by air bags" are by and large riding unrestrained, usually in the lap of a front seat passenger. Now is this information part of the message? Nope. So let's see, do you think these children would be less injured by the windshield or being thrown clear than the air bag? -- Dagny |
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Fears of Smothering During Co Sleeping
toypuppy writes:
"Dagny" wrote in message . .. That story about the woman kicking her comforter onto the baby who died, I just don't buy it. Look, that was an "I know someone who knew someone who said..." story. It's not that far removed. I know the lady who did the prints of the dead baby who died from being smothered by the comforter. You think she made it up? No, but I did wonder about it myself, because you said she said the baby was 6 months old. Now my DS is 5.5 months old, and I just cannot see him quietly smothering or overheating under anything I put over him - I find it very hard to believe that he wouldn't wriggle enough to wake me, even if he couldn't get it off him on his own, which he probably could. If the story had been about a 6 *week* old, I'd have found it more plausible. I'm not saying it's definitely false, but I'm very sceptical. People do, I'm afraid, both consciously and unconsciously alter stories to make themselves sound closer to the action than they were, so it's quite likely that she heard it from someone else. Sidheag DS Colin Oct 27 2003 |
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Fears of Smothering During Co Sleeping
Couple of ideas:
When my first was tiny and I was not an expert at co-sleeping, I put him on a very flat pillow that I smushed against me so he was a little higher than the mattress. I would also have my arm around him the whole time. I felt his every wiggle but it didn't feel as though he could move into my side. I did sleep under the covers (blankets, down comforter, DH the furnace on the other side....) It was very, very warm. Probably too warm. I'm having a mental block about my second child but we also co-slept and I was experienced and comfortable enough right from the beginning to just spoon up together. This is my third and I've changed a bit. For one, we got a new, very plush top mattress that made me a bit nervous when the baby was a newborn. Also, this baby doesn't like to sleep the whole night through with me. It's a shocker :-) but he seems to actually prefer his bassinet. So unfortunately, I have to *get up* in the night and pluck him out of his bassinet and put him in bed with me. My DH has also decided he's more comfortable in the guest room during this period (particularly since I'm up and down a few times) so we have the whole bed to ourselves. I have taken to sleeping on top of the comforter using a light quilt for myself and another for the baby. Often, he does end up sleeping part of the night with me. When he was really little, I had both of us on top of one of those waterproof pads from the hospital, which seemed to provide stability. When I'm under the covers and quilt on top of the plush-top, the bed feels unstable and that made me nervous. You have to do what feels comfortable for you and the baby, but if you are like most people, you will find co-sleeping to be a life-saver. I completely understand how you feel - it's so tough when it's your first and you are in awe of your responsibility (my DH used to keep the monitor next to him downstairs so he could hear every single breath - and he'd fly upstairs if the pattern changed!). As you begin to gain the courage of your convictions, your child thrives, you thrive....you will be hard pressed to remember what freaked you out in the first place. Relax! You are doing great. Karen "Carol Ann" wrote in message news:3nJec.24357$_K3.62604@attbi_s53... Tell me again that it is okay to co-sleep. I'm worried that I may smother Morgan. ~Carol Ann |
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